Divorce and Separation
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Re: Re: Remembering dates?????
Thank you....I shall....we need a f*ing chocolate milkshake icon!!!!
You're welcome, if you care to come along - my treat....
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Chocolate milkshakes have a way of making you feel hugged when down or prolonging a happy mood when you are not.
The perfect food for the soul!
Treat yourself!
Thank you....I shall....we need a f*ing chocolate milkshake icon!!!!
You're welcome, if you care to come along - my treat....
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Re: Re: Remembering dates?????
Thanks for the laugh, Darling....I really should choose avatars more carefully....I can cow a dog in a nanosecond, but fierce kittens don't buy that....maybe I'll just get her one to go....
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Better make two shakes, the commando kitty might swipe it again.
Thanks for the laugh, Darling....I really should choose avatars more carefully....I can cow a dog in a nanosecond, but fierce kittens don't buy that....maybe I'll just get her one to go....
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Well gang the old dog was reading about all the bad times that ya'll are going through and boy does it hit home here.
First of all i'm so sorry to here that things are not working for ya'll life is so short the way it is with out being so sad.
But don't waste what ya'll got left if things are not working out for the best.
Sounds like ya'll have done your best to work it out, but it comes a time when you must say ,what about me .
If the horse is dead then it's time to get off.
Look at it like this, i'm not here for a long time , but i'm here for a good time and if ya'll are unhappy well that's not a good time.
Hell i don't have the answer if i did i would not be here.
But i know one thing there are a lot of very nice and sweet people here that can take the edge off of things , and they are true friends.
A lot of ya'll have heard all about my problems and made me feel better about myself by just being here for me.
Well i'm always here for ya'll to, ya'll are not alone.
I don't make much sence a lot of the time but my heart tells me to be there for ya'll.
Well gang the old dog was reading about all the bad times that ya'll are going through and boy does it hit home here.
First of all i'm so sorry to here that things are not working for ya'll life is so short the way it is with out being so sad.
But don't waste what ya'll got left if things are not working out for the best.
Sounds like ya'll have done your best to work it out, but it comes a time when you must say ,what about me .
If the horse is dead then it's time to get off.
Look at it like this, i'm not here for a long time , but i'm here for a good time and if ya'll are unhappy well that's not a good time.
Hell i don't have the answer if i did i would not be here.
But i know one thing there are a lot of very nice and sweet people here that can take the edge off of things , and they are true friends.
A lot of ya'll have heard all about my problems and made me feel better about myself by just being here for me.
Well i'm always here for ya'll to, ya'll are not alone.
I don't make much sence a lot of the time but my heart tells me to be there for ya'll.
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I am not going to dwell on this thread today, I can't take two days in a row of this!!! But something very significant happened last night and I want to document it. Our evening was calm, he came home from work, I had dinner ready, we ate, and I cleaned up the kitchen and we relaxed.
At 11pm. I told him I was ready to go to bed, I was very tired. We came upstairs and as we were getting into bed he said, "I am going to say something, and I know it is going to piss you off." I almost laughed at that, since I thought, great, what a relaxing way to go to sleep! And I just said - go ahead say what you have to say. Well, he wasn't happy about the way I said it! I said - you wait until 11 pm. to start this shit and you wonder why I am not happy. What he had such a burning desire to say never came out, after stirring things up, which he is a master at doing, he wouldn't say anything. He did say that I am just waiting for him to make a mistake so I can attack him for it. I told him that he has done that to me for years, attacking me for anything that goes wrong and that he can't take what I have taken for years.
He then brought up the sport coat incident - and said that he was so wonderful because he handled my mistake so well!!! I almost fell out of the bed! I said if you think that throwing all our stuff into the parking lot out of the car, just about running me and the suitcases over as you squeal out of there and driving at 90 - 100 miles an hour is handling it well, you are fucked up. And I also told him that it was not 100% my fault that the sport coat was not in the car. He pushed and pushed that it was my fault, but I held my ground asking him - did you pack the car? did you know the sport coat was on a hanger? did you see the sport coat in the car? Finally he admitted that he was at least partially responsible, and I told him that I am sick of taking the full blame for everything that happens and sick of him attacking me for any mistake. He then went into how I am so cold and full of hatred - and I told him it is his making - this is what you have done to my love - you have turned it into a full blown hatred. Good fucking job!
His view of what goes on is mind boggling.....if counseling can rekindle my love it will be a miracle...I am just waiting this out.
At 11pm. I told him I was ready to go to bed, I was very tired. We came upstairs and as we were getting into bed he said, "I am going to say something, and I know it is going to piss you off." I almost laughed at that, since I thought, great, what a relaxing way to go to sleep! And I just said - go ahead say what you have to say. Well, he wasn't happy about the way I said it! I said - you wait until 11 pm. to start this shit and you wonder why I am not happy. What he had such a burning desire to say never came out, after stirring things up, which he is a master at doing, he wouldn't say anything. He did say that I am just waiting for him to make a mistake so I can attack him for it. I told him that he has done that to me for years, attacking me for anything that goes wrong and that he can't take what I have taken for years.
He then brought up the sport coat incident - and said that he was so wonderful because he handled my mistake so well!!! I almost fell out of the bed! I said if you think that throwing all our stuff into the parking lot out of the car, just about running me and the suitcases over as you squeal out of there and driving at 90 - 100 miles an hour is handling it well, you are fucked up. And I also told him that it was not 100% my fault that the sport coat was not in the car. He pushed and pushed that it was my fault, but I held my ground asking him - did you pack the car? did you know the sport coat was on a hanger? did you see the sport coat in the car? Finally he admitted that he was at least partially responsible, and I told him that I am sick of taking the full blame for everything that happens and sick of him attacking me for any mistake. He then went into how I am so cold and full of hatred - and I told him it is his making - this is what you have done to my love - you have turned it into a full blown hatred. Good fucking job!
His view of what goes on is mind boggling.....if counseling can rekindle my love it will be a miracle...I am just waiting this out.
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I see a glimmer of hope in that he finally took some responsibility, but one inch traveled when a mile is needed is just barely a glimmer, especially when that inch forward is preceeded by two feet back.psyche said:
I'm glad you vented... I hope that gives you some relief... now go and see what kind of fun you can have today!
I know a ton of stupid jokes, if they will help... just drop me a note
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psyche said:
Good for you!!!! And do so with my blessings!!!!!
He is still 100% absolutely completely and totally W-R-O-N-G about the jacket, because is was that much his deal - it's his emsemble!!!!! I don't buy anything else....
But I can be like that, you know. I'm on your side.
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mbb308 said:
I did have fun today! No self-or spouse examination! I could hear your 'voice' in my head when I told him it was not my fault the jacket wasn't put in the car - so you are making progress! How can I lose with you on my side, mbb. How lucky I am!
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mbb308 said:
Hell, I think it's better than god - he gave up on me a long time ago!! I do try to take care of myself - that is one thing that I learned to do, because there really is a payback when you do. Thanks. I like the wolf av by the way, I had a little trouble picturing you as an innocent little kitten! Maybe that's just me!
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psyche said:
I can tell you quite a story about having given up on God, and some interesting turns of events - not suitable for the threads, though. I'm glad you try to take care of yourself - keep practicing that, and you'll get better and better.
The only problem with the wolf is he is looking up - should be level or slightly down for maximum effect. That kitten is an awful thing, a dreaded assault kitten - don't let her lure you in with that "innocent" routine!!!!
Take good care of yourself, Psyche.
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psyche said:
That is part of that evil kitten's ploy. She needs a sign - look, but don't touch!!!!
Glad you feel better. Most things, like bad feelings, do pass in time. Sometimes it's hard to remember to give them time, or we don't want to because we want to feel better NOW.
I've learned a bit of patience in my middle age.
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I am considering
starting a yahoo chat group concerning divorce and separation.
There are some out there, so I don't want to duplicate others.
However, I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions.
Firstly, where to put it?
In the "Personals" section or the "Family" section?
starting a yahoo chat group concerning divorce and separation.
There are some out there, so I don't want to duplicate others.
However, I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions.
Firstly, where to put it?
In the "Personals" section or the "Family" section?
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mbb308 said:
That's a good lesson to learn, I pretty much know when I have a bad day like that, and I go through a period of examination that I will be able to come out of it eventually. This too shall pass!
Glad I didn't pet the kitten!!
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