Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[desertbunny]

I'm with @FrenchLopBunny and @captivatedbycurves on this. I'd bluntly explain there's no "easing into anything", I literally physically cannot do it, that they have no clue about boundaries and safety, and curtly bid them farewell. End of conversation. But that's just me. This is a serious red flag in my eyes as well.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It's good to see we are all in agreement here!

There's a tiny bit of room to wonder if it was a miscommunication, but my problem with that is he could have asked more questions about it. Then, again, she should also clarify things after his response.

Communication is important, but good communication takes practice. It's something I have to focus on, because of my past and having to keep thoughts to myself.

But, if I didn't feel comfortable clearing this up with someone, we definitely are NOT compatible.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Also, welcome to all the new/newer posters in here!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I know I'm new to the thread, but I would agree with French on this. That sounds like a serious issue. Even if the person asking was afraid or shy, that shouldn't matter. Boundaries need to be respected.

New or not, your voice matters here. Never be bashful about speaking up (even if you have to disagree with me! )

 

[captivatedbycurves]

New or not, your voice matters here. Never be bashful about speaking up (even if you have to disagree with me! )

Thank you for the welcome!

 

[Strixaluco]

But, if I didn't feel comfortable clearing this up with someone, we definitely are NOT compatible.

This is critical rather often.

If I feel I have to defend myself, I won't be able to trust enough for it to work. Instead, you get to see what some describe my "brat" side. Except it's just me defending my boundaries, not true bratting.

 

[cascadiabound]

Question: Someone asked, "How do I handle a situation where I'm talking to a guy about meeting up and I've told him I physically cannot do some of the things he's interested in, and he replies that he will ease me into it. I'm not afraid or shy, but physically unable - seriously."

I know what I want to tell her, but I want to hear from you. How would YOU handle this?

I think that he may be confusing fantasy with reality. And he may be making the mistake of not believing her words, literally.
In any case, her saying "I can't" is the definition of a boundary. If he's not able to respect that, he's not a safe person to trust.
My take: red flag, walk away.

 

[CuriousRick]

Question: Someone asked, "How do I handle a situation where I'm talking to a guy about meeting up and I've told him I physically cannot do some of the things he's interested in, and he replies that he will ease me into it. I'm not afraid or shy, but physically unable - seriously."

I know what I want to tell her, but I want to hear from you. How would YOU handle this?

Limits and boundaries should be respected!! Red Flag for me too.

 

[CuriousRick]

Thank you for the welcome!

Welcome to the thread Check out the cookie menu, if we are missing anything just let me know.

 

[jaybird1967]

Welcome to the thread Check out the cookie menu, if we are missing anything just let me know.

Speaking of cookies, we ordered take out from Panera yesterday, and they gave my stepdaughter a cookie she didn't want, so she gave it to me. They call it "The Kitchen Sink Cookie", and their description is "A salty, chocolaty, caramel confection big enough to share. A large cookie with semi-sweet chocolate, milk chocolate, caramel pieces, pretzels and then topped with flake salt."

OMG

 

[CuriousRick]

Speaking of cookies, we ordered take out from Panera yesterday, and they gave my stepdaughter a cookie she didn't want, so she gave it to me. They call it "The Kitchen Sink Cookie", and their description is "A salty, chocolaty, caramel confection big enough to share. A large cookie with semi-sweet chocolate, milk chocolate, caramel pieces, pretzels and then topped with flake salt."

OMG

That sounds amazing!!

 

[desertbunny]

Speaking of cookies, we ordered take out from Panera yesterday, and they gave my stepdaughter a cookie she didn't want, so she gave it to me. They call it "The Kitchen Sink Cookie", and their description is "A salty, chocolaty, caramel confection big enough to share. A large cookie with semi-sweet chocolate, milk chocolate, caramel pieces, pretzels and then topped with flake salt."

OMG

There's a grocery store in my and other areas called Aldi, some might know of it. They also sell these cookies and they are amazing. I'm trying to cut back on my sweets, but these are so hard to resist!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

There's a grocery store in my and other areas called Aldi, some might know of it. They also sell these cookies and they are amazing. I'm trying to cut back on my sweets, but these are so hard to resist!

This is exactly why I am not allowed to go grocery shopping. I would buy a dozen and hide them!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

How does this apply to DDlg? It goes to the heart of vetting any Dom OR Sub. Be aware. At one time I was not, and I nearly paid the ultimate price.
I love this group, and whether or not you realize it, you are part of my continuing recovery.

 

[Strixaluco]

It goes to the heart of vetting any Dom OR Sub. Be aware.

...or any other kind of partner for that matter. Unfortunately we aren't taught that kind of vetting from a young age. We should.

 

[cascadiabound]

http://24.media.tumblr.com/4316d75b3e140a110476e814e6a8df97/tumblr_n0p57a4I2G1qgxcbwo1_500.jpg

 

[base10]

http://24.media.tumblr.com/4316d75b3e140a110476e814e6a8df97/tumblr_n0p57a4I2G1qgxcbwo1_500.jpg

That’s so sweet. Put away your bad dreams, but I’ve got some naughty ones for you

 

[jaybird1967]

http://24.media.tumblr.com/4316d75b3e140a110476e814e6a8df97/tumblr_n0p57a4I2G1qgxcbwo1_500.jpg

Wow. That one hits my Daddy feels very hard for some reason.

 

[barefootgirl69]

That’s so sweet. Put away your bad dreams, but I’ve got some naughty ones for you

Does comforting someone always have to involve sex? Can't they just comfort someone and be there for them?

 

[jaybird1967]

Does comforting someone always have to involve sex? Can't they just comfort someone and be there for them?

Heck, it feels exploitative to go straight from comforting to sex, under many circumstances.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Heck, it feels exploitative to go straight from comforting to sex, under many circumstances.

I agree.

 

[base10]

Does comforting someone always have to involve sex? Can't they just comfort someone and be there for them?

Of course they can. I was just trying to have some fun with it

 

[JerseyJade]

Does comforting someone always have to involve sex?

It doesn't hurt.

 

[cascadiabound]

Of course they can. I was just trying to have some fun with it

I took your comment as being at least in part tongue in cheek.
In the end I want my bad dreams replaced with some fun naughty ones.
But... I also don't want the genuine comfort I need to be turned into a manipulation for sex. Daddy's know the difference.

 

[Strixaluco]

It takes quite a bit for me to move from needing comfort to even being able to have sex.

There are also times when it needs more than one night. Like today.