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[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.22.19

Have you ever passed up the chance to try a fantasy irl because you were worried reality wouldn't compare? Are there fantasies that you prefer to keep just that? What determines where you keep the boundaries between fantasy v reality?

I've never had the chance to try my current fantasies in concrete terms. I can say with 99% certainty I wouldn't pass it up. Anything I fantasize about is something I want to try irl though. The only things I tend to skip over are the real life things that we'd have to work around. (i.e. no I can't spend 30 minutes on my knees. I'm an elderly 35!)
There are somethings that I'm still not sure of or I don't want to share because they wouldn't do anything within our relationship. And that's fine. I have enough unrealized fantasies to be going on with...

I think something I've learned since being on Lit is that fantasies are good enough for some people. They just want a fantasy factory to help them rub one out. And I'm no better. I've been there. But there is something much different when fantasies have an actual face and are an actual person.

I'm not sure that makes sense but I hope so.

 

[Xerxes82]

11.22.19

Have you ever passed up the chance to try a fantasy irl because you were worried reality wouldn't compare? Are there fantasies that you prefer to keep just that? What determines where you keep the boundaries between fantasy v reality?

No, I have never passed up a chance for that reason. For other reasons, sure. But, like another poster or two, I pretty much just assume any partner is disappointed. At pretty much every juncture. I'm virtually incapable of believing a woman could be attracted or sexually interested in me. But it's never stopped me from going for it if an opportunity was presented.

I think the only times I've held off when I could have fulfilled a fantasy was due to the who, and the relationship status of all involved.

But I absolutely have fantasies that will remain such. Stuff that sounds fun and turns me on but which I know I'm not emotionally prepared to deal with IRL. It honestly doesn't take the fun out of the fantasy just because I know I'll probably never experience it.

As for where the boundaries lie. Look, I'm a slut. If I'm not hurting someone else (ie someone's cheating), and I'm into my partner, I can be prety reckless. Adventure away! Not always the best way to be, but I've been pretty lucky in my life to have had more good times than bad. But there are some things where I know, or suspect heavily, that it would fry my brain. Things that should probably stay fantasies. Like partner sharing or swapping. Hot to think about if you're me. But I'd never be ok, I'm just not secure enough. So those would be taken so slow if I ever started down that road. Soooo slow.

It makes perfect sense. I don't want to be a porn substitute for anyone that wants to get off and then put me in a box until he's ready to play with me again. No. Hell no. Anytime I have started to feel that way, which has been often, I back away. And if that is what you're after? Cool. You do you, boo. But make sure the other people you talk to are fully aware of it. Don't be collecting hearts as you get your rocks off. I much prefer a real connection, which I know only leads to heartache and disappointment, but at least it's real while it lasts. It's much better than feeling used.

As I was reading through the posts on this latest topic, I find that each of your posts makes me want to reply. But thankfully your friends and fellows have covered much of what I could add on the earlier stuff, so I'll take a turn here.

I've been on both sides of this. Both feeling used by somebody who just wanted to get off, and not being clear enough in communicating my own expectations such that another poster felt used by me to that end. Both suck. Especially on in the newest phase of my Lit venture, it was so tempting to enjoy like minded people for the fun and release. But it always ended a shit show. Somebody always feels hurt, there is always a loser.

After a few more times than it should have, I simply realized that if everyone, including and especially me, can't communicate expectations clearly it's better to just avoid the action. So I made myself a rule, and I stuck with it. For a while. Then I let myself get suckered by someone and said, 'Hey, this feels real' and so I let myself go down that road again. Epic fail, and I deserved yo feel it because there was nobody to blame but myself for not sticking to my guns. I've not faiked myself again since.

I have no problems if everyone is on the same page. We're all thoughtful, horny people. Enjoy. But it's not for me. I don't want to feel used and tossed aside. And I certainly don't want to string anybody along and make them feel that way. It sucks from either end.

 

[parker77]

11.22.19

Have you ever passed up the chance to try a fantasy irl because you were worried reality wouldn't compare? Are there fantasies that you prefer to keep just that? What determines where you keep the boundaries between fantasy v reality?

haven’t passed one up and likely wouldn’t. you’ll never know until you try. why live life afraid? if it turns out not to be as good, i gotta believe most people around here have the ability to come up with plenty more fantasies to keep themselves occupied.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

 

[AlwaysFara]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

I don’t know of any embarrassing food.

Tuna from a can is sometimes frowned on.
Kraft Mac and cheese???
I don’t really eat that. But I would.

 

[AveryElle]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Chickfilet fries. For a variety of reasons, I won’t go there. But those fuckers in honey mustard are soooo good.

 

[Sexybritches69]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

SlimJims

 

[Dribble]

Yes. I am 100% certain that fantasy me is better than IRL me. The thought of disappointing someone when they actually meet me has kept me from pursuing things when the opportunity has presented itself. Everything that I say and do and feel is real and it's who I am and it's what I want...I just can't get past my own insecurities to think that someone would actually want me if they saw me in the flesh.

Maybe you just need to be looking in his eyes when he says it? The eyes dont lie.

 

[beachbaby179]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Ring dings.

 

[Miles Long]

SlimJims

100% agree about SlimJims haha. I also love SweetTarts, but not at the same time as SlimJims.

 

[Dribble]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

I will eat almost anything at least once. What shouldn't I eat? Fucking elephant ears...nothing quite like fried dough

 

[AlpineFresco]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

I struggled with this one. Some might find my choices weird, but I'm not embarrassed by any of them.

 

[Suz_anne]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Cottage cheese. Very cold, right out of the container, standing in front of the fridge. I love it.

Also - Dinty Moore beef stew. I prefer making my own beef stew now, but I still love a warmed up can of Dinty Moore. My husband says it looks like dog food. It reminds me of my childhood.

 

[AveryElle]

100% agree about SlimJims haha. I also love SweetTarts, but not at the same time as SlimJims.

Sweet tarts aren’t embarrassing

 

[CharlieB4]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Pre sliced cheese. I like a sandwich for lunch and it’s just makes it so fucking easy.

 

[SweetSassyGirl]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Ding Dongs

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Ramen...

...and Dunkin Donuts munchkins.

They're not just for kids, right?

 

[Xerxes82]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Spaghetti-O's. With the sliced franks.

They're objectively not good. But it's a flavor from my childhood. I'll still throw a can on the stove after a long double shift at work sometimes.

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Lunchables

 

[hotwords229_A]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

It's possible I may have purchased more than a few boxes of Count Chocula, Booberry & Frankenberry cereal last month.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Sonic had these mac n cheese bites. They are actual garbage food but they are so good.

 

[Apisto42]

...Also - Dinty Moore beef stew. I prefer making my own beef stew now, but I still love a warmed up can of Dinty Moore. My husband says it looks like dog food. It reminds me of my childhood.

Agreed to all above. Looks and smells a bit like dog food, but totally reminds me of childhood.

 

[AbsintheFather]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

I eat pretty normal meals and like to cook with wholesome ingredients . . . but . . . if I'm just cooking for myself, I might just have something frozen like chicken pot pies or those frozen packets of creamed chipped beef, otherwise know as shit-on-a-shingle.

 

[Mei5ter]

Oh all right. I have a dirty weakness for Taco Bell...

Look, sometimes cheap and trashy has an appeal all of its own. Don't judge.

Anyway. Can I have two extra pink bismuth with mine?

 

[AlwaysFara]

I'll do some durty things for some Little Debbie Christmas Tree cakes, but I ain't ashamed of it.

The Hostess Snoballs, though? There's a little shame there. Frozen Totinos Pizza Rolls? Yes please. The cum off the top of your boot? If you ask me nicely.

Your last is not embarrassing.

Well. It depends on whose boots.