Disappointments................

[RomanHans]

i had had this happen in person as well. Several times. if it were just someone that i had met on the internet then i wouldn't be so adamant about it. but there are men that i have dated that do the same thing. build themselves up in person and when it comes to the actual act they are a total washout.

so, it doesn't just happen when one meets someone from the internet.

Truer words were never spoken...after all, we meet plenty of folks in everyday life who seem to have it together (at a party, thru work, etc.) and then you find that they are a real mess in a more intimate circumstance--so why should the Net be any different?

On the other hand, I really have to respect GottaBeMe a lot for admitting that she had 'jumped off the cliff' this time, even if it didn't work out as she had hoped. Setting up a real-life meeting with a Net buddy is not an activity for the risk-averse! Here's to hoping that your next bet won't end up such a loss of investment...

And here's to all of us finding that at least more often than not, our on-line friends meet or exceed our expectations at the right time! After all, low expectations also can become a self-fulfilling prophecy...

Roman

 

[Hazguy]

I wish that all the quiet ones lived in Ohio. In about a 50 mile radius of me.

You mean we don't?

 

[gottaBme]

Haz, you little devil you.........

 

[Native Alien]

not within a 50 mile radius ya'll don't.

maybe that way i could get to know alot more of ya'll a little better.

 

[prettygrneyes]

Hope you don't mind me putting in my two cents...

I have read this thread and agree with you, talk is cheap and alot of men talk the talk but don't walk the walk, and I hate to say it women do the same thing.

I kind of take this route. I don't expect anything from anyone and then I don't get hurt. If I end up with a friend then I feel lucky if not then it was not meant to be. Not always easy but done.

By the way Native Alien I love your av...

so true......................sexy lady!

 

[Native Alien]

that is fine if a friend is what you are looking for.

what i am talking about is the guy who promises to be such a stud in the bedroom and then is as good as a gelding.

sex, is what i am talking about. or did i mistake the whole point of the thread here?

 

[mayi]

i don't try to put on 'airs' i am who i am and what i say about myself is a repeat of what others have said about me. if you aske me point blank what i am like.....i would say an average farm girl and nothing more. but what i am sick of is the guys who let you think they really care about you and find you interesting. the ones who change their story to match yours....and btw guys....the ladies do talk so we know you are not being honest....

why does anyone have to lie about themselves.....what is it going to gain???....in my little opinion NOTHING, the truth will always come out. yes i am made, more at myself then anyone person, for being suckered in but on-line trolls. guys who look for the easy bait and take us for a ride then wonder why we get upset.....hey you know what, i told you the truth....why can't you respect me enough to do the same.

if all you want is sex, then say that!!! it isnot like i have not heard it before.....and you never know.......we might end up as friends+

just my vent

 

[wildrose70]

What I hated was the ones that talked the talk...but cldnt walk the walk!!!! lol
But hey I have one now that not only can talk the talk...he can walk the walk and how
just takes time girls....but he was well worth waiting for and weeding out the so called *hot lovers*...

 

[RomanHans]

i don't try to put on 'airs' i am who i am and what i say about myself is a repeat of what others have said about me. if you aske me point blank what i am like.....i would say an average farm girl and nothing more. but what i am sick of is the guys who let you think they really care about you and find you interesting. the ones who change their story to match yours....and btw guys....the ladies do talk so we know you are not being honest....

why does anyone have to lie about themselves.....what is it going to gain???....in my little opinion NOTHING, the truth will always come out. yes i am made, more at myself then anyone person, for being suckered in but on-line trolls. guys who look for the easy bait and take us for a ride then wonder why we get upset.....hey you know what, i told you the truth....why can't you respect me enough to do the same.

if all you want is sex, then say that!!! it isnot like i have not heard it before.....and you never know.......we might end up as friends+

just my vent

As a guy, I think that's a message a lot of my others on my side of the gender fence should read!

Seems like a lot of guys spin their wheels on-line trying to get the right 'line' to 'catch' a woman...kinda like this is one big singles bar...when a lot of the women indicate that they'd rather just be asked, 'Hey, here I am, let me know if you want to fuck.'

Pardon the language!

Roman

 

[mayi]

As a guy, I think that's a message a lot of my others on my side of the gender fence should read!

Seems like a lot of guys spin their wheels on-line trying to get the right 'line' to 'catch' a woman...kinda like this is one big singles bar...when a lot of the women indicate that they'd rather just be asked, 'Hey, here I am, let me know if you want to fuck.'

Pardon the language!

Roman

no offense taken

at least i know where you stand

 

[Hazguy]

I try to be pretty much myself online as I am in real life ... I visited some online friends both this past year, and the year before that I know in Canada .... one of their observations of me was that I was "pretty much the same as I am online"

I also try not to heighten someones expectations by promising stuff I can't deliver ..... that only causes bad feelings.

 

[gottaBme]

Mayi-----
Agree with alot that you said. I am an honest person and if someone wants to know something I pretty much have no problem.Sometimes too honest perhaps..LOL But once I get to know someone over a period of almost 2 years of talking about everything under the sun......I did expect a different outcome. I am fine now, but am really enjoying everyone elses 2 cents....

Wildrose70----Baby I am so happy you found your special someone.

Romanhans----So true, I'd rather be insulted by the truth than disillusioned with bullshit

Native--Girl me thinks you know me too well

Haz----Wonderful to hear.

 

[claybeherenow]

Ok, I know not all men are selfish pigs, but I just had an encounter with one. Why would a man spend a year and a half online of pm's,im's,pics,sexual innuendo and outright promises of the "best you'll ever have", to finally meet and after, oh, lasting 5 minutes into the fantastic head he was getting,which is fine, (most don't but can go again in a few right?)make a feeble attempt at best licking a clean,hygienically pleasant,beautifully shaven pussy(so no yukky hairs) for oh about 3 minutes and its like, that's it ,he has to get going.He actually thought I got off, I let him know I didn't in a nice way and can realize why he doesn't get many dates perhaps? Talk about a disappointment. LOL Now I am just more pissed than frustrated and needed to vent! Thanks Lit for providing that outlet

Any others have similar experiences/letdowns?Let me know so I can commiserate........

i'm sorry gotta...i'll have to try harder next time. i didn't know that i was that bad.
anyways..sorry to hear about that...i've been shortchanged a few times myself

 

[Jeffrey1981]

Hi your thread caught my attention and well I just wanna say that there are guys that love to give oral it's just a matter of finding them or if you want a guy to do it right for YOU then well.....why not find one that's never done it before and teach them to please you....maybe that would help...don't get me wrong I'm not defending the male population that can't give oral but on the same not I'm not supporting either I've never done it before so I can't say but what I do know is that I was on the reciveing end a few times and I feel that a man should "give as well as he gets" ok I'll just shut up now....Do what you will with you life, but remember....


"fix a starving man a meal and you feed him for a day, teach him to fish and you feed him for life"

 

[gottaBme]

Clay darlin' Thank-you I myself am saving my change for the turnpike lol

Jeffrey---Baby, it wasn't even the "oral" thing at all. My ex is making his new lady very happy at the moment and I doubt if it was because "I" taught him,which I did, but "taught" him how I liked to be touched,kissed,licked,fondled,etc. And we all know everyone is different. This was a man who had led up to this moment for a very long time, an older, supposedly "more" experienced man. And I've found it isn't true that the older the better LOL I really thought it would have turned out different because we had talked in great lenghts about everything imaginable sexually and otherwise so I thought he knew every aspect of what I wanted/needed.But oh well,there comes tommorow

 

[MsAngel]

My two cents...

I can honestly say, I have yet to find any man to satisfy me. But then I can also list how many times I have had sex too. I tell the men I have been with that I'm not that experienced. I am open and honest about sex. But every man I have ever been with always got off before me. Then that was it!!!!! I kinda like that song by Bon Jovi "Bad Medicine" there is one part where you hear a woman moaning good then stop and say "You mean that's it?" But I am know I am half the blame here. I have had a lot of hang up's on sex so it is something I need to work through. But I tell these men and they all know this. Most of them I have known as friends for at least 4 years. Leading me to believe that I will feel good and never following through. But this is ok... I can wait for the right man to finally be my soul mate and lover. I know he is out there somewhere!! And who knows, I may have already met him and just not know it.

I sure hope I am making sense here... getting past my bedtime!

Just wanted to say I share in this experience.

Ms Angel

 

[Native Alien]

i have to agree with the ladies here. i am open and honest about sex, and i will teach a man how i like things.

i usually tell them if that is what i am looking for. but then i get the ones that will talk a good game, and back off at the last minute.

those are the ones that really burn my butt so to speak. have i found many of them? yes, and if sex is all they are looking for then i just wish that they would be open and honest enough to say so. like Mayi, i am who i am, and i don't lie about it.

if all they want is cybersex, then i wish that they would say that to because i get nothing out of that, and i could save us both alot of time, effort, and energy.

 

[mfs686]

I had something to say but I forgot what it was......

 

[RomanHans]

Re: My two cents...

I can honestly say, I have yet to find any man to satisfy me. But then I can also list how many times I have had sex too. I tell the men I have been with that I'm not that experienced. I am open and honest about sex. But every man I have ever been with always got off before me. Then that was it!!!!! I kinda like that song by Bon Jovi "Bad Medicine" there is one part where you hear a woman moaning good then stop and say "You mean that's it?" But I am know I am half the blame here. I have had a lot of hang up's on sex so it is something I need to work through. But I tell these men and they all know this. Most of them I have known as friends for at least 4 years. Leading me to believe that I will feel good and never following through. But this is ok... I can wait for the right man to finally be my soul mate and lover. I know he is out there somewhere!! And who knows, I may have already met him and just not know it.

I sure hope I am making sense here... getting past my bedtime!

Just wanted to say I share in this experience.

Ms Angel

Ms Angel, that's both a tragic and wise post--I sincerely hope that you find someone who can truly satisfy you...

Roman

 

[RomanHans]

Howdy, mfs...

I had something to say but I forgot what it was......

Well, let me tell you, I'm mighty disappointed by that!

Roman

 

[Native Alien]

and the really unfortunate thing is that it is a story heard way to often among people.

 

[RomanHans]

and the really unfortunate thing is that it is a story heard way to often among people.

Hiya Native Alien...were you referring to the not being satisfied post? or the forgetting what you were going to say post?

Roman

 

[Native Alien]

heya Roman,

for me personally both these days. seems i forget what i want to say if i don't put it down in words when i think it. lol.

the whole satisified issue.

 

[gentlelady]

Hi Gotta,

Girl I understand what you mean.

I was contacted by someone and he promised the stars and the moon. Fortunatley for me, a mutual friend of ours, told me a little about the man. I found the questions to ask him and I did. I backed him into a corner and kind of let him have it, because the whole time we had been talking, and I have to admit it wasn't all that long, he kept hearing me refer to the fact that I like to receive oral pleasure but never once did he bother to tell me that he would not do that until I had gotten him in the corner and he had to answer. That ended that, because I told him I would not give him oral if he would not give me oral.

Thank goodness for friends that can help.

I guess you have to kiss those frogs before you find the prince or princess

Gentle

 

[Native Alien]

i don't know about anyone else...but could we have a few less frogs to kiss is all i am asking?

i don't mind a few, but i think that i am getting mine and someone else's too.