Depression. It's a silent killer.

[Wetkitty09]

Keep going. There’s no way to fix it if you’re not here.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Wonderer67]

Here are some nice flower pics from today for anyone who might need them. I know I did!

Fleabane

https://imgur.com/a/jrTFfZ2

Peonies

https://imgur.com/a/InFrp4q

 

[Wetkitty09]

I love the pictures. Thank you for sharing the bright beauty.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. I hope you’re holiday weekend is going smoothly.
I’m having some issues with my libido. It’s raging right now and while some might welcome that, I can’t help but think it’s the beginning of an unhealthy up cycle. I find I can’t shut it down. I’m either operating with the throttle wide open or the battery is dead. Ugh.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Wonderer67]

Morning. I hope you’re holiday weekend is going smoothly.
I’m having some issues with my libido. It’s raging right now and while some might welcome that, I can’t help but think it’s the beginning of an unhealthy up cycle. I find I can’t shut it down. I’m either operating with the throttle wide open or the battery is dead. Ugh.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

It could be a sign —- approach it carefully. Be careful.

 

[Wetkitty09]

It could be a sign —- approach it carefully. Be careful.

That’s what I plan to do. Thanks.

 

[Wonderer67]

I’m in a helluva funk. It’s very unlike me, as I like to be busy and have a long to do list. All I’ve wanted to do the last few days is nothing.

Maybe I deserve a rest and it’s ok to feel this way. My day job is super crazy and we own a farm.

My back is killing me lately since I planted pumpkins a few weeks ago.

Memorial Day for the last 10-12 years also seems to be a trigger, so that could be it too.

I didn’t know anyone who was killed. Maybe it’s guilt. I don’t know.

Keep on moving forward everyone.

 

[Wetkitty09]

I’m in a helluva funk. It’s very unlike me, as I like to be busy and have a long to do list. All I’ve wanted to do the last few days is nothing.

Maybe I deserve a rest and it’s ok to feel this way. My day job is super crazy and we own a farm.

My back is killing me lately since I planted pumpkins a few weeks ago.

Memorial Day for the last 10-12 years also seems to be a trigger, so that could be it too.

I didn’t know anyone who was killed. Maybe it’s guilt. I don’t know.

Keep on moving forward everyone.

We always deserve to rest. Listen to your body.

 

[Wonderer67]

Flower pics help. Here’s a few from yesterday and today. Hope others enjoy too.

My wife and I had no idea what these were or how they got here. We called them explosion, plants or fireworks plants. Thanks to Google images. We’ve identified them as Sicilian or Turkish Honey Garlic.

https://imgur.com/a/dZqG6Q3

https://imgur.com/a/nI7ZpTP

Bearded Iris (not a euphemism! )

https://imgur.com/a/fJ2bPVF

Stella Doro Lilly

https://imgur.com/a/gHNE2eI

 

[Wonderer67]

Wine colored Iris (not technical name)

https://imgur.com/a/hoyQ3Hd

Peonie with strong backlighting

https://imgur.com/a/rCoNEH7

Open peonie!

https://imgur.com/a/jB8oft0

I have no idea what this is but it’s on a big bush in our backyard.

https://imgur.com/a/3Qfqic0

 

[Wetkitty09]

Wine colored Iris (not technical name)

https://imgur.com/a/hoyQ3Hd

Peonie with strong backlighting

https://imgur.com/a/rCoNEH7

Open peonie!

https://imgur.com/a/jB8oft0

I have no idea what this is but it’s on a big bush in our backyard.

https://imgur.com/a/3Qfqic0

Iris are my favorite flowers.

 

[Wonderer67]

Iris are my favorite flowers.

Well, then here’s a few more for ya from years prior.

https://imgur.com/a/i3ScFmO

https://imgur.com/a/PGpVf0V

 

[Wetkitty09]

Well, then here’s a few more for ya from years prior.

https://imgur.com/a/i3ScFmO

https://imgur.com/a/PGpVf0V

Thank you. They’re beautiful.

 

[blksoldier]

I agree beautiful pictures....

 

[blksoldier]

I went through a major depressive episode about 10 years ago. I didn't understand that that was what was really going on; I was sad and upset a lot about one particular disappointment in my life, but mostly I just stopped interacting with a lot of people and turned inward and apathetic about things I normally cared deeply about. My husband, thankfully, recognized what was going on and basically forced me to see a therapist. I'm very grateful for that, and also very fortunate for good health insurance that covered regular visits for a few years. For me, medications were not that effective but talking with someone I respected but had some distance from me was very helpful. She gave me tools that I still use to recognize and act when I start going down a dark path (and others to help prevent me from going there initially).

It's such a good thing to read when a couple try to work things out together. i salute your husband.

 

[blksoldier]

I’m in a helluva funk. It’s very unlike me, as I like to be busy and have a long to do list. All I’ve wanted to do the last few days is nothing.

Maybe I deserve a rest and it’s ok to feel this way. My day job is super crazy and we own a farm.

My back is killing me lately since I planted pumpkins a few weeks ago.

Memorial Day for the last 10-12 years also seems to be a trigger, so that could be it too.
I didn’t know anyone who was killed. Maybe it’s guilt. I don’t know.

Keep on moving forward everyone.

you always have a friend when you need one.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. I hope the holiday weekend is going smoothly for you, if not it’s ok to do what you need to get through. This year there’s no big family gatherings to avoid. Thankfully.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[muycurioso]

Starting a trial period, which isn't specifically for the antidepressant properties. It's also a last resort.

This isn't something I actually want to end up using or needing, but it's one of the few solutions left to try.

I have fears about all of the possible side effects, and the feedback here on these classes of drugs has been anything but stellar.

Sadly, I'm super sensitive to a lot of things, so will probably have weight side effects compared to symptoms they're supposed to help. Either way, not starting for a few weeks it at all.

what do you mean by last resort

 

[Wetkitty09]

The turn I’m taking has thrown me for a loop. I don’t know where I belong or what I have to do. I’m twisting in the wind. Trying to figure out what is mine to deal with and what is someone else’s. It’s hard when it all used to be yours.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[jsmiam]

Not all antidepressants have sexual side effects. Or other side effects.

Some antidepressants work terribly on one set of people and wonderfully on others. Some anti depressants have no side effects on some people, and that same one has bad side effects on others.

So with the help of a doctor, try different ones! What’s right for you could be completely the opposite of what’s right sort someone else. Everybody owes it to themselves to keep trying until knock on wood, the right one comes along.

Here’s another brilliant secret most people don’t know: When trying a new one, start by breaking the pill into four. Take just a quarter of it for a few days. Then half. Then three quarter. Then the full pill or dosage. This secret often takes the shock of side effects entirely out of the equation.

There’s very likely a medicine out there for each person. And no, this doesn’t mean anybody expects magic from an antidepressant. Life will still have ups and downs and bumps and bruises. But maybe just maybe that persistence helps you find the medicine that helps you stay in charge of those downs and bruises.

 

[jsmiam]

The turn I’m taking has thrown me for a loop. I don’t know where I belong or what I have to do. I’m twisting in the wind. Trying to figure out what is mine to deal with and what is someone else’s. It’s hard when it all used to be yours.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

You’re a fighter. Wishing you well. Hang in there. I wish there was a magic wand (not THAT magic wand! Well, maybe for a little bit…) out there for you.

Perhaps for a moment bask in knowing that you’re helping others with your efforts here. Remember to treat and take care of yourself too!

 

[Dreamboy994]

I would like to chat about a big problem that not too many people discuss. Sorry to be a downer. But there are too many people out there who are dying because they are depressed. I suffer from depression (not sure why) but I wouldn't think of killing myself. I've always been told that is a perminant solution to a temporary problem. I think it would do a good service to discuss what has worked for you to overcome your depression or what has helped someone you know.

When dealing with depression, one of the main challenges is that it's an internal struggle that others may find difficult to comprehend as it's not visible on the outside. However, having supportive and understanding friends by our side can bring moments of joy. Even if others can't fully relate to our experience, their presence can provide a sense of comfort and companionship, helping to alleviate some of the loneliness that comes with depression.

 

[Wetkitty09]

When dealing with depression, one of the main challenges is that it's an internal struggle that others may find difficult to comprehend as it's not visible on the outside. However, having supportive and understanding friends by our side can bring moments of joy. Even if others can't fully relate to our experience, their presence can provide a sense of comfort and companionship, helping to alleviate some of the loneliness that comes with depression.

I’m fortunate to have this. Having a friend tell you that you need to eat because you’re having a mental break is gold. It happened to me yesterday. Just knowing someone is aware of your needs makes the difference.

 

[Dreamboy994]

I’m fortunate to have this. Having a friend tell you that you need to eat because you’re having a mental break is gold. It happened to me yesterday. Just knowing someone is aware of your needs makes the difference.

It speaks volumes about their empathy and attentiveness. Just knowing that someone understands and is aware of our needs makes a world of difference.

 

[cutcrystal899]

I’m fortunate to have this. Having a friend tell you that you need to eat because you’re having a mental break is gold. It happened to me yesterday. Just knowing someone is aware of your needs makes the difference.

I have those "cannot be bothered to eat because what's the point" days. And friends have likewise been there for me and insisted I eat. Definitely gold.