❓ PLP Inquires❓

[LurkingPhoenix]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

I am deeply introverted. Like, I'd rather shoot myself in the scrotum with a nail gun rather than make small talk at parties or at company functions kind of introverted. I am awkward and self-conscious to a fault.

...until I get comfortable with you. Then I don't shut up until I'm told I need to. Which happens more than I'd like to admit.

...or here. Because not of y'all can see me, and I can't feel your eyes judging me as you read the inanity that I share with the Lit world writ large.

But mostly I'd rather curl into a ball in a corner than talk to anyone.

 

[BadAmy]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

Um. Extra-vert.
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[TTawhere]

Um. Extra-vert.
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Thought you were a Dino-vert?

 

[BadAmy]

I am some sort of 'vert'

Purrrrrr.......

 

[Sexybritches69]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

I’m an extrovert in person. I’m comfortable striking up conversations with people, and I get energy by socializing. I like some time alone too, but for the most part, I’m definitely a people person. But on Lit, I am becoming more reserved and introverted. It’s hard to get to know people on more than a casual basis. I stick to a couple of threads where I know people a little better. I’ve definitely settled down after having been here a little while.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

I'm an ambivert, i swing both ways.

Publically and professionally, I'm an extrovert. I work with people all day and i love it. Mostly. . If i bump into you on the street, i will hug you (or shake your hand) and genuinely want to know how you are, even if we hardly know each other.

Personally, I'm much more introverted. I like my privacy and i need my space. I do best with a small group of friends with whom i maintain contact sporadically. Being a single mom with a buncha kids eats up most of my relational energy. The only non-relative with whom i maintain regular contact is my partner.

 

[AveryElle]

BLUF: same as Honey.

I’m an extroverted introvert. In certain situations, I’m gregarious and out there. Alpine bites that it seems natural for me - work or socially. But I’m not comfortable. I much, much prefer a small group or staying home. I don’t generally enjoy being with people aside from a partner or spouse. And my kid! Curing up on the sofa with my dog and food tv is my ideal free time.

That said, it’s not helpful to do that. So I act the part.

I’ve worked in enough different settings with diverse groups of people to know it gets easier to put yourself out there, even if I’m not comfortable.

 

[Dribble]

Introvert.

Ask those that know me irl, and they would be surprised I answered that way. But they dont really know me. I could easily act.

I was an only child. I learned to play in my head. I dont always play well with others. I trust in me...but little else. Little happens that i dont catch. I am a tightly wound spring, always thinking 4 steps ahead of where i am.

Some think that would suck. It can. But I understand it. I am comfortable with it. Where once, it would interfere with my life, it no longer has the control it once had. Maybe I am just getting old and stopped trying to be someone I wasnt?

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Way behind

12.26.19

Before we look forward, let's look back.

What's been the most significant thing that happened in 2019 for you? What about your country?

For me? My decision to retire in 2020. For my country? The federal election that ended in a hung parliament. No, that doesn't mean parliament has a big dick. It means endless gridlock.

12.31.19

Alright we have to do it!

Do you have any New Year's resolutions? Is there something you want to make happen this year? Something you want to stop doing or change? Any special projects for personal growth this year?

Or do you think resolutions are dumb?

1. ACTUALLY retire this time.

2. Get to the gym on a regular basis

3. Single-handedly (well, I guess double-handedly, er together) raise the national average for number of orgasms for couples over 60.

4. Resolutions are noble, but the average person abandons his or her resolutions on about 23JAN.

12.05.20

What genre of Lit story is under serviced? Is there something you wish more people wrote about? Or something you wish less people wrote about?

The comment above about "Mature". Not every person over 50 is a perv looking for a twenty-something. We actually fuck each other. Ray Charles sang about a Woman who could make love in 3/4 time. That, but with some rope and a bit of leather. (Oh don't be so shocked. Kink is for life.)

Which leads to BDSM with an emphasis on the B once in a while.

Stories about group sex that at least seem plausible.

A total ban on anyone quoting an alphanumeric bra size who doesn't own one, because I am tired of mythical 48DDD breasts in stories. Its a total turnoff, and I stop reading at that point. Learn to write a description that conjures an image. Similes are your friend. Try: "She dropped her bra, releasing her round firm breasts. They jiggled briefly. She sighed, happy to be free. Her nipples stood erect, two dark brown erasers above the cantaloupe sized alabaster orbs " I bet you know how big they are and the shape without me quoting dimensions.

Anal scenes written by someone who has actually done anal. I cringe every time I read about a guy ramming his un-lubricated dick in some person's poor ass. That's not fun. This is supposed to be fun.

Oh, yeah, "real sex". A kiss: long and slow or passionate verging on violent. Get 'em naked. Don't forget a condom now and then. Lubricant, foreplay, afterglow / after care. The metaphorical cigarette. Round two...

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

Yes.

At work, I am an extrovert. I mentor a small group of young engineers, and that puts me out there. I run meetings and seminars. I have appeared in corporate videos. I have (more than once) tracked down a senior executive to deliver bad news or ask directly for something. When I was a youth group leader I once ran a campfire for 14,000 people.

At home, I am a total introvert. My hobbies are writing (alone), wood working (Jesus was a carpenter because it gave him time to think). reading (alone) and gardening (I do talk to the plants but typically THAT brings out the extrovert and I yell at them to shape up or they are compost).

Porn? No that's not a hobby; that's research.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

Definitely an introvert. I have a very people-oriented job so I often have to retreat to my office to recharge after periods of socializing. If I get stuck at a social gathering for hours on end I start getting very antsy. There's only a very small handful of people I'm comfortable spending prolonged periods of time with, and even with them, the occasional silent gap in the conversation is usually appreciated.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

01.07.20
Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

Definitely an introvert. While I enjoy social interactions, I need my space to be able to retreat and recharge. I can enjoy giving a presentation or performing in front of a large group of people, because I know what I am going to say. I know my role and my lines. Situations that require making small talk with people I don't know are much more anxiety provoking. It doesn't come naturally to me. I can do it when necessary and, sometimes, may even enjoy it, but it doesn't energize me.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

I think I'm naturally an extrovert. I like people and crowds don't strain me. I find spending time with other invigorating.

But.

I also need a fair amount of alone time too. Just quiet time for me. It helps me sort out the file cabinet that is my brain. But too much alone time makes me feel blue.

TLDR - I'm weird.

 

[Mei5ter]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

Back when I was at college I would occasionally - of all things - do Tarot readings. For girls. Not that I believed a word of it then or now, but it could be fun. And....girls.

In every case, bar none, I'd end up telling her, "There are times when you are the life and soul of the party and light up the room for everyone. But then there are other times when you need to be alone with your thoughts."

I suppose the only surprising thing is that everyone thought that only applied to them. Pretty much everyone is a mix. Not all, but pretty much.

 

[AveryElle]

In every case, bar none, I'd end up telling her, "There are times when you are the life and soul of the party and light up the room for everyone. But then there are other times when you need to be alone with your thoughts."

”There are times when you are the life and soul of the party and light up the room for everyone. This is not one of those times”

 

[Mei5ter]

”There are times when you are the life and soul of the party and light up the room for everyone. This is not one of those times”

Thank you. This comment reminds me that I am, in fact, extremely comfortable with my own company.

 

[Ezeerider]

I'll bet you'll be surprised

There's a very interesting and enlightening book on the intro/extro controversy, that was actually a best seller a few years back, and if you haven't read it yet, I'll bet you'll be surprised by what you discover about yourself, those close to you, and also the nature of your workplace and those who inhabit it. I know I was. I was completely wrong about myself. And that's always fun to discover, right?

The book is "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking," and it's by Susan Cain. I guarantee you'll be amazed by some of the things you'll find out by reading it.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

There's a very interesting and enlightening book on the intro/extro controversy, that was actually a best seller a few years back, and if you haven't read it yet, I'll bet you'll be surprised by what you discover about yourself, those close to you, and also the nature of your workplace and those who inhabit it. I know I was. I was completely wrong about myself. And that's always fun to discover, right?

The book is "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking," and it's by Susan Cain. I guarantee you'll be amazed by some of the things you'll find out by reading it.

Well recommended!

I'm introverted. I have to function as an extrovert in much of my life, but given the actual purpose of introversion and extroversion I'm an INFJ specifically.
I've done a lot of work in the last year understanding how it affects a lot of aspects of my life as far as information gathering and processing. It explained a lot of the pieces of my personality and preferences that hereto hadnt made a lot of sense.

 

[Sexybritches69]

There's a very interesting and enlightening book on the intro/extro controversy, that was actually a best seller a few years back, and if you haven't read it yet, I'll bet you'll be surprised by what you discover about yourself, those close to you, and also the nature of your workplace and those who inhabit it. I know I was. I was completely wrong about myself. And that's always fun to discover, right?

The book is "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking," and it's by Susan Cain. I guarantee you'll be amazed by some of the things you'll find out by reading it.

My book club read this book. It was very interesting, especially as an extrovert. It made me see things from a different perspective. A good read.

 

[Dribble]

Added to my buy list...I got too many I never get to...but in case life changes and gives me more time...I will have it

 

[Glazedcorneas]

01.07.20

Are you an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere between? How does that affect your day to day life?

I would most definitely say I’m an introvert, however, my career requires me to be an extrovert, which I recall stressing out as I graduated colleague that I knew I would need to learn to be an extrovert if I expected to have a decent career. That being said, this may sound contradictory to my first statement, but I love being an extrovert at times, it minimized a lot of missed opportunities I experienced because I’m an introvert, which I also enjoy being.. hope I make some sense... It’s like a Dr, Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing..

When I used to drink ( not get obliterated) that extrovert persona that lied dormant inside me would fly out of me like a bat out of hell and would be the life of the party, which would confuse so many people who would meet me sober and not recognize me or believe the how extremely different I am. I think I just have more of a tolerance for small talk when I was buzzed then I do sober... I’m now rambling... sorry.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.12.20

(Submitted!)

Would you rather be a little fish in a big pond or a big fish in a little pond? Or somewhere in between?

 

[Xerxes82]

01.12.20

(Submitted!)

Would you rather be a little fish in a big pond or a big fish in a little pond? Or somewhere in between?

I'm not sure I'm well suited for pond living. Can I just have a nice quiet fishbowl in the corner? Or maybe a tank with a few decent neighbors? And a turtle!

In a more serious answer, little fish. Don't care about the size of the pond particularly. Bigger just means more places to hide from the limelight. I just want to go about my business and be more or less left be. You flashy types can have the lights and the marquee.

I just need a few kind souls to remember I was here after I'm gone and that's good enough for me.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

01.12.20

(Submitted!)

Would you rather be a little fish in a big pond or a big fish in a little pond? Or somewhere in between?

A mixture of both. The little fish that always stays out in the big pond usually gets eaten. However, the little pond isn't best either. FIsh are indeterminate growers and if given the opportunity, will continue to grow their entire life. Problem is the big fish in the little pond often gets stunted as it no longer has the resources for him to progress, to thrive, to grow. He will never reach his potential. The most successful fish knows how to get to that small vernal pond or hidden cove, where he can be the big fish, and rest, and relax, but he also knows how and when to go back out to the big pond to get what he needs to grow and thrive. He might even be the big fish on the big pond one day. I like that fish.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.15.20

How do you think your first experiences with porn affected you, your kinks, or attractions? Do you think it affected you at all?

 

[AlpineFresco]

01.12.20

(Submitted!)

Would you rather be a little fish in a big pond or a big fish in a little pond? Or somewhere in between?

Little fish, big pond - room to grow, and meet more people who can show me how to do whatever it is I do a little better. That way, I can become a somewhat bigger fish.
Whatever the ability in question might be, if I'm the biggest in the pond I need to be looking for a bigger pond.