Cucking and Watching

[Mark Vadar]

Good analysis. I do think it is complex; And I think for everyone who is turned on by this, it is a different mix of voyeurism, erotic humiliation, and submission. And really it is different for everyone.

Yes Pax, many factors here like those you mentioned. It's a journey to unpack them. A younger me or my mind in a different headspace and my reaction would be different. A different dude, time or circumstances and maybe I'd have thumped him and dragged her away. A different g/f and perhaps I'd be indifferent and write her off as a slag. I think my initial reaction was primal, driven by male pride and ego. Revenge was demanded. I schemed to fuck a female rival of my g/f right in front of her while she was tied to a chair. There was at least one who would be only too willing. The prospect greatly excited me and calmed my bruised male pride, retribution was at hand. In time the revenge factor dissipated and I was left with intoxicating pleasurable thoughts about the sheer kink of it all. It was all about her. The kink train rolled and hasn't stopped since. It's just I have no idea where it is taking me or where to position myself. There doesn't appear to be a conductor I can ask.

 

[Joshua65]

It is something that I've thought about. I want to see my GF with another man. The cuck angle could be part of that. I would want to fluff him and get him ready for her.

 

[MissMayhem69]

I saw an ex get spectacularly fucked in front of me and I was far from pleased at the time. There was some follow up, things moved on and we restablished a relationship. Thoughts of her being fucked stupid amuse my cock. It's all about her, my alpha princess being reduced to a helpless slut. I'm not sure if this is rooted in voyeurism, or cukolding. There is a lot of moving parts here. Complex situation.

Alpha Princess... I'm stealing it.

 

[Subsy]

Desire lurks….I like experienced dominant male or couple….to work toward a pique of lust….I like to be directed…..some physical pain….some degrading taunts and observations….spread to a cross….she penetrates my ass cunt while he takes pics and vids….

 

[drobert44]

Alpha Princess... I'm stealing it.

Complex? I am in!

 

[nutoseen]

I want more experiences with cucking. It's one of my favorite brain spaces to get into with a man.

There are a few different varieties. The humiliating kind, the heartbreaking kind, the forced kind. Then the fun kind, the teasing kind, and the involved.

I have men who enjoy the fantasy but when it comes down to actually doing it... they chicken out.

Men, is this just left as a fantasy for you or do you actually want to see her fucked and pleased?

wasn't really cucked but dang close yesterday.

was with a woman that stripped us down. used her clit vibe on herself and came while she held my small cock in her hand. she then suctioned her big dong to the floor and sat on top of it using one of those bouncy sex stools. she came as she took it slowly in. then had me sit in front of her and as she bounced on that big cock she told me to stroke my little dick. so hot! i did.
... as i stroked she said do you like jacking off as i take this big dick in me? and talked about how stretched she was...
after she came again, she had me stand and jerk more and i exploded watching her and hearing her; i swear she grunted and moaned loudly as she took more of that dong deeper in her pussy as my cum hit her body.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I love the fantasy of being cuckolded, but not in a relationship at all.

I love the ideas of being cuckolded, tied up, made to watch my pretend girlfriend or wife get fucked by a bigger and better cock than mine, have her arsehole and pussy creampied in front of me, maybe even gangbanged by huge cocks and filled up with sticky cum, being in chastity, pussy free, not allowed to cum on or in her, not allowed release unless I'm good, humiliated and degraded, teased all the time, with blue balls, maybe get fucked by her bulls as a sissy cuck, made to service her and her bulls, lick her whole body covered in cum, especially her pussy, feet and arsehole, made to lick her bulls' arseholes, watch her get impregnated and have to raise all her babies with her bulls, worship her whole body and her bulls while they have sex, domestic service, cum cleanup no matter where they do it, maybe some controlled milking and release in my clitty cage if I've served them well, in a cup or on her feet and arse which I'll have to lick off, etc.

It's safer when you're not attached.

 

[MerWilh]

I am a black owned white wife....i love to cuckold my husband

My husband loves to get humiliated by my young hung black bulls - it turns me on to suck BBC with him

Your lifestyle sounds amazing. I wish my wife and I could try someting like that. She is open to the idea of trying BBC, but since we live in a very conservative Eastern European country that chances of that is slim.

 

[SPARTAN047]

https://www.sex.com/pin/64231049-your-black-step-dad-finally-came-downstairs-after-hours-you/

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've noticed that black guys are around here all right but not that easy, so any big black cock fantasies I might have are tricky to carry out.

Big white cock is possible but not that easy either, oddly enough. Nor are Asian sluts.

 

[magic_rat]

I've noticed that black guys are around here all right but not that easy, so any big black cock fantasies I might have are tricky to carry out.

Even trickier when you remember that the 'BBC' thing is largely myth, plenty of black guys have average cocks, plenty of white guys have big ones. It's an ideal promoted by fantasy and the porn industry.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Even trickier when you remember that the 'BBC' thing is largely myth, plenty of black guys have average cocks, plenty of white guys have big ones. It's an ideal promoted by fantasy and the porn industry.

Absolutely true, the stereotype of black guys being more aggressive holds a little more weight though.

 

[PaxNurgle]

Okay for starters, I never bought into that whole "BBC" thing; in fact I see it as a sort of negative racial stereotyping. I realize not everyone sees it that way though and I don't want to derail things by going down that rabbit hole.

What I did come to say was, I think a hotwife/cuckold relationship CAN work in the long term if a few things are laid out. First, that the wife can compartmentalize both relationships in a strict way: The husband is her companion, best friend, partner, and emotional support. The one who she can cuddle with on the couch and watch cheezy romantic movies with.

While the "Bull" is strictly for sexual satisfaction- and nothing more. And it takes very specific understanding by all three parties that these are the roles, and these are the boundaries. Perhaps, to enforce these roles, the wife would pick men who she might otherwise not have much to do with romantically. Find some good looking albeit unemployed alcoholic biker types for the bull, and keep a caring, kind, sensitive and financially independant man for her romantic partner.

 

[switchersm]

Our cuckolding started by randomly. Randomly, because we found the right person without actually looking. But we had discussed long beforehand, exactly what our cuckolding would look like, if it ever came to that. In particular, this means that the man I would fuck with must not be a so-called bull, but must be very likeable to both of us, on an equal level with me, without dominance over my husband, but rather respect for him, as well as my husband for him would respect. He should be around our age, a maximum of 10 years younger, regardless of skin color.
My husband Tom is always there when I fuck with my lover Robert. Tom and I kiss or he holds me or kneads my tits. There are also humiliating elements. But they come exclusively from me to Tom and are discussed between him and me. He needs this, it excites him extremely and Ido it because I love him, to make him happy. For example there is licking my pussy, that is covered in cum from Robert, hearing from me that his cock is absolutely useless for fucking, and at my request, licking Robert's cock clean or even getting spurted on his face and mouth by Robert.
Tom is also locked, permanently. At Tom's request, I started locking his cock in cock cages and keeping him chaste 6 years before our cuckolding. This is something just between Tom and me. Robert has nothing to do with it, even that husband's are locked in cock cages is often practiced in cuckold relationships.
Overall, our cuckolding is a very intense three-way relationship that has extended beyond the edge of the bed over the course of 9 years.
Each of us benefits. I get numerous orgasms while fucking, something Tom couldn't give me with his cock. Tom lives out his submissive sexual needs and desires and Robert can fuck me hard and balls deep. I'm only the second woman in his life that can take his enormous cock that way.
Tom could have just as easily written this. He texted along.

 

[MerWilh]

Our cuckolding started by randomly. Randomly, because we found the right person without actually looking. But we had discussed long beforehand, exactly what our cuckolding would look like, if it ever came to that. In particular, this means that the man I would fuck with must not be a so-called bull, but must be very likeable to both of us, on an equal level with me, without dominance over my husband, but rather respect for him, as well as my husband for him would respect. He should be around our age, a maximum of 10 years younger, regardless of skin color.
My husband Tom is always there when I fuck with my lover Robert. Tom and I kiss or he holds me or kneads my tits. There are also humiliating elements. But they come exclusively from me to Tom and are discussed between him and me. He needs this, it excites him extremely and Ido it because I love him, to make him happy. For example there is licking my pussy, that is covered in cum from Robert, hearing from me that his cock is absolutely useless for fucking, and at my request, licking Robert's cock clean or even getting spurted on his face and mouth by Robert.
Tom is also locked, permanently. At Tom's request, I started locking his cock in cock cages and keeping him chaste 6 years before our cuckolding. This is something just between Tom and me. Robert has nothing to do with it, even that husband's are locked in cock cages is often practiced in cuckold relationships.
Overall, our cuckolding is a very intense three-way relationship that has extended beyond the edge of the bed over the course of 9 years.
Each of us benefits. I get numerous orgasms while fucking, something Tom couldn't give me with his cock. Tom lives out his submissive sexual needs and desires and Robert can fuck me hard and balls deep. I'm only the second woman in his life that can take his enormous cock that way.
Tom could have just as easily written this. He texted along.

That is a wonderful way to go about it. Everyone treated with respect, so all enjoy. Well done!

 

[emme8]

I think there's a bit of a shameful taboo also.

I am aware of my own preconceptions that I acknowledge and strive to overcome. I see a black woman with a white man I think neutral or highly of her. I see a white woman with a black man it sometimes crosses my mind that she is a slut that just wants his cock.
I know this isn't the case, please don't dog me on it. I know men are more than just their cocks.

In my situation, picked a "bull" that was unlike my husband. I didn't want to risk developing feelings for him. I very much care for him, more than I thought I would. But hubby will always stay infinitely above anyone else.

 

[PaxNurgle]

^This demonstrates exactly why I have problems with the "BBC" stereotype. I won't dog you on it; rather I will reiterate that I don't really care for that whole fetishization of "BBC's." Not saying it's racist- it's not quite that simple- but... it is nonetheless a stereotype that certainly doesn't help those who are already inclined to that set of views.

I will add that one of the appeals of the cuck/bull scenario is that the cuck gets to live vicariously through the actions of the more well-endowed bull, and gets off picturing himself in his place. Meanwhile the wife, knowing her husband cannot satisfy her urges as well as her bull, can get off imaging that it is her cuckolded husband in the bull's place- or get off even more on seeing her husband dominated, humiliated and subservient.

 

[Thor9550]

Hello Anke,
I have just read your post to Cucking and Watchingon Wednesday at 12.49am.
I found it very kind and loving.
You and Tom have such a loving relationship.
You two are an inspiration.
I have so much empathy with Tom.
He and I are so lucky to be with a woman who completely understands our submissive sexual needs and desires. It can b overwhelming, but it is so comforting to be with a woman who takes control.
Thank you Anke

 

[MakenUhappy]

This has been a fantasy of mine for sometime as well. I am not into humiliation, but more of the wife sharing aspect of it. There are levels to this.

I knew a couple that wanted to get their feet wet and try it, but we’re afraid to take the leap. I ended up having phone sex with his wife on speakerphone while he laid next to her. After she rubbed herself and came, she told him to go down on her, which he did while I was listening on the phone. It was their way of playing it out without actually doing it.

Other times I have been the guy that came over and was with the wife while the husband watched. I never knew what the dynamic was, but would take her lead. It was always about her anyway. The extra guy can be the prop, or he can be in charge. But you never know the dynamic until you get to know them

I am single, and I would love to find a girl someday that I could share with other men. I’ve had past relationships where we have switched with other couples. And watching was always a turn on for me. It was more of a turn on than me being with the other guys wife.

 

[PussLikr71]

I was invited by a couple to share his wife once. They were swingers and often had parties but being married with kids I couldn't always get out. Please know that my wife does know, we hide nothing from each other. She's just not into the lifestyle like I am. So I was out riding my motorcycle one day and ended up being close by to where they lived so I gave him a call and asked if it were ok for me to stop by for a quick meet and greet. It was a Sunday morning and they weren't busy, so it worked out great. Before leaving he watched me fuck her while bent over a sofa in their living room. I shot my load deep inside of her pussy then she made him eat her out. It was my first experience with a couple cucking.

 

[Simkixxx]

It is still a fantasy of mine but I wish it was more than a fantasy; and if I had the opportunity to make it so, I would.

I would love to see my s.o. to be fucked and pleased; it is part of the power exchange to know that she can get her orgasms however she wants, whenever she wants, and with whoever she wants... but I can ONLY get my orgasms however she wants and whenever she wants. I am into the voyeuristic aspect of it, as well as the erotic humiliation aspect of it. Perhaps, it may also come, in part, from a deep seated insecurity of me not being able to satisfy her physically. But I would totally be okay with it being a reality in a relationship.

But as far as the varieties you list, I would be into all of them but the heartbreaking kind. I would want there to be a bond of romance, love and mutual understanding with my partner that if she does what (and who) she does, that it would not be done to "hurt" me, and that the emotional and romantic bond we share would still be there. If that makes sense. But if my mistress/GF got extreme enough to actually ask me to not only watch but to even go far enough as to participate as a "Fluffer" for Her and her lovers in person, that would be a hot way for Her (with a capital aitch) to push my limits, that I might even allow her to do...

I luv the heartbreak one. For my wife to fall in love with her bull but keep me out of pity

 

[PaxNurgle]

But I don't think that would work. She would fall in love with her "bull" but then, more than likely lose all interest in you- both romantically, physically, and even as a companion. And you cannot sustain a relationship on pity.

 

[Playwithmee]

I want more experiences with cucking. It's one of my favorite brain spaces to get into with a man.

There are a few different varieties. The humiliating kind, the heartbreaking kind, the forced kind. Then the fun kind, the teasing kind, and the involved.

I have men who enjoy the fantasy but when it comes down to actually doing it... they chicken out.

Men, is this just left as a fantasy for you or do you actually want to see her fucked and pleased?

I want her to be fucked and pleased! I want her to have anything that she desires, and then reclaim her. For me watching others want what at the end of the day is mine is where my pleasure comes for when watch her seduce others, men or women. And I enjoy her having that power, never let it die.

 

[SPARTAN047]

But I don't think that would work. She would fall in love with her "bull" but then, more than likely lose all interest in you- both romantically, physically, and even as a companion. And you cannot sustain a relationship on pity.

Yes, I fully agree. No relationship I know of ever works that way. If she or he falls in love with someone else they'll see their own spouse as a roadblock in their life and hate them.

I'm never going to deal with the fallout of such a relationship, because I won't encourage it IRL. I if they cheat it'll be on them, and they can handle the consequences. It won't be my problem.

If we're having casual sex and only act out cuckold and cuckquean fantasies, it doesn't matter if they fall in love, you can just stop seeing each other. It might even work better if their new lover has similar fantasies and you can fulfill theirs of being watched, cleaning up, someone else jacking or jilling off to their bodies, and you can leave them to it afterwards without interfering in their relationship.

 

[lowcollar]

I have had fantasies of being cucked by my wife. I would want to be humiliated and forced to take another's bigger cock in both my ass and mouth. I would also like to be forced to watch her suck him off etc. While I love the fantasy, I don't find men attractive in the least, so I might chicken out. However, a pretty trans would be much more likely for me to enjoy. I would love to have my wife calling me names while I ate the tranny cum that she farted out of her ass.