25 years...and grinding my teeth.

[Sensua]

Soon I will be "celebrating" the 25th aniversary of my wedding to...you probably know who.

Anyway, I find myself planning our anniversary alone...wondering what there is to celebrate.

Anyone else made it to 25 years? What did you do that was special? Did you really feel like a celebration was in order?

And yet, 25 yrs is a long time....and the next milestone is further away. Shouldn't I feel honored?

Still...our kids are barely in their teens...and that is hardship enough. Is that the real reason for my malaise?

 

[Sensua]

No really....this was pointless. And I don't even feel better.

 

[QuickDuck]

i made a 25th (and 30th) birthday, but thats the closest I can come

a to maybe help you feel a little better, and perhaps, get a little smile.

 

[Sensua]

You all are very wise.


This thread has the stink of UNHAPPY WITH HER MAN, at the moment. And it is probably very wise to steer clear. *grins* Wise indeed!

 

[Sensua]

i made a 25th (and 30th) birthday, but thats the closest I can come

a to maybe help you feel a little better, and perhaps, get a little smile.

Thank you. I do appreciate the attempt to make me smile. It did work. *smile*

 

[BlueDaisy]

Soon I will be "celebrating" the 25th aniversary of my wedding to...you probably know who.

Anyway, I find myself planning our anniversary alone...wondering what there is to celebrate.

Anyone else made it to 25 years? What did you do that was special? Did you really feel like a celebration was in order?

And yet, 25 yrs is a long time....and the next milestone is further away. Shouldn't I feel honored?

Still...our kids are barely in their teens...and that is hardship enough. Is that the real reason for my malaise?

I'm sorry. And I certainly can understand the teenagers. We have 17 year old twin girls.

Haven't been married for 25 years yet, and may not see 20. We have our 19th on the 17th.

Hope you feel better....

 

[Willing and Unsure]

we went out to dinner wiht my parents. just me, my sister, my nephew and them. it was a nice night out. and my parents said before that they would prefer to just go out to dinner instead of having some kind of party.

 

[Sensua]

Re: Re: 25 years...and grinding my teeth.

I'm sorry. And I certainly can understand the teenagers. We have 17 year old twin girls.

Haven't been married for 25 years yet, and may not see 20. We have our 19th on the 17th.

Hope you feel better....

Thanks. I will feel beter. It can't continue this way, really.

Sometmes life gets in the way of love.

 

[BlueDaisy]

Re: Re: Re: 25 years...and grinding my teeth.

Thanks. I will feel beter. It can't continue this way, really.

Sometmes life gets in the way of love.

YW. If you want to talk, PM me. I've got good ears. Or should I say, eyes.

 

[Sensua]

we went out to dinner wiht my parents. just me, my sister, my nephew and them. it was a nice night out. and my parents said before that they would prefer to just go out to dinner instead of having some kind of party.

We did that last night for the "birthday" celebration. Very nice "fancy" restaurant. Good opportunity to teach the boys which forks to use, when. Why there were three glasses each on the table. How to tell which bread plate is your, etc.

Our anniversary will be an opportunity to leave the kids behind. They are too young to prepare a celebration for us.

 

[Sensua]

Re: Re: Re: Re: 25 years...and grinding my teeth.

YW. If you want to talk, PM me. I've got good ears. Or should I say, eyes.

That is a generous offer, and thank YOU. Truely I appreaciate the thought!

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Re: Re: Re: 25 years...and grinding my teeth.

Thanks. I will feel beter. It can't continue this way, really.

Sometmes life gets in the way of love.

okay, so I totally missed something when I read through this thread before. from listening to my mom's stories of her past with my dad, you can get through it all as long as you want to. not too long after my parents got married (my sister was about 6 months old), she thought of leaving my dad, since they didnt really have anything, and the only thing that got her to stay was Gloria Gaynor's I Will Survive. so, if you ask me... you will survive too.


*hugs*

 

[Sensua]

Thanks W/U. I wish this was a really about how to celebrate. I'm afraids it's more about whether celebrating is in order. I love that song...and I will think of it often.

 

[morninggirl5]

Re: Re: Re: 25 years...and grinding my teeth.

Thanks. I will feel beter. It can't continue this way, really.

Sometmes life gets in the way of love.

That statement makes me think that you're still in love, but life keeps intruding and making things hard.

So, celebrate your love and forget about life for your anniversary. Don't worry about planning anything except for the two of you. Take some time as a couple and enjoy. Leave the worries at home, check into a motel for the night or the weekend and get away from being Mom and Dad, brother, sister, whatever, just enjoy being two people who love each other.


Just my 2 cents.


Congratulations on making it 25 years.

 

[BlueDaisy]

I certainly understand about life getting in the way.

My motto these days is "Life Sucks Then You Die...If You're Lucky".

We have had literally nothing but stress from the day our twins were born in Jan. 1986. One twin was born with cleft lip/palate...surgeries and feeding problems. The other was FINALLY diagnosed as bipolar at age 12 (DUH! I tried to tell the docs for years that she was a "Jekyll-Hyde" type). Son was born with severe renal/urinary problems (had a procedure done while in the womb, 4 times), has had 4 surgeries since birth and will most likely need a transplant some time in the future.

I put on lots of weight from stress eating; that has hurt our marriage because hubby has a hard time dealing with it. We have drifted so far apart that we are more like roommates than spouses.

But I guess I shouldn't complain too much; I know there are people who are worse off than we are.

 

[BlueDaisy]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: 25 years...and grinding my teeth.

That is a generous offer, and thank YOU. Truely I appreaciate the thought!

You're welcome, and I am serious about the offer of my eyes/ears. I'll be going to bed before long, but I'm on a lot. LOL!