Friends With Benefits

[CBHunter]

Although I've never had the opportunity to experience one, I've always felt that a FWB relationship would be the ideal type for an avowed introvert like myself. Just curious about the experiences of others in this particular area. Good and bad points, pitfalls to avoid, how such relationships develop, how long such a relationship can generally be expected to last, and so forth?

 

[wildp]

I've had a few. Worked out good once I made sure the ladies understood what it was and that it would not grow into anything bigger

 

[mikendel]

I love them. Sex a phone call away. Bad when the guys get too attached. Need to keep it just sex. Think they will take me away from hubby. I am up front with them at the beginning about FWB. There is so much more good with FWB.

 

[Eilan]

It also helps to be able to make the distinction between a "Friend with Benefits" and a "Fuck Buddy."

 

[yossi]

It also helps to be able to make the distinction between a "Friend with Benefits" and a "Fuck Buddy."

Yes, this.

For a friends with benefits type situation to work, you have to be comfortable enough in your friendship for sex to not interfere or make the friendship awkward. If all you want is sex from a person and don't want to hang out with them unless you're bumping uglies, then I'd say stick with a fuck buddy, and most definitely clarify that at the beginning.

 

[CBHunter]

It also helps to be able to make the distinction between a "Friend with Benefits" and a "Fuck Buddy."

Would you consider the distinction to be that a FWB is more about the friendship and the FB is more about the sex?

 

[SexyAlison]

It's hard because I think I tend to get too attached after sex for a fwb to stay that way.

 

[Dreamer110]

It's hard because I think I tend to get too attached after sex for a fwb to stay that way.

Yeah, happened with my wife's last one. Love your glasses by the way.

 

[SexyAlison]

Yeah, happened with my wife's last one. Love your glasses by the way.

Thank you.

Yeah I'm too romantic with my sex to have a fwb.

 

[LiteTouch10]

Thank you.

Yeah I'm too romantic with my sex to have a fwb.

So, if I may ask - would you accept a fb relationship- basic sexy pleasure, and no more? Or are you saying you have had fwb and it just grows closer?

I wonder, do more married men think fwb is good, than women? Is it a 'man thing'?

 

[luckyseven]

We remain close friends

I have had sex with someone I considered a friend and someone I felt close to. It was not an exclusive romantic relationship and probably never would be. Our sexual activities focused on sexual pleasure without a romantic emotional aspect or commitment. We viewed our recreational sex as a social occasion where our mutual sexual needs were fulfilled. We are now both married but we remain close friends.

 

[Dreamer110]

It's hard because I think I tend to get too attached after sex for a fwb to stay that way.

Thank you.

Yeah I'm too romantic with my sex to have a fwb.

I think she just had him to long. But it was fun while it lasted.

 

[SexyAlison]

So, if I may ask - would you accept a fb relationship- basic sexy pleasure, and no more? Or are you saying you have had fwb and it just grows closer?

I wonder, do more married men think fwb is good, than women? Is it a 'man thing'?

Only one night stands work. Just have your sexy time. They leave, never see them again.

 

[EctoJohn]

I've never hads one, but I'm not sure I could handle one, really.
I think I'd becme too attached after a while and want more than just a friend.
I desire having a relationship, and I can't have a FWB and a relationship.

Fuck buddy I could probably handle, though, at least as described in this thread.
Not sure I'd have a straight up fuck buddy, though, as I'd want to go out and do things other than sex.

lol, Maybe if it was someone I only saw for lusty 3-day weekends, but lived too far away to consider dating outright.

Coupling up for a quick get away, then go back to our regular lives.

 

[looking34205]

I had a fwb a while back. We were friends and I cared for her in that way but it was made clear from both parts it wouldn't go any further. It was actually very liberating because for the first time we fucked like in a porn movie. She was like a porn slut and I felt like a porn star, just there to fuck. It was wild and hot. I would finish and leave. I don't think I could treat someone I loved that way.

 

[lustingmoment]

i have had many FWB. they were married women and we would catch up have a drink, go dancing and then end up in great fuck sessions..quite often next day we would hang out and go to the beach and they return home...

another was a friend who hang out with us. she was a a mates girfriend and ended spitting up. we still hung out and often we would go to my place chill out and then she would say it has been some time since I had a good fucking will you help me... of course I would...

 

[chimike]

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[RawHumor]

It's hard because I think I tend to get too attached after sex for a fwb to stay that way.

This.

It's also why I don't do casual and wouldn't do poly.

I like a connection with my sex partner.

 

[sidonie45]

It's hard because I think I tend to get too attached after sex for a fwb to stay that way.

You took the words right out of my mouth SexyAlison.

For me to have sex, I form a emotional attachment, before the event, and especially after the event, because you shared something intimate between each other, and the snuggle cuddle time that goes with it.

If you just fuck, and leave, its so cold, and really, and is that how you treat your friends? (Well that's how I'd feel)

Where I grew up, there were two guys each side of my house, typical kids, friends one minute, enimies the next over something trivial, back to friends again, we'd climb tress together, tried to show me how to climb a pole, but that never worked for me, walked to the library and back together as we got older, etc. We were friends for years, then they sniffed out girls, and me boys and we went our merry way, although we still lived near each other.

But at some stage, when theirs or mine relationships didn't work out, and your sitting the in the lounge with them watching a dvd, then the cuddle, and Hay, how about we get together, and each one I said 'What! Your my friend, I cant jump into bed with you!' For me it would be crossing an ikky factor, and I didn't want to loose a childhood friend over it.

But then, that's just me.

 

[shy_girl0119]

I'd love one

 

[StrangeView]

Have tried this, we were friends long before, during, and we're still friends now

Would have no problems in doing it again.

 

[Bigspurt]

FWB in College

I had one in college. It was great. we would get together, get busy and move on. I wasn't seeing anyone at the time and I don't remember if she was or not. We met at work. She wasn't the most attractive woman on earth and I'm not exactly an Adonis. She was good at sex, had nice pert titties and a tight pussy. If I knew where to find her I would call her up and go see her.

 

[LiteTouch10]

I'd love one

Me too! Does that mean we are F but now need the 'wb' bit?

 

[carlsnake]

It worked great for my wife in college. She had several FWBs who knew that she was committed to me, was not interested in a long term relationship, but was open to fun times with them between her legs. If one got too serious, she dumped him. Of course, I didn't know any of this until we had been married for a while.

 

[Rachel_X]

I have a FWB relationship with my best friend.
She beings me chocolate and popcorn. Those are huge benefits.