Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[Lexie24]

Ugh I feel this…

 

[dkak001]

No. I can't imagine us not talking and doing whatever we can to meet each other's needs.

Good for you! This answer doesn't come up often, and it's good to see it when it does...

 

[angelwingsub]

I don't have to hide. I sit on the couch and play with myself and I'm invisible. He doesn't notice I'm here until I'm not in the room, then he gets upset.

 

[Island_Chris]

I don't have to hide. I sit on the couch and play with myself and I'm invisible. He doesn't notice I'm here until I'm not in the room, then he gets upset.

I hate that for you. I say what I want most times but I don't always get it. Actually don't get it quite a bit.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I’m 68 and feel more sexual than ever before. My wife is nearly sexless. Doesn’t care about my fantasizes or spicing anything up.
I’ve had more deeper and meaningful sexual conversation on Lit with total strangers than anyone in my life, including my wife.
It’s refreshing and wonderful. The ladies, and men, all share it-it seems like.
Sexual honesty.
So, Lit and porn are my secret life where I can somewhat live out my fantasies to my liking.
It’s better than nothing!

I was having this conversation to a friend from here today. It was very similar.

These relationships don't ruin marriages, it actually saves them.

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

Yes…I do hide everything because even if I shared it wouldn’t matter

 

[Vitriolhack]

I don't have to hide. I sit on the couch and play with myself and I'm invisible. He doesn't notice I'm here until I'm not in the room, then he gets upset.

So you play with yourself in plain site?

That’s hot!

 

[Norfolkguy49]

Yes totally hide it from everyone sometimes I wanna shout it out

 

[Vitriolhack]

Yes…I do hide everything because even if I shared it wouldn’t matter

Well, I truly hope things turn around for you. If it helps, I know how you feel as do many on this thread.

Keep your chin up.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Yes totally hide it from everyone sometimes I wanna shout it out

Yeah, I hear you; but listen to the logic, like the song goes, “some things are better left unsaid.”

 

[Norfolkguy49]

Yes…I do hide everything because even if I shared it wouldn’t matter

Can share it with me if like

 

[Tweedledude]

Yes…I do hide everything because even if I shared it wouldn’t matter

I hide them because of the ridicule and criticism that comes with saying anything sexual.... Ya there's people like that

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

Yes…I do hide everything because even if I shared it wouldn’t matter

I know exactly how you feel. And when I share, all I get is a lecture and an angry person back…

 

[Tweedledude]

I know exactly how you feel. And when I share, all I get is a lecture and an angry person back…

Agreed

 

[saintcero]

Similar to other posters, I don’t share. I got tired of hearing “No” and feeling rejection. We love each other but are miles apart sexually

 

[SWR101]

I have shared mine with my wife, and while she hasn’t judged me for any of them, she has made it clear some of them aren’t happening with her. But, I’m fine with that, though I’ll keep trying to win her over, because I’d rather be honest and open than hide from her.

 

[SophiaTeddy99]

My partner and I are kinky but his sex drive is alot less. Its frustrating and chat here has led to new needs and kinks i don't share with him

 

[Sgts19]

My wife knows all about my kinks after all these years. She also knows about my desire to see her with other men and what I'd like to see them do with her. The reason we even tried swinging was I was inches away from fucking my workout partner and I told my wife about it. After the fact she told me the only reason she tried the swinging thing was because she thought I was going to leave her....never would happen. I didn't know all this at the time but she sure didn't have to force herself with the right partner. She loves sex and had fun

 

[Vitriolhack]

I hide them because of the ridicule and criticism that comes with saying anything sexual.... Ya there's people like that

Yes, there are people like that.

 

[Vitriolhack]

My partner and I are kinky but his sex drive is alot less. Its frustrating and chat here has led to new needs and kinks i don't share with him

Have you tried talking to him about it?

 

[Darkrhytm]

My partner and I are kinky but his sex drive is alot less. Its frustrating and chat here has led to new needs and kinks i don't share with him

Could be something biological. It might be worth exploring/getting treated

 

[Vitriolhack]

Could be something biological. It might be worth exploring/getting treated

Women, in general, have little refraction period compared to men.

After they have sex, they are ready for more with a few minutes, men, well it may take a lot more time.

 

[dkak001]

Women, in general, have little refraction period compared to men.

After they have sex, they are ready for more with a few minutes, men, well it may take a lot more time.

While I agree... There can be a wide variance in individuals, and with each particular encounter. I've known women who are done for a week after. And myself have been ready in minutes a few, at times too.

 

[Vitriolhack]

While I agree... There can be a wide variance in individuals, and with each particular encounter. I've known women who are done for a week after. And myself have been ready in minutes a few, at times too.

You need to teach me that “trick”

 

[dkak001]

You need to teach me that “trick”

The "trick" is really about where your mind is at...
You could try avoiding cumming for a few months. Bet your refractory time would be really short after that hiatus. LOL