Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[DayDreaming2407]

Goddamn, that sounds so sad. I guess… wait til the kids grow up and move on?

No kids. The housing market is brutal right now so I'm tolerating the current arrangement. Its not terrible. I just do my own thing.

 

[Ashesh9]

l have to, I have no other option otherwise.

My wife decided that she could live with sex. I was not given any input on the decision. I was just told this was how it was going to be and that trying to convince her otherwise would be making her do something she doesn't want to do.

Prior to that our sexlife averaged sex about once or twice a year.

12 years ago today (7/30/2012) was the last time I had sex or even any kind of intimacy.

I believe you wanted to write " My wife decided she could live without sex".
Best regds,
Ash9

 

[Strixaluco]

It can be awkward but 2nd or 3rd date is the time to be asking the questions that are important if you're aiming to be building the foundation for a long term relationship.

There are perks in meeting someone within a bdsm community... Discussing them is not an issue, and reading each others online profiles gave us a head start before even having a 1-on-1 date! (Frankly, there's no point in dating if the yes-please and the hard-no lists are totally incompatible.)

It was actually the non-sexual stuff that came rather late for us.

 

[Vitriolhack]

No kids. The housing market is brutal right now so I'm tolerating the current arrangement. Its not terrible. I just do my own thing.

So, you are basically roommates?

Hopping the housing market as well as your relationship picks up.

 

[Vitriolhack]

There are perks in meeting someone within a bdsm community... Discussing them is not an issue, and reading each others online profiles gave us a head start before even having a 1-on-1 date! (Frankly, there's no point in dating if the yes-please and the hard-no lists are totally incompatible.)

It was actually the non-sexual stuff that came rather late for us.

Like finding out they don’t close the toothpaste correctly?

Sorry, one of my pet peeves!

 

[Norfolkguy49]

I so do from her and family and friends

 

[dkak001]

Like finding out they don’t close the toothpaste correctly?

I'd settle for just squeezing it out from the bottom of the tube first...

 

[Sincitysleepless]

No make them know but she has no desire to or want to so here I am. End up chatting with people instead.

 

[Strixaluco]

Like finding out they don’t close the toothpaste correctly?

Sorry, one of my pet peeves!

Nah. He's neat enough to not fall into such thing (Also I need a pharmaceutical toothpaste these days, so nobody messes up with my toothpaste.)

But actually whether we'll ever move together is probably the major question. And if we do, then silence vs TV etc.

 

[DayDreaming2407]

So, you are basically roommates?

Hopping the housing market as well as your relationship picks up.

Yes.

Thanks!

 

[Psyclone_Jak]

Nah, she knows what a degenerate I am. She's happy to indulge me on the things she's comfortable with, as long as I don't pester her to do things she's already said no to.

 

[drobert44]

My sissy dont give a damn what I do........

 

[JMJ4Play]

He knows what I need. He knows what I want. He won’t provide or doesn’t care or maybe CAN’T provide. He sucks.

 

[drobert44]

He knows what I need. He knows what I want. He won’t provide or doesn’t care or maybe CAN’T provide. He sucks.

Bet you can find a man here....

 

[Psyclone_Jak]

He knows what I need. He knows what I want. He won’t provide or doesn’t care or maybe CAN’T provide. He sucks.

Sounds like you need to enlist some outside help to satisfy your needs.

 

[JMJ4Play]

Sounds like you need to enlist some outside help to satisfy your needs.

For sure I just doubt I’ll find him here just looking for fun for now

 

[Vitriolhack]

Nah. He's neat enough to not fall into such thing (Also I need a pharmaceutical toothpaste these days, so nobody messes up with my toothpaste.)

But actually whether we'll ever move together is probably the major question. And if we do, then silence vs TV etc.

Well, you have to be 100% comfortable with yourself before you can begin the process of being comfortable with someone else.

As strange as this may sound, if staying appart keeps you closer, why not let things the way they are, at least for the time being.

 

[Vitriolhack]

He knows what I need. He knows what I want. He won’t provide or doesn’t care or maybe CAN’T provide. He sucks.

Well, there must have been something, at some point, that brought you two together?

Granted, people change, times changes. Who can actually say that they are the same person they were 30 or even 10 or years ago?

I hope things get better with your partner else, well, I have had great online conversations here.

 

[JMJ4Play]

Well, there must have been something, at some point, that brought you two together?

Granted, people change, times changes. Who can actually say that they are the same person they were 30 or even 10 or years ago?

I hope things get better with your partner else, well, I have had great online conversations here.

Oh we were in love. Things change. It’s fine. I’m dealing.

 

[Yarglenurp]

reading through these responses is real sobering.

For those of y’all in “broken” marriages and just feel stuck by finances or kids, do you feel like there’s something you could have done differently if you could go back in time, or does the failure feel inevitable?

Obviously, there’s the “I wouldn’t have gotten married” answer, but I mean after that.

 

[Strixaluco]

Well, you have to be 100% comfortable with yourself before you can begin the process of being comfortable with someone else.

I am. He seems to be. Just I have experience in living with someone, he doesn't.

As strange as this may sound, if staying appart keeps you closer, why not let things the way they are, at least for the time being.

We have different views about which option would keep or bring us closer.

Nothing is happening any time soon, though. I still have a cat, and he's mildly allergic. (Though he's becoming a cat person very quickly!)

 

[Vitriolhack]

reading through these responses is real sobering.

For those of y’all in “broken” marriages and just feel stuck by finances or kids, do you feel like there’s something you could have done differently if you could go back in time, or does the failure feel inevitable?

Obviously, there’s the “I wouldn’t have gotten married” answer, but I mean after that.

Very tough question to answer.

Personally, I will blame myself, I wanted to conform to the religious upbringing I got, I refused to accept myself as I was.

That’s the past, I have made peace with it, I wouldn’t be where I am today without my past, all of it that is.

Am I happy? Yes, more happy than unhappy, am I fulfilled? Oh, another tough question, in many regards, more difficult to answer.

V.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I am. He seems to be. Just I have experience in living with someone, he doesn't.


We have different views about which option would keep or bring us closer.

Nothing is happening any time soon, though. I still have a cat, and he's mildly allergic. (Though he's becoming a cat person very quickly!)

Best line I ever heard; it goes something like,
“experience is the name we give to our failures!” Oscar Wilde.

 

[HornyBiCrossdresser]

Yes, I hide some of my sexual needs. The parts in my user name became pretty obvious, were tolerated, now accepted in private settings. But my other kinks go way beyond that, and I choose to pursue them when I’m alone, rather than forcing my partner into uncomfortable situations.

 

[Rm3452]

Unfortunately yes