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[Whiskeyjack]

Cottage cheese. Very cold, right out of the container, standing in front of the fridge. I love it.

Also - Dinty Moore beef stew. I prefer making my own beef stew now, but I still love a warmed up can of Dinty Moore. My husband says it looks like dog food. It reminds me of my childhood.

I love Dinty Moore - In the Game of Thrones books the poor people of King's Landing eat a stew called "bowls of brown" and that's what I feel I'm eating when I eat Dinty Moore.

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

I don't know if I'm exactly embarrassed, but every so often I'll steal from our supply of kids' lunchbox snacks and go to town on their Fruit Roll-Ups. They taste like being 7 years old.

 

[Paul_Chance]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Twinkies! Love a Twinkie. An absolutely non-nutritious indulgence.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

 

[witchydiana85]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

As a kid, I remember some Hallmark TV movie or other about a woman faced with the possibility of losing her children. At the trial, she said, "I don't just love my children, I'm in love with them." I didn't quite get the distinction at first, but it basically means to me ... loving someone is the committent part, either through family ties, a close friendship, a relationship, etc, but being in love is more active, more powerful, because it's about recognising another person as a fully-rounded individual, with all their flaws and imperfections, but still having that deep-rooted feeling for them.

Or something.

I dunno.

 

[Dribble]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

Yes, for me they are very different. For others, maybe not.

How are they different Dribble? One is conditional. It is like saying, "You make me so happy". So if you are unhappy, it is my fault?

Being in love is dependent on what I did to deserve the love. I love you, means more to me. But what it means to me, shouldn't matter to you. It isnt my relationship. What do you feel? That is all that matters. Dont overthink love. There is nothing rational w love. It just is.

 

[hotwords229_A]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

I think think of it as familial vs. non-familial. Loving someone isn't as much a choice as it is a feeling. You can love a family member, but not like them.

Being "in love" (to me) means an external person that I met, liked and fell in love with. It was more of a choice, but not a total choice. It's like two people become a new entity when they join together.

That's being in love.

Almost like a love bubble floated by and caught the two of you together inside of it. You can fight it, you can try to pop it, you can look at the other person and see them trying to pop it even though you don't want them to, or you can both look at each other, smile and be super glad you're both in that bubble together.

The important thing is that none of it makes any sense, but it feels really nice.

 

[beachbaby179]

I think in a romance setting they can mean the same thing. "I love you" is more all encompassing though. I tell people I love them all the time. It's not unusual for me to say it to friends and people I care about in general.

I you.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

To me, there can be a major difference based on the person on the giving/receiving end.

To me, "I love you" is a statement of feeling, but could be romantic or platonic or familial. I am not shy about those words in general, because I tend to feel that emotion strongly.

"I'm in love with you", to me, is a much more active and romantic thing. It's a very active statement. It means an active, strong, encompassing and romantic commitment/feeling/state. I would never use that phrase without being 100% sure that is what I feel and where I was at. There's a power to that phrase that "I love you" doesn't encompass...especially the first time it's said.

 

[Dribble]

There is a difference between saying, "I am so in love with you" and "I am in love with you". It doesnt surprise me everyone is seeing this differently than I do. We all see what we want to see anyway right?

Isnt this a great thread? I know I can be an ass, but fuck plp, you rock like no other. No one here makes me look in the mirror like you do. I do love you.

 

[_Fairlight_]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

C.S. Lewis indentifies the four loves as Eros, Storge, Phileo, and Agape.

--Eros** - romantic love, including infatuation.
--Storge - fondness due to familiarity, such as family, long time neighbors, etc.
--Phileo - 'brotherly love,' the love of a deep friendship. This is the least 'natural,' the love most chosen.
--Agape - unconditional love

'I'm in love with you' - that's Eros
'I love you' could be Storge, Phileo, or Agape (or a combination), depending on the nature of the relationship

I tell my close friends and family that i love them without hesitation, and sometimes strangers or short-term acquaintances, when it seems appropriate, such as during a time of personal crisis. Romantic partners? I will say that i like them or am fond of them or enjoy spending time with them or something else (hopefully more creative and personalized), but i don't bring out the big guns until and if we reach a certain degree of mutual investment. I've used it too freely in the past, and wish i hadn't.


**physical/sexual love is Venus. Lewis describes the difference between Venus and Eros as the difference between wanting a woman and wanting a particular woman.

 

[Karabare]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

For me "I'm in love with you" often ages to " I love you". Being in love is stars in your eyes, heart beating erratically, lust. I love you is cleaning off someone's car after a foot of snow has fallen and they have to go to work.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

11.25.19

What food do you enjoy that most embarrasses you to admit? Fess up!

Spam Musubi
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11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

"I love you" all depends on who it is coming from. It gets used for so much and covers such a broad spectrum of "Ships". I have had the phrase thrown at me "Platonically" "Maternally" and "Romantically" by the same person in the span of 2 minutes, that personally, I have lost my trust in the words. Especially when it is being used to garner a reciprocating comment from another party. I have also found it to be a phrase that can be both forgotten and "Unregistered" because it is used and heard so often. To the point that I actually changed up things to:
"I'm in love with you" when I needed it to be heard and understood that I wasn't "Just Saying That". Though, to be honest, having "Do you Really?" thrown back at you is a kick in the teeth. But, I do think that stating that You are In Love and not just that you Love Them can and does carry more weight in the end, mostly because it isn't interchangeable in its implied meaning like the other way is. It is difficult to say "I am [Platonically] In Love With You" and not have it mean something deeper.

 

[RcyMtnGrl]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

“I love you” is something I say to anyone I care very deeply about. Family. Very close friends. My extra children (my sons friends). It can be maternal, romantic, friendly. It is all encompassing and grows over time. It’s lasting because it is something that grows as the relationship does. It is the slow burn. It is unconditional, and all encompassing.

For me, being “in love” with someone, or “falling in love” with someone are two different things. For me “in love” is only used when someone I love takes my breath away and reminds how deeply I love them. It is more fleeting, more intense, but can’t happen without first loving them. It is seeing my Husband pick up a toddler he doesn’t know who has fallen, and brushing them off, or seeing him succeed at something I know is important to him. Or my sons stopping on Mothers Day to visit a grieving Mother who has lost her son, or watching them succeed. It’s those moments that the love you feel for them nearly bursts inside you and takes your breath away, it can move me to tears.

But falling in love is a misnomer, for me. I can’t be in love with someone without first loving them. I try to use the phrase “I’m really beginning to love you” or “starting to love you” rather than “falling in love”.

PLP this was a great question because the different answers are so insightful. Makes me want to ask the people I love for whom I’ve had those in love moments what the two phrases me to them!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

12.3.19

How important do you think time is to a successful relationship? Are you a quality over quantity person? Is there a certain amount of time you require from a person no matter what?

 

[TTawhere]

12.3.19

How important do you think time is to a successful relationship? Are you a quality over quantity person? Is there a certain amount of time you require from a person no matter what?

Well, to me, both quantity and quality are important. To some degree I think it depends on the people involved and the relationship itself. Can't say that I set a benchmark for the amount of time required from a person.

 

[Apisto42]

12.3.19

How important do you think time is to a successful relationship? Are you a quality over quantity person? Is there a certain amount of time you require from a person no matter what?

There’s a few people that I can see rarely that I still have a meaningful relationship with. I think quality over quantity is much more important. If you spend a lot of time with someone, but you’re just watching tv or worse both on your phones, what’s the point?

As far as require? It depends on life. I can go days without attention, but when I want it, I need it. My wife is very up front about it - “pay attention to me.” Which is incredibly helpful to me since I can often be off in my own pervy little world.

 

[RcyMtnGrl]

12.3.19

How important do you think time is to a successful relationship? Are you a quality over quantity person? Is there a certain amount of time you require from a person no matter what?

I am more of a quality over quantity. My Husband, I definitely need quality over quantity. I need one good date night/day every couple of weeks rather than frequently sharing space while watching TV or reading a book. Same with friends. I need a good pizza and beer “date” to chat about life rather than 12.5 hrs side by side at work.

I definitely need some time everyday, but even a 15 min phone call is enough for me, if I know we have quality time planned together to look forward to.

 

[hotwords229_A]

12.3.19

How important do you think time is to a successful relationship? Are you a quality over quantity person? Is there a certain amount of time you require from a person no matter what?

I think time is vital to a relationship. I need both quality and quantity, but quality is probably more important. I'm a loner-type guy and I have to have my alone time--it's almost a matter of survival for me, but I want that woman that I yearn to be with when we're not together. Sometimes being apart is fun because you get the excitement of seeing each other again. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, etc.

Sometimes I wonder if it would be possible to meet my soulmate and only have one day with her, but that day would be the most fulfilling day of our lives and sustain us until death (where she would be waiting for me naked and SUPER horny). And then we would be together for all of eternity, our light burning brightly in the night sky.

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

11.29.19

Here's a question I'm finding it hard to phrase so interpret as you see fit.

"I love you." v. "I'm in love with you."

Romantically speaking, do these phrases mean different things? Are you hesitant to use one over the other? Or does hearing one from someone you care about mean something different than the other?

There are many types of love (someone already mentioned Lewis' "The Four Loves", so I won't go into that), so "I love you" is more vague to me and romantically I try to take it with a grain of salt when someone says them to me, though when speaking them myself I take them very seriously. I use "I love you" with close friends and family, but personally would only use the phrase "I love you" with a romantic partner if I meant a very serious Eros or Agape type of love. To quote The Doctor, "Love, it's not an emotion. It's a promise."

"I'm in love with you." to me already implies something more serious, and so those words would likely carry more weight when spoken to me.

12.3.19

How important do you think time is to a successful relationship? Are you a quality over quantity person? Is there a certain amount of time you require from a person no matter what?

Time is my number one "love language", so at least for me it's very important for a successful relationship. If you want to show me that you care you have to spend time with me, and usually that would include a combination of both "quality" and "quantity" interactions. I need some time when we are just enjoying one another's company, maybe just watching TV on the couch together for example, and then also some more meaningful discussion time where we are giving one another our full attention. The discussion topic itself doesn't necessarily have to be very deep, but just knowing that someone is truly listening to me and giving me their full attention means a lot.

It doesn't necessarily have to be an everyday thing though depending on the nature of the relationship, and I wouldn't say I have a certain amount of time that I require.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

12.07.19

In your opinion, what's the most overrated holiday dish or treat or flavor?

 

[AbsintheFather]

12.07.19

In your opinion, what's the most overrated holiday dish or treat or flavor?

Pickled Herring and Lutefisk, I just never took to either of those.

 

[Dribble]

12.07.19

In your opinion, what's the most overrated holiday dish or treat or flavor?

Beer battered fried catfish. Dont even ask...I stopped associating w that side of my family decades ago.

 

[AlpineFresco]

12.07.19

In your opinion, what's the most overrated holiday dish or treat or flavor?

For me this one's easy - candy floss, or cotton candy outside the UK. It's just a pointless summer 'snack', dissolves before you can eat it.

edit: or did you mean specifically winter holiday?

 

[Trekka]

12.07.19

In your opinion, what's the most overrated holiday dish or treat or flavor?

Plain old white mashed potatoes. A big fluffy blob of carbs until you add flavor to it. Not my thing.

I’d rather have mashed sweet potatoes. Or, if we’re going with a big fluffy blob of savory carbs, then cheesy grits.

I grew up on Caribbean and Latin food. A lot of classic American dishes, although they’re good, don’t hit that “comfort food” button, for me.

 

[Sexybritches69]

12.07.19

In your opinion, what's the most overrated holiday dish or treat or flavor?

Ham. The texture is gross. Not a fan.