Anal Play for Men

[TN_Vixen]

One of my friends is planning on introducing a little finger play with her beau but she didn't quite know how to do it. She doesn't necessarily want to ask outright because men sometimes won't voice something they like if they are embarrased about it but will just go with the flow if it is done in the moment. That led me to wonder just how many men like having the girl insert a finger while giving a blowjob? Did you talk about her doing it or did she just one day do it? Does it really make the guy's orgasm that much more intense?

I'll admit to not assuming the guy wants to have this done... although I find it very erotic and would do anything to intensify my partner's orgasm. But, it is a very delicate subject to bring up. I mean, how do you segue into anal play? heh

 

[lobito]

As a guy, I would say the best thing is to just come out and ask him if he woudl be willing to try it. The response of course can range from, NO WAY, I'm NOT gay, to What the hell, if I like it, no one else has to know besides us.

Personally, I don't mind it, and in fact sex IS better, if your partner is willing to actually do it. My Wife knows I like it sometimes, but won't do it. She is TOTALLY opposes to anal, but when I asked her if she'd allow me to insert a finger while we had sex, she todl me that I could do it once, and only once. Well, now she likes it done almost everytime we have sex. I'm still working on the actuall anal sex thing though.

Does that help at all?

 

[TN_Vixen]

yes lobito... it helps some.

But it also brings up another question - let's say the guy does like it and has an amazing orgasm. So does that mean every time you give a blowjob you do the finger move too? I mean at that point would you feel *obligated* to use the finger move? heh

 

[OUTSIDER]

Anal play....?.......what like "a midsummer night's dream" only with more assholes

 

[KillerMuffin]

I've, well, never asked. I just did it. In the middle of the blowjob. Start by pressing the knuckle pretty hard up against the stretch between balls and ass the "tain't" as it were. Then tickled the anus. They normally object at that point and then I know it's off limits. If you ask a guy or talk about it, then he's gotta say no whether he wants to or not. He doesn't wanna be a phag.

 

[Nicodemus]

TN-Vixen,

I enjoy it. I have had it done and would welcome having it done again. The first time it happend was a surprise. She was massaging me and poured some coke on me (very cold). after the initial shock she started to lick it off then licked my ass. She turned me over and while she was going down on me, inserted a finger slowly.

We had been together for a while and shared alot of very intimate things so moving into this new area just felt very natural.

I would say she can just try to go with it if they have a pretty open relationship. If he is a bit more conservative then discuss it before trying it.

Nic,

 

[Mtn Rebel]

It depends on the situation, is the blowjob the beginning of the sexual play or the ending. Does she want him to cumm then if so can he get it up again if so how soon? Does he want to cumm then, again how soon can he get it up.

Is finger play only to be used during a blowjob? It can be used other times depending on the positions. Depending on the fellow how far is he willing to go with his wife/girlfriend in exploring the possiblities of anal play?

Yes is can and does the man's pleasure when he cums or it does mine anyway.

Talking is the ultimate key? Thats where to begin.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Never been on the receiving end

but I would have to say I would rather have her try it then to discuss it first. I would like her to try this but believe that she would not like the idea.

If you think about it the bf should be able to tell her if , that is of course if his mouth is not full, he doesn't want her to "go there".

I say go for it she may be pleasently surprized by his reactions

Holden

 

[TN_Vixen]

I dated a couple of guys

who liked it and would even talk about it... but then one of them told me he wouldn't mind sucking cock. That threw me a little. heh

KM, I told her pretty much to just go with it and not talk about it with him like you said... Although Nic has the right idea.. if she were to lick first - the finger insertion shouldn't be a big stretch, eh?

 

[SLAM]

I have had that done before......very interesting. The only thing is it led to bigger thing ie strap on...so watch out

 

[TN_Vixen]

It depends on the situation, is the blowjob the beginning of the sexual play or the ending. Does she want him to cumm then if so can he get it up again if so how soon? Does he want to cumm then, again how soon can he get it up.

Are you saying that if she chooses to do the finger thing that it is inevitable he will cum? Or are you saying that the TIME to do the finger thing is just before he cums?

And, yes, it would be at the beginning of sex -or so I assume but that ties into what you mean by the above.

Of course finger-play can take place during other intimate moments but in this instance, we're talking about just using it in conjunction with a bj.

So, you don't agree that a lot of men wouldn't admit to liking something like that when asked outright? I think they would lie.. just like a lot of women lie about masturbating. Why they lie about that is beyond me. But it happens. Maybe we're not giving this guy enough credit though... maybe he's sexually confident - I doubt it.. he's only 21.

 

[Purple Haze]

I hadn't thought much about it, she just gently dug her fingers in while we were fucking once and I started bucking like a wild animal.

Anal play will make me come right now, among other things like a tongue in the ear, biting my chest, spanking, filthy talk. We all have our hot buttons.

Some women like a little anal play, don't they?

 

[TN_Vixen]

Hazie.. your hot buttons are the same as mine. ;-)

and, yes women like anal play too

 

[Mtn Rebel]

A lil help for TN_Vixen maybe

No if he allows his GF to use her finger he may not cum but it is very possible the reason is that the prostate gland is located just a couple of inch's up the anal chute. If it is stimulated it can cause him to cum quickly and can increase the intense feelings of the orgasm. The proaste gland has been compared to the clit as far as increasing the orgasm experince for men.

Of course if she thinks talking to him before hand might lead to him refusing to do it. I would suggest iwhile giving him the blowjob include a lil rimming into the play use her tounge down there but make sure he's had a bath before hand. In fact make that part of the whole experience. A bath or shower together is a good way to start out then go from there. While she is sucking him a lil lick here or there moving back and forth letting her fingers play around.

Touching stroking letting him relax slowly get used to a new idea could lead to a very pleasureable experience for both of them. But like anything else if he dose'nt like it and tells her to stop then stop. Of course talking about it afterward don't mean you can't try again.

 

[lobito]

I'm not opposed to her taking it farther, and I've said this many times here. IF my wife wasn't so "old fashioned" sexually, as she tells me, then I'd let her go farther than just her finger. I'd LOVE to have my wife allow me to have anal sex with her, and I'm not opposed to the idea of her strapping one on, to "return the favor". It's only fair in my book, that if I want something from her, IF she would, then I'd like her to do it to me too.

Doesn't make me gay for wanting my wife to fuck my ass, just means I dont' mind "exploring" a little sexually. All men and women should be this way, but sadly alot would NEVER admit it, even if they were.

We do BOTH agree that the orgasms are far better when we are both stimulating the other during "conventional" sex, or oral sex, while having that finger inside of us.

 

[on_the_verge]

The visual aspect of my response.

Oh, that felt so good! It hurt a bit as first, but with a little forplay and some massaging of oils, it was an erotic experience!

 

[Mtn Rebel]

Yes being relaxed is very important. Specially if it is the first time and if so make sure you have enough lube spit if nothing else. Massage oil is good though if you can use it.


Hey on_the_verge nice hand prints on that pic bet that hurt that person though but then again they may like a lil pain/pleasure.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Nice pic

that's pretty hot.

I agree with you lobito. I think it is wonderful that you're so open sexually. Most people repress what they want for fear of being judged negatively by their partner but you're only limiting the amount of pleasure you can give and receive if you do that.

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Now, let's move on to men masturbation. Everyone must tell me exactly how they do it.

I'm one of those women that just totally gets off on watching a man stroke himself. It borders on an obsession for me... c'mon now... share everyone. heh

 

[weathered2]

I've, well, never asked. I just did it. In the middle of the blowjob. Start by pressing the knuckle pretty hard up against the stretch between balls and ass the "tain't" as it were. Then tickled the anus. They normally object at that point and then I know it's off limits. If you ask a guy or talk about it, then he's gotta say no whether he wants to or not. He doesn't wanna be a phag.

Perfect answer, KM. That makes for a very pleasant experience just getting there. You're right, you'll know by then if we like it or not. I don't think it's any secret here anymore what my sentiments are, (ravage me!!).

 

[lobito]

what's better than a fist full of lotion, and a good porno pic/story/video? Not that I do that godawful stuff, that's nasty! I could actually go to hell for that stuff. Oh yeah, I forgot I already am going to hell. Maybe I'll give it ONE try, just to see what it's like.

 

[TN_Vixen]

hey lobito

do you do it with your wife? Does she like to watch you? Would you cum on her face? Straddle her and jerk off right there - make her watch and not let her touch - maybe talk to her while you're doing it?

 

[lobito]

why whatever are you talking about. didn't you read my post? I never admitted to "jacking off".

Does she like to watch me? not particularly.

Would I cum on her face? Not if I want to live a long life, rememebr I said she's "old fashioned" it's hard to get her to alloow/try new things.

Straddle her and jack-off? Haven't so don't know (yet)

Jack-off while talking to her? Well, I've had cyber sex with her once, and it was odd to say the least. (details are not available publicly) She perfers a good fuck, to talking about it, and having a jerk-off session.

It's mainly a thing that's done more when I am alone, than with her.

She has only once masturbated in front of me. And it was hard to get her to do that one time.

 

[on_the_verge]

Oh?

Thanks Vixen & Rebel! I didn't not mind being spanked for being bad, but I guess the punishment was not complete until I felt the cold vegetable slide pass my rim. I used my muscles to squeeze it back out, but I was slapped once more and it was pushed in farther. oh!

As for masturbation; I tend to find myself erect in public, sometimes for no reason at all. I don't wear underwear and the sensation is multiplied by that alone and how I am one fabric away to being exposed. There are various ways I masturbate, but when I finish off, I like to lick and swallow my cum. I agree watching another pleasure themselves is a wonderful experience. I would do it to a strange woman in a crowded place somewhat obscured or in a dark alley as it is raining around us. Other times, I wake up in the middle of the night to discover myself anew or as if a lover, which some in the past have, was touching me in every place over the softness of my flesh.

Does that help a little or do you need a static visual?

 

[damaverick1]

One of my friends is planning on introducing a little finger play with her beau but she didn't quite know how to do it. She doesn't necessarily want to ask outright because men sometimes won't voice something they like if they are embarrased about it but will just go with the flow if it is done in the moment. That led me to wonder just how many men like having the girl insert a finger while giving a blowjob? Did you talk about her doing it or did she just one day do it? Does it really make the guy's orgasm that much more intense?

I'll admit to not assuming the guy wants to have this done... although I find it very erotic and would do anything to intensify my partner's orgasm. But, it is a very delicate subject to bring up. I mean, how do you segue into anal play? heh

As NIKE once said, "Just Do It!" I was introduced to the pleasures of the anus by a beautiful woman and her oh so talented tongue. Next came the fingers...Later, another woman I was dating was so "anal oriented" that the play became more frequent and much more intense. I've never worried about my heterosexuality. I love women and I love sex. Period. And after my "education" by these fine women, I don't mind telling you that if a beautiful woman wants to make love to my ass, be it with her mouth, fingers or toys, she's definitly found herself a willing partner!

 

[Moridin187]

Re: Nice pic

Now, let's move on to men masturbation. Everyone must tell me exactly how they do it.

There's not a whole lot to it really.. up, down, up, down, up, down.. I suppose the only thing I do that might make it "remarkable" at all is that when I've got the time I'll do it for hours on end. Usually I don't know how long I've got in the house alone so it's kind of a "rush job", but if you bring yourself to the verge of climax and stop for a few minutes, then start again.. and you do that five or six or ten times you have one of those wall-shaking, blinding, earth shattering orgasms...