I didn't have an avatar at all until about a week or so ago, so I don't think that can be the reason.
This is incredibly well written, and I agree with all of it. Well said.There are great things that can happen when finding a connection online. You can find real friends, people you look forward to hearing from as often as you can, you can learn about life from a completely different culture. You can learn about festivals and holidays you have never heard of. Your day can be brightened by a simple, "How are you?"
Think about a long term conversation, just a talk between you and another that you never plan to meet. You open up with things that you didn't think you would, sharing your world, your thoughts, your fantasies and your past. You worry about them when they are ill or sad, you think of them when you see something and it reminds you of something they said.
Most of the time you have no idea what they look or sound like, but the words continue to flow. You picture them in your head and hear their words as you read them. It can be a connection that is like any other and it is wonderful.
And it all starts with an attempt to communicate. You have no idea if they will respond at all, but you try. You just type some words on a screen and hope that they respond. That's it. Just a short hello or a long one, your choice, your words. t really is quite simple, to try. Of course most conversations will not last, but if there is no attempt then you will not have that long term conversation. So simple, yet so difficult..... But really, so simple to try
There are great things that can happen when finding a connection online. You can find real friends, people you look forward to hearing from as often as you can, you can learn about life from a completely different culture. You can learn about festivals and holidays you have never heard of. Your day can be brightened by a simple, "How are you?"
Think about a long term conversation, just a talk between you and another that you never plan to meet. You open up with things that you didn't think you would, sharing your world, your thoughts, your fantasies and your past. You worry about them when they are ill or sad, you think of them when you see something and it reminds you of something they said.
Most of the time you have no idea what they look or sound like, but the words continue to flow. You picture them in your head and hear their words as you read them. It can be a connection that is like any other and it is wonderful.
And it all starts with an attempt to communicate. You have no idea if they will respond at all, but you try. You just type some words on a screen and hope that they respond. That's it. Just a short hello or a long one, your choice, your words. t really is quite simple, to try. Of course most conversations will not last, but if there is no attempt then you will not have that long term conversation. So simple, yet so difficult..... But really, so simple to try
There are great things that can happen when finding a connection online. You can find real friends, people you look forward to hearing from as often as you can, you can learn about life from a completely different culture. You can learn about festivals and holidays you have never heard of. Your day can be brightened by a simple, "How are you?"
Think about a long term conversation, just a talk between you and another that you never plan to meet. You open up with things that you didn't think you would, sharing your world, your thoughts, your fantasies and your past. You worry about them when they are ill or sad, you think of them when you see something and it reminds you of something they said.
Most of the time you have no idea what they look or sound like, but the words continue to flow. You picture them in your head and hear their words as you read them. It can be a connection that is like any other and it is wonderful.
And it all starts with an attempt to communicate. You have no idea if they will respond at all, but you try. You just type some words on a screen and hope that they respond. That's it. Just a short hello or a long one, your choice, your words. t really is quite simple, to try. Of course most conversations will not last, but if there is no attempt then you will not have that long term conversation. So simple, yet so difficult..... But really, so simple to try
There are great things that can happen when finding a connection online. You can find real friends, people you look forward to hearing from as often as you can, you can learn about life from a completely different culture. You can learn about festivals and holidays you have never heard of. Your day can be brightened by a simple, "How are you?"
Think about a long term conversation, just a talk between you and another that you never plan to meet. You open up with things that you didn't think you would, sharing your world, your thoughts, your fantasies and your past. You worry about them when they are ill or sad, you think of them when you see something and it reminds you of something they said.
Most of the time you have no idea what they look or sound like, but the words continue to flow. You picture them in your head and hear their words as you read them. It can be a connection that is like any other and it is wonderful.
And it all starts with an attempt to communicate. You have no idea if they will respond at all, but you try. You just type some words on a screen and hope that they respond. That's it. Just a short hello or a long one, your choice, your words. t really is quite simple, to try. Of course most conversations will not last, but if there is no attempt then you will not have that long term conversation. So simple, yet so difficult..... But really, so simple to try
It's this "come on..." mentality society seems to have. "I dare you to eat that bug." "No way" "Come on," There is not a way to put the tone of this come on into words, but guys do this to one another, "come on, are you scared?" Men seem to have this idea at times that they can convince people to do something they've clearly said no to, and sometimes they're not above shaming, belittling or coersing them into what they want. This might be true of women too, but I personally have never heard a woman say "oh come on..." in that tone to a man, or one of their girlfriends, but I have seen men do it both to their guy and female friends trying to convince them to go along with what they want. Sometimes this is funny of course or seen as funny, but at other times this could be seen as quite dangerous as guys convince their friends to do all kinds of stupid stuff, or coerse women into something they are not comfortible with. I don't mean to be throwing men under the bus here, but I just felt it fit with what you were saying.Because I like to talk, I will type some more
Here is some thoughts for you: I introduced a lady friend of mine to the site, she had told me how much she would like to just find women to talk to, just talk, and if something erotic came from it, so be it. So, I showed her the site, helped her set up her profile and showed the basics of it.
I talk to her almost every day, and every day she tells me about the men that message her. All her threads, all her posts, and her profile state she has no interest in talking to men, yet, most messages are from men. Some saying how they can make her forget about women completely.
She thinks not replying at all is wrong so tends to send replies like, "Thank you for the massage, but I prefer to talk to women, as that is what I want, have a good day. Some will actually reply and try to engage. I do not understand this. If a profile, posts and thread starters all clearly state an interest that someone does not fall under, at all, why would they message that person? Do people really thin they are that good? Do they really think they can alter the thoughts and desires of people because they are here?
I just think it is rude and disrespectful. Maybe I come from a different style of upbringing that teaches you to respect people. I don't know. It's just weird to me.
Because I like to talk, I will type some more
Here is some thoughts for you: I introduced a lady friend of mine to the site, she had told me how much she would like to just find women to talk to, just talk, and if something erotic came from it, so be it. So, I showed her the site, helped her set up her profile and showed the basics of it.
I talk to her almost every day, and every day she tells me about the men that message her. All her threads, all her posts, and her profile state she has no interest in talking to men, yet, most messages are from men. Some saying how they can make her forget about women completely.
She thinks not replying at all is wrong so tends to send replies like, "Thank you for the massage, but I prefer to talk to women, as that is what I want, have a good day. Some will actually reply and try to engage. I do not understand this. If a profile, posts and thread starters all clearly state an interest that someone does not fall under, at all, why would they message that person? Do people really thin they are that good? Do they really think they can alter the thoughts and desires of people because they are here?
I just think it is rude and disrespectful. Maybe I come from a different style of upbringing that teaches you to respect people. I don't know. It's just weird to me.
