Dominatrix

[teknight]

Wow, I am impressed! You really read me like... well, like a forensic psychologist.

What was the clue? Was it the mustache and beard I drew on my photo?
?

NOWAI! Those are drawn on?! Damn.

Yes, Stella, the lesson to be learned here: because of your ...gender (confusion) you are wrong, whereas VBM doesn't have to be wrong, 'cause he's a marine. See, ladies? Life would be so much better if you just shut the fuck up and got your obviously inferior (and yet far more desirable) asses in the kitchen...preferably pregnant, I guess.

 

[Galactic_Perv]

heh.it's so easy to read the exact record right here in this thead: I said there was a PM. I passed part of it on to you, minus any name.

You felt that what I passed on to you was insulting to you. You responded not by addressing the meat of his thoughts, but by calling the guy a string of names that were very offensive to me.

You proffered the insulting words to the public. They are right here in this thread-- You posted them. Not me.

I explained what makes them offensive-- one to gay men, the other to any thinking feeling adult. You want to deny the meanings of the words you used? Go for it. I can't stop you from denying nothing, of course.



The information about the numbers of way we can arrange sexual continuums isn't any sort of secret, by the way. Google is your friend.

I am bisexual and I have some to say about this bullshit with VBM and Stella. Stella has an agenda. Stella has made it very clear she does not like straights on the Fetish Board. She has reminded us numerous times that she was instrumental in its creation. She has reminded us that the Fetish Board was intended for the GBLT crowd. She has been baiting VBM for awhile and anybody who knows the history between these two has better insight. With this in mind I see she clearly baited him. Stella went all mighty bitch on him when he first joined the boards when he posted a heterosexual fantasy and only backed down when another Power Poster called her on it.

Oh Stella, Google is your friend as described in the Urban Dictionary. Your interpretation is meaningless. As a Bisexual I know very well these are not slurs to my orientation and as a Bisexual I am not offended.

Pansie

1)An insult used to describe someone as a weak, pathetic, loser. People don't mind starting fights on these people as they are easily defeated due to their low strength, frail muscles and fragile bones.

cry baby

a person who whines cries and throws a fit over silly bullshit. Someone who whines just to whine and argues just to argue. A silly bitch.


To further fill this Forum in I have quoted the guy in question from the Fetish Forum

Ok, now that I've discovered the "other" thread, a few more things make sense. I had no idea what was going on over there.

I am so dissappointed and embarassed in the way this whole situation has unfolded. I have spoken privately to VBM and as far as I'm concerned we're cool.

Yes, I sent a PM to Stella. The whole point was to thank her for expressing and expanding on what I was trying to say. Because I was in a defensive mode, I said a couple of things about VBM that were uncalled for and unnecessary. Again, I have spoken to VBM privately and apologized for this. And no, I didn't simply apologize because he found out about the PM... I didn't even know the PM had been shared at that point.

Stella, I have always read your posts with great interest, and admired you for your knowledge and ability to express your opinions. Honestly, I don't know what your intentions were for sharing my PM to you. I don't know why you felt the need to take it into another forum. I want to think that you didn't have bad intentions, but I am so fucked up right now trying to figure this out... I just don't know what to think. One thing for sure though, I will be thinking long and hard before I ever send another PM to anyone on here.

I am honestly more nauseated by this whole episode than I have ever been about admitting anything to myself about my sexuality. I have loved discovering this place and being able to spend time with other people who are in similar situations. I really thought that this was the one safehouse where I could be open about things that I've kept secret my entire life. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I am not blaming anyone but myself for this whole thing. I had a very bad initial reaction to someone's opionion, and it has just snowballed into the fucking mess that it is.

This will be my last post on this thread, and probably on Lit for a while. Peace.

Stella I think you brought this bullshit to this Forum to garnish support, on your unprovoked attack, by your friends here among the Power Posters and the elite. You used this poor guy and the good people on this forum as your pawns to chase VBM off the Fetish Forum. Your actions have hurt this guy worse than anything VBM said, He admits he overreacted and admitted to making comments that were uncalled for and you shared the PM with VBM hoping to incite him.

I have hit on VBM more times then I can count and he has always laughed and taken it in stride and has never said anything remotely derogatory regarding the Lifestyle. By remarks you have made it is clear you are allowing the hurt from your own life to cloud your decisions and judgements. It is also clear you are not beyond deception on your little campaign.

Stella you are wrong and this guys post I think is pretty condemning on your behavior and clearly exonerates VBM. I think it is time for you to pony up and apologize to VBM, this poor tortured soul and to the good people of these Forums. Your actions have chased away this posters not VBM. You are responsible.

There is a reason why PM are private and forwarding them are against the rules and this clearly illustrates why.

Stella only a self absorbed callous ass would not know they did wrong here. Your performance has been less then stellar.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Top answer at yahoo, top result from google:
Slang: Disparaging and Offensive.
a. male homosexual.
b. a weak, effeminate, and often cowardly man.

It usually is taken as an insult between guys.
Source(s):
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph…
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/p…


http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080423152010AA5Lfxl

Urban dictionary:
A sissy, fag, fairy, or one that is generally unmanly.
girly and sissy-like
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pansy

It helps if you spell it right, dear.

 

[bad_dave]

And you had better understand that you don't get to use words like you did-- even about other people-- without offending the fuck out of me. I don't know which is worse, "crybaby" or the other one.

So its your job to take offense on other peoples behalf?

 

[Galactic_Perv]

Top answer at yahoo, top result from google:
Slang: Disparaging and Offensive.
a. male homosexual.
b. a weak, effeminate, and often cowardly man.

It usually is taken as an insult between guys.
Source(s):
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph…
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/p…


http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080423152010AA5Lfxl

Urban dictionary:
A sissy, fag, fairy, or one that is generally unmanly.
girly and sissy-like
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pansy

It helps if you spell it right, dear.

Admit you were wrong as you cannot possibly read VBM mind and say he meant it as a homosexual slur even the fucking dude you hurt by your bullshit doesn't think he meant it that way you silly cow.

Stop trying to deflect. You fucked up and you hurt that guy not VBM

 

[Stella_Omega]

Dude, really. You're going to be even more embarrassing to VBM than I was to the original guy-- whom I did apologise to in the original thread-- yesterday.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

*sigh* does anyone have an umbrella strong enough for this shit storm in here? Mine keeps snapping back! shitty 10 dollar umbrella...

 

[FurryFury]

Did you paint at her request? Or surprise her?

Dominatrix are interesting. Far more than the male. My field is forensic psychology. Human sexuality is a very complex and interesting topic as our sexuality generally is a prime motivator in our lives.

I once dated a professional dominatrix. It is so funny that I never even knew that she did this as a living. She did not have sex with her customers. Neither did she try to dominate me. She was very "normal" in our sex life. When I say "normal" I refer to the vanilla side of sexuality.

I made the discovery by accident. I was painting her apt for her because I am such a nice boyfriend and decided to do something very nice as an extra figuring she would be most appreciative. She was always complaining about her closet being disorganized so I decided to build shelves and dividers for her shoes and clothes. Imagine my surprise upon entering her walk-in closet and discovering all the leather gear and her tools of the trade.

In retrospect, I should of respected her privacy and not entered her closet without asking. But my motives were pure as my intent was not to snoop. I built the shelves and installed them. Two days later I met her as she got home from her trip, that I later discovered was to visit a client.

When I told her of my discovery and how it happened she turned very pale. She was not mad and I think secretly she was relieved the secret was out. She was further relieved when I told her I had no interest in being a client even it was a special nonpaying client.

I discovered as far as she was concerned she loathed her clients and thought of them as bugs beneath her stiletto heels. I do not think this is indicative of every Dominatrix. The conversations we had about what she did were very interesting.

Unfortunately, I did break up with her. Even though she was not having sex with them she was performing for their sexual gratification and that smacks to close to prostitution and/or cheating on me. I could be wrong but it is how I felt and my cross to bare.

 

[Netzach]

Ohhhh I see. So if I'm not personally insulted I get to wave my wand that changes what words mean to other people in commonly accepted usage. That makes tons of sense. Is that the gist of this stupidity?

Guess what, cocksuckers(tm), it's always "meant that way" from you and you're full of it. As in so much so you still think your eyes are blue but they are not.

Oh you must realize when I said cocksucker it's just a little thing guys call each other all the time and has nothing whatsoever to do with cock homosexuals or sucking.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Ohhhh I see. So if I'm not personally insulted I get to wave my wand that changes what words mean to other people in commonly accepted usage. That makes tons of sense. Is that the gist of this stupidity?

there's no gist. There's just Bruce the Hairdresser, riding randomly to the rescue.

 

[Netzach]

"Whyfor these submissive pansy crybaby nonmen mad at me, I just want to understaaaaaaand."

I don't care if they think I'm disgusting nearly as much as they think I'm too stupid to see veiled aggression like this. "I'm just trying to understaaaaand why you people control banking the law and the voices in my head and Hitler had a beef with you."

 

[Stella_Omega]

"Whyfor these submissive pansy crybaby nonmen mad at me, I just want to understaaaaaaand."

I don't care if they think I'm disgusting nearly as much as they think I'm too stupid to see veiled aggression like this. "I'm just trying to understaaaaand why you people control banking the law and the voices in my head and Hitler had a beef with you."

It's going to be one of those... interesting years, I'm afraid.

 

[Netzach]

It's going to be one of those... interesting years, I'm afraid.

I don't know if the wayback was set for 1981 or 1881.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I don't know if the wayback was set for 1981 or 1881.

I'm thinking 1941.

 

[FurryFury]

[hijack]

Don't mind me; I'm just Netz-stalking... nothing to see here. Carry on.

[/hijack]

Same here.

 

[Felix_Jones]

Ohhhh I see. So if I'm not personally insulted I get to wave my wand that changes what words mean to other people in commonly accepted usage. That makes tons of sense. Is that the gist of this stupidity?

Guess what, cocksuckers(tm), it's always "meant that way" from you and you're full of it. As in so much so you still think your eyes are blue but they are not.

Oh you must realize when I said cocksucker it's just a little thing guys call each other all the time and has nothing whatsoever to do with cock homosexuals or sucking.

You sound like you spend a lot of time being offended.

 

[teknight]

You sound like you spend a lot of time being offended.

L'enfer, c'est les autres.

Jean Paul Sartre

Are you offended she's offended?

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

*sigh* does anyone have an umbrella strong enough for this shit storm in here? Mine keeps snapping back! shitty 10 dollar umbrella...

http://images.sodahead.com/polls/001968889/527975209_Drama_Llama_xlarge.jpeg

 

[HottieMama]

Slurs are offensive. Period. Everyone has the right to be offended, not just the people it's aimed at, not just the people it might apply to.

I'd try to explain why if I thought anyone would listen.

Exactly...! (I have to be careful though, because I see someone insulting my friend/friends and I want to go all MamaBear apeshit on them...)

 

[Netzach]

You sound like you spend a lot of time being offended.

No, I spend about 15 hours a day engineering audio and taking spit out of voices, lately. I don't have a lot of time, but enough to notice asshattery. As in when I pop into my blow-off-work forum for the first time in about 3 months? only to find this immature, asshattish "Dommes ew ew ew" three year old at his momma's keys response to my sexual orientation on the BDSM board.

That's the BDSM board, hard to believe, not the maledom weak girl fetish cock-as-God forum, though you'd usually never know it any more.

So fuck, if there's negative three people into F/m here I suppose no one should wonder why.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I watched an F/m scene this weekend. It was pretty awesome. It was one of two non-M/f scenes in the entire day, but maybe that's not real important right now...

But it was cool.

 

[BiBunny]

I've been needing F/f lately, personally. With me as the small f.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Soon as I get back up off my ass I'm going to be looking for an f that can switch to F and back again.

 

[HottieMama]

I've been needing F/f lately, personally. With me as the small f.

Really? LOL. You're not alone in that boat dear....not at all...

Soon as I get back up off my ass I'm going to be looking for an f that can switch to F and back again.

And I am going to just randomly visit the West Coast....you know....for the scenery and all....

 

[Stella_Omega]

Really? LOL. You're not alone in that boat dear....not at all...



And I am going to just randomly visit the West Coast....you know....for the scenery and all....

You'll be replacing the "yes Ma'am' title if you do, just saying