❓ PLP Inquires❓

[AveryElle]

01.12.20

(Submitted!)

Would you rather be a little fish in a big pond or a big fish in a little pond? Or somewhere in between?

little fish, big pond. I like the anonymity. That brings with it a lot of freedom.

 

[hotwords229_A]

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

The first real porn I experienced was a Hustler magazine. I remember one photo in particular: a well lit, extreme close-up of a big veiny dick about to penetrate an open and ready vagina. Everything was visible and being spread open by her fingers. I remember sweating and feeling my heart pounding (and not in a good way) I really had no idea what I was looking at and, honestly, I wasn't even sure that's what it should look like. I was concerned that she was actually injured and this was some weird-ass "snuff" type thing. I'm not even kidding, I was actually concerned about what I was seeing.

I closed the magazine and sat at the edge of my bed, unsure of what to do or think. I was almost repulsed, but then the strangest thing happened. I started to get hard--like REALLY, STEALY hard. And I decided to take another look. And just like that I became awestruck. It was the weirdest thing; I went from "Holy fuck, what am I supposed to do with that?" to quite literally falling in love (or possibly lust).

I envied that huge, throbbing cock as it was about to explore the inner workings of that woman's body and I wanted in. I wanted in BAD!!!

How did all of that affect me? I'm not sure exactly, but I think there is something there about my impression of women. I don't always get them, they're scary and complex, but I love how sensitive, tender, life giving, flexible and strong they can be, just like a vulva. I know that sounds kind of stupid, but seriously, there is a primal desire that I cannot deny. The pussy is an amazing thing.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

It wasn't porn, exactly, but one of the happiest days of my life was coming home from middle school and finding that our neighbor's Victoria's Secret catalog had gotten mixed in with our mail. To this day nothing turns me on more than a pair of long legs in black stockings, a la Stephanie Seymour circa 1993.

 

[Apisto42]

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

Wow, this takes me back. I was super young the first time I saw a stroke magazine. I was hanging out with my older brother and a couple of his friends in one of their backyards and one of the guys had one. I think the image that sticks out the most (y’all are a bunch of pervs), was a woman leaning over and spreading her ass cheeks.

I was way too young to get turned on, but I knew that this was exciting.

So yeah, that image probably did something to my brain. I do enjoy a nice ass shot.

 

[Sexybritches69]

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

I’d visit my dad on the weekends. He had Penthouse magazines galore. He also had movies on VHS tapes. When he wasn’t there, I’d watch the movies. I’d make a note of where in the tape it started so that I could rewind it right to the same place so I wouldn’t get noticed. I remember being fascinated.

One time, I had a friend over, and when my dad wasn’t there, I put one of the movies on to show her. She was disgusted. I was shocked that she thought it was gross and then I felt embarrassed, and maybe that there was something wrong with me for thinking these movies were great.

I don’t know that it shaped my ideas about sex, but it was an example of times when I noticed my views on things of a sexual nature being different than what others thought.

 

[hotwords229_A]

^^^ I'm sure your friend was intrigued (and possibly aroused) by it, but didn't know how to handle it, so she feigned disgust. It's one of the sucky things about sexual discovery that we look to other people for opinions for how we should feel.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

That is an interesting question. Do I think it affected my kinks or attractions? No, probably not, but do I think it affected me, maybe in as I am not uncomfortable or offended by it as many women are. It has always been there, hanging out, laying around. However, my early experiences with pornography were primarily its use as fodder for humor. Both due to the material itself and the reaction of others, most notably certain types of women, when exposed. As such, I probably don't porn correctly, as I almost expect a porn movie to be funny. Being from a time of ridiculously dumbass plots and amazingly poor acting, I question those who don't see 70s and 80s porn movies as at least a little funny. When I saw a new Playboy magazine, it was awesome because of the jokes on the back of the centerfold, the Raw Data section, and oh the Playboy Advisor. Granted, the letters to Penthouse section was way more humorous than the Playboy letters. I swear tripping college boys wrote 98% of them. How could someone and a friend not find something to joke about in there.

There is a correlation between pornography and humor for me. I was much more likely to find the monthly excerpt of an erotic story in my mom's cosmo actually a turn on than the more blatant pornography. So I guess maybe my first experiences with porn contributed to me having the sense of humor of a teenage boy, appreciating that in others, and preferring to spend time with those who can find amusement in that type of humor. Though, I still think I'd have found a lot of that shit funny minus my early experiences.

 

[RcyMtnGrl]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

Without a doubt an introvert. That doesn’t mean I can’t/don’t have to fight against that at times for various reasons, but I definitely need quiet me time everyday.

01.12.20

(Submitted!)

Would you rather be a little fish in a big pond or a big fish in a little pond? Or somewhere in between?

Little fish, bigger pond. I’m already seeking opportunities to challenge myself and grow.

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

I was 6 or so when I discovered a Penthouse magazine behind my parents headboard. There was a series of pictures involving a woman and two men. Having grown up on a farm, I had watched enough mammalian reproduction to have the general idea that to make babies involved his penis in her vagina; but I had no idea why she would be putting it in her mouth! I was completely disgusted and repulsed; but also very curious about it. I also remember thinking how beautiful she was, especially in contrast to the two men, she was soft and curved, they were hard (no pun intended) and angular.

I also remember thinking she looked like she was enjoying it a lot more than any of the animals I’d watched reproduce! I even asked my Mom if people making babies was the same as animals. She gave me a fluffy “making love” answer.

As an orally fixated bisexual, it definitely had an affect on me!! I frequently went back to look through any new magazines too, and I think that contributes to my open curiosity and desire to always try new things now.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Quick sidebar: approximately eleven hours after I wrote my story above it occurred to me that I spelled the word "steely" wrong. How does that happen? Was my subconscious holding onto that through the entire night? It's not like I came back, reread it and saw my error. I was in the middle of something else and it just popped into my head.

Weird!

 

[AngelicaS1780]

01.15.20
How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

First experiences (circa 1980) were with my best friend's dad's Playboy and Penthouse magazines. She showed me his stash shortly after she'd discovered it down in their basement. We spent hours looking through them, whenever we got the chance, until we got caught by my friend's mom.

Those images definitely affected my sexual identity. Not only was I aroused by and attracted to the women...and men...portrayed there, I wanted to be one of those women. Beautiful enough to be naked in a magazine. Confident enough to do something that many would consider taboo. Excited by the idea of people seeing me like that and desiring me. It cemented what I had always suspected about my bisexuality (now pansexuality). It's also no surprise that I enjoy posting in AmPics. I have fantasies of watching and being watched. If there was a negative affect, it was probably that, at times, I put a bit too much stock in sexual desirability as a measure of my personal worth or power.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.20.20

I may have already asked this but... oh well!


What's the best compliment to receive from someone? And does it matter who it comes from?

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

01.20.20

I may have already asked this but... oh well!


What's the best compliment to receive from someone? And does it matter who it comes from?

That I have the best coc...

Wait. That doesn't happen...lol

The best compliment ever to me is when someone says that I'm kind to others. The world needs more of that.

Of course it matters who says it. If I value your opinion then it means more. If you're a fuckhead, you thinking I'm kind is meaningless.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.20.20

I may have already asked this but... oh well!


What's the best compliment to receive from someone? And does it matter who it comes from?

1. When someone says "I'm proud of you." Either way. Because they know something I did and are proud or are just proud to be with me. Yep. Melts me.

2. Any 3rd hand compliment. To know someone was saying something kind about you for no other reason than that's how they feel? Amazeballs.

 

[AlpineFresco]

01.20.20

I may have already asked this but... oh well!


What's the best compliment to receive from someone? And does it matter who it comes from?

It depends on who it from, and on how I'm feeling. Broadly speaking, a compliment on something I've done is better than on something I just am. And the better someone knows me, the more meaningful this is.
That said, from a partner those physical compliments tell me something about why they physically like me, and that feels very important every now and then.

From a friend? To hear I'm a good friend. From a colleague? To hear they value our working relationship, both in technical terms of what I do and in terms of how I am to work with.

I think 'best' here very much varies for me, but looking at what I've already written I guess the common thread is being told that I add something positive to whatever the relationship is, and being explicit about what it is that I add. I feel good when I hear that.

 

[AveryElle]

When someone compliments me on my brain, or the way I think, it really sends me.
Yes. If they are smarter than me, it means a lot more.

You have the biggest abrain

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

 

[Stillstiff]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

I keep coming back for the people who are here. For some this is the only contact I have with them.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

I've been asking myself more and more.
I have friends here - amazing, wonderful, supportive, smart friends. But we have several ways of staying in contact. This is a public place to be with someone I care about. Sometimes the closest I think we'll get to a friendly stroll down the sidewalk.

But there are days when I think it's best to fade away. I'm not sure what I bring anymore and even people who are part of my daily life would be okay soon enough. This sounds so melodramatic but it's an internal struggle I have a lot. I feel like I have to bring constant value to a relationship or else - what's the point of me? And that's sort of how I feel about Lit. I'm not sure where my value lies sometimes.

So the crossroads, either do the fade or double down and try to bring something entertaining. We shall see.

Also I stay for the sexy gifs if that got too dark!

 

[AngelicaS1780]

01.25.20
This may be a bit biased towards older members but...
We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

The friends that I have made, and continue to make, bring me back...some of whom I only interact with here. I appreciate the opportunities to be curious, silly, serious, flirty, and/or creative with like-minded people that I don't necessarily have elsewhere...at least not in the context of sexuality and eroticism, which have always been topics of great interest to me on many levels. I also continue to find...inspiration here.

I feel like I have to bring constant value to a relationship or else - what's the point of me? And that's sort of how I feel about Lit. I'm not sure where my value lies sometimes.
So the crossroads, either do the fade or double down and try to bring something entertaining. We shall see.
Also I stay for the sexy gifs if that got too dark!

The point of you??? To enjoy your life and whatever you choose to do with it while treating other people how you would want to be treated. Your value lies in who you are, not what you do. It's not your job to entertain us. I think you bring a lot of value to Lit, regardless of how active you are in creating experiences for yourself and others. Don't get me wrong, I love many of your threads, but that is because you are curious and reflective and creative and you inspire those qualities in me. Participate as much or as little as you wish, your presence here will always have value to me.

And sexy gifs...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

The point of you??? To enjoy your life and whatever you choose to do with it while treating other people how you would want to be treated. Your value lies in who you are, not what you do. It's not your job to entertain us. I think you bring a lot of value to Lit, regardless of how active you are in creating experiences for yourself and others. Don't get me wrong, I love many of your threads, but that is because you are curious and reflective and creative and you inspire those qualities in me. Participate as much or as little as you wish, your presence here will always have value to me.

And sexy gifs...

Thank you, lovely. Objectively, I know you're right. It's just always something I've struggled agaisnt and something I feel spotlighted a lot here. The transactional nature of relationships and always feeling like you had to be constantly earning - welcome to my therapy.

But you know I think you're absolutely wonderful and I appreciate you so much.

 

[Mei5ter]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

Brief answer? You.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

Occasionally I'll pop into the threads to see if anything interesting's going on. But a lot of them just feel less fun these days. I don't know if it's just me getting older or if I'm just getting tired of repetitive conversations, but with a few exceptions (like this one!), the forums don't do much for me anymore.

I did make a couple friends on this site who I talk to regularly. They're the biggest reason I keep coming back. I check in every day, or nearly every day. Without them I'd probably be on once a week, if that.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

The people. First and foremost. I have made (and lost a few times, much to my intense regret) incredible friendships here over the years.

The conversations I can have here than just aren't there in real life, like the Kinks We Don't Understand threads just as one example.

...I've left twice. Most of you know that.

I don't regret having left either time, because in the moment it was the right decision for me. This place wasn't good or healthy for me at those times...and I couldn't trust myself to stay away.

So I tried cold turkey.

Well....that didn't work. I came back, obviously, with a fiery new name...but the personal understanding now that I don't need to be here. I want to be, because there are amazing and smart and witty people here. But I don't need a website to be content in myself.

I made some changes to how I Lit. I don't venture out of the PG much anymore. I have a hyper-itchy Ignore trigger now. I don't post pictures of myself anymore, 'cause frankly no one cared about those but me anyway so that's a net positive for the decor around here. The LogOut button actually gets used.

I also no longer make the mistake of thinking people actually give a fuck what I have to say, or how I feel about 99% of things.

In short, this place feels a little like home. But a home I'm far more willing to venture from than I used to be because I cultivate my experience more.

/endramble

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

01.25.20

This may be a bit biased towards older members but...

We've all discussed what brought us to Lit BUT why are you still here? What keeps you or brings you back?

My answer could be different on different days, but today it is because I really enjoy the easy thrill that I can squeeze in with not a lot of time or effort, in a rather low risk way. Besides, it is less expensive than shopping and I only have room to store so many purses.

As for why Lit specifically, I have never been a member of an adult/erotic based community before. I had never really considered it before, so partially because this is the only experience I have with this type of community. All the other communities that I am a member of are interest or lifestyle based as well, but crafting and mom groups don't have quite the same level of sexuality, eroticism, and perversion as I enjoy here. I did decide to explore other adult forums one day, as I have no experience, so wanted to just get an idea of what was out there besides Lit. What I found were places that were mirror images of the GB, and places where every "female" I could find was a pro looking to drive cam business, a bot, or just men poorly pretending to be female. Oh and the ads, so many ads, and so poorly marketed too. Like every other site known to man has me nailed and always shows something I might actually spend money on, but an adult sites whether forums or just my typical porn viewing keep trying to sell me college coed videos, penis pumps, and herbs for my erection.

The point is, I saw nowhere else that would seem remotely welcoming to an actual female member who wasn't trying to make money by saying everything you want to hear. No, I don't want to insult your ex girlfriend, no I don't want to be punished, no I don't want to talk about what I'd do to your imaginary pregnant call girl wife. Thanks. So, yes, I come to Lit because it is more exciting then comparing my kids artwork to yours or trading craft svgs, and I come to Lit because it has nice normal pervy guys and some actual female members, not just men who are completely creeptastic.

 

[Mei5ter]

My answer could be different on different days, but today it is because I really enjoy the easy thrill that I can squeeze in with not a lot of time or effort, in a rather low risk way. Besides, it is less expensive than shopping and I only have room to store so many purses.

As for why Lit specifically, I have never been a member of an adult/erotic based community before. I had never really considered it before, so partially because this is the only experience I have with this type of community. All the other communities that I am a member of are interest or lifestyle based as well, but crafting and mom groups don't have quite the same level of sexuality, eroticism, and perversion as I enjoy here. I did decide to explore other adult forums one day, as I have no experience, so wanted to just get an idea of what was out there besides Lit. What I found were places that were mirror images of the GB, and places where every "female" I could find was a pro looking to drive cam business, a bot, or just men poorly pretending to be female. Oh and the ads, so many ads, and so poorly marketed too. Like every other site known to man has me nailed and always shows something I might actually spend money on, but an adult sites whether forums or just my typical porn viewing keep trying to sell me college coed videos, penis pumps, and herbs for my erection.

The point is, I saw nowhere else that would seem remotely welcoming to an actual female member who wasn't trying to make money by saying everything you want to hear. No, I don't want to insult your ex girlfriend, no I don't want to be punished, no I don't want to talk about what I'd do to your imaginary pregnant call girl wife. Thanks. So, yes, I come to Lit because it is more exciting then comparing my kids artwork to yours or trading craft svgs, and I come to Lit because it has nice normal pervy guys and some actual female members, not just men who are completely creeptastic.

While almost all of this resonates with me, as well as making me smile, I'll just say that everything I know about baking and icing cupcakes I learned on an amateur porn site. And Cricut machines.