Enjoying watching sadist at work?

[Bors]

I have been doing some lengthy scenes with a wonderful domme/sadist the past 6 months or so. I am generally into the pure sensation and endorphin production of various masochistic practices.

What I've noticed recently is that perhaps even more than the sensations, I have begun to enjoy watching the pleasure the sadist is experiencing in her actions, something that has allowed me to push past many personal limits, because I am having such a good time observing *her* reactions that I hate to call a stop to the proceedings.

It's a weird recursive feeling. I think it really began once we'd developed enough mutual trust that I could rely upon her judgement and skill to not produce any permanent harm while being quite...extreme.

Just a random off-the-cuff observation. I'm not sure what it means

Have any of you experienced this sort of thing?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Absolutely, and congratulations on your newly developing empathic senses!

 

[iwantyoufuckme]

I would find my case backwards from yours.
I enjoy so much watching myself, more than his or her whomever is in control at the moment. Filming has been a huge turn on for me in this case to watch whats happened various times.

 

[Red Sonja]

Oh, absolutely... my dear dominant husband and I are about to celebrate 20 years of marriage in November. Mutual trust is the KEY to this enjoyment. Now, don't get me wrong... I'm still about the pain, and the moment, but that is heightened for me by watching HIM getting off on hurting me as much as I am getting off on hurting.

It increases my sense of submission, of serving, and that of course, leads to more feelings of being out of control, and just a thing... yeah. Who wants to bring that to an end? Not me!!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sonja, may I point out that OP is NOT talking about submission but about connecting through sadism/masochism?

 

[Netzach]

I definitely think this is a huge part of the appeal for a lot of people. I know that part of what has "worked" for me in SM has been a lot about that mutual looking. I love control, but give me a good reaction above all.

Believe me, we're enjoying the look on your faces too, whether you're being stoic, terrified, or orgasmic.

 

[Bors]

Sonja, may I point out that OP is NOT talking about submission but about connecting through sadism/masochism?

Exactly, Stella, it's on a different axis from dominant/submissive, though we sometimes play along those directions as well.

 

[Red Sonja]

Sonja, may I point out that OP is NOT talking about submission but about connecting through sadism/masochism?

Absolutely... I stand corrected.