Failed sexual experiments

[AchtungNight]

Curious about something, thought I would bring it up with the forum.

Have any of you ever written a story where someone experiments with bisexuality or some other fetish and decides they don’t like it and don’t want to try it again? A failed experiment, in other words. I know it’s usually the case for characters in erotica who experiment to enjoy their new kinks, but it’s realistic for such experiments to fail occasionally at least. People decide they’re straight instead of gay or bi. They find they don’t like anal, or bdsm, or whatever. It happens. Maybe their partner was into the kink but they aren’t and they respectfully decline further experiments.

Have you ever written a story where such failure is a major part of the story? What sort of feedback did you get? What were your thoughts on the experience? I am thinking of writing a few such stories, but unsure about my audience.

Note- I am talking about stories here, not real life experiences. I have experienced failed sexual experiments already irl and discussed them in other forums.

Thx for any constructive response in advance.

 

[mrs_mackenzie]

I have occasionally written something like that but only as a minor element to avoid turning readers off. I've never had any feedback about it, but I am always conscious of not wanting to make readers feel like their personal interest or kink is somehow shameful or a turn-off.

But I think that if it was the central element of the story and you handled it well, it could still make a good story.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

Amber in Amber's Ambush tried getting topped and didn't like it. She loves doing it to others, especially her partner, Nicki. Does that count?

 

[nice90sguy]

Have any of you ever written a story where someone experiments with bisexuality or some other fetish and decides they don’t like it and don’t want to try it again?

As a matter of fact, I did try writing such a story, but after reading it, I didn't like it and won't be trying it again.

 

[TheWritingGroup]

Curious about something, thought I would bring it up with the forum.

Have any of you ever written a story where someone experiments with bisexuality or some other fetish and decides they don’t like it ...

Don't be surprised if someone is annoyed you for calling bisexuality a "fetish". It really isn't.

I haven't written it as a story, but it's backstory for one of my characters that he doesn't like anal sex. His lover does, and she talked him into it a couple of times, but he finally just told her "No, sorry, not for me."

--Annie

 

[CalBishForNow]

Sort of. My It Could Have Been Anyone series is about Alicia, a woman with a certain kink. In Part 2, she and her boyfriend Ben try a swap with a couple of swingers. It fails, partly because they moved too fast, partly because she hasn't discovered that kink yet.

That part is the lowest-rated in the series. I wish I had given it more action, such as making the sex scene between Alicia and Ben earlier in the story more explicit, or even just combined it with the following part, but it was published and the main sex event in it is a failure, so it seems to be what you're asking about.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I'm about halfway through a draft about a guy being lured into trying various types of BDSM and concluding he's not into it, but to make it into a story there's a fair bit of detail of what he does try and what his two companions and various people around him get up to. It's complicated.

Also I know most readers will dislike it on principle, which does rather reduce the motivation to finish.

 

[AchtungNight]

Well, if I had thought of a better word for bisexuality than fetish, I would have used it, sorry.

For the record, I have written multiple stories about women experiencing increased anxiety over their first bisexual experiences. I have also dealt mildly with a female character who doesn’t like anal and male characters who don’t like being touched by other men. But I have not yet written a full story where someone experiences and flat out rejects something on Lit. Part of me is worried about bad feedback in response.

 

[ChuckWolf]

For an erotic story, I feel that can be a buzzkill, for a non-erotic story, where the reader isn't expecting sexual stuff in a non-clinical way, I think that can work.

 

[cw5523729]

Curious about something, thought I would bring it up with the forum.

Have any of you ever written a story where someone experiments with bisexuality or some other fetish and decides they don’t like it and don’t want to try it again? A failed experiment, in other words. I know it’s usually the case for characters in erotica who experiment to enjoy their new kinks, but it’s realistic for such experiments to fail occasionally at least. People decide they’re straight instead of gay or bi. They find they don’t like anal, or bdsm, or whatever. It happens. Maybe their partner was into the kink but they aren’t and they respectfully decline further experiments.

Have you ever written a story where such failure is a major part of the story? What sort of feedback did you get? What were your thoughts on the experience? I am thinking of writing a few such stories, but unsure about my audience.

Note- I am talking about stories here, not real life experiences. I have experienced failed sexual experiments already irl and discussed them in other forums.

Thx for any constructive response in advance.

I wouldn't say "major plot point" but yes, I've used experiences where things fail, don't go ask planned, or wind up being unpleasant to add a sense of reality to my stories. I think it's a very important aspect for believability in stories that are otherwise complete fiction because you are correct, that IS how real life works. Particularly for things like "anal" - making every character love it, need it, can't get enough of it will come across as BS.

 

[SimonDoom]

As a story, it's a great idea to try. That's part of life, after all -- trying things and not succeeding. Many great stories are about failure.

You would probably have to temper your expectations about the reception here at an erotic story website. Many readers here look for "success," not "failure," so having a character try something sexually but not succeeding at it or finding it dissatisfactory could be deflating in both a real and figurative sense. But that's OK. There's no need to try to make everybody happy.

 

[MrPixel]

My tack would be to make a "failed experiment" a golden opportunity for humor.

"You know we finally got Sylvia to take a few tokes the other night after convincing 'er that the mellow high would make it so much better with Tad and Aaron."
"Yeah? How'd it go?"
"Coughing fit at first, of course, but she adjusted."
"After that?"
"She got up from the floor and excused herself to go to the restroom and didn't come back."
"Uh oh."
"No shit, 'Uh oh!' The guys looked all through the apartment and finally discovered that the front door was ajar. They threw on their pants and shoes to check outside."
"And...?"
"Stark naked, halfway down the block."
"Oops."
"Yeah, 'Oops.' Everybody agreed that pot wasn't going to be her thing."

 

[Kelliezgirl]

If it's in a more complex story and it is something of a plot point, I can see it working. One of my stories, part of the original concept was for the FMC to discover that she enjoyed having sex in somewhat exposed places, while the MMC was uncomfortable with it. For a variety of reasons that got scrapped in the final story, but I think things like that work as a source of conflict to drive storytelling in an erotic story.
It seems like it would really need to drive the plot in some manner. If FMC experiments with something, decides she doesn't like it, and just moves on...well what was the point? And I can see a reader being critical, because it could easily be seen as the author being critical of that particular kink and making some sort of statement. But if she experiments, decides she doesn't like it, then later meet MMC and he's REALLY into that... now you have interesting conflict.

 

[Lifestyle66]

I wrote a story about a couple who were virgins when they married, and years later, the husband wanted his reluctant wife to try a hot-wife experience. He just wanted his wife to tell him about it, so he'd have a story to tell his buddies when they described their wives past sex lives before marriage.

She finally agrees to try it as a birthday gift for him but insists that she'll never allow him to go with another woman. ("It's YOUR fantasy, not mine!") The bar hookup fails when she's in the bar and a neighbor sees her and occupies her time. Then they get invited to a swinger house party, where they think she can go off to a room with another guy while the husband stays with the main party, and things go wrong.

Hot Wife-ing Gone Wrong
"A reluctant couple find it isn't for everyone."

It's rated rather well (for me) in Loving Wives at 3.76/492 with 37k views. Even a few of the usual swinger/sharing-haters had less hateful comments.

 

[ChuckWolf]

After thinking about it, two examples where I think that can work are tickling and/or edging.

I have two different stories in the works, where the protagonists, involuntarily, have to endure repeated edging and tickling, but there's nothing they can do about it.

 

[THBGato]

My character Amanda's aversion to anal becomes an inciting incident in Eve & Lucy.

The last chapter of Love is Place features conflicting emotions about a threesome - glimpsed in flashbacks - which ultimately helps bring a couple closer.

So, yeah, kind of.

 

[Erozetta]

In "Lyin' Eyes" the story is entirely centered on a girl going along with her boyfriend's desire to be cucked while putting her into a humiliating situation of giving a messy blowjob on her knees behind a dirty bar with a guy he deems far below her worth.

She does it, but doesn't like it. The new guy he chooses takes it further, with her permission, and proves her boyfriend wouldn't intervene on her behalf and would revel in her further humiliation.

She ends up leaving with the guy her boyfriend chose for that last encounter, leaving her ex behind in the trash filled alley after deciding she *really* doesn't like it and doesn't want to continue doing it for him.

It has gotten highly favorable comments.

 

[WaxPhilosophic]

I had a group of lesbian space pirates rescue a genetically engineered J-Pop star who presents as triplets with a single shared consciousness. If that doesn't set the stage, what does? But rather than a bonk-fest, they tone it down after discovering she's never had sexual relations before. They end up snuggled together (four lesbian space pirates and triplets) having tea.

Not so much doing something and not wanting to do it again as it is taking a pause and not rushing into things.

https://literotica.com/s/tales-from-the-stream-ch-12

 

[yowser]

Carefully done, there's no reason a 'failure' can't contribute to a good story, although you probably don't want to end with one.

My one anal story involved an initial disappointment, but I think it served to heighten the sexual tension in the tale.

 

[iwatchus]

I have had numerous individual failures in stories, usually for bio-mechanical/positional issues. They were trying a position that didn't work for the bodies. But they were never the main thrust of a story and more provided a bit of comic relief.

 

[NuclearFairy]

The thought of someone not knowing what gender they're into and that leading to failed experimentation just kinda boggles my mind. Yeah I could see being in denial about some parts of it because of upbringing, and therefore that leading to successful experimentation. But doesn't everyone know who they're attracted to?

Kinks on the other hand, sometimes you don't know that you like something until you try it. And sometimes the experiment might fail because the circumstances were wrong. I had something like that in a WIP, where the girl could not get into even the lightest bit of pain during her first time around. But later when she was far more relaxed and comfortable, someone else tried a bit of light pain, and to her surprise she enjoyed it this time. But I think that's the only time I've written anything like a failed experiment.

 

[Eisenloewe]

Curious about something, thought I would bring it up with the forum.

Have any of you ever written a story where someone experiments with bisexuality or some other fetish and decides they don’t like it and don’t want to try it again? A failed experiment, in other words. I know it’s usually the case for characters in erotica who experiment to enjoy their new kinks, but it’s realistic for such experiments to fail occasionally at least. People decide they’re straight instead of gay or bi. They find they don’t like anal, or bdsm, or whatever. It happens. Maybe their partner was into the kink but they aren’t and they respectfully decline further experiments.

Have you ever written a story where such failure is a major part of the story? What sort of feedback did you get? What were your thoughts on the experience? I am thinking of writing a few such stories, but unsure about my audience.

Note- I am talking about stories here, not real life experiences. I have experienced failed sexual experiments already irl and discussed them in other forums.

Thx for any constructive response in advance.

I don't think I've written something where a character was genuinely turned off by something, in the sense of establishing what we IRL would call a "limit," but I've definitely had scenes in which one character was more turned on by a given kink or fetish than the other.

I've also very much had scenes where someone who was enthusiastic about trying a kink or fetish found it to be a lot harder than expected (harder in practice than glamour photos seen on the Internet), which is something that will tend to be glossed over in many stories. In one of my stories, a woman who had been training for two months in ballet heels still couldn't actually wear them very long and her legs gave out near the end of the story. I've seen other stories in which a character is able to just put them on and move in them, which I find a strain on verisimilitude even if the character is a professional ballerina. I also have two stories involving a latex fetish, and in both of those, I do not gloss (heh heh ...) over the fact that putting on full-body latex garments is actually something of a production.

 

[caleb35]

Curious about something, thought I would bring it up with the forum.

Have any of you ever written a story where someone experiments with bisexuality or some other fetish and decides they don’t like it and don’t want to try it again? A failed experiment, in other words. I know it’s usually the case for characters in erotica who experiment to enjoy their new kinks, but it’s realistic for such experiments to fail occasionally at least. People decide they’re straight instead of gay or bi. They find they don’t like anal, or bdsm, or whatever. It happens. Maybe their partner was into the kink but they aren’t and they respectfully decline further experiments.

Have you ever written a story where such failure is a major part of the story? What sort of feedback did you get? What were your thoughts on the experience? I am thinking of writing a few such stories, but unsure about my audience.

Note- I am talking about stories here, not real life experiences. I have experienced failed sexual experiments already irl and discussed them in other forums.

Thx for any constructive response in advance.

In my non-Literotica life, I wrote such a story long ago; I rather liked it then, and still do, but it wasn't erotica. In my Literotica writing life, I've not written this particular type of story, but I've written several stories in which the main character is unsure whether they made the right decision to engage in a same-sex encounter; I leave it open-ended as to whether they will try it again or not.