Never
Come What May
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I'll be honest (almost honest).
For most of my life I've been uninvolved with other people, I think I managed to go through high school repeating the same ten phases to everyone I met before burying my face in a book or just wondering off.
Lately, I've been listening to people, really listening. I've been sitting down in front of one person and given them my complete attention. I don't interrupt, I don't talk much myself other than encouraging them to talk more. What I don't understand is what information they choose to give me.
It's as if there is no middle ground with people. They either give me completely trivial information or they tell me (what I would consider) personal details.
I'll give you an example, there's this one young woman at work who I was listening too, she suddenly stopped talking about work and told me about her arm hair, she has very pale, blonde hair so you can't see the hair on her arm. (She held up her arm to me so I could see that her hair was not visible) Then she told me her eyelashes were blonde as well which is why she wore mascara, otherwise I couldn't see her eyelashes. Then she took out her lip gloss and told me that she would rub lip gloss on her lower eye lid so if her mascara ran it wouldn't run.
Am I to believe this is a typical conversation? Is this what many females talk about when they speak? I honestly don't know.
Later that evening I was speaking with another woman at work about the Forth of July.
About five seconds into the conversation she mentioned that she was hoping to score some coke for the Forth. She made a light joke about fooling her husband if he asked her why she had been in the basement with [I'll take out that name, needless to say it was a mutual friend] and then went on to tell me that she had a cookie jar in her closet where she'd toss a loose twenty a couple times a week so when the bought from [and here she gave me the name of her dealer] came by she'd have money but she wouldn't be taking it out of her paycheck. (I nodded in agreement with this - as it seemed a sensible way of handling money). Then she told me that she could be sensible about buying coke but [and hear she gave me the name of two people I work with] were addicts and would blow their paychecks as soon as they got it.
Is this typical office 'gossip'? She seemed casual about telling me.
What else, yes, people tell me they're fat. People tell me their attractive. People tell me that gay men are all over their husbands. People tell me everything. Pointless or meaningful - it all seems to come out. I'm not certain way. Perhaps it's because I listen and it doesn't bother me but has anyone else ever had this happen?
Like I said, I missed human communition by first 18 years on the planet so I'm not quite sure.
For most of my life I've been uninvolved with other people, I think I managed to go through high school repeating the same ten phases to everyone I met before burying my face in a book or just wondering off.
Lately, I've been listening to people, really listening. I've been sitting down in front of one person and given them my complete attention. I don't interrupt, I don't talk much myself other than encouraging them to talk more. What I don't understand is what information they choose to give me.
It's as if there is no middle ground with people. They either give me completely trivial information or they tell me (what I would consider) personal details.
I'll give you an example, there's this one young woman at work who I was listening too, she suddenly stopped talking about work and told me about her arm hair, she has very pale, blonde hair so you can't see the hair on her arm. (She held up her arm to me so I could see that her hair was not visible) Then she told me her eyelashes were blonde as well which is why she wore mascara, otherwise I couldn't see her eyelashes. Then she took out her lip gloss and told me that she would rub lip gloss on her lower eye lid so if her mascara ran it wouldn't run.
Am I to believe this is a typical conversation? Is this what many females talk about when they speak? I honestly don't know.
Later that evening I was speaking with another woman at work about the Forth of July.
About five seconds into the conversation she mentioned that she was hoping to score some coke for the Forth. She made a light joke about fooling her husband if he asked her why she had been in the basement with [I'll take out that name, needless to say it was a mutual friend] and then went on to tell me that she had a cookie jar in her closet where she'd toss a loose twenty a couple times a week so when the bought from [and here she gave me the name of her dealer] came by she'd have money but she wouldn't be taking it out of her paycheck. (I nodded in agreement with this - as it seemed a sensible way of handling money). Then she told me that she could be sensible about buying coke but [and hear she gave me the name of two people I work with] were addicts and would blow their paychecks as soon as they got it.
Is this typical office 'gossip'? She seemed casual about telling me.
What else, yes, people tell me they're fat. People tell me their attractive. People tell me that gay men are all over their husbands. People tell me everything. Pointless or meaningful - it all seems to come out. I'm not certain way. Perhaps it's because I listen and it doesn't bother me but has anyone else ever had this happen?
Like I said, I missed human communition by first 18 years on the planet so I'm not quite sure.
