So last night after several weeks of no contact a former Mistress emailed and followed up with a phone call. I am not sure what to think. We did not talk about the Lifestyle instead it was more about her fiance. I'm glad that she wants to share things with me but, honestly, there are just some things I don't wish to hear.
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dreamykitten2
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You should of told her!
Honesty is a very important part of a D/s relationship. I am always honest even if it hurts! Especially with my Dom and my subs!
Honesty is a very important part of a D/s relationship. I am always honest even if it hurts! Especially with my Dom and my subs!
Yes. I have hinted at it in the past but I guess I do need to just say it and take the consequences. I was afraid if I spoke up I would lose her as a friend. Just thought that her fiance's reaction was a bit harsh and I don't like to hear about "punishments".
satindesire
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Every person is entitled to relationship boundaries. Every person you interact with on a regular basis has a relationship with you, whether it's friends, family, or like with your ex.
Being a submissive does not automatically mean you are somehow magically removed from humankind-ness. You're still a person. Remember, D/s is the ILLUSION of power...and she has NO POWER other than what you willfully and knowingly give her.
So, if a certain topic(s) of conversation bother you, you have the right to speak up. She is your FORMER Mistress, meaning that the D/s relationship you two had is now nonexistent. Meaning that you get to decide what you two talk about just as much as she does.
If she doesn't want to be friends with you any longer after that, she's within her rights to do that, too. But making yourself uncomfortable just for the sake of maintaining a friendship that doesn't seem all that close to begin with doesn't seem worth it, IMHO.
Romance1600
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Can you share what was said of the fiancé?
CutieMouse
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Why does it even matter?
Romance1600
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Doesn't. Apologies
Romance1600
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I'd say the more talk, the better. Free flow of info is best, in my opinion.
