Can love come back to you?

[Redhead]

Earlier this week my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. We both knew it was coming but still it hurts. Now we continue to talk and remain the best of friends, however I still believe that we are ment to be and that there is no one else for me. I believe that we are right for each other its just that, that time is not now. Many people were shocked that we broke up because the all thought we're going to get married soon. Its important that we remain friend because of his 4 1/2 year old son and the fact that we still care deeply for each other. He said he doesn't think he can be in love right now.
Does anyone know anyone who went through something of this nature or has an opinion that maybe I'm right and will are ment to be?

thanks,
Redhead

 

[Stump]

Sounds like he has been hurt in the past. Hang in there, if he is willing to remain friends, thats a start. If its ment to be then it will be.

Been there done that, if you want the details; contact me.

 

[Dickfer]

I think that most of the times if there's a break up then the damage is usually done. This is with females... I think if a guy breaks things off and he's willing to be friends and you want to get back together there's a chance. He might need time to check himself?

Good luck

 

[Gary1]

From my experience ... if he broke up with you he has not intentions of making it work again. Move on with your life. And forget the kid. The kid is not yours and never will be with this kind of guy. Stop throwing good money after bad. Move on with your life and the sooner the better. There is a real man out there that will really care about you and is willing to make a committment to you. Now go find him and leave the dregs behind.

An yes, I have been there and own the shirt. Bloody and all, it is hanging in the closet.

 

[Lovely Latina]

Dear Redhead...

I know the pain you're feeling, hon. The Pokemon bandage on MY heart is *almost* ready to come off (THANK GOD!) <tugs a little harder at it...OW!>

He gave the reason of he "doesn't think he can be in love right now," but most likely there's a much deeper reason and he didn't want to hurt you. Sounds to me like he feels the need to see other people and yet still wants to be "close friends" with you and keep you hanging around "just in case." I could be wrong, but my advice is that you ALSO see what (who) else is out there...who knows? Maybe you will come back to each other...and maybe not. But at least you BOTH will be more certain. I, too, once thought that I had found "the one that was *meant* for me," I mean, I was SOOOO "sure," but as it turned out, I couldn't have been more wrong. Be friends...but live your life for YOURSELF...not for him.

Best of Luck!

LL

 

[Firesprite]

Sounds to me like he feels the need to see other people and yet still wants to be "close friends" with you and keep you hanging around "just in case."

Just checking.. do you mean he is seeing if there are any "better" fish in the sea, or just taking stock of the situation and seeing if he really cant live without you after all?

 

[SexualExplorer]

I met my boy friend ten years ago when he was on leave from Saudi Arabia. We met the first day he was home. We spent the next 15 days together and fell head over heels in love.I know it sounds like a chessy love story.I took him to the airport and watched him leave, my heart was broken. At the time I never believed it was posssible to fall in love that quickly. So I stop all contact with him. It is now ten years later. He found me again. I put off seeing him for a long time.The moment I laid eyes on him again and he took me in his arms, my life started over. We have both grown and matured. We are finally together he is my soulmate. It was destiny that we were to be together again. Now we are stronger than ever and our future is very bright.

 

[Guest]

All I have to say, RedHead, is hang in there. A woman's intuition is almost never wrong. So, if you feel that the two of you were meant to be, that could very well be true. You mentioned he had a 4 y/o child? Do you know what happened in that relationship? Did his ex girlfriend/wife leave him, cheat on him, etc? Maybe once he sensed you two were getting really close he decided it was time to back off. I've done that many times in relationships because I was scared to put "my all" into another one. So, I would start to back off and become distant. I'm not saying that's right (if he is indeed doing that), I'm just saying be patient and be there for him. Also, do be "pushy" when it comes to the two of you being together. That will most likely only drive him further away.

-Tiggs