And now the next step...

[Algol]

Well, I have thought about it a lot of times, but I think that it's time to make it happen... but how?

I really want to have sex with a man. I have very impulsing fantasies, and almost everyday I daydream about this. I've talked this with my wife, and she thinks it's okay if I want to try, so the hard thing is solved.

But I can't come to find a way to reach this. What should I do now?

I have thought about dating someone through IRC, but I think it's pretty insecure, and there's a lot of people that just want to have a tease instead to actually have a date. And recently it came to the news that there were a killer in my area that dated his victims through IRC...

I also thought about answering a personal, but I think it's almost the same as the IRC way.

Should I check for gay bars and clubs?

What I'm now considering is to talk with a coworker. He's gay, and maybe he can help me on this. I don't want to date him for having sex, just for asking for advice. Maybe even he knows of someone in my situation...

 

[Bitchslapper]

Not that I have any personal experience, but...

That last thing sounds like a good idea, talking with your coworker. Although, I wonder, is he hot? Because I'm thinking since you already know him, it would be more comfortable...or would it be wierd in the workplace after that?

 

[Netzach]

Excercise caution with the discussion that could be construed as "workplace." Misinterpretation could be serious, but if you are good friends with guy it will probably be ok, and I think your best strategy is to go with someone you know or someone someone you know knows. Good old fashioned setups are cool.

The other option is to get to know more people who are gay. Quick anonymous potentially hgazardous but potentially just perfectly FINE hookups abound at bars. If you need a more re-assuring and friendly hook up, you might try and find a local interest club of some kind and hang with them....GLBT everything from kayakers, to nudists, to democrats, to remote controlled car freaks have a club now.

 

[Bitchslapper]

Don't forget gay Catholics...

Don't ask me to explain, I don't know how it works either.

 

[Algol]

Excercise caution with the discussion that could be construed as "workplace." Misinterpretation could be serious, but if you are good friends with guy it will probably be ok, and I think your best strategy is to go with someone you know or someone someone you know knows. Good old fashioned setups are cool.

That's what is stopping me the most. He's a nice guy, but he's not my type.

 

[Queersetti]

Excercise caution with the discussion that could be construed as "workplace." Misinterpretation could be serious, but if you are good friends with guy it will probably be ok, and I think your best strategy is to go with someone you know or someone someone you know knows. Good old fashioned setups are cool.

The other option is to get to know more people who are gay. Quick anonymous potentially hgazardous but potentially just perfectly FINE hookups abound at bars. If you need a more re-assuring and friendly hook up, you might try and find a local interest club of some kind and hang with them....GLBT everything from kayakers, to nudists, to democrats, to remote controlled car freaks have a club now.

I agree. It's far better to find gay people with whom you share interests beyond sex, and get to know them. Build a circle of friends. If one of them doesn't become something more than a friend, they might know someone who is just right for you.

 

[deezire1900]

I say go for the club. Lots if beautiful men, and some may be looking for the same type of event. Be very honest...I am married, but Would like to see you naked... and of course, be safe.