Disappointments................

[mfs686]

Still trying to remember what I was going to say.

 

[manofsteel52]

Hi Gotta,

Girl I understand what you mean.

I was contacted by someone and he promised the stars and the moon. Fortunatley for me, a mutual friend of ours, told me a little about the man. I found the questions to ask him and I did. I backed him into a corner and kind of let him have it, because the whole time we had been talking, and I have to admit it wasn't all that long, he kept hearing me refer to the fact that I like to receive oral pleasure but never once did he bother to tell me that he would not do that until I had gotten him in the corner and he had to answer. That ended that, because I told him I would not give him oral if he would not give me oral.

Thank goodness for friends that can help.

I guess you have to kiss those frogs before you find the prince or princess

Gentle

I have known men precisely like that. All I can say is that they are pathetic losers who have absolutely no clue what they are missing.

I'm not saying that I'm the worlds greatest lover, who's going to send any women into orbit in ecstasy because of my incredible sexual prowess. I do, however, try my best to give my lover my all, my best, as much as she can take, each and every time.

 

[mayi]

it has nothing to do with licking or not licking.....it has to do with lies and skirting the truth. we will find out and we will let you know the truth.

just be honest.........that is all it takes, if one does not work, another will, we learn, we grow, we find our way and we find the right one.

 

[Native Alien]

hey mayi,

i think that it is also about figuring out what is the truth and what is wishful thinking on some men's parts too.

that or they think that we believe all that bragging.....

 

[mayi]

hey mayi,

i think that it is also about figuring out what is the truth and what is wishful thinking on some men's parts too.

that or they think that we believe all that bragging.....

i must be getting old....i have stopped believing......the proof is in the put-out!

 

[bashfull]

~snip~
why does anyone have to lie about themselves.....what is it going to gain???....in my little opinion NOTHING, the truth will always come out. ~snip~
hey you know what, i told you the truth....why can't you respect me enough to do the same.

Howdy all. Great thread. Very interesting to see some perspective here.

Thought I might go ahead and confess:

I'm really an impotent, 4'10, 380 lb. bald wimp with a 3 inch penis...but I have big feet!



Bash

 

[gentlelady]

But Bashful, at least you were honest!

I agree mayi, it isn't about licking or not, but about honesty. And I firmly believe that if you want to be intimate with a person, it would be better to be more cautious than to elabarate on something that would soon be found out...... it would save some heartaches and headaches along the way.

I wonder when we start acting like we have grown up?

 

[bashfull]

But Bashful, at least you were honest!

I agree mayi, it isn't about licking or not, but about honesty. And I firmly believe that if you want to be intimate with a person, it would be better to be more cautious than to elabarate on something that would soon be found out...... it would save some heartaches and headaches along the way.

I wonder when we start acting like we have grown up?

But I refuse to grow up darlin!

As for the honesty, I have to agree. Honesty and directness are always best. Speaking of which...I'm really only 2 7/8 inches...erect. But I can go for at least 2.....3 minutes!

Seriously, the only time I ventured forth to meet someone I got exactly what I expected...and more. She was even more beautiful inside than out and fullfilled many of my fantasies. It was a magical, mysticcal weekend...oops, meant two weekends. Hopefully, she wasn't too dissapointed with me. But we both had gotten to know each other first. And, as I ask of anyone, we established the fact that we would both be honest and direct in all subjects with each other.

 

[mayi]

for bashfull

i love your honesty

 

[Native Alien]

aw gee bashful, and you always have such great avs too. where did the cowboy go?

seriously, i am honest and tell people up front that i am not looking for a relationship. i think part of the problem is that they just don't believe me. maybe a few years down the road that will change. while i do agree that there has to be some emotions involved in sex, i just don't have the time for the committment right now.

 

[SexGuyAZ]

Ok, I know not all men are selfish pigs, but I just had an encounter with one. Why would a man spend a year and a half online of pm's,im's,pics,sexual innuendo and outright promises of the "best you'll ever have", to finally meet and after, oh, lasting 5 minutes into the fantastic head he was getting,which is fine, (most don't but can go again in a few right?)make a feeble attempt at best licking a clean,hygienically pleasant,beautifully shaven pussy(so no yukky hairs) for oh about 3 minutes and its like, that's it ,he has to get going.He actually thought I got off, I let him know I didn't in a nice way and can realize why he doesn't get many dates perhaps? Talk about a disappointment. LOL Now I am just more pissed than frustrated and needed to vent! Thanks Lit for providing that outlet

Any others have similar experiences/letdowns?Let me know so I can commiserate........

Ouch, I'm sorry you had that experience. Horrible that a man wouldn't do that .

Question though to all, what about the person who willingly admits they have no clue and completely suck (myself)?

 

[gentlelady]

The question then is, do you have the patience to learn the skill?

 

[gottaBme]

SexguyAZ

In my opinion, this again goes back to honesty. There are plenty of women who would say "Come here and let me show you what I like" and then you just practice, practice, practice. LOL Ah research can be so rewarding.This guy was professing to be the "ultimate sexual god" So, just be honest and you will find many willing guinea pigs to experiment with I am sure........

 

[mayi]

Re: Re: Disappointments................

Ouch, I'm sorry you had that experience. Horrible that a man wouldn't do that .

Question though to all, what about the person who willingly admits they have no clue and completely suck (myself)?

along with the learning comes the remembering......it does no good to teach and then have to teach it all over two weeks later!

 

[gottaBme]

mayi

Good point

 

[mfs686]

Geez...this is starting to sound like an Oprah man bashing episode....oh wait, all her shows are like that (LOL).

 

[bashfull]

for bashfull

i love your honesty

Gulp. Think that kiss just took me from 2 minutes to 2 seconds. Darn it all. Was going for a record.

Native~The cowboy is still here. I've been feeling kinda' randy lately so put this AV up and have just been too lazy to change it. As for your directness, darlin', I think any self respecting guy who doesn't suffer from an ego problem would love your directness and honesty. I sure know I would. Ahhh, to hear "Hey, no games, no strings...just hours of mind blowing sex. This is what I like and am willing to do and here are the boundaries..." Whooo Doogggy! Not a lot of women out there who are that forward and probably not many guys who could be comfortable with such a woman.

 

[mayi]

Geez...this is starting to sound like an Oprah man bashing episode....oh wait, all her shows are like that (LOL).

now wait...i like men.........they make good bed warmers

and i think there are a few more uses for them....i will have to get back to you on it though

 

[bashfull]

now wait...i like men.........they make good bed warmers

and i think there are a few more uses for them....i will have to get back to you on it though

Yep, we kill bugs and take out the trash.

Bash

 

[Native Alien]

i think that you are totally right there bashful, they get afraid to a point, (not all mind you, but some). i am not bashing men at all. just know what i do and don't want and i am not afraid to say so.

oh and as to the bugs and the trash, been doing both all on my own for years and don't mind doing either really.

(but most of the time the bugs end up outside and not dead).

 

[Neftoon_Zamora]

I can't blame my disappointment on anyone but myself. I believed what I wanted to believe, heard what I wanted to hear, and leaned heavily on someone else to fix things that I really have to learn to fix myself. The let down was a painful one.

This medium is an odd one. Here, we have no choice but to trust that the person on the other keyboard is telling us the truth. Chances are good tho, that they will whitewash it some. Many of us do, to some extent, I think.

Meantime, I've found that I have some really wonderful friends here, men and women, that I can talk to, vent to, laugh with and who care about me and want good things for me, as I want for them.

There was my daily blurt. I'm going to bed now.

 

[mayi]

Yep, we kill bugs and take out the trash.

Bash

hey now.............not at my house....*going to check the rules again*

i am getting the short end here

 

[bashfull]

hey now.............not at my house....*going to check the rules again*

i am getting the short end here

Did ya' say short end? Guess you were talking to/about me, then. (sigh).

But yep, kill the bugs, take out the trash, wash the cars. That's my fate in life.

Native~hmmm...my type of woman. you kill the bugs and take out the trash. I'll just lie here in my holey underwear, drinking beer and waiting for ya' to come back in. Kidding aside, don't let the ones who are intimidated bother you. Remain confident and direct. I know the lady I met exhibited that same attitude and that was what drew me to her. And she blew my...mind (what? did ya' think I was going to say something else? lol). While I am probably not the type you want to attract (see above description lol), I can't be the only guy out there who appreciates such directness.



Bash

 

[Native Alien]

you would be amazed bashful, you would truly be amazed.

as for that above description, i don't believe it for a second.

for ya.

 

[dream weaver 11]

I can't blame my disappointment on anyone but myself. I believed what I wanted to believe, heard what I wanted to hear, and leaned heavily on someone else to fix things that I really have to learn to fix myself. The let down was a painful one.

This medium is an odd one. Here, we have no choice but to trust that the person on the other keyboard is telling us the truth. Chances are good tho, that they will whitewash it some. Many of us do, to some extent, I think.

Meantime, I've found that I have some really wonderful friends here, men and women, that I can talk to, vent to, laugh with and who care about me and want good things for me, as I want for them.

There was my daily blurt. I'm going to bed now.

Truth is an odd thing . And people here do tend to exploit it . Alot. And I wouldn't call it whitewash . No , that wouldn't be the correct word. People should realize that in this medium , no matter how ridiculous it may seem to some , that people do believe in what they are told. They believe that people care and are honest in what they say . And they do at times even fall in love . Big mistake . But more times than not , they are left alone and hurting . Not knowing why . No explanation as to why they were led to believe one thing , but only to find out different later . I wish I had these true friends you speak of , to laugh with ,vent to , and someone who truely cared so I could find good things to . Because right now , all I can see is darkness and pain. And somewhere off in the distance , I even think I hear a mocking laughter . That hurts the worst . Enuff from me . Just my thoughts. I had a special someone once . Wish I could find out where they went , and why they thought it necessary to make fun of something that was so good and so right . If they only knew.............................. I love you .