Are Married Men MORE atractive?

[huskie]

I'm certin this has been discussed before, but I don't care to look back that far.

Are married men MORE atractive to the ladies?? If so, (maybe we should do a poll?) why?

It's wierd to me. Sense I'v been married (nearly 8 yr.s) I'v had more women aproach me than I ever had when I was single. I can't quite figure it out?? I KNOW I'm not near atractive now than when I was in my twentys?? Hell, I'm 5'-3", my hairs falling out???? I mean what the hell is it, or am I just dreaming that they want me???

 

[KillerMuffin]

Not to me. Marriage has nothing to do with it, attractiveness is attractiveness. Not that I would approach anyone outside of my StudMuffin anyway.

 

[Debbie]

To me? My man, when I married him was so much more attractive than before. You know, the whole have and to hold thing kinda got to me. Obey? I don't think so.
So yeah my married man is soooooo attractive to me.
Especially since he is married to me.

 

[Cheyenne]

Not necessarily more attractive, but more available. Unfortunately.

 

[RawHumor]

I think it's a self-confidence thing.

When you have a girlfriend or are married, you're not looking to scope out women to see if there's anyone there that you'd want to date. When women notice a guy alone trying to scan the place for action, unless the guy's pretty hot, they tend to be put off by it.

On the other hand, if a woman sees you with another woman, she knows that you've got to have SOMEthing going for you - otherwise you couldn't have gotten the one you're with.

Maybe it's the old adage that all of the good men are already taken, so if you're not taken, you must be flawed.

Or maybe I'm talking out of my ass again - you be the judge.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I agree with huskie, I have been married 12 years and in that time I have had women that would not give me the time of day before I wed flat out ask me to fuck (hell, a girl she grew up with offered to give me a happy wedding blow job at our reception). I have changed nothing about me, same weight, attitude, everything. The only thing I can figure is WE all have a desire to leave our "marks" everywhere we can. The law of the jungle is alive and well in the suburbs!

 

[juicylips]

A friend of mine asked me this same question a couple weeks ago. He's happily married and yet has had more women hit on him now than when single. He is in his late thirties and he has girls in their early twenties doing the hitting. I think some women like the "challenge". But on the other hand, my friend is a hunk. I can see why girls of any age would want him.

JL

 

[KinkyKat]

From my own experience, that seems to be the case. To some women, married men appear to be "safer" in many ways.

A good friend of mine who is divorced actually tested this theory when he was separated by wearing his wedding ring at times, and not wearing it at others.

He *swears* he always got more "hits" when he was wearing his ring.

Important social note: It's the "hits" he got while he was still married that most contributed to his change in marital status.

 

[His_kitty]

Not mine.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Not mine.

LOL, thats cause he's yours!

 

[huskie]

I think it's a self-confidence thing.

When you have a girlfriend or are married, you're not looking to scope out women to see if there's anyone there that you'd want to date. When women notice a guy alone trying to scan the place for action, unless the guy's pretty hot, they tend to be put off by it.

On the other hand, if a woman sees you with another woman, she knows that you've got to have SOMEthing going for you - otherwise you couldn't have gotten the one you're with.

Maybe it's the old adage that all of the good men are already taken, so if you're not taken, you must be flawed.

Or maybe I'm talking out of my ass again - you be the judge.

That makes sense to me.

 

[huskie]

Not mine.

Maybe if you DIDN'T cook so damn good he would not have gained all that weight and thus be more attractive???? My wife can't cook so I'v gained none....... lucky me.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Married men ...

I have had encounters with married men. I was younger @ the time and I do think it had to do a little with the whole " challenge" thing and @ that time I found them attractive because they were running their own companies, they had their life in order while the "boys" around me were still acting childlish.

But that was back in the day ... when I was younger .... now I simply like my men older... with no wedding ring. Please...

 

[lovetoread]

For some women its the challenge of taking away a man from another woman.

Its an awful thing to have done to you.

 

[bored1]

For some women its the challenge of taking away a man from another woman.

Its an awful thing to have done to you.

Its an awful thing for a man to allow it to happen.

 

[Cirrus]

I too have had encounters with married men some time ago. The married thing wasn't the issue, it was just attraction. I would have been attracted had they not been married, I think. Whoever said they're "safer" was right on. Sorry, too lazy to scroll back and look.

A married man usually isn't going to get all clingly, emotional and weird on you. He can't. The best you can hope for from a married man is friends with benefits, which sometimes is just fine by me. I've been between relationships a few times and was looking for someone I would feel comfortable with and could still be intimate with without all the bullshit that usually surrounds a relationship (at least my relationships...I have a habit of hooking up with assholes) so a married guy fits the bill fine.

I don't date/sleep with married guys any more, or at least haven't in several years. Would I again though? If I met the right one, sure. The married guys I was with I was friends with, we had some common ground and were attracted to each other, it wasn't just some ass in a bar who wasn't getting any at home and decided to go looking. Not that that justifies it any.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I discussed this with El Stud on the way to school. He says this happens to him all the time. Of course, he is a StudMuffin and he does go around with an adorable younger child or even more adorable mutt-creatures.

I married a narcissistic woman-magnet.

Looks can be decieving though. He's one of those people that frequently uses his personality as an effective form of population control.

 

[Starfish]

Okay, about this 'it being a challenge' bit, I have one question to the stupid bitches who think this is an interesting and effective way to get a mate. One question they should seriously consider before going on wrecking relationships.

What on God's green earth makes you think he'll be faithfull to your sorry ass the when the next flirty little homewrecking slut comes along?


Yes, I've had a person do this to one of my relationships. He was a cheating bastard. It took him three months to cheat on her. Figures that she was 'suprised' and angered by this.

At least I had him for a faithful 8 months, or so I thought.

 

[His_kitty]

Re: Re: Are Married Men MORE atractive?

Maybe if you DIDN'T cook so damn good he would not have gained all that weight and thus be more attractive???? My wife can't cook so I'v gained none....... lucky me.

*hates cookin*

Which only plays a small part in why my husband is a lil fella, damned genetics! (lucky arsehole)


I agree with Starfish in thinking that if he cheats with you, what makes you believe he wouldn't cheat on you. The same can be said with the roles reversed. I'm kinda *surprised* that no one has brought that up, the other side.

"Are married woman more attractive"

I found after marrying, that I had ex b/f's phoning me, asking after me, etc etc .... where in some cases I hadn't heard from them in ages while I was single.

 

[Dream_Chaser]

I hope not for a couple of reasons. First, I'm recently divorced and I'd hate for the future women I meet to not consider me attractive. Secondly, if any woman placed value on a man's attractineness either because of, or the lack of a wedding ring would be fairly superficial.

 

[J.B.]

Are married men more attractive?

Nope. They automatically go to the "will only be friends" list

 

[Allexus_TN]

I think for some people its primal. Sort of like animals trying to take over each other's territory.

 

[bluntforcemama]

No, married men are not more attractive. If anything, they're less attractive, especially when they're flirting. Marriage IS still sacred, right?

 

[perks]

men only become more attractive to other women after they are married because the woman they are with mold them into a person a woman would love to be with<snicker>

 

[bluntforcemama]

men only become more attractive to other women after they are married because the woman they are with mold them into a person a woman would love to be with<snicker>

Oh, now that's just BAD!