❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Sexybritches69]

10.25.19

Inspired by a recent conversation -

Do you think there is something more attractive about someone already in a relationship? If you're in a relationship, do you find that you get flirted with more once someone knows?
What makes some people more attracted to someone who has a partner? Is it the idea of conquest or just feeling less like at threat? Is it there something primal in us that notes when someone is a good mate or parent?


I know this is one is a little vague but it's interesting to me.
This is NOT a question about cheating or cheaters. Think outside the box.

When I first joined Lit, I didn’t know who was attached and who was not. (I still don’t really, unless it’s really obvious.) It made me kind of nervous to talk to anyone because I didn’t want to piss anyone off—although now I’ve learned that that can happen no matter what you do. If someone is attached, I don’t see them as more attractive at all. If I have happened to find someone attractive, and then found out that they’re involved with someone else, I might feel a little bummed, but not any more interested in them because of that.

 

[Karabare]

10.25.19

Inspired by a recent conversation -

Do you think there is something more attractive about someone already in a relationship? If you're in a relationship, do you find that you get flirted with more once someone knows?
What makes some people more attracted to someone who has a partner? Is it the idea of conquest or just feeling less like at threat? Is it there something primal in us that notes when someone is a good mate or parent?


I know this is one is a little vague but it's interesting to me.
This is NOT a question about cheating or cheaters. Think outside the box.

Yes, them being in a relationship makes them more attractive because to me it shows stability. Stability to me indicates someone who's able to deal with things well.
It's especially attractive if they're married and seem to have a good relationship, maybe just a little something missing.
I never get flirted with, too much RBF.

 

[UgliestSon]

10.25.19

Inspired by a recent conversation -

Do you think there is something more attractive about someone already in a relationship? If you're in a relationship, do you find that you get flirted with more once someone knows?
What makes some people more attracted to someone who has a partner? Is it the idea of conquest or just feeling less like at threat? Is it there something primal in us that notes when someone is a good mate or parent?


I know this is one is a little vague but it's interesting to me.
This is NOT a question about cheating or cheaters. Think outside the box.

Interesting question. I am personally more attracted to the unattached. I do not want the drama that comes with whatever the fuck is happening with their significant other. For some reason though, I seem to attract those who are attached. The strange thing is they like to go on and on about how happy and great their life is. Well, why the fuck are you talking to me? Does your partner really exist? Are they actually a shit person? Or do you just need new dick. I dont know. Let someone else figure it out.

 

[Dribble]

You know....I was going to say no. But maybe...see, I like women that are comfortable in their skin. And women in happy relationships are usually more ok w who they are.

I like to believe I judge others by how they act...not how they look. But, I can see how that may blur. Interesting question...I am going to think more on this. Thanks PLP...you rock

 

[AlwaysFara]

I’m not attracted to married people because they’re married. I’ve been married a long time, sometimes happily, sometimes really unhappily, and I know how hard it is to stay that way and we’re often not great people. I’m attracted to certain qualities in people and that’s always where the trouble starts.

This is the best answer.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Your Elvish Ring makes you insanely attractive.

Taken? I am. Let’s be safe and unpressured together.

It's good to be safe and unpressured. Depressured? Depressurized?

 

[AlwaysFara]

It's good to be safe and unpressured. Depressured? Depressurized?

Have you the wing???

https://youtu.be/3odMTPuzLwY

 

[Paul_Chance]

Have you the wing???

https://youtu.be/3odMTPuzLwY

Hahaha - a classic.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Hahaha - a classic.

Does your ring have the inscription?

 

[Paul_Chance]

Does your ring have the inscription?

It does. It is very faint, in elvish script, and you can only see it if you look close or hold it to the light at an angle. It's gold. I got it from a vendor when I was at WonderCon in LA about five or six years ago. I also got a silver version at the time, but gave that to a friend as a gift. I've only know two people over the years who instantly recognized it for it what it was. Once in a hotel room when I took it off and set it on the table and the other a stranger I was sitting next to on an airplane.

 

[AlwaysFara]

It does. It is very faint, in elvish script, and you can only see it if you look close or hold it to the light at an angle. It's gold. I got it from a vendor when I was at WonderCon in LA about five or six years ago. I also got a silver version at the time, but gave that to a friend as a gift. I've only know two people over the years who instantly recognized it for it what it was. Once in a hotel room when I took it off and set it on the table and the other a stranger I was sitting next to on an airplane.

PM incoming.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.25.19

Inspired by a recent conversation -

Do you think there is something more attractive about someone already in a relationship? If you're in a relationship, do you find that you get flirted with more once someone knows?
What makes some people more attracted to someone who has a partner? Is it the idea of conquest or just feeling less like at threat? Is it there something primal in us that notes when someone is a good mate or parent?


I know this is one is a little vague but it's interesting to me.
This is NOT a question about cheating or cheaters. Think outside the box.

I think there are many ways people can prove they are reliable and wonderful people. Some of those indicators are that there is another adult willing to hitch up their wagon so to speak and the ability to keep small children alive.

I don't think I've ever been attracted to someone solely because of those things but like many people have said it certainly increases the attractiveness. I do think this is tends to be more beneficial to men though. I don't see men suppressing erections because women come off as nurturing mothers, probably because that's an expectation of women rather than a bonus.

I totally think it's a primal thing.

Thanks for an interesting discussion, folks!

 

[Dribble]

I think there are many ways people can prove they are reliable and wonderful people. Some of those indicators are that there is another adult willing to hitch up their wagon so to speak and the ability to keep small children alive.

I don't think I've ever been attracted to someone solely because of those things but like many people have said it certainly increases the attractiveness. I do think this is tends to be more beneficial to men though. I don't see men suppressing erections because women come off as nurturing mothers, probably because that's an expectation of women rather than a bonus.

I totally think it's a primal thing.

Thanks for an interesting discussion, folks!

Next topic...lol

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

 

[AlpineFresco]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

One sibling, a fair bit younger than I. We get on quite well but I think as we get older we've become not quite as close as we were. In many ways we’re polar opposites and I see so many choices made that I just don’t understand. That said, it’s still a good relationship, we talk regularly, and I’ve no doubt either of of us would be there for the other in a heartbeat if needed, and I do feel that if I ever felt I had nowhere else to turn, I could talk to them.

And no, I don’t wish I had more siblings. One is plenty.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have a sister. She’s delightful, like me. A sarcastic smart ass. Painfully smart. Quick wit.

I’m not close in the sense that we sit and talk about our feelings or about our upbringing. But I care for her deeply. She’s 8 years older than me, so growing up we weren’t fighting or in each other’s way. We are like friends, I suppose, more than normal brother and sister.

 

[AlpineFresco]

I have a brother, and I feel like he is becoming more and more angry and cynical by the year. We used to be very close, but he's driving me away with his shitty attitude. I've tried to laugh and be friendly but his anger is increasingly toxic. I know I'll regret it if we grow distant, but I feel like there isn't much I can do, because he's too stubborn to listen to anyone.

I had a friend like that, a guy I was very close with. In the end, we stopped talking as he got more and more angry with everything. It’s one of the few lost friendships that still hurts, but it could never have gone any other way.

 

[Sexybritches69]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

I have two stepsisters that are 8 and 10 years older than I am. I love them. They’re fun, but they’re high maintenance. I have to just take them in small doses.

 

[Miles Long]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

I have one sister, and she's a couple years older. When I was growing up I always thought it would be cool to have multiple brothers and sisters, but I think my parents were like yeah no two are enough. I don't think my relationship with my sister has changed all that much in adulthood. We've always been pretty close and continue to be even as our lives have led us to different locations. I love her very much.

 

[Suz_anne]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

I never wished for more siblings. I have two sisters - one older and one younger. We were each born roughly 18 months apart and had all of the silly fights when we were kids. My older sister and I used to bicker incessantly but are pretty close now. She lives in a different state and we try to see each other every couple of months and talk on the phone often. My sister is the only one who truly understands my brand of crazy because she comes from the exact same place.

My younger sister passed away and it has felt like part of me has been missing since the day she died. I miss her every.single.day. Luckily, she has started popping up in my dreams more often. I love seeing her there.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

I grew up as the oldest of three, with two younger sisters.

I was a lot different than them, and had very little in common, but things were pretty typical.

As adults, one of them I'm sorta close to...the other is literally my least-favorite person on Earth. We haven't apoken in 7 years, and I'm fine with it.

So no...I never wished for more. The ones I had were more than plenty.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

Two older brothers. My oldest brother has severe developmental disabilities, which made it weird when we were kids because when I was 7 and he was 13 I was more capable than him in a lot of areas. So it always felt like I was an older brother even though I'm not.

My other brother is 5 years older. We fought all the time. I also idolized him. As adults we stopped fighting years ago, and I've also learned enough about him to know that he's far from perfect and I probably shouldn't emulate everything he does. We get along a lot better now and I think it's a much more honest relationship.

 

[dashie33]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

You know when you look at people's families from the outside and you think, "Wow, they're not great people, are they?" But then, you never notice the signs with your own family (or at least not until you put some distance between you and them). My siblings (two sisters - one older, one younger - and one older brother) take after my parents in basically being ... not great. They drink too much, they smoke too much, they're very out for themselves and whatever they CAN take they WILL take from you.

I try to see them as little as possible, though it's sometimes unavoidable.

 

[barefootgirl69]

10.27.19

In memory of mine, who I miss very much today...

Siblings! Have em? Love em? Wish you had more? Only children: did you wish you had lots of brothers and sisters? How has your relationship with your siblings changed in adulthood?

I had two older brothers (we were born within a span of 28 months ) and one younger (I was 4 when he came along).

The three of us were incredibly close, but the oldest one was in charge. Not bossy...but a leader. We'd go to him instead of mom because she has enough to worry about. We played together as a group in our neighborhood, and they took care of me. I never got tackled in football because he had told the other guys not "to touch his sister". (I was the only girl until 7 or 8?) In high school, we still had lunch together, hung around each other, went to ball games and dances. Everyone thought my 2nd older brother was my twin though he was a foot taller.

I wasn't happy that my little brother wasn't a girl. I didn't want him hanging around me stealing my toys or, as teens, hanging around when my boyfriend's came over. He was 'the baby".

As adults, we all married and moved to different states. The boys got closer and I was wandering around married to a soldier. We never really all got together at the same time, but would visit individually.

I lost my brother 13.5 years ago. He was my best friend. I'm still not over it. My little brother passed 1.5 years ago...and I am not sure how I would have gotten through except for some close friends I met through Lit. So, it's just me and my oldest brother now.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.28.19

What's Halloween do you most want to see in your basket? What candy is the most overrated?