Distance Domination-Support Thread

[myinnerslut]

another tough day today.

bad day. bad observation. got my period.

the days i need Master most are the days that threaten to be too busy to steal a second on my lunch break to call. as it turns out, i had to drive home on my break so that i could get my water bottle, which i forgot at home after waking up late. i called him and talked to him over speakerphone. he sang to me i needed that.

one day closer

 

[the captians wench]

Some days I just don't know if I should scream or cry.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Some days I just don't know if I should scream or cry.

I tend to do the former which then leads to the latter and have been doing a LOT of crying recently. I know its less than a week until I go but the pure pain of not being able to keep in touch is almost more than I can bear. So much so that I am keeping strange hours, sleeping when I should be awake etc, simply to block out the hours when we cannot keep in touch.

BiBunny, welcome to the thread, dont worry about being needy, I know I am at the moment, to the point where, as I have said before, I am starting to piss myself off. I have found nothing but genuine caring and support in here, something I will always be grateful for.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Today was a great day. It was raining and a little chilly and I was off from work. I went to yoga class and then came home, crawled into bed and called Daddy. We talked for about 3 hours about nothing and everything. There was a little play at the end, but mostly it was just spending time with each other.

With all the stress we both have been under lately we needed this time desperately.

 

[unregistered]

 

[Bandit58]

one day closer

*smiles* That was how Sir and I did it, when we were waiting for the six weeks to pass until I could get back to Him and start our life together. It does seem to crawl, but you'll be home soon, hang in there *hug*

 

[ecstaticsub]

That does sound like a great day, Ecstaticsub. I'm happy for you!

Thanks

 

[Adakgirl]

Some days I just don't know if I should scream or cry.

Then do both scream and cry....and when your done... smile and think about how very blessed you are to have a man like Jounar in your life.

 

[the captians wench]

Some times it's really hard to know when I'm being stupid, and when there really is a reason, other than normal life, to his absence. *sigh*

Well I know I've been stupid this week while I've been of sulking, but then comes the fear that I pissed him off while I went off to a corner to pout, or worse yet,t hat my actions have been even more disapointing to him than they have to me. The rational part of my brain tells me that I'm over reacting, he's just really not the type to get overly worked up about the way I handled my little tantrum. But then there's that little nagging voice that says when it comes to love there is no sence of ration.

I know I'm over reacting....I think. It's just really hard when you can't simply pick up the phone and call you're other to find out what's going on in his head.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Some times it's really hard to know when I'm being stupid, and when there really is a reason, other than normal life, to his absence. *sigh*

Well I know I've been stupid this week while I've been of sulking, but then comes the fear that I pissed him off while I went off to a corner to pout, or worse yet,t hat my actions have been even more disapointing to him than they have to me. The rational part of my brain tells me that I'm over reacting, he's just really not the type to get overly worked up about the way I handled my little tantrum. But then there's that little nagging voice that says when it comes to love there is no sence of ration.

I know I'm over reacting....I think. It's just really hard when you can't simply pick up the phone and call you're other to find out what's going on in his head.

Oh Wenchie isn't irrationality soul destroying? Of course you know there is no other reason than 'everyday life' stopping him, but no matter how often you tell yourself that, it does not stop that little niggle of doubt creeping in.

Did I do this? Did I say that? Has he had enough of my tantrums? I do it too. I stomp my foot better than any 2 yr old having a tantrum sometimes but daddy is always patient, tells me off and then tells me he loves me.

Its so horrible not being able to pick up the phone, we have had that all the way through but he has been able to phone me normally on a daily basis until the last 3 weeks when home life took over both of us and everything came to a standstill. It was horrible. Now we are just about back to normal, and I fly out on Wednesday morning for 3 days of bliss. He has already told me that the week following my visit he will be at home for the week so contact will be minimal, but I have at least had the warning, hopefully rationality will stay above the doubt.

{{{{{{{{{{{{Huggles}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[Mistress_Belladonna]

Maybe I'll be branded a bit of a freak...

... but I'm a domme and I miss my pet something terrible when we're not in touch. We're planning a visit in about a month's time and it feels like it will never get here.

Seems like the thread mostly gets posts from subs, but we D's in these LDR's miss our subs, too. Just letting you guys know you're not alone!

 

[the captians wench]

... but I'm a domme and I miss my pet something terrible when we're not in touch. We're planning a visit in about a month's time and it feels like it will never get here.

Seems like the thread mostly gets posts from subs, but we D's in these LDR's miss our subs, too. Just letting you guys know you're not alone!

Does seem like mostly subs post, but we do get a few from the otherside.

Honestly, if you really want to talk statistics, i think it's just that more women post than anything else, and the majority of us just happen to be subs. But it makes sense really, when you think about it. Women just express their emotions more freely then men, in general, and, statisticly, we talk a whole lot more too! *giggles*

 

[myinnerslut]

and Master posts here also. i assure you he isnt a sub

 

[Sexualinnocent]

i am so wanting some time with Sir...but life has gotten in the way. He did help me with a serious situation that came up, and i am so thankful about that.

But i could use some hugging, cuddling...and more.

 

[the captians wench]

Well i was right, i was being silly. Not only was he just busy with what he's been dealing with lately, but he didn't even notice my little tantrum. That is of course until i told him that the reason my assignment was late was because i'd been sulking all week.

So now i feel even worse because i already knew he was so stressed out that he really didn't need my sulking adding to the situation, especially since he is just as upset as i am about this. But it did, so now i feel guilty for adding even just a moment of undue extra stress to him. *sigh*

How long til october?

 

[Adakgirl]

I am just so bummed out I can barely even talk about it. I replied to a personal add here on Lit, which is not always the smartest move but hey, this Dominant articulated his thoughts clearly and what he was looking for sounded a lot like what I was looking for. He had been searching a long time. He had mentioned he was married, but his wife was not into BDSM and had he no intention of changing his situation and he only wanted an lasting on-line relationship. So I assumed his wife knew about his need and was aware of his activities on-line.

He replied and we exchanged IM info and we talked on Yahoo for a few hours. We clicked and everything went very well. Our needs at this time matched, our views about D/s M/s on-line LDR matched. I was attracted to him, he was attracted to me. We made a date to meet tonight on Yahoo and I prepared myself carefully, dressing nicely, full make-up, hair styled, I looked great. But he was not there at the agreed upon time.

So I came here and he had left me a PM saying that if we continued he knows he would hurt me, he was torn between being overwhelmed with guilt because he was cheating on his wife and his need to Dominate and have a M/s relationship. So he had changed his mind about getting deeper into this with me and he was leaving Lit. I was like HUH??

This shocked and surprised me, it also upset me because by the way his adds read and what he had told me, he had already had 7 or 8 of these type relationships through the years. Why didn't he just tell me at the start of our 1st convo that he was doing this behind his wife's back? He stressed honesty and all that good stuff in his adds, I naturally assumed that honesty extended to his wife. Apparently it doesn't. It sure would have saved me a lot of unnecessary anticipation if he had just been upfront about it.

My #1-rule is I don't have any kind of relationship with married men unless their wive knows about it and is fine with it and they can prove to me she knows about it.
I was going to pin him down tonight and find out if his wife had agreed to him doing this sort of thing or not. Guess NOT. The whole thing still bums me out. How can one stress open honest communication from the very beginning, and yet at the same time not be honest with his own wife?

 

[KayKat]

It is getting closer til the time for me and Master to meet..I am so very nervous...I am excited too but sometimes I let the nervousness overwhelm me! UGH

 

[ecstaticsub]

It is getting closer til the time for me and Master to meet..I am so very nervous...I am excited too but sometimes I let the nervousness overwhelm me! UGH

I remember that feeling so well. Even after 4 years I still get that excited but nervous feeling. Not anywhere near as nervous as before the first time of course.

Figure out what is making you the most nervous and ask your Master to reassure you on those. You will still be nervous but it'll help. My 3 big issues were 1) will my ass be able to handle anal with him? 2) Will he still be attracted to me when he sees me in real life? 3) Is perhaps he is some crazed internet killer?

He reassured me to my satisfaction on all of those and I was much calmer.

 

[KayKat]

I remember that feeling so well. Even after 4 years I still get that excited but nervous feeling. Not anywhere near as nervous as before the first time of course.

Figure out what is making you the most nervous and ask your Master to reassure you on those. You will still be nervous but it'll help. My 3 big issues were 1) will my ass be able to handle anal with him? 2) Will he still be attracted to me when he sees me in real life? 3) Is perhaps he is some crazed internet killer?

He reassured me to my satisfaction on all of those and I was much calmer.

My worries have been that I have never flown before and I am very scared of that...He had been making smart remarks about it so I quit telling him but we finally talked that out and all is okay..still scared to be on a plane but I will be okay!

I have worried about him not being attracted to me..but he reassures me he will...

Those have been the main worries so far that have come up..

Thanks for replying Estaticsub!

 

[Keroin]

Well I feel like an old hobo,
I'm sad, lonesome and blue
I was fair as the summer day
Now the summer days are through
You pass through places
And places pass through you
But you carry 'em with you
On the souls of your travellin' shoes

Well I love you so dearly I love you so clearly
Wake you up in the mornin' so early
Just to tell you I got the wanderin' blues
I got the wanderin' blues
And i'm gonna quit these ramblin' ways one of
these days soon
And I'll sing

The littlest birds sing the prettiest songs...

Well it's times like these
I feel so small and wild
Like the ramblin' footsteps of a wanderin' child
And I'm lonesome as a lonesome whippoorwill
Singin these blues with a warble and a trill
But I'm not too blue to fly
No I'm not too blue to fly cause

The littlest birds sing the prettiest songs...

Well I love you so dearly
I love you so fearlessly
Wake you up in the mornin' so early
Just to tell you I got the wanderin' blues
I got the wanderin' blues
And I don't wanna leave you
I love you through and through

Oh I left my baby on a pretty blue train
And I sang my songs to the cold and the rain
I had the wanderin' blues
And I sang those wanderin' blues
And I'm gonna quit these ramblin' ways
One of these days soon
And I'll sing...

The littlest birds sing the prettiest songs....

I don't care if the sun don't shine
I don't care if nothin' is mine
I don't care if I'm nervous with you
I'll do my lovin' in the wintertime


- The Littlest Birds The Be Good Tanya's

 

[Keroin]

My worries have been that I have never flown before and I am very scared of that...He had been making smart remarks about it so I quit telling him but we finally talked that out and all is okay..still scared to be on a plane but I will be okay!

I've flown a million billion times in all kinds of planes. You have nothing to worry about. However, Apo-Triazo is a life saver when it comes to flying nerves. Doesn't knock you out, doesn't get you stoned, just makes you nice and relaxed. It is a prescription drug - just tell your doctor you're very nervous. I take a full pill on long flights and a half on short ones, (I had a fairly traumatic experience on a 747 once and after twenty years of trying to just "get over it" I finally gave up - why the hell did I wait so long?).

Drink lots of water. Bring an inflatable pillow and eyeshades in case you want to sleep. Make sure you have a change of clothes, any prescription drugs you need, toothbrush, toothpaste, and any essential items in your carry on - in case your checked luggage gets lost. Never put your address on your luggage tags.

 

[KayKat]

I've flown a million billion times in all kinds of planes. You have nothing to worry about. However, Apo-Triazo is a life saver when it comes to flying nerves. Doesn't knock you out, doesn't get you stoned, just makes you nice and relaxed. It is a prescription drug - just tell your doctor you're very nervous. I take a full pill on long flights and a half on short ones, (I had a fairly traumatic experience on a 747 once and after twenty years of trying to just "get over it" I finally gave up - why the hell did I wait so long?).

Drink lots of water. Bring an inflatable pillow and eyeshades in case you want to sleep. Make sure you have a change of clothes, any prescription drugs you need, toothbrush, toothpaste, and any essential items in your carry on - in case your checked luggage gets lost. Never put your address on your luggage tags.

Thank you for that suggestion Keroin..I will check out about that pill..I am writing that down now..

Thanks for all the helpful hints..they are much appreciated..More then you ever know!

 

[Keroin]

Thank you for that suggestion Keroin..I will check out about that pill..I am writing that down now..

Thanks for all the helpful hints..they are much appreciated..More then you ever know!

Happy to help! One thing I know is traveling.

Oh, I almost forgot, bring chewing gum (the airport shops won't sell it, trust me). Pop a piece in your mouth when the plane starts moving, this will help clear your ears. It doesn't always happen but sometimes the change in pressure can cause discomfort in your ears. (This is why babies cry on planes, because they can't equalize the pressure). If the chewing doesn't work, try opening your mouth wide and moving your jaw side to side. If that doesn't work, close your mouth, plug your nose and try blowing, *gently*, through your nose.

And all those noises you'll hear - big clunks and stuff on take off and landing - that's normal, so don't panic.

Give yourself lots of time to get through the security check. They will ask you to remove your shoes, just a heads up.

 

[KayKat]

Happy to help! One thing I know is traveling.

Oh, I almost forgot, bring chewing gum (the airport shops won't sell it, trust me). Pop a piece in your mouth when the plane starts moving, this will help clear your ears. It doesn't always happen but sometimes the change in pressure can cause discomfort in your ears. (This is why babies cry on planes, because they can't equalize the pressure). If the chewing doesn't work, try opening your mouth wide and moving your jaw side to side. If that doesn't work, close your mouth, plug your nose and try blowing, *gently*, through your nose.

And all those noises you'll hear - big clunks and stuff on take off and landing - that's normal, so don't panic.

Give yourself lots of time to get through the security check. They will ask you to remove your shoes, just a heads up.

I had heard the chewing gum thing but didn't know if it worked...Thanks for all the hints!

Yes Master has told me about the noises and not to have a heart attack as they are normal..

Yes the security check I know will take a bit of time...good thing I am wearing sandals so that should not take to long....

Thanks for all the helpful hints..they are really helping!

 

[Adakgirl]

I also like to take a pen and pad of paper to write if the urge hits me. A good book. Munchies, snacks, candy but put them in those ziplock bags. You can google up all the securtiy requirements on the airlines or airport websites. Tell you exactly what you can carry on ect.
You are wearing sandals, but I would bring socks or footsies because your feet might get cold on the plane. Planes are either too hot or too cold it seems so be prepared and wear a over shirt or sweater, you can always take it off. Plane blankets are yukky I try to avoid using one if I can.

If someone is seated next to you and you feel like talking, go ahead but beware..once they get started it seems impolite to just start ignoring them and some never shut up the whole flight. I prefer just to nod hello or say hello and then stay in my own little world by looking out the window or reading a book. Just like anywhere else, there are predator males on planes and they will hit on you occasionally. Just politely decline or ignore them.