Ethical Slut Board

[redathena]

That's an interesting article. This professor has an interesting point. Maybe things would have been different if lust wasn't condemned by people in power.

 

[dr.bong]

If you have not already read "Stranger in a Strange Land"

besides being a brilliant book, full of social and political satire, it deals with sexual ethics (and it was first published in 1961!!!)

 

[redathena]

I have heard of that book. Who wrote it?

 

[dr.bong]

Robert Heinlein
you will find it in the Science Fiction section


basic premise


human born on Mars, raised in totally alien culture, comes to earth, sees society as an outsider...but there is so much more to it

 

[brinkeedinkee]

what im trying to get at is weather or not you would be able to sleep with someone while being in a serious loving relationship with another. is it wrong to be attracted to someone who is not your s.o.? can jealosy be conquered? can you have sex with whomever you want and go back to your love the same night? is monogamy natural?

Is jealousy conquered and monogamy natural in the same paragraph is frightening.
I have a belief system other than the next person so I'm sure that we would not concur on what would be proper.
I've had girlfriends but if and when my hubby would decide he wanted one (a GIRLFRIEND) I'd hafta kick his ass for thinkin of it. I'd have no problem (and HAVE HAD) with threesomes, but something about him being physical with another woman w/o me there is TROUBLING to say the least. Is that fair?
WHO gives a crap if he don't say nothing. lol

Brinky

 

[dr.bong]

I believe jeaolusy is one of the great poisons of a relationship. But then again I read the aforementioned book for the first time when I was 13 and many times since

 

[brinkeedinkee]

That still sounds like one committed relationship and the rests are outsiders, secondary to it.

I can be in several committed relationships, with none being primary.

Ok, THIS I couldn't do. I can be in love with others, but sharing my bed day in and out, no.
I love my best friends, even have shared sexuality with them, but its not on a daily basis.
I'm not sure I'm the person for that.
I'm wondering, Is that what you're referring to?
Brinky

 

[dr.bong]

I was referring to a complete reworking of our society's sexual mores, not that I expect it to happen though

 

[redathena]

Ok, THIS I couldn't do. I can be in love with others, but sharing my bed day in and out, no.
I love my best friends, even have shared sexuality with them, but its not on a daily basis.
I'm not sure I'm the person for that.
I'm wondering, Is that what you're referring to?
Brinky

It's not really about being with different people every day. It's about having the ability to share your sexuality with whomever you desire. There are limits, of course. I wouldn't sleep with just anyone, but I wouldn't mind being intimate with a number of people who I know and deeply care for without having jealousy factor into it. It may be a different conception of love.

 

[islander01]

It's not really about being with different people every day. It's about having the ability to share your sexuality with whomever you desire. There are limits, of course. I wouldn't sleep with just anyone, but I wouldn't mind being intimate with a number of people who I know and deeply care for without having jealousy factor into it. It may be a different conception of love.

Nicely put

 

[dr.bong]

It's not really about being with different people every day. It's about having the ability to share your sexuality with whomever you desire. There are limits, of course. I wouldn't sleep with just anyone, but I wouldn't mind being intimate with a number of people who I know and deeply care for without having jealousy factor into it. It may be a different conception of love.

In many wasy a better conception, ideally it would be free of jealously, since ther is no possession...again check out Stranger

 

[redathena]

In many wasy a better conception, ideally it would be free of jealously, since ther is no possession...again check out Stranger

Exactly... the only slight problem is that jealousy is so hard to overcome. It really takes a certain kind of person. I'm working on getting there myself. We'll see how it all turns out.

 

[dr.bong]

see I have never found jealousy tough to overcome

I really believe it exists because our society demands monogamy, so if I am with someone, no one else is. Without this monogamous more, teh jealousy would have nothing to cause it.

 

[Noor]

see I have never found jealousy tough to overcome

I really believe it exists because our society demands monogamy, so if I am with someone, no one else is. Without this monogamous more, teh jealousy would have nothing to cause it.

agreed. if we didn't treat our partners like property it might help too.

 

[midwestyankee]

agreed. if we didn't treat our partners like property it might help too.

This is absolutely on the money. Jealousy is the emotion you feel when you believe someone else is taking away something over which you have a sense of possession. Nothing more and nothing less.

 

[redathena]

and have you all gotten past this?

 

[dr.bong]

I certainly have

 

[redathena]

I certainly have

i'd like to think that i have too, but i havent really been put into a test situation yet.

 

[dr.bong]

well that is really the only way to know with any type of certainty

but thinking you have is a step in that direction

 

[redathena]

yup... cant wait to find out!!

 

[dr.bong]

well

anyway I can help feel free