does marriage mean anything anymore?

[shynsexy]

I was just wondering what marriage meant to you? My mom and "dad" are celebrating there 14th anniversary tonight. He's not my bio dad, but has been there for me since i was little. They arent married, never have, never will. They have both been married 3 times each and divorced, or widowed. My god mom is getting a divorce after 19 years of marriage. I am married, but as soon as the ring hit the finger, it felt doomed. Is it genetic?

Are marriages doomed in these day in ages??? What are yall opinions? My mom and dad live in seperate houses, but visit often. They seem to have a great relationship---it has worked out so far. But I dont know if its "normal"..... What do ya'll think?

 

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[koalabear]

Not on the BB it doesn't......

 

[enjoyingitall]

For every response that says, yes, marriages are doomed, there will likely be those that say marriage really can be bliss. I've had one of each. My first marriage was doomed. I made the wrong life choices and spent 12 years trying to figure out what was wrong. Two years ago, I remarried, and I can say without any doubts that this one will last until we leave this earth.
It's all about the choices we make and how we deal with those choices. My kids now see me in a marriage that brings me happiness and that in turn makes their lives easier, too. I hope they will grow up without being cynical about marriage. I do my best to let them know how great it can be.

 

[SilverVeil]

I think that society has lost sight of what are considered " old-fashioned values " now days. People always seem to want more, more, more.
And as a result, anything they have is no longer good enough. I see it everyday in kids. And we have raised them to be this way.

And we no longer respect each other like we did in the past. It has certainly become the " me " generation.

Marriage is such a beautiful joining. Two people who have decided they no longer want to travel the path of life without the other. But for a lot of people, cost of living is so high, they spend most of their time at a job, and do not have the time or energy to devote to making a marriage work out. Or people marry for the wrong reasons. Or they are too young when they marry.

I have waited for the right person to be with before I marry again. My idea of marriage is " to have and to hold till death do us part " kind of thing. I want this man to be the one I go to sleep holding every night, and I want him to be the one I see when I wake up in the morning. I want this man to be the one who holds me when I cry, and who is happy when he sees me laugh.

I want this man to look at me each day and wonder at the feeling of love he has in his heart for me.

I don't care what he can do for " me " .... I care about what " we " can do with each other.

 

[shynsexy]

I think that society has lost sight of what are considered " old-fashioned values " now days. People always seem to want more, more, more.
And as a result, anything they have is no longer good enough. I see it everyday in kids. And we have raised them to be this way.

And we no longer respect each other like we did in the past. It has certainly become the " me " generation.

Marriage is such a beautiful joining. Two people who have decided they no longer want to travel the path of life without the other. But for a lot of people, cost of living is so high, they spend most of their time at a job, and do not have the time or energy to devote to making a marriage work out. Or people marry for the wrong reasons. Or they are too young when they marry.

I have waited for the right person to be with before I marry again. My idea of marriage is " to have and to hold till death do us part " kind of thing. I want this man to be the one I go to sleep holding every night, and I want him to be the one I see when I wake up in the morning. I want this man to be the one who holds me when I cry, and who is happy when he sees me laugh.

I want this man to look at me each day and wonder at the feeling of love he has in his heart for me.

I don't care what he can do for " me " .... I care about what " we " can do with each other.

thats so beautiful....wish more people felt this way. imagen the world then

 

[The_Masseur]

Marriage

Is the risk of it not working better than the consequences of failing to try?

 

[The_Masseur]

Wow, Silver...

you just put it far better than I could have.

 

[AzureAngel]

A big problem can just be people not being prepared. Not understanding themselves. and not understanding how to be in a good relationship. Just going with the infatuation and running with it... when there's way more to it than that. :\

I don't think they're damned. In fact, I look forward to mine.

Whenever I find her. Heh.

 

[Monazwx]

I had a lot to say but Silverveil took the words right out of my mouth. Very profound stuff.

Marriage, like everything else in life, is a big risk, but when you find the right person, it'll be worth it.

(I hope I still feel this way when I tie the knot!)

 

[Sillyman]

Am I the only guy in the world who wants to get married? Not just "Sure, yeah someday when I find her but not until I'm done fucking around" but really honestly and truly wants to find that person to be with for the rest of my life right now?


I wanna get married! :outs and kicks the floor::

 

[Ice Cold]

I'll give marriage one more shot... but only when I know it is the right person, that I can't wait to spend forever with. Otherwise I am not going to be with some just for the sake of having someone or being married.

 

[Monazwx]

SMan,

You're probably the only one who'll admit it. Very Brave!

 

[cherrylips_au]

What marriage means to me,
The commitment and love shared between 2 people, it has to be constantly worked at as each person continues to grow.
I have been married for 7 years and still very happy with my partner we have been together for 12 years total. Our life together hasn't been a bed of roses, things have happend that could have broken up other marriages but we decided to stick out the rough patches.
I think if you enter into marriage with realistic expectations then its more likely to last, it's a partenership you work together not away from each other.

 

[AzureAngel]

Re: SMan,

You're probably the only one who'll admit it. Very Brave!

Aw damnit, I quasi-admitted it. *Chuckles.*

 

[dreamer]

My first fiancee, yes there have been two...but I digress. She actually called it off and completely left me stating...and I quote

"you would never leave me no matter what"

Well, she was right, and I guess she couldn't handle someone loving her like that. One of the things that led me to love my second so much was she understood I still loved the first and always would. I had just accepted we would never be together, and that didn't lessen the amount I loved the second.

Then she left...I can't get a break...and her reasoning still keeps me up at nights worrying about her. But I won't get into that here...

 

[AzureAngel]

It's not particularly healthy if you agree that you wouldn't leave no matter WHAT. That's like a "Fuck with me free" card.

 

[Starfish]

OMG! Marriage is an uphill pain in the ass.






But I love it. I love him. I love the fact that everytime we fight, we get closer and closer and learn more and more about each other. I doubt if many can say this, but if they can, then you know it will work..... He is my best friend.

 

[SexySlut2]

Marriage is a wonderful thing if it is entered into realistically and not with alot of fantasized thoughts of how it will be. My husband and I are extremely happy and I know that it will last till death do us part!

A marriage should be between two people that not only love each other more than words can describe, but are also best friends who wouldn't hesitate to come to the other for anything.

 

[Sillyman]

Well at least I'm brave. I know it isn't always paradise, and that there will be fights, kids, bills, in-laws, and other various stuff, but I still want it.

 

[ksmybuttons]

I liked being single. I love being married. We fit. Didn't get married until I was 33. It will be 14 years this month. Not planning on making any changes at this point. It works for both of us. He is my best friend.

 

[vylette]

i dont think they are doomed

i dont think they are doomed...i know i still believe in marriage...we have been married almost 12 yrs...i am not going to lie and say it has all been easy, but i can say this...it has all been worth it...i know i love him and he is my very best friend in the whole world....

 

[mistressastra]

No more marriage for me

When I married 10 years ago, my husband started wandering within 6 months. I caught him cheating twice. That's caught, mind you. He finally left and I let him. Now I control my men or they don't last long. I will never allow myself to be used like he used me again. Hard lesson learned. Unless you plan to have children, why marry at all?

 

[Sillyman]

Well, marriage is a lot more sticky to get out of, so some people feel it is a much greater commitment than simply being in a relationship with someone.

Plus it's just romantic declaring your eternal love and devotion to each other.

It's required by some religeons.


It's a good excuse for a party

And people can ahhh, hook up at weddings

 

[iwmggw]

does marriage mean anything?

well for me it meant giving away half of my assets......and getting to visit my kids on weekends....oh yeah...and losing my home but i never gave up on