A question for my fellow pervs and pervettes experienced with threesomes....

[begcil]

Okay....
so I have this fantasy of sharing Rican with another girl
but....
Have no idea go to go about it.

The idea of playing with friends kinda freaks me out a bit. It just seems like it would be too easy to become emotionally involved with someone you already know. Don't get me wrong.... I have fantasized about a few of the girls we know, but would never REALLY be comfortable playing with them

I've also thought about us playing with a stranger, but besides the question about where would even find a girl that would be into that, I also worry about diseases and such

sooo.....
although I REALLY want this, I have no idea how to get the ball rolling.

Any advice would be appreciated

Thanks!

B~

 

[blobfish]

Okay....
so I have this fantasy of sharing Rican with another girl
but....
Have no idea go to go about it.

The idea of playing with friends kinda freaks me out a bit. It just seems like it would be too easy to become emotionally involved with someone you already know. Don't get me wrong.... I have fantasized about a few of the girls we know, but would never REALLY be comfortable playing with them

I've also thought about us playing with a stranger, but besides the question about where would even find a girl that would be into that, I also worry about diseases and such

sooo.....
although I REALLY want this, I have no idea how to get the ball rolling.

Any advice would be appreciated

Thanks!

B~

My good deed of the day:

Post this in the How-To section.

 

[hogjack]

You'll get a TON of advice not to do it. Every thread about threesomes ends up 80/20 ratio against opening up relationships to threesomes and moresomes.

Ignore the doubters.

Do it!

 

[Wings]

You'll get a TON of advice not to do it. Every thread about threesomes ends up 80/20 ratio against opening up relationships to threesomes and moresomes.

Ignore the doubters.

Do it!

I like this advice. Been there, done that, it was great fun but it's not for everyone and every relationship.

That being said, lifestyle clubs are the best place to find extras.

 

[CandiCame]

I totally have had threesomes with friends. A stranger would, honestly, scare the hell out of me. You don't know where they've been, you don't know if they're an ax murderer or something, you don't know if they have the AIDS. I've never really had a problem with sleeping with my friends, except I once had a boyfriend who was a little off-put about it because people were talking about having slept with me, and it kind of caused a fight, though I still don't really understand what he was upset about or anything.

As for the emotional attachment thing, that is certainly a concern. It is easy to set yourself up with a crazy stalker that way. In my experience, men tend to kind of fall easier then women. I've had guys wait on my porch for four hours for me to come home, to randomly buy me brand new games and the like, and to get really, really disappointed when no relationship developed. I haven't had those problems with women, really.

I think my best advice is to know your partners. If you know someone, you know how likely they are to form that type of annoying attachment, as well as their sexual history. It's a really good idea to know STD history- I used to pack around my test results in my wallet when I was super sexually active, so I could just whip it out and be like, "Clean as a whistle, sharp as a thistle, best in all Westminster, yeah!". But in all seriousness, I would stay away from strangers. It may be difficult dealing with someone who gets super attached, but as long as you go into it with a clear set of rules, then later you can sit down and have a heart to heart. The whole, "You knew what this was, we talked about it. I really appreciate your friendship, but I'm not looking to talk it to the next level. I love you, as a friend." talk is a lot easier if you established beforehand that you aren't looking for a relationship.

 

[blobfish]

As for the emotional attachment thing, that is certainly a concern. It is easy to set yourself up with a crazy stalker that way. In my experience, men tend to kind of fall easier then women. I've had guys wait on my porch for four hours for me to come home, to randomly buy me brand new games and the like, and to get really, really disappointed when no relationship developed. I haven't had those problems with women, really.

That's because men have to dangle their worm for hours before they get a bite, but when a woman is trawling, fifty fish will just jump right into her boat.

 

[Recidiva]

I second the advice to go for people experienced, join a club, do some research.

Consider it a reset button for your relationship. Beyond this point there be dragons. If you dig dragons, it's cool. But you won't know until you try.

 

[CandiCame]

That's because men have to dangle their worm for hours before they get a bite, but when a woman is trawling, fifty fish will just jump right into her boat.

I also think that it's because we live in the bible belt, and you can't advertise yourself somuch for men as you can for women, because it's a good way to get all hate-crimed. If you aren't a really faggy guy, and I tend not to go for really faggy guys, you can't really advertise the fact that you're looking for a man. Everyone is closeted. So when you find one, you have a hard time letting go.

 

[blobfish]

I also think that it's because we live in the bible belt, and you can't advertise yourself somuch for men as you can for women, because it's a good way to get all hate-crimed. If you aren't a really faggy guy, and I tend not to go for really faggy guys, you can't really advertise the fact that you're looking for a man. Everyone is closeted. So when you find one, you have a hard time letting go.

That's true just about everywhere except the cities. I think Europe has more gays, though.

 

[CandiCame]

That's true just about everywhere except the cities. I think Europe has more gays, though.

Well, there are a lot of places more gay-friendly then fucking Appalachia. That's for damn sure. Don't know if you'd have to cross an ocean or not to find them. Bar's set pretty damn low, you know?

 

[blobfish]

Well, there are a lot of places more gay-friendly then fucking Appalachia. That's for damn sure. Don't know if you'd have to cross an ocean or not to find them. Bar's set pretty damn low, you know?

Yeah, but at least it's not Saudi Arabia. Iran doesn't have any homosexuals.

 

[CandiCame]

Yeah, but at least it's not Saudi Arabia. Iran doesn't have any homosexuals.

Yeah, when the gay sex is punishable by death, I just kinda don't want to live on this planet anymore. Of course, there's a lot about that place I don't like. I mean, when the US, home of factory farming and the civilized world's largest number of child abuse and neglect cases can call your ass out on something- you done fucked up. You fucked up so bad that we know that you fucked up.

 

[blobfish]

Yeah, when the gay sex is punishable by death, I just kinda don't want to live on this planet anymore. Of course, there's a lot about that place I don't like. I mean, when the US, home of factory farming and the civilized world's largest number of child abuse and neglect cases can call your ass out on something- you done fucked up. You fucked up so bad that we know that you fucked up.

They put an ad in the paper that called on all homosexuals to report to the magistrate to get stoned. That's how they found them.

 

[run_silent]

It's dangerous ground for people you know. If it works you have a fuck buddy for life. If it doesn't you lose a friend forever.

 

[bronzeage]

It's great. The bad stuff happens later.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I second the advice to go for people experienced, join a club, do some research.

Consider it a reset button for your relationship. Beyond this point there be dragons. If you dig dragons, it's cool. But you won't know until you try.

Speaking of digging dragons, y'think Anne McCaffrey ever got into threesomes?

 

[Bert Notorius]

what the hell is a rican?

 

[warrior queen]

It's dangerous ground for people you know. If it works you have a fuck buddy for life. If it doesn't you lose a friend forever.

We've been incredibly lucky - those that have shared with us have all stayed good friends.
That being said, I do know several people that have gone the 3-some route and ended up divorced, mostly through jealousy issues but a few because the guilt got to them.
It's a big step to take, and you need to think long and hard before you take it.

 

[angelique127]

i love every inch of your thread !!!!!!!

 

[BabblingBrooke]

i love every inch of your thread !!!!!!!

I'm always curious how folks find these threads. Did you do a search for "threesomes"? "Pervettes"?

The OP hasn't posted for a couple of years, so she won't see your compliment. I don't know how proud she was of the length of her thread, anyway.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I'm always curious how folks find these threads. Did you do a search for "threesomes"? "Pervettes"?

The OP hasn't posted for a couple of years, so she won't see your compliment. I don't know how proud she was of the length of her thread, anyway.

It is funny, maybe they do a search or whatever, but...sometimes it may be a good thing to peek into how we posted way back in the day. This one is a good bump.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

It is funny, maybe they do a search or whatever, but...sometimes it may be a good thing to peek into how we posted way back in the day. This one is a good bump.

Oh, I love reading the old threads and typically do when they're bumped. My attention span doesn't handle the 20+ page ones well, so unless they're classic oft-referred to drama, I give up on those after a few pages.

 

[Rightguide]

One or two of the three will conspire against another. Always.

 

[chillywilly2]

It didn't work out so well for Riles but there may have been other issues there too

 

[pointless]

One or two of the three will conspire against another. Always.

you certainly are a broken, paranoid little fascist, aren't you?