it is deep inside

[LustyScribe]

It's tough when who you are inside clashes diametrically with the "you" you have to show the world. Happiness sacrificed for...what do we call it? Comfort? Ease? Is "unawkwardness" a word? I think the reason so many of us begin to lament this as we get older is the sense that we are running out of time to be who we feel we really are.

 

[Chilllax]

There are times I try to move on and think this part of me is in the past but every time it comes back. There are aching and urges. I know it is deep inside me. It is part of my psyche. A part of my identity even when I can't explore and express it. It would be easier to go on without these submissive urges and the cravings for control but they will not wash away. I know that it is part of me. I cannot deny it, but I don't have an outlet for it at the moment either.

I have been told to make this confession here. Thank you for reading.

How do you deal with this part of your identity when you can't so actively explore it?

I have just accepted that I may never get to explore some of those undercurrents you talk about. And that, to me, is absolutely fine. Some people are lucky that they can and others, well, not so much. I have made my peace with it for the greater good. What is your greater good that would make you sacrifice some of the things you talk about? Maybe that could be a train of thought for you to ponder, if you are inclined.

 

[tpsmps]

There are times I try to move on and think this part of me is in the past but every time it comes back. There are aching and urges. I know it is deep inside me. It is part of my psyche. A part of my identity even when I can't explore and express it. It would be easier to go on without these submissive urges and the cravings for control but they will not wash away. I know that it is part of me. I cannot deny it, but I don't have an outlet for it at the moment either.

I have been told to make this confession here. Thank you for reading.

How do you deal with this part of your identity when you can't so actively explore it?

sorry to come back!! I dont understand how come that you'v beenn told to make this confession? how, who, why?
you can deal with this part of your self, but take time to explore the hided side!! We are all multi faces like a light-prism. I understand all the fight.... but don't fight....accept, find how and who give you a hand to feel that all is normal!! open that window, breath!!

 

[tristantrotsky]

There are times I try to move on and think this part of me is in the past but every time it comes back. There are aching and urges. I know it is deep inside me. It is part of my psyche. A part of my identity even when I can't explore and express it. It would be easier to go on without these submissive urges and the cravings for control but they will not wash away. I know that it is part of me. I cannot deny it, but I don't have an outlet for it at the moment either.

I have been told to make this confession here. Thank you for reading.

How do you deal with this part of your identity when you can't so actively explore it?

Who amongst us are entirely ‘normal’?
What is normal anyway? Normal is either overrated, an endangered species, or already nonexistent.
We all have quirks. Some are simply more quirky than others.
To me, pleasure is the measure. As long as it is mutual and consensual, of appropriate age, and done with caring consideration for our partner... or partners, then no-one gets hurt.
You are sharply perceptive. You see beyond the poses and the guises.
It’s important to realise that no-one is alone.
We are all in this crazy thing together... But look across the online dialogues and there’s so much sadness and frustration as relationships are tested to the limits. Behind all the fantastic exploits and explicit scenarios there’s so much unhappiness too. Women who are not getting the satisfaction they need from insensitive partners. Men who ache for better sex lives than they’re getting from unresponsive wives. The loneliness of people who are denied rewarding relationships at all. And we all fret over those missed opportunities and failed loves in our past, when things went wrong and fell apart.
There’s no answer. Negotiating our gender needs is a minefield. We get to live just once. When we fuck up we seldom get another chance to put it right.