coming out at work (and thank you too all)

[sexy-girl]

i hinted that i was going to do this thread but i wanted to think about things first and also see how things went ... anyway i should start at the start


last weekend lisa and i went dancing/clubbing what i didn't mention was that i'd been invited by a few of my friends at work (nobody at work knew i was gay and they only had met lisa very quickly) i dont socialize much with people from work and i wouldn't call them real friends but it was becoming frustrating that i felt i was holding something back ... its hard to describe the feeling of not being out (i really hate those phrases but anyway)

its just when conversations would turn to guys or i would mention something about my "friend" lisa i would always have a knot in my stomach not because i wanted to talk about gay issues or say what i did in bed last night ... but just because i knew there was a secret that i hadn't told these people and it just makes you feel uneasy sometimes

anyway i decided that i would go with them clubbing but lisa would be coming too ... so lisa and i met up with my friends from work (2 girls one guy) and i introduced lisa as my girlfriend with my hand around her waist in a way to say "that" kind of girlfriend ... i had a great time at the club and i wasn't worried about things lisa and i were dancing most of the night

at work the next day i talked to them more about it and i said yes i was gay and i was very happy and lisa had been my girlfriend for quite awhile ... they were fine with it they are all about my age or a bit older and nothings really been said about it since ... i haven't been sacked from work and everything's fine and i feel a lot more relaxed about things



i wanted to specifically start this thread because i wanted to thank everyone here ... all my very close friends and relatives knew i was gay for quite a while but its the people that im not very close too that i worry about telling or worrying if i should bother telling ... for instance work mates ... but being at literotica has given me confidence in how other people see me and how they dont judge me because im gay ... the vast majority of people here dont have any problem with me being gay and even some of the people that dont necessarily agree with being gay can still be my friends on here and i think that's special i found all these things out by being here and i just wanted to thank you all

anyway this post has been way too long so thanks


sexy-girl who's still growing up and learning new things

 

[lavender]

 

[patient1]

Y ou must feel so free & at ease now.I'm happy for you . I don't know about being gay, but I know about loving somebody when you're not allowed to show it.

 

[llee69]

Congrats Sexy-girl!

 

[photographer]

Gay Friends

I admire your courage. I am not gay, but DO understand.

I have a few gay friends and watching them, soul searching and trying so damned hard to be "normal" was soul destroying.

When they finally decided to tell family and friends, their 'world' all of a sudden became a better place. Those that understood and accepted them, remained as good friends. Those that didn't - good riddance to them, they weren't needed!

Wishing you everything you wish yourselves in your relationship.

 

[Andreina]

*quickly preparing the big suite in the Savoy Hotel for sexy-girl and Lisa so that they can enjoy their newly acquired freedom* congrats, you are a brave character

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

the vast majority of people here dont have any problem with me being gay [/i]

I have a problem with you being gay; it means us guys never get a chance with a beautiful person like you!

Seriously, it is great that you could come out to people at work, and that they accepted it. Personally, if I were gay or bisexual I would have a lot more of a problem telling relatives/family than anybody at work. I don't think I would even bother with people at work, but it depends on the people I guess.

Good for you SG! Nothing but sunshine and rainbows in your future!

 

[seXieleXie]

i find it easier to be out to people i'm not close to because then idon't really care what they think. i'm not out to my family because i'm afraid of their reaction. i'm mostly out here at school, except to a few people.
sometimes it feels really shameful to be closeted. sometimes i wish i could throw caution to the wind and just be the queerest thing you ever saw.

anyway, congrats sexy-girl. i'm very happy that everything went well. i know how you feel lisa is such a very lucky lady.

 

[bluemuse]

Congratulations sexy-girl. I'm glad that coming out to your co-workers was a positive experience....that's the way it should be.

bluemuse

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

way to go sexy-girl. I know how hard it can be telling something publicly that you feel will change how other's look at you.

but way to be strong and face your fears girl.

and for the record, no matter how old you are your still gorwing up and learning new things.

 

[EthiopianPrince]

Congratulations Sexy-Girl ... and I'm glad Lit played a positive role in your deciding to come out at work.

 

[lobito]

of course I have to do this sexy....




Lo

 

[Mischka]

Sexy-girl, I am so happy for you! Being able to dissolve artificial restraints around yourself must be a wonderful feeling.

 

[Cherry]

Good for you Sexy-girl!!

I'm glad that our community here has helped encourage you to be proud of who you are. You are much more than accepted here ... well loved, in fact.

 

[sexy-girl]

thank you all again whenever i make posts like this i always think they will just sink like a stone its wonderful to find some people are who truly are genuine in the unreal world of the internet


i wanted to say that of course telling my close family and closer friends was way more nerve wracking but it was something i knew i had to do

with telling my co-workers i knew i didnt have to do it i knew i could manage and just get by without mentioning it at all and in someways that made it harder to actually "come out" (dang i hate that phrase still lol) but now that i have i will feel better about things



lavender i already do have a older sister but it would be cool to have another

seXieleXie i didnt come out to my family until it was kind of forced on me so i know what you mean

shy tall guy blush hehe

lobito i know your having withdrawl symtoms of sexy storys i'll try and make the next one have a bit more naked flesh in it

thank you everyone else too its wonderful how other people seemed to understand a lot of what i was saying when i thought maybe it would be hard to understand ... mischka put it best of all on how i feel

Sexy-girl, I am so happy for you! Being able to dissolve artificial restraints around yourself must be a wonderful feeling.

thats exactly it thank you

 

[HotXBunz]

I am doing the happy dance for you Sexy Girl.

I am going on nine years with my Sweetie. I don't bother to change pronouns or anything with others. When we talk about the kids they are "our" kids, the house is "our" house etc. In RL I rarely have to "come out", I assume the folks who want to know will just get it. I know what you mean about that barrier with people. I feel so much more honest just being me. I just recently came out here. I realized that my posts were too generic and it may be assumed I was male. Just as you said, the folks here are very loving and accepting.

 

[lobito]

lobito i know your having withdrawl symtoms of sexy storys i'll try and make the next one have a bit more naked flesh in it

Babe, you know I like to tease you. But in all seriousness, you also know that we all are a pretty accepting bunch here. Hell we're on a porn board, a good majority of us flirt openly with others, where we might not in "r/l".

You've found out that what you have to say, doesn't go un-noticed by the board. That some of us DO care, and that's what counts the most.

You're a good girl in my book, kiddo.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

I am proud of you

People accept and it matters not if they do not

 

[Cheyenne]

I don't know about being gay, but I know about loving somebody when you're not allowed to show it.

Damn. Are you really my long lost twin or something?



Sexy-girl- congrats! My bet is they may have already figured it out so your "announcment" wasn't necessary? But I'm glad it went well.

 

[Laurel]

Re: Re: coming out at work (and thank you too all)

Personally, if I were gay or bisexual I would have a lot more of a problem telling relatives/family than anybody at work.

Amen! My brother "came out" to me a few years ago while we were on our way to lunch together. He's many years younger, and he lives far enough away that I rarely see him, so in my mind he's still a little boy. I was driving, and I asked him if he'd seen some female friend of his from way back. He said he hadn't. I then asked him (because I'd always wondered) if they had been "an item", and he said no. I then asked him if he had a girlfriend (because he's always so shy), to which my little baby brother responded, "Well, actually, I prefer men."

I nearly drove off the road! I have absolutely zero issues with gays & lesbians, but I tell ya - it's a real shock to hear from a family member. It's shocking enough to even think about my little brother as a sexual being at all! It led to a discussion with him about his orientation and his plans to come out to the entire family and his workmates. I've never felt gays should hide who they are, but I found myself wanting to tell my brother to keep quiet about his sexuality. Not because I felt it was dirty or wrong (because I don't), but because I didn't want him to face the bigotry and hatred spewn at gays by intolerant, hatefull morons. He's my little brother, for crying out loud! The idea of assholes beating him up or calling him names brought my claws out.

Luckily, he didn't listen to me and my ninny worries. He came out, and everything went fine. I admire him - as I admire you, sexy-girl - for having the cajones to not hide who you are. I hope that one day gays & lesbians will be able to discuss their lives publicly just like heteros do without feeling strange. Keep fighting the good fight, and don't let anyone tell you that you should change or hide yourself!

 

[Never]

sexy-girl:
"sexy-girl who's still growing up and learning new things"

never who's getting all teary eyed

 

[sexy-girl]

Re: Re: coming out at work (and thank you too all)

never who's getting all teary eyed

aww your silly but very very sweet thank you


laurel your story was very nice to read and makes a lot of sense to me ... my older sister i think was slightly over protective a little at first when she found out i was gay and worried for me

i did have an advantage though in that my family all had met lisa some and knew her and also i was "coming out" to my family and being able to tell them who i was in love with ... i think that made more sense to them and was easier to understand

i would never of told my sister while she was driving though lol


cheyenne you may be right in that they may already of had an idea (gossip in shops is terrible ) but its still better for me to say it so then at least if they were going to talk about me then they know that i know they know hmmm i think that makes sense lol


lobito just because you tease and joke with me doesnt mean that i dont think your a very sweet and kind person you dont have to be only serious to be taken seriously


thanks everyone else again too

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Catching up with the board

Just wanted to add my congrats to the list, Sexygirl! I have been enjoying your "lisa stories" since I've started posting here, and your love for each other has shown through very fully and easily in your threads.

All the best to both of you!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Congratulations Sexy-Girl.

 

[tn_8tiv]

Congratulations Sexy-Girl.

Good for you SG. As a "straight" guy, I may not totally like a good looking girl like yourself taking herself out of circulation, but I support your choices 100%. Don't you feel better after expressing your true feelings publicly?

"To thine own heart be true"