Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

[Mu5tang]

My wife travels for 2 week training classes every 6 to 9 months. About 40 co-workers from around the country meet in Cincinnati. I told her there has to be a few that are 'hooking up' while away. She giggled and said she definitely knows of one. Her close girlfriend, who is married, has "played" a time or 2 with another married guy. Only 'as the need' hit, she said. One of those, at the bar, feeling good and needing a good fuck before bedtime needs. I asked her if she ever felt such a need. She smiled and said, I have fingers. I told her if its just a fuck, that she could have a "hall pass" the next trip, but only if the guy calls and asks me first. She told her girlfriend I gave her permission.

 

[Dreamer110]

My wife travels for 2 week training classes every 6 to 9 months. About 40 co-workers from around the country meet in Cincinnati. I told her there has to be a few that are 'hooking up' while away. She giggled and said she definitely knows of one. Her close girlfriend, who is married, has "played" a time or 2 with another married guy. Only 'as the need' hit, she said. One of those, at the bar, feeling good and needing a good fuck before bedtime needs. I asked her if she ever felt such a need. She smiled and said, I have fingers. I told her if its just a fuck, that she could have a "hall pass" the next trip, but only if the guy calls and asks me first. She told her girlfriend I gave her permission. And the girlfriend aggranged her own "married fuck friend" to oblige. He did call and ask if he could fuck my wife's brains out. And that he did many times during the last 3 days of their conference... even included her girlfriend.

Well that worked out rather well. I imagine you discussed it when she got home.

 

[Mu5tang]

Well that worked out rather well. I imagine you discussed it when she got home.

Yes.. as well as watched a couple videos she made from it.

 

[Dreamer110]

Yes.. as well as watched a couple videos she made from it.

So much better. So obviously you're good with it.

 

[Mu5tang]

We had discussed it several times before making it a reality.

 

[Dreamer110]

We had discussed it several times before making it a reality.

Same here. But I'm really jealous you got a video. Lol

 

[StrongMaster7]

My wife has told me from Day One, quite truthfully, that she has very little interest in sex, especially compared to me. She know I love big tits and adult breastfeeding from my actions and talk in bed, but her "menu" of sexual activities is very short. So, no, I don't tell her all the other things I'd love to do that I know she would never consider doing. Why would I want to start a fight, or make her feel inadequate?

 

[Britva415]

"Share" as in, inform/communicate?

Or "share" as in, we both have the same kinks and act on them together?

My wife knows about my rope bondage and spanking kinks. She isn't among those who participate in them with me.

And they're my kinks, not my fetishes.

It doesn't make her feel inadequate. She understands that I don't want extramarital kink because I don't love my wife, I want it because I do.

 

[Mu5tang]

Same here. But I'm really jealous you got a video. Lol

I got 3 videos... they are on her phone only. She gaurds them. 1 in particular is 48 mintues of her getting it relentlessly.

 

[Dreamer110]

I got 3 videos... they are on her phone only. She gaurds them. 1 in particular is 48 mintues of her getting it relentlessly.

Oh sure, rub it in. Lol. If it was on my phone I'd never put it down.

 

[Mu5tang]

Same here. But I'm really jealous you got a video. Lol

You let her play too?

 

[Dreamer110]

You let her play too?

She has yes.

 

[Mu5tang]

If she ever gets another opportunity ask her to make you a video. Is it a secret thing? Like the guy thinks she is cheating?

 

[Dreamer110]

If she ever gets another opportunity ask her to make you a video. Is it a secret thing? Like the guy thinks she is cheating?

At first yeah. But I think he figured it out.

 

[Ash999]

My wife travels for 2 week training classes every 6 to 9 months. About 40 co-workers from around the country meet in Cincinnati. I told her there has to be a few that are 'hooking up' while away. She giggled and said she definitely knows of one. Her close girlfriend, who is married, has "played" a time or 2 with another married guy. Only 'as the need' hit, she said. One of those, at the bar, feeling good and needing a good fuck before bedtime needs. I asked her if she ever felt such a need. She smiled and said, I have fingers. I told her if its just a fuck, that she could have a "hall pass" the next trip, but only if the guy calls and asks me first. She told her girlfriend I gave her permission. And the girlfriend aggranged her own "married fuck friend" to oblige. He did call and ask if he could fuck my wife's brains out. And that he did many times during the last 3 days of their conference... even included her girlfriend.

Attaboy!!!

 

[shesubmits]

Not all of the fetishes... not many actually. I tested the waters and know that we don't share those same interests.

 

[Dreamer110]

Not all of the fetishes... not many actually. I tested the waters and know that we don't share those same interests.

Well that sucks.

 

[ridesforfew]

no - he doesn't know I'm bi and with my gf when he's gone.

 

[kneelingagain]

not all of them, they wouldn't understand

 

[perturbedmusic]

In short, no I’ve stopped sharing my fantasies and kinks with my wife. When we first started dating, I had tested the water with some common, run-of-the-mill fantasies to gauge her reaction.

Needless to say, it wasn’t positive. I didn’t give up so easily, but as time went on, it became more and more contentious when I brought up my fantasies. She took them personally and I’ve stopped bringing them up.

It’s disheartening, but I can’t say I didn’t know all this from the beginning. I did try to tell her recently that I thought our sex life had gotten stale and wanted to try new things. She agreed but got grossed out when I made a suggestion.

 

[joclfc]

no - he doesn't know I'm bi and with my gf when he's gone.

Do you think he'll mind if you tell him?

Or want to join you both?

 

[bobb_sledd]

It’s disheartening, but I can’t say I didn’t know all this from the beginning. I did try to tell her recently that I thought our sex life had gotten stale and wanted to try new things. She agreed but got grossed out when I made a suggestion.

What is her idea of "try new things"?

 

[perturbedmusic]

What is her idea of "try new things"?

We use a dice game to dice things up. I think she’d possibly be up for trying restraints but I threw away the cuffs because she gets an attitude when I suggest trying something different.

 

[MyMostSecretLife]

no - he doesn't know I'm bi and with my gf when he's gone.

He might like that...maybe it's more delicious for you if he didn't know....

 

[sandybrooke]

My wife and I are sexting right now. She's at our shore house and Im in PA stroking with her panties. Yes, she knows all my fucked up stuff.