Wives Loving Wives

[LargoKitt]

Do stories of married women stepping out with other women get the same blow-back as stories of wives cheating with men? Do readers see the girl-girl cheating sex as infidelity or an opportunity for a 'vicarious threesome'. How should such a story resolve? In sexual politics, what does the male protagonist think about himself when his wife cheats with another man? With another woman? If a spouse in a lesbian couple cheats with a man is it a lesbian story or a Loving Wives story?

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I suspect they are received much better. Such is the male nature.

 

[NoTalentHack]

If there’s cheating involved, it typically does about the same as cheating with another man. If it’s negotiated ahead of time, as long as the husband isn’t being cut off, it tends to do somewhat better than with a guy. And if it’s something like “I met this girl, and I want to have a threesome with you and her,” it gets close to more typical ratings on the site. Not very much closer, but somewhat.

Lesbians cheating can do okay, and they typically break down along the usual sort of battle lines.

 

[THBGato]

Do stories of married women stepping out with other women get the same blow-back as stories of wives cheating with men?

Depends on the category. In loving wives, I'd say "yes", in lesbian not so much. @christa_p has written some along those lines that have scored well. Bedding the trophy wife has over 200k views and over 100 comments which is huge for that category.

Mind you, I saw some commentators hating on some of Ripley's and Myhands316's stories e.g. Mid life in crisis.

 

[JordynRose]

I am a single lesbian, and from my experience, they may not be wives they seek but single women such as myself. I have a few relationships on an extremely intimate level with empty nester, women mid 40s and up. They do not see it as cheating, but they all have a couple things in common.

They want to be appreciated, valued, wanted. They want romance, intimacy, a lover.

I have learned they feel taken for granted, unloved, no romance, no intimacy from their husbands.

They just want romantic love. I love making them feel appreciated, and helping them explore something they may have previously experienced before they were married, or were curious about being with a woman, but never tried.

It is complex, there are so many contradictory layers that need peeling back like that of the flesh of an onion, with the tears that come with it.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I wrote a LW story about cheating in a lesbian marriage - it is comfortably my worst rated story at 3.49️.

I also wrote a hetero LW story currently sitting at 4.64️, which is like 4.94️ in a normal category.

In general, I have 23 stories (in other categories) at 4.75️ or above, so it wasn’t an issue with the quality of my writing.

Abandon hope all ye who enter here…

 

[WCSGarland]

I suspect they are received much better. Such is the male nature.

Nope, I get comments like "No mas! No mas! La mierda lesbica apesta!" from 26thNC

 

[Lifestyle66]

My Pink Orchid story this year was posted to Loving Wives (my favorite category) and it is just such a story of two wives having a fling together.

That Look of Yours
"Can she handle the truth?"

It's at 3.03/189 with 24K views. And I think there's only one really negative comment about their girl-on-girl action.

The low rating isn't because of the lesbian nature of their fling, but rather due to her falling in emotional love with her girlfriend but settling for being married to her husband. Some comments see that as her selling out and her husband getting second place. And that turned them off.

 

[Kasumi_Lee]

I also wrote a hetero LW story currently sitting at 4.64️, which is like 4.94️ in a normal category.

How did you manage that?! I thought the LW crowd hated cheating wives?

 

[EmilyMiller]

How did you manage that?! I thought the LW crowd hated cheating wives?

Hard to explain without spoilers.

This is the story:

https://www.literotica.com/s/jacobs-progress

 

[Kelliezgirl]

How did you manage that?! I thought the LW crowd hated cheating wives?

If you look at the all time list, there are plenty of cheating wives with great scores. The AH tends to overreact to LW.

 

[Stanfield2025]

Do stories of married women stepping out with other women get the same blow-back as stories of wives cheating with men? Do readers see the girl-girl cheating sex as infidelity or an opportunity for a 'vicarious threesome'. How should such a story resolve? In sexual politics, what does the male protagonist think about himself when his wife cheats with another man? With another woman? If a spouse in a lesbian couple cheats with a man is it a lesbian story or a Loving Wives story?

In my story series on this site, the male protagonist is upset when his girlfriend gets intimate with another woman. I'm not sure how readers saw it, though I suspect they didn't like it.

 

[Stanfield2025]

How did you manage that?! I thought the LW crowd hated cheating wives?

I think it depends on how the cheating situation resolves.

 

[Lifestyle66]

How did you manage that?! I thought the LW crowd hated cheating wives?

It wasn't a cheating wives story. It was a romance.

All of the sharing/swapping marriages on the side in that story burned! And that's what the LW hater audience want to see: "Extra-marital sex is a bad idea!"

 

[LargoKitt]

In my story series on this site, the male protagonist is upset when his girlfriend gets intimate with another woman. I'm not sure how readers saw it, though I suspect they didn't like it.

Didn't like the lesbian affair, or didn't like the husband objecting?

 

[LargoKitt]

It's interesting that the common knowledge is that a man has lost some face if his wife has sex with another man. Less so if his wife has had sex with another woman. Logically the patriarchal POV is that men are alpha and women beta. So if an alpha is thrown over for a beta that should be more emasculating than if she cheated with a garden variety other dude. Then there is the love vs sex thing. Millions of men have said some variation on 'Don't worry, honey, I still really love you. With her it was just sex." Can she flip that? For centuries men have claimed ownership of women as their 'breeding vessels'. (Tradwife BS wants to bring that back or lock it in.) So if she 'just gets a little sex' she may 'just get another man's little baby.' In Hamlet, Claudius gets his brother's wife and Hamlet is effectively cut out of the kingship.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Logically the patriarchal POV is that men are alpha and women beta. So if an alpha is thrown over for a beta that should be more emasculating than if she cheated with a garden variety other dude.

If you understand that a certain type of man only cares what other men think of him, it becomes less of a paradox. The entire drive behind the rabid, red pill misogyny on X was men desperate to show off to other men. The target was almost incidental, so long as it was a target that other men approved of.

I’ll obviously add #NotAllMen and even #NotMostMen - but #WayTooManyMen.

 

[Stanfield2025]

Didn't like the lesbian affair, or didn't like the husband objecting?

I'm not sure which. I wonder the same question a lot. To add some context, the boyfriend allows the affair to happen because he isn't ready to have sex with his girlfriend yet and he wants her to be happy. But he's insecure about said affair. Not sure which part of that people disliked.

 

[LargoKitt]

If you understand that a certain type of man only cares what other men think of him, it becomes less of a paradox. The entire drive behind the rabid, red pill misogyny on X was men desperate to show off to other men. The target was almost incidental, so long as it was a target that other men approved of.

I’ll obviously add #NotAllMen and even #NotMostMen - but #WayTooManyMen.

Sad But True department: Because we value competition over cooperation the most important people in most men's lives are other men. Also why women are often stuck with playing the 'boys club' game unless they can find an environment where men aren't making the rules. Curiously, women usually evaluate their 'attractiveness' based on what other women think, even though, traditionally, their ability to attract might be critical to their survival.

 

[Stanfield2025]

Also why women are often stuck with playing the 'boys club' game unless they can find an environment where men aren't making the rules.

What do you mean by boys' club game?

 

[Seurat]

If you understand that a certain type of man only cares what other men think of him, it becomes less of a paradox. The entire drive behind the rabid, red pill misogyny on X was men desperate to show off to other men. The target was almost incidental, so long as it was a target that other men approved of.

I’ll obviously add #NotAllMen and even #NotMostMen - but #WayTooManyMen.

Reason #4 why I never dipped a toe in the Twitter/X piranha pool.