Giving back the rings...

[Kitte]

Just sort of wondering, of all you divorced Lit folk or even those of you who just have opinions, when you leave your spouse, do you give back the ring/s??

Just the wedding ring? engagement ring too??

Thanx for takin time to answer this deep philosophical question

 

[roxie]

I'm keeping both of my sets...and his of course, he says the only thing that he really wants is his clothes and his coca-cola collection, which is fine with me, since most of what we have, I had before I even met him excluding our rings

 

[SexySlut2]

No I never gave back mine...we each kept our own.

 

[Vilac]

Just sort of wondering, of all you divorced Lit folk or even those of you who just have opinions, when you leave your spouse, do you give back the ring/s??

Just the wedding ring? engagement ring too??

Thanx for takin time to answer this deep philosophical question

Welp....Kitte....lol

I've always figured it like this: Whoever initiates the divorce should forfeit the ring.

If the man wants out....he can kiss her diamond and his ring goodbye. Same goes if the woman wants out. She should return the dimaond.

Of course most of my female friends think I'm nuts. <shrug>

Just seems as though they are meant to represent the act of marriage....or the symbolism of a person's committment to another. If they want out...they should return that symbol.

Just my thoughts....
V~~~~~~

 

[LauraSG]

Well this all brings back bad memories...When my fiancee died, his parents actually tried to get the engagement ring from me. Now that's just low.

 

[Vilac]

Well this all brings back bad memories...When my fiancee died, his parents actually tried to get the engagement ring from me. Now that's just low.

Laura....
I agree, that is rather low.

Were there "issues" with the inlaws long before this time too?
V~

 

[freakygirl]

I'm with Vilac on this one

I figured I wanted the divorce so I gave the ring back

I didn't want anything to do with him nor our marriage.. why would I want to keep the ring from it?

 

[Juspar Emvan]

We were only engaged, not married, but had been for four years.

I wouldn't take back the ring, though she tried. It was a symbol of love, love that was good, it would never be useful to me again. And who cares about the money when you walk out of a relationship that gave you so many good things, even if it gave you more bad things.

 

[LauraSG]

That was the weird thing, there were no issues at all. They were such nice people, and I wouldn't have thought they needed it that badly. My only guess is that they were so distraugt over the death, sense left them. I dunno. It's all over now, at least.

 

[bored1]

I've been married twice, Did'nt have a ring either time.

 

[Vilac]

I'm with Vilac on this one

I figured I wanted the divorce so I gave the ring back

I didn't want anything to do with him nor our marriage.. why would I want to keep the ring from it?

I was like you...I was the one that wanted out. But, yanno...even when I offered my ring back to her, she told me to keep it. <shrug>

It's still in my jewelry box with my other "scrap" gold.

Ahhh..memories.
V~

 

[Vilac]

That was the weird thing, there were no issues at all. They were such nice people, and I wouldn't have thought they needed it that badly. My only guess is that they were so distraugt over the death, sense left them. I dunno. It's all over now, at least.

Grief does strange things to people. But...you seem to be past it. I can see why it would of bothered you, though.

V~

 

[freakygirl]

I was like you...I was the one that wanted out. But, yanno...even when I offered my ring back to her, she told me to keep it. <shrug>

It's still in my jewelry box with my other "scrap" gold.

Ahhh..memories.
V~

My ex husband traded our rings in for his new wifes ring

how cheap is that

 

[Allexus_TN]

I have wondered this myself. Let me know when you figure it out.

 

[Ishmael]

I took back the wedding ring. It was a family heirloom that goes back close to 150 years. (With this ring, get the fuck out of my life.) The engagement ring? Who cares?

Ishmael

 

[Vilac]

My ex husband traded our rings in for his new wifes ring

how cheap is that

Omg...now that is amazingly cheap. LOL

Is that why you dropped him?

V~

 

[LauraSG]

Grief does strange things to people. But...you seem to be past it. I can see why it would of bothered you, though.

V~

Yes it does, yes it does. And I'm well past it. The memory resurfaced due to the post.

 

[shynsexy]

Re: Re: Giving back the rings...

Welp....Kitte....lol

I've always figured it like this: Whoever initiates the divorce should forfeit the ring.

If the man wants out....he can kiss her diamond and his ring goodbye. Same goes if the woman wants out. She should return the dimaond.

Of course most of my female friends think I'm nuts. <shrug>

Just seems as though they are meant to represent the act of marriage....or the symbolism of a person's committment to another. If they want out...they should return that symbol.

Just my thoughts....
V~~~~~~

my favorite tv judge ( marolyn milian) says the same thing

 

[Georgia Girl]

I had my engagement ring taken to the bank to be given to my son one day, I never want to see it again. My wedding bands I had made into earrings. I have his band too which I had melted and made into a gold pendent with my son's name on it.

He was more concerned with his new wife to care what I did and only took his clothes.

But lets not go there.

Dawn

 

[Ishmael]

I had my engagement ring taken to the bank to be given to my son one day, I never want to see it again. My wedding bands I had made into earrings. I have his band too which I had melted and made into a gold pendent with my son's name on it.

He was more concerned with his new wife to care what I did and only took his clothes.

But lets not go there.

Dawn

I got your name.

Ishmael

 

[freakygirl]

Omg...now that is amazingly cheap. LOL

Is that why you dropped him?

V~

nope, I dropped him because I was stupid..

I still love him but it's in a different way now. And his wife is my best friend..

Don't ask and yes, i belong on the Jerry Springer show telling my life story

 

[Kitte]

Thanks all for your responses, still not quite sure what to do. Does it only count who physically left the marriage first??

 

[CarolineOh]

I signed the papers, took off the ring, slapped it onto the lawyer's desk and walked out. For all I know the lawyer's got it.


Or the ex is using it for a cockring when he plays with his boyfriends

 

[MissTaken]

I stopped wearing my wedding ring about six months before leaving and subsequently lost it.

I have the engagement ring.

He never wore his ring and I am not sure where it is.

 

[Cheyenne]

I'd say each keep their own ring. Why would the other person want it back?

Unless it is a family heirloom like in Ishmael's case. Then it would be good manners to give it back.