Distance Domination-Support Thread

[KayKat]

I plan on taking a book to read and some tunes to listen to to help pass the time...As for munchies I am going to be to nervous to eat...LOl...

 

[Sexualinnocent]

You can bring water, etc on the plane if you buy it within the secured area. i flew in November on ******** airline, and they charged $2 for a can of soda in the air. i flew on another competing airline in February and got great service. If anyone wants to know what airlines, just PM me.

i try to never check a bag, because it costs at least $15, if not $25 extra.

Flying really is way safer than driving.

Trust me, you will be just fine. And it will all be fine 5 seconds after you are with MP. i was scared to death the first time i met Sir...what if He didn't like what i looked like, etc...but 2 seconds and W/we were totally great.

Hang in there. It WILL be fine.

 

[KayKat]

You can bring water, etc on the plane if you buy it within the secured area. i flew in November on ******** airline, and they charged $2 for a can of soda in the air. i flew on another competing airline in February and got great service. If anyone wants to know what airlines, just PM me.

i try to never check a bag, because it costs at least $15, if not $25 extra.

Flying really is way safer than driving.

Trust me, you will be just fine. And it will all be fine 5 seconds after you are with MP. i was scared to death the first time i met Sir...what if He didn't like what i looked like, etc...but 2 seconds and W/we were totally great.

Hang in there. It WILL be fine.

Thank you SI....that means alot....I know it will work out..Just scared til I get into his arms for the first time..I will be okay once he has me wrapped in his arms...

Thanks..I am hanging in there!

 

[the captians wench]

My worries have been that I have never flown before and I am very scared of that...He had been making smart remarks about it so I quit telling him but we finally talked that out and all is okay..still scared to be on a plane but I will be okay!

I have worried about him not being attracted to me..but he reassures me he will...

Those have been the main worries so far that have come up..

Thanks for replying Estaticsub!

I was petrifide to fly. It was my first flight ever and of course being me I had to do my first time up big and fly internationally. The entire story is in my count down thread, but the hightlights are: I was most afriad that my luggage would go missing, and it did and I was afraid that something would go wrong in customs, and I ended up skipping it totally when I hit London and had to find my way back to it.

Besides that "I am so sure that I am just too needy and he'll realize this and never want to see me" fear, these were my two biggest ones and both happend and neigther one was a big deal.

One thing about flying, I get motionsickness very easily, but I found that I was fine as long as I didn't try to read or look out the window directly. I could look out at an angle, but if I tried to look straight out, tummy rumbles.

Thank you SI....that means alot....I know it will work out..Just scared til I get into his arms for the first time..I will be okay once he has me wrapped in his arms...

Thanks..I am hanging in there!

I had been texting Jounar, and a few others, every step of my trip (even when it was really late), but when I got to London, my phone didn't work so I used a phone card to call him from there. At that point the only sleep I had had in the last 30 hours was what little I got on the plane, I had been lost in the airport in London and had to deal with snotty airport staff as they tried to figure out how to get me back up to customs, and it was passed time for me to have a meal but I was afraid to stop too long because I only had 45 minutes until my next flight, and the sign above the phone I stopped at said it was another 20 minutes to my gate. That was one hell of an airport!

Anyway, the phone call pretty much went like, "I'm tired and hungry and I got lost and some how skipped customs and had to go back and the people here are not very friendly and I've been walking for like nearlly an hour already but I'm looking at a sign that says I have 20 minutes still before I hit my gate, and I'm cranky and don't feel good and I just want to go home!"

He chuckled a bit, told me to breath and that I would be there soon and everything would be okay. I still remember feeling lost and confused as I came out of the gate in Dublin. Then I heard his voice call my name. I looked up and there he was. He reached out and held me close, then when I looked up he kissed me, firmly but tenderly. And I was so tired and out of it that I totally missed this first kiss. But some how, at that moment, even while I was worried about my missing bag, everything seemed okay...better than okay, it was perfect because I was finally home.

 

[myinnerslut]

And I was so tired and out of it that I totally missed this first kiss.

a bit of a change in topic, but i dont remember my first kiss with Master either.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I am going to find out on Wednesday what my first kiss is going to be like when I go home.

I have flown so many times before, but never to anything this important to me. Oh god I have SO many insecurities, all of which I KNOW don''t matter a jot to him but that all matter to me and I daresay hes got his insecurities too.

I cant believe its going to be coming up so soon now, it seems like only yesterday I thought it was forever. The worst of it is that it is going to be over in a heartbeat and that in itself is going to break my heart. I don't know when we will get a chance to be together again, if we even will.

 

[the captians wench]

a bit of a change in topic, but i dont remember my first kiss with Master either.

It actually wasn't until I got back state side and was telling a coworker about my trip that I picked up on the significance of that first embrace. When he first took me as his, he told me the first thing he would do if he ever had the chance was to kiss me, and he did. But I was so tired and cranky that it didn't have the romance that I had imagined when he first said that. *giggles* Infact, it really felt more like the kind of greeting kiss you recieve when you've been away for a long weekend, rather than meeting face to face the first time. There was just so much comfort in being there.

I am going to find out on Wednesday what my first kiss is going to be like when I go home.

I have flown so many times before, but never to anything this important to me. Oh god I have SO many insecurities, all of which I KNOW don''t matter a jot to him but that all matter to me and I daresay hes got his insecurities too.

I cant believe its going to be coming up so soon now, it seems like only yesterday I thought it was forever. The worst of it is that it is going to be over in a heartbeat and that in itself is going to break my heart. I don't know when we will get a chance to be together again, if we even will.

*giggles* Everyday at least once a day, but usually more than once, he would ask "so do you think you'll be back?" *giggles* Close to the end of the 9 day visit I looked at him and said "do you think my answer is going to change?" *giggles* He was just as worried about me not wanting to see him again, as I was about him nnot wanting to see me after spending so much time with me. It really was very sweet.

 

[ecstaticsub]

a bit of a change in topic, but i dont remember my first kiss with Master either.

I do. I was sitting in the bar of the hotel. I had called him to say I was there and I was thinking since it was our first meeting we would sit and talk a little. Instead he come in I stood up he kissed me a long awesome kiss and then told me to get my thngs we were going upstairs. Without any hesitation i followed him.

 

[Sexualinnocent]

i so very clearly remember the moment...i was in the lobby of a hotel too. One look in His eyes...and man i melted. Lost control of my tongue for a bit! But the kiss...OMG.

i consider myself a very fortunate submissive, but not only for how He kisses.

 

[Mistress_Belladonna]

*big hugs*

I am just so bummed out I can barely even talk about it. I replied to a personal add here on Lit, which is not always the smartest move but hey, this Dominant articulated his thoughts clearly and what he was looking for sounded a lot like what I was looking for. He had been searching a long time. He had mentioned he was married, but his wife was not into BDSM and had he no intention of changing his situation and he only wanted an lasting on-line relationship. So I assumed his wife knew about his need and was aware of his activities on-line.

He replied and we exchanged IM info and we talked on Yahoo for a few hours. We clicked and everything went very well. Our needs at this time matched, our views about D/s M/s on-line LDR matched. I was attracted to him, he was attracted to me. We made a date to meet tonight on Yahoo and I prepared myself carefully, dressing nicely, full make-up, hair styled, I looked great. But he was not there at the agreed upon time.

So I came here and he had left me a PM saying that if we continued he knows he would hurt me, he was torn between being overwhelmed with guilt because he was cheating on his wife and his need to Dominate and have a M/s relationship. So he had changed his mind about getting deeper into this with me and he was leaving Lit. I was like HUH??

This shocked and surprised me, it also upset me because by the way his adds read and what he had told me, he had already had 7 or 8 of these type relationships through the years. Why didn't he just tell me at the start of our 1st convo that he was doing this behind his wife's back? He stressed honesty and all that good stuff in his adds, I naturally assumed that honesty extended to his wife. Apparently it doesn't. It sure would have saved me a lot of unnecessary anticipation if he had just been upfront about it.

My #1-rule is I don't have any kind of relationship with married men unless their wive knows about it and is fine with it and they can prove to me she knows about it.
I was going to pin him down tonight and find out if his wife had agreed to him doing this sort of thing or not. Guess NOT. The whole thing still bums me out. How can one stress open honest communication from the very beginning, and yet at the same time not be honest with his own wife?

Hi Adakgirl~ I know what you mean, sweetheart! I feel so bad for you, hon. It really sucks when the other person's idea of honesty is one of bits and pieces that look like an open relationship. They fool themselves, then act all surprised when they fool others as well. Some don't even realise what they are doing and some just like the titillate/guilty game. *hugs and kisses* His loss, sweetie! Just remember that!

Mistress Belladonna

 

[myinnerslut]

i was asleep.

i took a nap to try to get some rest from the extremely emotionally exhausting day i had, and he was supposed to call me so i could let him into the building, thus waking me up. he called my roommate instead, sneaky bastard, and woke me up himself. apparently the first thing i did was through my arms around him and kiss him, but i dont remember since i wasnt really awake yet.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Something fun I do on my plane trips to see Daddy. I always bring a BDSM related book to read. First off it it insures that I will be wet and very horny when I arrive. Secondly, since I am always dressed in heels, stockings, skirt or dress, hair perfect etc it is so much fun to catch men looking at me and what I am reading. Flirting a little (sometimes maybe more than a little) helps me pass the time. More importantly for me it helps me transition from the mommy-vanilla wife mode to the slutty owned submissive mode.

 

[Homburg]

i was asleep.

i took a nap to try to get some rest from the extremely emotionally exhausting day i had, and he was supposed to call me so i could let him into the building, thus waking me up. he called my roommate instead, sneaky bastard, and woke me up himself. apparently the first thing i did was through my arms around him and kiss him, but i dont remember since i wasnt really awake yet.

I am a sneaky bastard, yes.

 

[KayKat]

I was petrifide to fly. It was my first flight ever and of course being me I had to do my first time up big and fly internationally. The entire story is in my count down thread, but the hightlights are: I was most afriad that my luggage would go missing, and it did and I was afraid that something would go wrong in customs, and I ended up skipping it totally when I hit London and had to find my way back to it.

Besides that "I am so sure that I am just too needy and he'll realize this and never want to see me" fear, these were my two biggest ones and both happend and neigther one was a big deal.

One thing about flying, I get motionsickness very easily, but I found that I was fine as long as I didn't try to read or look out the window directly. I could look out at an angle, but if I tried to look straight out, tummy rumbles.



I had been texting Jounar, and a few others, every step of my trip (even when it was really late), but when I got to London, my phone didn't work so I used a phone card to call him from there. At that point the only sleep I had had in the last 30 hours was what little I got on the plane, I had been lost in the airport in London and had to deal with snotty airport staff as they tried to figure out how to get me back up to customs, and it was passed time for me to have a meal but I was afraid to stop too long because I only had 45 minutes until my next flight, and the sign above the phone I stopped at said it was another 20 minutes to my gate. That was one hell of an airport!

Anyway, the phone call pretty much went like, "I'm tired and hungry and I got lost and some how skipped customs and had to go back and the people here are not very friendly and I've been walking for like nearlly an hour already but I'm looking at a sign that says I have 20 minutes still before I hit my gate, and I'm cranky and don't feel good and I just want to go home!"

He chuckled a bit, told me to breath and that I would be there soon and everything would be okay. I still remember feeling lost and confused as I came out of the gate in Dublin. Then I heard his voice call my name. I looked up and there he was. He reached out and held me close, then when I looked up he kissed me, firmly but tenderly. And I was so tired and out of it that I totally missed this first kiss. But some how, at that moment, even while I was worried about my missing bag, everything seemed okay...better than okay, it was perfect because I was finally home.

Thanks for sharing this with me Wenchie..I remember when you went and what a time you had..I am taking a carry on with me and no luggage...I am afraid that I will miss my connection when I have my layover..I am so scared about that...

We will be texting and I will call him at my layover and before I get on the plane the first time...so that will be good!

He says the seat I have is beside a window and that I should look out but I don't know if I can or not..LOL..I am a big wuss!!

 

[KayKat]

Something fun I do on my plane trips to see Daddy. I always bring a BDSM related book to read. First off it it insures that I will be wet and very horny when I arrive. Secondly, since I am always dressed in heels, stockings, skirt or dress, hair perfect etc it is so much fun to catch men looking at me and what I am reading. Flirting a little (sometimes maybe more than a little) helps me pass the time. More importantly for me it helps me transition from the mommy-vanilla wife mode to the slutty owned submissive mode.

Do you have any specific book you would recommend..I have the ones from Anne Rice about Beauty...If you have a good one to relate to me let me know and I will find it to have with me...That is good that all that helps you to switch modes!

 

[the captians wench]

Thanks for sharing this with me Wenchie..I remember when you went and what a time you had..I am taking a carry on with me and no luggage...I am afraid that I will miss my connection when I have my layover..I am so scared about that...

We will be texting and I will call him at my layover and before I get on the plane the first time...so that will be good!

He says the seat I have is beside a window and that I should look out but I don't know if I can or not..LOL..I am a big wuss!!

I was so worried about it that I put my corset and my favorite pair of shoes in my carryon. Those two things I would have had an imposible time replacing. They don't make the fabric I used anymore, and the shoes have been long gone from any store shelf.

I had the same fear about connections. I just knew I would miss one, and when I hit london, because of my mix up I ended up at my connection just 5 minutes before they started boarding!

I thought that I wouldn't be able to look out the window, but I'm glad I did, it all looked so neat.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Well I fly tomorrow, handluggage only, I have to text daddy when we land and again when I reach the city centre....hes already said he will see me before I see him, so I know hes going to be watching for me.

Oh god I can hardly breathe.....


Can someone PLEASE make time stand still for 3 days?

 

[Sexualinnocent]

i understand...but i can't seem to make time stand still for me and Sir too...the few times i have gotten to be with Him. But...i still cherish the time.

Enjoy every single minute! i remember how nervous i was...i couldn't sleep the night before!

 

[the captians wench]

Well I fly tomorrow, handluggage only, I have to text daddy when we land and again when I reach the city centre....hes already said he will see me before I see him, so I know hes going to be watching for me.

Oh god I can hardly breathe.....


Can someone PLEASE make time stand still for 3 days?

When I was last in Dublin and in his arms it felt as if time did stand still. The days felt so much longer there than they do here. I'm not sure if it's because I willed it so, or because I'm used to a much more "hurry up and wait" setting than what Dublin seemed to be. Then again, he said he felt much the same, so maybe it was just our will that made the days stretch.

My flight back to the states still came too soon, but I had the feeling that I had been there so much longer than 9 days.

i understand...but i can't seem to make time stand still for me and Sir too...the few times i have gotten to be with Him. But...i still cherish the time.

Enjoy every single minute! i remember how nervous i was...i couldn't sleep the night before!

I flew out thursday at about 5ish. Tuesday I worked 4pm to 2 am, Wednesday I worked 11am to 8pm, and Thursday I worked 4am to 11am. After work Thursday I went home showered, loaded my van, ate lunch (forcefully!), called my mom, then headed out to the airport (a 45- hour drive) at about 1:30ish so that I could stop at walmart and pick up a few things I knew I forgot and so that I would miss most of the traffic. Plus I was worried about how long it would take to make it through security...they said expect an hour or two...it took 20 minutes.

I was still too nervous and worried about missing my flight to sleep even a little. I was awake the entire flight from Dayton to Philly, then the entire 3 hour lay over in Philly, but by the time we were an hour over the atlantic I was out cold. I slept from that point until London, and then again from London to Dublin, which I thought would be impossible I was so nervous at that point, but the lack of sleep over the past week won. I'm sure that had a huge hand in that phone call I made to him from London, and in how I could ever have not registered the fact that he kissed me.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Do you have any specific book you would recommend..I have the ones from Anne Rice about Beauty...If you have a good one to relate to me let me know and I will find it to have with me...That is good that all that helps you to switch modes!

I've read the Anne Rice books, keeping in mind that they are a BDSM fairytale, I enjoyed them.

For plane trips I have read Master/slave which is great because they are a collection of short stories. One half is from PYL perspective and the other from a pyl side. Carrie's Story and it's sequel Safe Word are good airplane books too.

FurryFury has a BDSM book discussion thread http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=420513 there are some great recommendations there.

 

[KayKat]

I was so worried about it that I put my corset and my favorite pair of shoes in my carryon. Those two things I would have had an imposible time replacing. They don't make the fabric I used anymore, and the shoes have been long gone from any store shelf.

I had the same fear about connections. I just knew I would miss one, and when I hit london, because of my mix up I ended up at my connection just 5 minutes before they started boarding!

I thought that I wouldn't be able to look out the window, but I'm glad I did, it all looked so neat.

I am afraid my plane will arrive late and I will have time to call Master and say I am running late.....

That is what Master says that it is neat to look out the window..

 

[KayKat]

I've read the Anne Rice books, keeping in mind that they are a BDSM fairytale, I enjoyed them.

For plane trips I have read Master/slave which is great because they are a collection of short stories. One half is from PYL perspective and the other from a pyl side. Carrie's Story and it's sequel Safe Word are good airplane books too.

FurryFury has a BDSM book discussion thread http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=420513 there are some great recommendations there.

Yes the Anne Rice books were good..

Thanks for the books and I will go check out FurryFury's thread to see if I can find something to have to read....

Thanks for the helps and hints!

 

[KayKat]

I am going to find out on Wednesday what my first kiss is going to be like when I go home.

I have flown so many times before, but never to anything this important to me. Oh god I have SO many insecurities, all of which I KNOW don''t matter a jot to him but that all matter to me and I daresay hes got his insecurities too.

I cant believe its going to be coming up so soon now, it seems like only yesterday I thought it was forever. The worst of it is that it is going to be over in a heartbeat and that in itself is going to break my heart. I don't know when we will get a chance to be together again, if we even will.

Good luck Layd Fiona..I hope that all goes well....

 

[Sexualinnocent]

*snip* Oh god I have SO many insecurities, all of which I KNOW don''t matter a jot to him but that all matter to me and I daresay hes got his insecurities too. *snip*

That is something that we submissives forget. The Dominants are also human beings, with human emotions. A close lifestyle friend reminded me of that when i first went to meet Sir. she told me, "Put yourself in His place...don't you think He worries that you would feel differently face to face too?"

It put things into a whole different perspective...then even more when He told me that i need to remember the distance goes BOTH ways. Up until then, i really thought i missed Him way more than He missed me.

 

[the captians wench]

That is something that we submissives forget. The Dominants are also human beings, with human emotions. A close lifestyle friend reminded me of that when i first went to meet Sir. she told me, "Put yourself in His place...don't you think He worries that you would feel differently face to face too?"

It put things into a whole different perspective...then even more when He told me that i need to remember the distance goes BOTH ways. Up until then, i really thought i missed Him way more than He missed me.

*giggles* boy do I remember that lesson!

I was so nervous and excited and freaked out for oh gosh at least 3 months prior to my first visit that I was driving everyone insane! He however put me under strict orders that I was not allowed to be overly excited until the week before my visit, or at least I wasn't allowed to be overly excited infront of him.

When one week before my trip finally aproached, I asked him if it was okay for me to be overly excited. He said "yes, so long as you don't freak me out. I'm nervous enough as it is"

This is when it first hit me that that first visit was as momentous to him as it was to me.

Silly how we forget that