First Munch Tips?

[FurryFury]

Thanks Evil_Geoff and Leeroy for your thoughts on this matter.

I really want to go to this if I'm allowed to. I sent off my RSVP on it. Unless I hear that I can't go or my husband gets increasingly uncomfortable I'm going to do it.

Maybe I won't feel a need to go to another such event if he hates it. Then again maybe I'll get addicted. I can't really predict.

I just feel so close to some of the things I want. I've had a lot of signs that I'm not doing enough for me lately. This I'm going to do for me.

Now, the next question is, what to wear under my normal street clothes or what to change into in the unlikely event I want to "play" at the play party and my husband wants to? I mean is anything but skin considered in good taste? I anticipate feeling over dressed and by over dressed I mean having too much cloth on. I have no experience at this, so that's just a guess on my part.

Fury

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Thanks Evil_Geoff and Leeroy for your thoughts on this matter.

I really want to go to this if I'm allowed to. I sent off my RSVP on it. Unless I hear that I can't go or my husband gets increasingly uncomfortable I'm going to do it.

EDITED

Fury

Can you back up for one second?? Do you mean to say that they, the munch group??, might ask you not to attend a play party?? If so how silly for them, a major loss from what I can tell just by reading your posts and on and on. Not that I am mister social but what does RSVP mean?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Not that I am mister social but what does RSVP mean?

Its le french Leeroy its derived from " Repondez s'il vous plait" which basicly means 'let us know you are attending" should be LUKYAA don't you think ? A form of etiquette that lets organisers numbers and specifics for functions of any type.
damn dem French oops I mean Viva Le France ​

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Its le french Leeroy its derived from " Repondez s'il vous plait" which basicly means 'let us know you are attending" should be LUKYAA don't you think ? A form of etiquette that lets organisers numbers and specifics for functions of any type.
damn dem French oops I mean Viva Le France ​

I knew I shoulda taken french that one year instead of spanish.

 

[FurryFury]

Can you back up for one second?? Do you mean to say that they, the munch group??, might ask you not to attend a play party?? If so how silly for them, a major loss from what I can tell just by reading your posts and on and on. Not that I am mister social but what does RSVP mean?

One of "them" did ask me. Does he have the authority? I don't know and I want to bring my husband whom none of them have met. I'm a bit paranoid about social invitations and things going wrong in general but we shall see.

RSVP basically means, I told em I want to come and bring my darlin' now the ball is in their court.

Fury

Its le french Leeroy its derived from " Repondez s'il vous plait" which basicly means 'let us know you are attending" should be LUKYAA don't you think ? A form of etiquette that lets organisers numbers and specifics for functions of any type.
damn dem French oops I mean Viva Le France ​

Yeah it means that too. Unlike most if I say I will be somewhere I bloody well will show up unless I'm deathly ill and/or in an unavoidable accident just prior. I'm a reliable person.

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

Now, the next question is, what to wear under my normal street clothes or what to change into in the unlikely event I want to "play" at the play party and my husband wants to? I mean is anything but skin considered in good taste? I anticipate feeling over dressed and by over dressed I mean having too much cloth on. I have no experience at this, so that's just a guess on my part.

Fury

As sweet as the naked form is, there is this smoldering of eroticism that black thigh highs bring to the table.

 

[High-Tied]

One of "them" did ask me. Does he have the authority? I don't know and I want to bring my husband whom none of them have met. I'm a bit paranoid about social invitations and things going wrong in general but we shall see.

RSVP basically means, I told em I want to come and bring my darlin' now the ball is in their court.

Fury

This is also your chance to "test the water" so to speak. I say bring along hub, and if they are not keen on it, then they are not for you.

Be well!

 

[FurryFury]

As sweet as the naked form is, there is this smoldering of eroticism that black thigh highs bring to the table.

This is also your chance to "test the water" so to speak. I say bring along hub, and if they are not keen on it, then they are not for you.

Be well!

Thank you High - Tied,

I'm going to do my best of that you may be sure.

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

Thank you High - Tied,

I'm going to do my best of that you may be sure.

Fury

I hope the water is welcoming.

 

[FurryFury]

I hope the water is welcoming.

Oh, I'm pretty sure it will be.

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

Oh, I'm pretty sure it will be.

Fury

Then dive right in.

 

[FurryFury]

Then dive right in.

I'm a shy girl but I will do my best.

Fury

 

[High-Tied]

I'm a shy girl but I will do my best.

Fury

Isn't the shyness the first thing munched?

 

[DVS]

Well, you're getting some pretty good info, here. And, I'm a bit jealous that I don't live in your eare and can attend the same munch. There's nothing I'd rather munch on than....well, I digress.

Munch groups are like any other group. Evil_Geoff was correct, that it was probably like a PTA meeting. Everybody seems vanilla and they all look at you as the newbie and wonder if you are really one of them or if you might be some reporter there to out them all or something along those lines.

And, I'm sure (because I've seen the pics you posted) believe you were getting looked at in a special way by more than a few and those looks also would include the ones you DON'T want to allow. If I were you, I'd find out who is in charge of these munches and try to find another sub or subs who are willing to fill you in on who's OK and who isn't. Trust me, there will be someone you don't want to get together with.

Making friends with a few regulars is key to fitting in. And, taking the hubby is also necessary to help fight off the ones who think you are a sexy bold woman who is secure enough to show up on her own to one of these things. Even if you do feel you are that way, it's always best to go slow and be sure about those in the group you meet.

If it's a small group, that might be best. I've been a member of both a small and a large group. In the large group, you couldn't just walk into a munch...you had to come as a member's visitor. Members paid dues and there were officers and regular educational exhibits and such, as well as regular weekend outings at a local camping area.

The small group had much less of the formal stuff and a little more of the social stuff. But, it seemed to have more personality issues than the larger group did. But, they both were a means to get to know others with the same likes as what I had. Still, I didn't really go for the group thing, although I did attend a few play parties.

My problem was I was a single male, and that was a red flag to several. Also, munches are more of a couple thing in my area, and so single males tend to stand out as almost outcasts. We didn't have any single females in the groups I attended. Oh, there were some single females but they were together and not in search of single males.

I'd make sure the hubby goes with you, as a buffer for anything you don't want and after you get to know others there, you can explain your relationship and what you are really looking for. There are all sorts of married people who are looking for out of the marriage fun, and it seems both the wives and the husbands are in search of the extra femaile that might provide something new and exciting.

Just be sure you know who you are connecting with, by asking others about any possible partner you hook up with. But, all in all, I think a group is a good way to kind of get out among them and socialize with like minded friends.

Oh, if you find someone like you (hot looking submissive femaile) who's maybe moving to the Kansas City area...don't forget your ol' buddy DVS. OK?

 

[FurryFury]

I'll keep you in mind DVS! I would think you could wow em on the demo side of the BDSM public play thang btw. I was just thinking about that.

I am not looking for someone to play with at all. I am looking for real time education and experiences. If that leads to my husband and I both finding someone we are comfortable with, great. If not, that is fine too.

Thank you for the compliments about my looks and possible attractions. I believe I came off pretty fuckable, yet still likeable, authentic, nice and somewhat knowledgeable. I believe that in general people enjoy being in my company and want to spend more time with me.

The other people who did show up for the munch were all attached. One came single as did I but he has a gf. From various comments and general vibe, I would be surprised if anyone there were more dominant than I am in general life. I know some were switches. I know some were subs. From body language and certain clues I don't think there was an Alpha type of Dom/me there.

This education seminar and play party may be the only one I ever attend depending on how it hits my husband and me. It's one of those times that I wish I didn't have to deal with the worry over what he is feeling and thinking so I could just deal with my own reactions but I do want him there. He is very unpredictable too, for all I know he might just jump into something, or sit there visibly sneering. *shrugs*

My life is far too busy these days for me to be able to go to many of these. I have to blow off something else to do this one as well as go the night after my son's sleep over party, which isn't the best fatigue wise. If I don't go now I'm not sure when I will get the chance again. The next few months are going to be so crowded. *sighs*

I will keep your good advice in mind though! If we do start to hook with anyone, a dim possibility in my mind, I will ask around about him/her first.

*HUGS*

Fury

 

[angelsrose]

I think I am going to my first munch next week. I have butterflies in my stomache about it. I am a little nervous cause this will be the first time I really "out" myself in this world. I'm going alone, becuase the bf isn't keen on any of this, but he knows that I am and is understanding, to a point. So next month (which was the first I could find) off I go... Weeee

 

[Evil_Geoff]

If anyone is interested....

I will be doing a demo/presentation/training class Saturday, April 1st

Flogging - From Mild to Wild
Columbia, SC area.

This will be "hands on" class, from basic flogger strokes and target areas to Florentine style (floggers in each hand).

If you think you'll be in the area and want to get beat... uh... I mean... uhh... attend, YEAH! Attend! That's the word!

Drop me a note,

 

[FurryFury]

I think I am going to my first munch next week. I have butterflies in my stomache about it. I am a little nervous cause this will be the first time I really "out" myself in this world. I'm going alone, becuase the bf isn't keen on any of this, but he knows that I am and is understanding, to a point. So next month (which was the first I could find) off I go... Weeee

I hope your munch goes at least as well as mine. Maybe there will even be more people at yours. *hugs* It was just some people grabbing some grub and talking.

Fury

If anyone is interested....

I will be doing a demo/presentation/training class Saturday, April 1st

Flogging - From Mild to Wild
Columbia, SC area.

This will be "hands on" class, from basic flogger strokes and target areas to Florentine style (floggers in each hand).

If you think you'll be in the area and want to get beat... uh... I mean... uhh... attend, YEAH! Attend! That's the word!

Drop me a note,

I'd love that but no, I won't be in the area. *sighs*

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I am trying really hard to not go buy some "scene wear" for Saturday night. I don't need to spend more money right now and this may be my only time that I get to go to such a thing.

Fury

 

[DVS]

I am trying really hard to not go buy some "scene wear" for Saturday night. I don't need to spend more money right now and this may be my only time that I get to go to such a thing.

Fury

I don't understand. Why will this maybe be the only time you get to go to such a thing? In my area, most of the munches are more frequent in the spring and summer months and are more fun, too..

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I don't understand. Why will this maybe be the only time you get to go to such a thing? In my area, most of the munches are more frequent in the spring and summer months and are more fun, too..

It was the comfort level thing with the husband and also that her times is being sucked up else where right Fury??

 

[FurryFury]

I don't understand. Why will this maybe be the only time you get to go to such a thing? In my area, most of the munches are more frequent in the spring and summer months and are more fun, too..

Yes, my husband might not want to go again. He doesn't want to go this time either but he is doing it "for me." Which is according to him,"why" he does a lot of things.

Fury

 

[DVS]

Yes, my husband might not want to go again. He doesn't want to go this time either but he is doing it "for me." Which is according to him,"why" he does a lot of things.

Fury

Is this a munch or a play party? Well, if you feel you need to buy "scene wear" for a play party, I wouldn't worry about it that much. Watching any type of clothing taken from your body would be a great pleasure for me.

And, if I was going to be putting red marks on your naked ass, a nice faded pair of blue jeans covering a thong and a simple T-shirt (no bra) is all I'd like to see you in.

Now, it would be best if the blue jeans were tight, so they can go just to your knees and keep your legs together (but just enough room to get my hand between your legs) and the thong...well, need I say anything more about what a thong does for a spanker?

The T-shirt is always nice. They're sexy to me. And, if your nipples happen to be hard, they look extra sexy through the white cotton. And, that's just perfect for standing behind you and grabbing those tits and listening to you gasp.

Oh, and once the jeans are off completely, what's more sexy than a T-shirt and thong? Well, naked is more sexy, but that depends on the crowd. I've never been much for the dress up crowd. Sure, some kinky clothes are fun, but the ultimate fun is the naked body.

 

[FurryFury]

Is this a munch or a play party? Well, if you feel you need to buy "scene wear" for a play party, I wouldn't worry about it that much. Watching any type of clothing taken from your body would be a great pleasure for me.

And, if I was going to be putting red marks on your naked ass, a nice faded pair of blue jeans covering a thong and a simple T-shirt (no bra) is all I'd like to see you in.

Now, it would be best if the blue jeans were tight, so they can go just to your knees and keep your legs together (but just enough room to get my hand between your legs) and the thong...well, need I say anything more about what a thong does for a spanker?

The T-shirt is always nice. They're sexy to me. And, if your nipples happen to be hard, they look extra sexy through the white cotton. And, that's just perfect for standing behind you and grabbing those tits and listening to you gasp.

Oh, and once the jeans are off completely, what's more sexy than a T-shirt and thong? Well, naked is more sexy, but that depends on the crowd. I've never been much for the dress up crowd. Sure, some kinky clothes are fun, but the ultimate fun is the naked body.

This is a play party with an education seminar and dinner first.

I may not even play.

On the other hand if someone showed up with certain toys and offered me or my husband a go, I can see trying some things to determine if we really like them enough to purchase in the future. I'm so practical huh?

I can't see going naked in public. I'm a sweet shy girl! However a black bra and thong I could do as shown in my pic thread.

If I were alone with you, well providing we were at that stage of trust and respect, then I could do that nude thing. *winks*

Funny, I happen to be wearing a T shirt and blue jeans right now . . . *smiles up at you*

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

*muses*

Which would be more interesting to wear a black bra and panties or white? Assume the rest of my clothes come off that is, which I'm sure they won't, probably.

Fury