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[rlaflamme]

Haha, yeah I’m sure it’s mostly men. But, men or women, I feel embarrassed for those people. It’s sad and I’m sure that they are lonely in life.

I worked briefly at a restaurant once and quit because I hated the front of house manager so much. Everytime I would say anything she’d make it sexual. And she had a template she’d use. I worked in the kitchen as a cook but when I had downtime I’d be asked to do various other things. So just as an example, my boss might ask me to scrape some dishes and get them to the dish pit and she would shout from the back ground “He can scrape my dishes any day” hahahaha. She was so gross.

No one is that good or that attractive that they can just completely sidestep general human decency and respect. Maybe we need like a wall of shame or something for fly by nighters that are offensive out of the gates.

It is embarrassing, and odd that we find it that way because we are not the ones doing it. I get all flustered when my friend tells me of another rude or inappropriate message, possibly because I am the one that suggested the site to her.

There is no question woman can be just as bad, and when it comes down to it most of them know they had a decent chance of getting the reaction they want, because, let's face it, men are simple. It doesn't take a lot to grab our attention.

I have thought about the wall of shame for other things of listers here, and I think it would be interesting to see, just not so sure about the karma aspect. I guess I just hope that those type of people just get ignored or a message back putting them in their place enough that they leave.

 

[grandprix1041]

70 male, widower

Widowed Male in CT looking to chat with female, anytime and about anything.
Rob

 

[Thefutilityofbeing]

It is embarrassing, and odd that we find it that way because we are not the ones doing it. I get all flustered when my friend tells me of another rude or inappropriate message, possibly because I am the one that suggested the site to her.

There is no question woman can be just as bad, and when it comes down to it most of them know they had a decent chance of getting the reaction they want, because, let's face it, men are simple. It doesn't take a lot to grab our attention.

I have thought about the wall of shame for other things of listers here, and I think it would be interesting to see, just not so sure about the karma aspect. I guess I just hope that those type of people just get ignored or a message back putting them in their place enough that they leave.

Karma and politics I guess.

We feel embarrassed because that kind of behaviour casts a shadow over all of us. But your right, hopefully they just get ignored or shamed privately and disappear, haha.

 

[Froya]

The thing about the internet, particularly places like this, is that there is room for just about all kinds of people. The conversation one might think of as crude or too personal too soon is one that might suit another person just fine. It may take someone who's just looking for a quick cybershag some time before they find their match, but if they keep at it, they likely will. Which is likely why they keep at it.

I was just intending to pass through Lit, myself, after finding my way here on a search that had nothing to do with what Lit has to offer. Long story. Anyway, it was a conversation that kept me here. One I unintentionally started, because the message I sent was just meant to be a quick compliment on a piece of writing.

In my time here, I've had a wide range of conversation starters and non-starters find their way into my inbox. I don't let the 'bad' guys make it any more difficult for the 'good' guys when it comes to my inbox, just taking each person as they are, as they present themselves. Maybe it's because I've never been inundated with demands for my attention, the way some others have, that I have the luxury of my perspective about who finds their way into my inbox.

 

[Thefutilityofbeing]

The thing about the internet, particularly places like this, is that there is room for just about all kinds of people. The conversation one might think of as crude or too personal too soon is one that might suit another person just fine. It may take someone who's just looking for a quick cybershag some time before they find their match, but if they keep at it, they likely will. Which is likely why they keep at it.

I was just intending to pass through Lit, myself, after finding my way here on a search that had nothing to do with what Lit has to offer. Long story. Anyway, it was a conversation that kept me here. One I unintentionally started, because the message I sent was just meant to be a quick compliment on a piece of writing.

In my time here, I've had a wide range of conversation starters and non-starters find their way into my inbox. I don't let the 'bad' guys make it any more difficult for the 'good' guys when it comes to my inbox, just taking each person as they are, as they present themselves. Maybe it's because I've never been inundated with demands for my attention, the way some others have, that I have the luxury of my perspective about who finds their way into my inbox.

That’s a great perspective you have. Perhaps it’s just more of a fear on my part that makes me assume that females will be extra guarded and prevents me from starting a conversation or causes me to take what the day the wrong way. In my experience I hear a lot more about the shit heads than the good guys. No one is posting about a pleasant experience where they didn’t receive an unsolicited dick pic or they talked to a respectful and patient individual, hahaha.

 

[Froya]

That’s a great perspective you have. Perhaps it’s just more of a fear on my part that makes me assume that females will be extra guarded and prevents me from starting a conversation or causes me to take what the day the wrong way. In my experience I hear a lot more about the shit heads than the good guys. No one is posting about a pleasant experience where they didn’t receive an unsolicited dick pic or they talked to a respectful and patient individual, hahaha.

True, but that's typical. You'll almost always hear more about the bad stuff, because people are just more likely to complain, and maybe because, in my experience, the bad ones tend to come in bunches. Probably in response to a post or thread that gets particular attention.

The women who are more visible and draw more attention are going to have a much bigger pool of men flooding their inbox, which likely means they're dealing with a lot of messages they'd rather not have to see. I have to believe the good outweigh the bad, though, or there wouldn't be a reason to stay and keep posting.

 

[Thefutilityofbeing]

True, but that's typical. You'll almost always hear more about the bad stuff, because people are just more likely to complain, and maybe because, in my experience, the bad ones tend to come in bunches. Probably in response to a post or thread that gets particular attention.

The women who are more visible and draw more attention are going to have a much bigger pool of men flooding their inbox, which likely means they're dealing with a lot of messages they'd rather not have to see. I have to believe the good outweigh the bad, though, or there wouldn't be a reason to stay and keep posting.

Makes good sense!

 

[Midwest50Guy]

i wonder what it is like to have a flooded inbox and whether i would actually like it or not. lol

 

[Froya]

i wonder what it is like to have a flooded inbox and whether i would actually like it or not. lol

I imagine that would depend on what's in it.

 

[Froya]

Makes good sense!

Thank you. Welcome to the thread. I enjoyed the conversation you had with rlaflamme before I popped into it.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

I imagine that would depend on what's in it.

i am guessing it wont be nude photos of girls here lol

 

[rlaflamme]

Thank you. Welcome to the thread. I enjoyed the conversation you had with rlaflamme before I popped into it.

Welcome back! Thank you for your insight, it is nice to get perspective from both genders

 

[Thefutilityofbeing]

Thank you. Welcome to the thread. I enjoyed the conversation you had with rlaflamme before I popped into it.

Thank you! I’m glad you chimed in, you got me thinking about the whole thing in a different way.

 

[The_GloriousBitch]

Ever hope to just talk to someone? Just sit back, type some words, send the message and a little bit later a reply pops up on your screen? A basic conversation or erotic, didn't matter. Do you find yourself just tapping through the forums thinking, yeah, would be nice to share some thoughts with someone here?
Yup, me too. I am a MWM, who writes some and loves talking to people, so, if you are in the same boat as I am, lets talk.

Hi!!
Let's talk sir!

 

[jusgoodcleanfun]

Hi!!
Let's talk sir!

what shall we talk about?

 

[rlaflamme]

Hi!!
Let's talk sir!

I keep my PM box low on messages, feel free to say hello

I hope many people get ideas of how to converse or get a decent conversation started through this thread. I hope it has helped people connect and shown them perspectives thy have not thought of.

I am really happy with all the insight here, thank you all.

 

[bbwseeking63]

I keep my PM box low on messages, feel free to say hello

I hope many people get ideas of how to converse or get a decent conversation started through this thread. I hope it has helped people connect and shown them perspectives thy have not thought of.

I am really happy with all the insight here, thank you all.

I was just catching up on the post here, for the last few days. Kudos to all who have added to a great conversation. Mostly great people have been expressing their thoughts and feelings.

I am very happy, that I found this thread in the first place.

 

[Froya]

Welcome back! Thank you for your insight, it is nice to get perspective from both genders

Thanks. Everyone's going to have a different experience, and we all deal with things in our own way. Some people may be more or less trouble by negative experiences. I likely have fewer of them than many women who post regularly or have fewer defenses.

Thank you! I’m glad you chimed in, you got me thinking about the whole thing in a different way.

I chime occasionally.

That's a very nice thing for you to say, thank you.

 

[andycapp0566]

Agree

Hi agree with the post of the PM and the opportunities it brings when a new one shows up in your inbox. A chance to talk about whatever and see it you click and just take it for what it is worth. A new chat partner and possibly a friend somewhere else on this big world we all call home.

 

[Nicegirl111]

AGREED,,,, I have started some friendships and can honestly say if it wasn't welcomed ... we both stepped away....

 

[rlaflamme]

Hi agree with the post of the PM and the opportunities it brings when a new one shows up in your inbox. A chance to talk about whatever and see it you click and just take it for what it is worth. A new chat partner and possibly a friend somewhere else on this big world we all call home.

AGREED,,,, I have started some friendships and can honestly say if it wasn't welcomed ... we both stepped away....

Great friendships can be made here, and it is wonderful when it happens. It is all just a catch and release thing I think

 

[rlaflamme]

I have seen some disturbing things in other forums lately, of the amount of crude and rude messages increasing. Odd because it was something we recently discussed here. About how it should not be accepted and placing those people and messages in a forum for all to see would do little to stop it.

Maybe I am old fashioned I don't know. I just don't get it. I can understand wanting to talk about sex and things you would like to do with people here, but to start out a conversation with what you would do them seems odd to me. I mean, what the hell? Do they really not know the basics of meeting and talking?

Just a little rant.

 

[Thefutilityofbeing]

I have seen some disturbing things in other forums lately, of the amount of crude and rude messages increasing. Odd because it was something we recently discussed here. About how it should not be accepted and placing those people and messages in a forum for all to see would do little to stop it.

Maybe I am old fashioned I don't know. I just don't get it. I can understand wanting to talk about sex and things you would like to do with people here, but to start out a conversation with what you would do them seems odd to me. I mean, what the hell? Do they really not know the basics of meeting and talking?

Just a little rant.

That’s the way of things these days. I think it has to do with the fact that if you aren’t looking someone in the eye when you start a conversation then there is no emotional content. Online people are ghosts and they don’t have the same inhibitions and ultimately boundaries. It’s dusturbing to say the least.

 

[Vman55]

I have seen some disturbing things in other forums lately, of the amount of crude and rude messages increasing. Odd because it was something we recently discussed here. About how it should not be accepted and placing those people and messages in a forum for all to see would do little to stop it.

Maybe I am old fashioned I don't know. I just don't get it. I can understand wanting to talk about sex and things you would like to do with people here, but to start out a conversation with what you would do them seems odd to me. I mean, what the hell? Do they really not know the basics of meeting and talking?

Just a little rant.

Agree^^^

I've had some good conversations and some that went no where. Been on the forum a few months and have talked to a few. Just looking for good daily conversation just about anything.

 

[SophiaRose7]

Great friendships can be made here, and it is wonderful when it happens. It is all just a catch and release thing I think

Hi my friend! I haven't heard from you lately so I just wanted to say "hello" here. Hope you are doing well. Hugz!