Are bisexuals different in bed than there straight counterparts?

[HardNightDay]

This may have been discussed here before. I had a conversation with a former lover (woman) years ago about do bisexual men prefer oral sex and handjobs more often than there straightt counterparts. This planted a thought in my mind that I have slowly evolved over the years as I talk with other lovers.

I have found that in my sex life I do have MORE of a preference for oral sex and masturbation than the "typical" straight male, who may prefer intercourse and may be in tune more with his own pleasure.

I'm curious what others think. Have you found bisexual partners different in their style? If so how?

 

[Wolfman1982]

This may have been discussed here before. I had a conversation with a former lover (woman) years ago about do bisexual men prefer oral sex and handjobs more often than there straightt counterparts. This planted a thought in my mind that I have slowly evolved over the years as I talk with other lovers.

I have found that in my sex life I do have MORE of a preference for oral sex and masturbation than the "typical" straight male, who may prefer intercourse and may be in tune more with his own pleasure.

I'm curious what others think. Have you found bisexual partners different in their style? If so how?

Well, you have just described me. But perhaps it is just a coincidence. But I do prefer handjobs, masturbation (or for that matter foreplay) and oralsex compared to intercourse. But sometimes I do enjoy a good buggering in my behind.

 

[Itigirl]

This may have been discussed here before. I had a conversation with a former lover (woman) years ago about do bisexual men prefer oral sex and handjobs more often than there straightt counterparts. This planted a thought in my mind that I have slowly evolved over the years as I talk with other lovers.

I have found that in my sex life I do have MORE of a preference for oral sex and masturbation than the "typical" straight male, who may prefer intercourse and may be in tune more with his own pleasure.

I'm curious what others think. Have you found bisexual partners different in their style? If so how?

Have only known two bisexual men and both were very much into masturbation, and oral sex... more so than intercourse....and much more than my straight male friends....

 

[jshawk52]

I definately practice masturbation and oral more often than straight fucking, however with the right partner, all are extremely enjoyable. I'm not sure I could rank them

 

[xdressslut]

bi sexuals different than straight

well let me see ... i am most into masturbation and oral sex i love both sexes equally but i perfer sucking cock 3 outta 5 times more than pussy but i do enjoy it all soooo much

 

[HardNightDay]

Interesting results...

First, to be clear, I'm a man. I myself would rank them.

1 .Intercourse - twice as often as oral sex
2. Oral sex - probably would chose this 1 out of 3 times, but love it and can never date a partner who doesn't want to give and/or receive.
3. Mutual masturbation - it's definitely in the mix, but well below the first two.

But then I tend to choose women partners probably 3 times more often than male partners.

 

[HardNightDay]

Sorry, double post.

 

[LadyC]

I can't tell. I've never been to bed with anyone who was 100% straight.

 

[Programmer Cat]

I can't tell. I've never been to bed with anyone who was 100% straight.

Neither have I. My first girlfriend was a closeted lesbian who seduced me because she wasn't ready to admit the truth to herself, let alone come out to anybody else. All she liked, sexually, was to have me service her orally while I kept my clothes on. Once she had gotten off, she would leave the room so I could "take care of myself". That relationship didn't last long, but it was a few years before I got involved with anybody else.

 

[seamanstains]

straight ladies

at least with a straight lady you do not have to compete with a lettuce licker !

 

[LadyC]

at least with a straight lady you do not have to compete with a lettuce licker !

That's because most girls who won't switch from time to time don't know there is more to sexual pleasure than a man sticking is cock in a pussy, coming and going to sleep.

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I have found that in my sex life I do have MORE of a preference for oral sex and masturbation than the "typical" straight male, who may prefer intercourse and may be in tune more with his own pleasure.

Er...don't all men like masturbating a lot? Doubt I've ever met one who didn't...

 

[LadyC]

Er...don't all men like masturbating a lot? Doubt I've ever met one who didn't...

If I would permit it, Billy-boy would be masturbating all the time....not always to an orgasm, but to simply enjoying being touched. As for me, oral sex and mutual masturbation have always been my preferred for of sexual gratification and I'm 100% female.

 

[seamanstains]

That's because most girls who won't switch from time to time don't know there is more to sexual pleasure than a man sticking is cock in a pussy, coming and going to sleep.

why is it that women have to use a substitute for a cock when there is plenty of the real thing about,
may,be you should try an older man we may not do it as often as when we were teens but we can keep it up for longer now and give you a seriously sore cunt in the process,or/and arsehole

 

[LadyC]

why is it that women have to use a substitute for a cock when there is plenty of the real thing about,
may,be you should try an older man we may not do it as often as when we were teens but we can keep it up for longer now and give you a seriously sore cunt in the process,or/and arsehole

If I wanted a woman to do me with a dildo, I would be with a man. When I'm with a woman it is because I do not want a cock or fake cock in me. I want the gentle loving of a woman.... her knowing fingers; her soft body; and her sweet lips.

 

[none2_none2]

If by intercourse you only mean penis<-->vagina str8 fucking, then ignore this post...

What a guy likes is VERY individualized.

If I were to rank the top 100 sex things I love in order:

1. Fucking a handsome, HAIRY, muscular, manily man.
2. ditto
3. ditto
...
99. Getting blown by someone who deep throats and knows how to keep his teeth retracted.
100. Masturbation.

So if a gay guy like myself loves to fuck by far, I wouldn't categorize bi guys as preferring oral/masturbation. It is an individual desire that varies from person to person.

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

Don't think I have a preference. I like to do what ever the mood dictates. Since sex is a 2 + thing it would also depend on what your partner(s) are into.

 

[none2_none2]

I think most people would have sex with people they were compatible with. Why have sex with someone who doesn't like what you like? It would be like choosing a spouse that you have nothing in common with.

 

[LadyC]

I think most people would have sex with people they were compatible with. Why have sex with someone who doesn't like what you like? It would be like choosing a spouse that you have nothing in common with.

I guess you're not into one night stands or hot weekenders. I've met a lot of men (women too) who were fantastic lovers, but possessed the social skills of apes.

 

[none2_none2]

I guess you're not into one night stands or hot weekenders. I've met a lot of men (women too) who were fantastic lovers, but possessed the social skills of apes.

Those are things of the past in my life. I'm just saying that most of the time I could figure my potential partners out to know whether it was worth proceeding. It isn't just about the acts they are into, but also what they are looking for. For instance, if a gay/bi guy is a size queen and I'm just average, why waste my time -- let alone his? Whether they are top, bottom or in between, why proceed? In my early years of crusing, such things would hurt my feelings. But towards the end of those wild and crazy years I realized that there were plenty of other fish in the sea even for a one night stand. Life is too short to stay upset because you weren't some attractive stranger's type. The most important thing is to talk and be honest up-front.

I'm just SO very lucky that I have my guy. First and foremost we love each other. But also we are VERY compatible, I am SO comfortable with him.

 

[wordofvirtue]

I'm a bi female, currently married to a very straight man and we are in a monogamous relationship (so, no playing around but I lead a rich fantasy life )

When I am with a man I have always been drawn to submission. Not necessarily the whole BDSM thing, although that can certainly be enjoyable from time to time. It's more like a mind-body thing where I am both offering myself and allowing his penetration. I'm not really sure how to explain it.

Way different with women, almost a 180 turn around. When I am with a woman I want to be in charge. Not in a fem-dom way -- I don't want to hurt/punish/humiliate. I just want to be leading the dance. I want to enjoy her curves and softness. I want to fuck her! The first time I ever played with a strap-on I learned why guys like to go from behind -- what an amazingly beautiful sight! It's like my animus gets to come out and play and I love it!

It would be great to be able to find a playmate (female). My husband and I have talked about it some. No decisions yet, but right now there's been nothing offered to have to make a decision about. I have a crush on a gal at work, from a different department. She's somewhat flirtatious but I have no idea if that's just her or if it really means something. I suspect it is just her. And the other factor is that she would have to want to play with my husband as well as me.

Oh well, I'm rambling.

 

[LadyC]

I'm a bi female, currently married to a very straight man and we are in a monogamous relationship (so, no playing around but I lead a rich fantasy life )

When I am with a man I have always been drawn to submission. Not necessarily the whole BDSM thing, although that can certainly be enjoyable from time to time. It's more like a mind-body thing where I am both offering myself and allowing his penetration. I'm not really sure how to explain it.

Way different with women, almost a 180 turn around. When I am with a woman I want to be in charge. Not in a fem-dom way -- I don't want to hurt/punish/humiliate. I just want to be leading the dance. I want to enjoy her curves and softness. I want to fuck her! The first time I ever played with a strap-on I learned why guys like to go from behind -- what an amazingly beautiful sight! It's like my animus gets to come out and play and I love it!

It would be great to be able to find a playmate (female). My husband and I have talked about it some. No decisions yet, but right now there's been nothing offered to have to make a decision about. I have a crush on a gal at work, from a different department. She's somewhat flirtatious but I have no idea if that's just her or if it really means something. I suspect it is just her. And the other factor is that she would have to want to play with my husband as well as me.

Oh well, I'm rambling.

Your situation is similar to mine when I first married Billy-boy, except I harbored latent dominant traits. We were both bisexual, but our marriage was straight. After a while was started swinging with other couples, then one night at a party,after I had made it with a man our hostess knelt between my still splayed thighs and started so drink the semen from within me. I coaxed her to swing into a 69 position and went after her pussy like it was the last one on earth. Just then my husband came into the room and sat on the bed beside us, but I didn't know he was there until I had enjoyed my first girl-girl orgasm in years. He told me he was bisexual as well and marriage became a happier one. Eventually he talked me into whipping him from time to time and eventually bondage became as natural to our lives as breathing.

 

[HardNightDay]

Er...don't all men like masturbating a lot? Doubt I've ever met one who didn't...

I suppose I could have been more exact in my question. I was referring to mutual masturbation, or other similar types of sex play.

 

[HardNightDay]

why is it that women have to use a substitute for a cock when there is plenty of the real thing about,
may,be you should try an older man we may not do it as often as when we were teens but we can keep it up for longer now and give you a seriously sore cunt in the process,or/and arsehole

I had a bisexual friend who said that she got a real thrill from fucking other women. I would assume the other women got a real thrill out of it also. I don't see any reason a woman couldn't be turned on by having intercourse with another woman.

...nor do i think guys need to feel threatened by this.

 

[HardNightDay]

I'm a bi female, currently married to a very straight man and we are in a monogamous relationship (so, no playing around but I lead a rich fantasy life )

When I am with a man I have always been drawn to submission. Not necessarily the whole BDSM thing, although that can certainly be enjoyable from time to time. It's more like a mind-body thing where I am both offering myself and allowing his penetration. I'm not really sure how to explain it.

Way different with women, almost a 180 turn around. When I am with a woman I want to be in charge. Not in a fem-dom way -- I don't want to hurt/punish/humiliate. I just want to be leading the dance. I want to enjoy her curves and softness. I want to fuck her! The first time I ever played with a strap-on I learned why guys like to go from behind -- what an amazingly beautiful sight! It's like my animus gets to come out and play and I love it!

It would be great to be able to find a playmate (female). My husband and I have talked about it some. No decisions yet, but right now there's been nothing offered to have to make a decision about. I have a crush on a gal at work, from a different department. She's somewhat flirtatious but I have no idea if that's just her or if it really means something. I suspect it is just her. And the other factor is that she would have to want to play with my husband as well as me.

Oh well, I'm rambling.

Great reply WorldOfVirtue. I hope it works out for you two finding a third. I'm sure it will when the time is right. My ex-girfriend and I talked several times about threesomes. I'm bi and she was bi-curious. We mostly pursued an additional male. Even given the number of ready and willing males out there it was difficult to find one that we clicked with. We came close several times, but ultimately no joy...two different guys actually turned us down. I was shocked, she was a knockout!

I have noticed that role reversal seems to be common with bisex. While I could be in command with my girlfriend, if I was in bed with a guy I always tended to be more submissive. It was often somewhat freeing.