Disappointments................

[TantaLiza]

(((((((((((Kiki))))))))))))

He shouldn't have led you on...



Dawn, sugah.... are you sure we haven't met the same men in different bodies??? lol Believe me, it helps to rant sometimes... gets it out of our system and mind even for the shortest of times... (((((((((Dawn))))))))

(((((Native))))), (((((((gottaB)))))))


Hope we all get ours this year!!! It's about time...

Blowing kisses in the wind...

Liza

 

[manofsteel52]

(((((((((((Kiki))))))))))))

He shouldn't have led you on...



Dawn, sugah.... are you sure we haven't met the same men in different bodies??? lol Believe me, it helps to rant sometimes... gets it out of our system and mind even for the shortest of times... (((((((((Dawn))))))))

(((((Native))))), (((((((gottaB)))))))


Hope we all get ours this year!!! It's about time...

Blowing kisses in the wind...

Liza

Must have something to do with those of us who are more or less real are married...

 

[Native Alien]

i don't know that it has anything to do with being married. in my own personal opinion, you find this problem with unmarried men as well as the ones that are married.

wonder if it ever occurred to them that there might be a reason that the wife doesn't want sexually want them?

 

[gottaBme]

Woodmiester.....

Sorry you found your time wasted but as you said, not all men are like that, just like not all women who tell you they'll give you the most earth shattering blowjob of your life and then make you wish you'd just kept walking and passed her by....

Point taken hon and maybe to him, some poor misguided female once told him he was the best and he believed it. LOL And I am sure some women believe they are really good when they are just "adequate". I did sound kinda like that myself maybe?But when a man is writhing in ecstacy and singing praises he is either enjoying it immensely or is a damn good actor.....Which brings another question to mind.........Do men ever fake it? LOL

 

[gottaBme]

Here's a "silent" guy bragging about his abilities! And check out his av.!! If he isn't "over-advertise"d I don't know who is!

but khan-e check out the nice pics lol is there truth in advertising???kinda goes back to the talk the talk and walk the walk doesn't it lol Nice to look at anyhow

 

[Ukin]

I do hope that you ladies don't paint all men with the same brush. As I said before..some of us do care about the female orgasm...and not just one either...I love to give my lady (not that I have one lol) multi orgasms with the tongue..long before actual sex.
I just wish I could meet one that does appreciate the older man and the willingness to please syndrome. Not just talking..I am a pleaser..not a teaser.

 

[Native Alien]

Ukin, if no one else will say it i will. i realize that all men are NOT like the ones that we are talking about here. i just wish the ones that got it, would explain it to the ones that don't get it.

i have noticed that i can tell a man 10 times what i like, what i want, and what it takes to satisify me. but it is like talking to the wall in certain cases. these are the ones that we are talking about in most cases. they think that they are the Creator's gift to women i think.

they feel that they don't need to listen and that they are fine just the way that they are.

 

[Ukin]

Ukin, if no one else will say it i will. i realize that all men are NOT like the ones that we are talking about here. i just wish the ones that got it, would explain it to the ones that don't get it.

i have noticed that i can tell a man 10 times what i like, what i want, and what it takes to satisify me. but it is like talking to the wall in certain cases. these are the ones that we are talking about in most cases. they think that they are the Creator's gift to women i think.

they feel that they don't need to listen and that they are fine just the way that they are.

Native: I know the sort lass. We are strange creatures I guess. I LOVE to be told what the partner wants, how she wants it. Funnily enough, I was talking about this very thing last night to an online female friend (a friend is all she is). Her ex was one of "Those" types.

I need telling just the once...hell I would even ask what or how she wants it!

All I need now lol..is a woman to please!

 

[Native Alien]

you need to move to Ohio my friend, the winters can be a bit brutal but the women are fair and most are getting to the point that they are outspoken in what they want.

 

[Ukin]

you need to move to Ohio my friend, the winters can be a bit brutal but the women are fair and most are getting to the point that they are outspoken in what they want.

That would be a pleasure indeed..but sadly, being English, I have had enough of the long and cold winters. I much prefer the sunshine..and the longer summers...makes the riding the Harley so much more pleasurable

I guess I am greedy..I want the best of both worlds

 

[Native Alien]

so just come and visit in the summer.

 

[RomanHans]

Ummm...is it just me, or does anyone else notice that this thread is talking about being disappointed by actually meeting in person with someone you meet ON THE INTERNET...after all, this is the medium where 'Caveat Emptor' applies to the nth degree...there are plenty of folks who can talk a good game, especially if they're typing, who are in reality complete buffoons...and that doesn't apply to just men.

Gives new meaning to my favorite New Yorker cartoon--"On the Internet, no one knows you're a dog."

If you approach these potential suitors with no expectations, you may not be so disappointed in the future...

Sorry for the rant of my own--feel free to flame away.

Roman

 

[gottaBme]

Vent away Romanhans lol

I fully understood that and caveat emptor or however it is spelled.LOL It was a hasty spur of the moment post.I put it off (meeting him) for so long just because of that reason alone (the "internet").But every so often my judgement is obscured by just every day blah's and I jump off the cliff without looking........I have met some great friends on the net and then in person and they ARE truly nice folks.And my favorite cartoon is the one where they are pm'ing each other and it is a rather aesthetically challenged woman and man typing all this b.s. with ballons of their ideal mates in their heads above.Thanks for sharing...

 

[TantaLiza]

If you read my first post, I said I totally remember more of the good ones than I do of the bad ones.... also that I've had the experience to share... lol

I've learned over the years of meeting online men that you don't make any assumptions of any kind... each one is a new and different experience... even some of the bad ones had their good points.... I'm a pretty open person and looks aren't always the top of the list...

Fair is fair....

Liza

 

[Native Alien]

i had had this happen in person as well. Several times. if it were just someone that i had met on the internet then i wouldn't be so adamant about it. but there are men that i have dated that do the same thing. build themselves up in person and when it comes to the actual act they are a total washout.

so, it doesn't just happen when one meets someone from the internet.

 

[Native Alien]

a bump back to the front page so we can get some more vents and so that maybe some of these fellows will see and understand why they don't get that second chance.

 

[manofsteel52]

i don't know that it has anything to do with being married. in my own personal opinion, you find this problem with unmarried men as well as the ones that are married.

wonder if it ever occurred to them that there might be a reason that the wife doesn't want sexually want them?

Hmmmm...
I think you may have missed the point of my post.
I wasn't referring to married men looking elsewhere for sex, but that those of us who put our partner's pleasure before our own are off the market, so to speak.

 

[Native Alien]

you are right i missed the point, but then you aren't of the men that we are talking about anyway. we are talking about the men that lead women on period. it happens offline as much as on. take my word for it. if you are taken, then you aren't leading a woman on.

we are discussing the ones that lead women on, that build themselves up to be a good lover and then don't follow thru or do so poorly that they leave us disappointed, upset, and frustrated.

 

[1sexylady]

you are right i missed the point, but then you aren't of the men that we are talking about anyway. we are talking about the men that lead women on period. it happens offline as much as on. take my word for it. if you are taken, then you aren't leading a woman on.

we are discussing the ones that lead women on, that build themselves up to be a good lover and then don't follow thru or do so poorly that they leave us disappointed, upset, and frustrated.

Hope you don't mind me putting in my two cents...

I have read this thread and agree with you, talk is cheap and alot of men talk the talk but don't walk the walk, and I hate to say it women do the same thing.

I kind of take this route. I don't expect anything from anyone and then I don't get hurt. If I end up with a friend then I feel lucky if not then it was not meant to be. Not always easy but done.

By the way Native Alien I love your av...

 

[Native Alien]

you are right sexy, it happens with both sexes and you can put your two cents worth in any time.

thanks, i just changed it again. i don't like staying with the same one all the time...get bored easily i do.

 

[tn_8tiv]

Ok, I know not all men are selfish pigs, but I just had an encounter with one. Why would a man spend a year and a half online of pm's,im's,pics,sexual innuendo and outright promises of the "best you'll ever have", to finally meet and after, oh, lasting 5 minutes into the fantastic head he was getting,which is fine, (most don't but can go again in a few right?)make a feeble attempt at best licking a clean,hygienically pleasant,beautifully shaven pussy(so no yukky hairs) for oh about 3 minutes and its like, that's it ,he has to get going.He actually thought I got off, I let him know I didn't in a nice way and can realize why he doesn't get many dates perhaps? Talk about a disappointment. LOL Now I am just more pissed than frustrated and needed to vent! Thanks Lit for providing that outlet

Any others have similar experiences/letdowns?Let me know so I can commiserate........

First, my sympathy to you for your bad experience. I am sure there are many here who will tell you of the wonderful relationships they have experienced.

As one of the guys, let me assure you that it doesn't have to be this way. But first, there must be an emotional connection between the two of you for sex to reach its ultimate level of satisfaction. I don't mean to sound crude, but it sounds like from the brief discription of your encounter that it was set up to be a quickie. The art of making love to a woman takes time and patience. Every woman is unique. There are different touches, caresses, tastes that drive that individual to achieve satisfaction. I feel a first date should be a learning experience where each explores the other to see what excites them most...what spots are particularly erotic, how hard to touch, to caress, to probe with every part of your body. Then when the two people come together for the final act, the feelings will occur.

Does it have to be LOVE? I think a feeling of love (sharing, giving, committing) has to be present for someone to give totally to the other person without regard for their own personal satisfaction. From my experience, when that feeling of giving and sharing is there, the rest takes care of itself.

Just my two cents worth.

 

[sweet angeleyes]

guys,

it wasn't just the oral that she was talking about. it was the fact that here was a guy that did the talking and couldn't deliver. i am sure that if you took a survey of women and that if they answered honestly...well, let us just say that the talkers far outweigh the walkers.

I couldn't have said it better myself, so I won't. lol

 

[Native Alien]

thanks sweet, for understanding what i was trying to say. it is sometimes hard even after all these years to get the words to speak what i mean.

 

[Ukin]

I love this Thread..so interesting to read the words of the ladies.

However, my little tale swings the boat around, so to speak.

I arranged to meet one lady from an AOL Chat-room. Everything seemed to be rosy, she seemed nice, not too young, no too old...her pics were nice (not naked..nice face shots, clothed body shots) and we seemed to have a lot in common..and she was in the same State as I (CA).
I drove the 4 hours South, to the meeting point and then I saw her. Well, it might be the English in me...but when I saw her wearing a baseball hat...drinking Vodka out of the bottle (Yes...neat Vodka at 6.30pm)..and then she spoke. The first words were "I hope you are taking me to dinner before you fuck me".

I was a little shocked lol.Sure, it had crossed my mind that we would end up in a hotel..which we did. I thought she might want to change before dinner...nope, she didn't.

To cut to the chase...she was loud, foulmouthed and an incessant drinker. We got back to the hotel and I got into bed...secretly wishing it was the morning..then..the coup de grace.

"I have a knife here and I will use it" she said looking at me.

I got out of bed, dressed..my eyes on her every move..I left.

I suppose that could be classed as "Me not doing the Walk" lol

I guess, what I am trying to say is...it does swing both ways...albeit this one was in the extreme. Ladies DO lead men on...men DO lead ladies on...it's a shame, but it happens.

As someone said, there has to be a connection, not just over the keyboards..but in the flesh too. We men are fickle..we can get an erection over anything lol...but sadly, once sated..it takes a fair while before we can do anything again.

That's why I much prefer to go down - perform Oral sex on the ladies before I want my own gratification.

Needless to say...after my first exploit of meeting someone...I will be, in the future..a damn sight more careful in whom I meet..and certainly would connect over the telephone first!

Sorry to hog your Thread ladies..but I did want to say..it happens both ways...as I am sure that you are aware...but it doesn't get away from the stark fact that men, some men...are selfish pigs. They are only concerned with their own orgasm, not thinking that ladies can have more than one!

To all the ladies...I do hope that you all find the "perfect" man (if one exsists that is!)..and may you enjoy multiple orgasms before he has his one lol

 

[Doc_Luv]

Hope you don't mind me putting in my two cents...

I have read this thread and agree with you, talk is cheap and alot of men talk the talk but don't walk the walk, and I hate to say it women do the same thing.

I kind of take this route. I don't expect anything from anyone and then I don't get hurt. If I end up with a friend then I feel lucky if not then it was not meant to be. Not always easy but done.

By the way Native Alien I love your av...
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Nah, We luv your 2 cents, Sexy...

Im glad you dont expect much, thats the smart thing if you ask me, never get hurt that way and who knows, might be pleasantly suprised by the person you next meet...

Just my 2 cents
Doc