Dominatrix

[Little_Oral_Amy]

Which is why you're taking the time to reply to all of these anonymous people that have no effect on your life. Because you don't care. Gotcha.
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BTW: QED= quod erat demonstrandum means "What was to be demonstrated"...it's implied that QED has been proven. That second part's tacit. Stella meant that your callous reply proved her point exactly.

I am replying because I thought we were having conversation. Is this not what the forum is for? Replying does not mean I feel anything in particular. Replying is just being polite even if I feel you are just being argumentative for arguments sake. If you feel superior in this, have at it.

 

[Stella_Omega]

"Oh please get a grip and stop taking life so seriously, really," is exactly the thing women (and minority folk) hear from men (and majority folk), pretty regularly, when we have been offended by one of those ugly assumptions-- and even we especially hear it when we try to explain why what we've just heard is offensive to us.

So yeah, you get sensitive to it after a while.

 

[Little_Oral_Amy]

"Oh please get a grip and stop taking life so seriously, really," is exactly the thing women (and minority folk) hear from men (and majority folk), pretty regularly, when we have been offended by one of those ugly assumptions-- and even we especially hear it when we try to explain why what we've just heard is offensive to us.

So yeah, you get sensitive to it after a while.

I understand. I am often times called ditsy because I smile all the time. People think because I am pretty that I don't have a brain. I may not be brilliant but I am not stupid. Some people that think I'm ditsy think it means I can't hear either and I hear them call me ditsy. People call me a whore within my hearing because I dress sexy and because of the way I look. Yet I have had only a few partners. I understand your point. I just choose not to allow people words to hurt me because in the end I know I am better than that and I certainly do not allow people on the net hurt me. I still stand by my opinion that people get offended to much over words.

 

[Stella_Omega]

There are two parts to an opinon. One is the facts, if there are any, that the opinon is about, in this case:

People can be offended by words. That's quite true, and a genuine fact. We see it happen all the time.

Evidently, another fact is that you feel you are less offended by words than many other people are. And you feel that you are offended about the right amount.

The second part of an opinion is how you feel about those facts. You feel: People who get offended more than you do are getting offended too much.

Well, its an opinion. it's not really a useful opinion though, since those people are going to be offended regardless. And furthermore, they will take even more offense if you tell them they shouldn't-- this is also demonstrable fact.

Have you ever wondered why that happens?

 

[Little_Oral_Amy]

Let me make it more clear with a rhyme. "Sticks and stones may hurt" well you get the picture. Names are just that, nothing more. The only time words hurt me is if they are spoken by somebody I care about. StellaOmega do you really honestly care what some ignorant redneck dipshit thinks about you? I imagine by your post count that you have developed friends here and their words may hurt you but as for me who you do not know do you honestly care? I do not know anybody here really so I do not care yet that may change in time.

Things maybe different as you are older and paved the way for us younger people. Because of people such as you young kids like me are more accepted.
Because of the harsh experiences you possibly had you look at things differently and saying that I understand your point.

But my earlier point I made in the argument that I think intent has to be considered. Many people use words without understanding the meaning. Like the above guy you were fighting. I take him at his word when he said he was not attacking orientation. My dad uses those words all the time and I know he has no thought about orientation. Many het guys are dunderheads about things like that and it takes people like you and others to educate them to their ignorance. Getting angry and hurt is not the answer especially over what he maybe unintentional. That is what I mean about het men not looking outside the box. My dad was woefully ignorant until I came out and he had to change his vocabulary after he got more understanding. His words hurt me because I care what he thinks but as to others fuck them they can't hurt me.

There are two parts to an opinon. One is the facts, if there are any, that the opinon is about, in this case:

People can be offended by words. That's quite true, and a genuine fact. We see it happen all the time.

Evidently, another fact is that you feel you are less offended by words than many other people are. And you feel that you are offended about the right amount.

The second part of an opinion is how you feel about those facts. You feel: People who get offended more than you do are getting offended too much.

Well, its an opinion. it's not really a useful opinion though, since those people are going to be offended regardless. And furthermore, they will take even more offense if you tell them they shouldn't-- this is also demonstrable fact.

Have you ever wondered why that happens?

 

[Little_Oral_Amy]

To expand.

With what you are saying we should all have our vocal chords torn out at birth because no matter what you say some group or subgroup is going to get their feelings hurt.

This would really suck because I love hearing my name on a girls lips when I lick her kitty

 

[Texguy84]

It is even odder for me to rationalize men who to the outside world are "alpha" males who get off on this. I make no idle boast when I say I would accept death rather than be placed in that situation. Like many masculine straight males being unmanned is one of our biggest fears.

I dunno, I'm kind of the opposite. In public, I'm generally non-assertive, nonconfrontational, bordering on wishy-washy. In the bedroom, the side of my personality that my wife calls "The Wolf" comes out. I suppose the opposite could be true: When in private, in a situation with someone they trust, a more dominant person is willing to drop the alpha role and let someone else call the shots and take control.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Let me make it more clear with a rhyme. "Sticks and stones may hurt" well you get the picture. Names are just that, nothing more. The only time words hurt me is if they are spoken by somebody I care about. StellaOmega do you really honestly care what some ignorant redneck dipshit thinks about you? I imagine by your post count that you have developed friends here and their words may hurt you but as for me who you do not know do you honestly care? I do not know anybody here really so I do not care yet that may change in time.

Things maybe different as you are older and paved the way for us younger people. Because of people such as you young kids like me are more accepted.
Because of the harsh experiences you possibly had you look at things differently and saying that I understand your point.

But my earlier point I made in the argument that I think intent has to be considered. Many people use words without understanding the meaning. Like the above guy you were fighting. I take him at his word when he said he was not attacking orientation. My dad uses those words all the time and I know he has no thought about orientation. Many het guys are dunderheads about things like that and it takes people like you and others to educate them to their ignorance. Getting angry and hurt is not the answer especially over what he maybe unintentional. That is what I mean about het men not looking outside the box. My dad was woefully ignorant until I came out and he had to change his vocabulary after he got more understanding. His words hurt me because I care what he thinks but as to others fuck them they can't hurt me.

To expand.

With what you are saying we should all have our vocal chords torn out at birth because no matter what you say some group or subgroup is going to get their feelings hurt.

This would really suck because I love hearing my name on a girls lips when I lick her kitty

Perfect. I asked you to think about WHY people get offended, and you give me your opinion on why you think they shouldn't.

And then, you follow it with yet another flippant shutup type of comment.

You've made a lot of assumptions, that I got upset because of words someone used about me, that words are divorced from actions, that you will be so much safer in your life (because of my fight) than I have been, that I will be safer from now on (because I've won the fight)

You are wrong, sadly, about all of those assumptions, Amy. People are still being hospitalised after being bashed, women are still being raped, the right wing is real busy campaigning against basic civil rights for women and GLBT alike.

I'm kinda feeling too tired to argue about it, but you can, I think, simply re-read my words. If you do that carefully,and trust that they are the exact words I meant to write-- and that I didn't write any words by accident-- you'll see why your arguments are completely beside the point-- and prove mine.

 

[Sputnik57]

to return to the original pont of the thread...

.. I can't understand other men who don't get at least the smallest of kicks at being trussed and at the absolute mercy of a dominant woman.

It's the threat of pain and extremes such as castration at the hands of a the supreme sex that does it for me, along with being able to pleasure her in any way she demands.

You never know; there may be a reward for the sub when she chooses.