Why do older men become bi-curious?

[smoothwiener]

As we get older we care less about what others think, because fear of others opinions may keep some back, others may be open to new stuff, or thought about stuff they never considered before, also easy availability to free porn these days allows people to sample something they wouldn't have paid money for years ago and this be exposed to new stuff. I fit into that group. About 90% of gay porn doesn't really float my boat, but that 10% that does, some of that really, really does. So I am open to trying stuff I never thought about when I was younger.

 

[OldFred65]

As we get older we care less about what others think, because fear of others opinions may keep some back, others may be open to new stuff, or thought about stuff they never considered before, also easy availability to free porn these days allows people to sample something they wouldn't have paid money for years ago and this be exposed to new stuff. I fit into that group. About 90% of gay porn doesn't really float my boat, but that 10% that does, some of that really, really does. So I am open to trying stuff I never thought about when I was younger.

Damn right. I don't care what anybody thinks of me. I love cock and don't care who knows it. Fortunately my wife loves for me to enjoy myself and she takes part in the fun.

 

[smoothwiener]

Only problem is that once in a while the man runs off with his new found friend. Seen it happen.

Happens with swingers and others with open relationships too....or those who are in traditional marriage's too. Seen them all.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I think taking a man's penis in your mouth IS an intimate act. I won't blow just to blow - I need to have some attraction/connection to the guy.
Not to mention if you get into swallowing . . .

The mouth is another tool to mLe love with your partner.

 

[PersonalFavors]

I can't answer the why on older men any way other than how I have related my experience and the need for release and knowing it is better when someone else causes it. If I do enjoy male diversion there is not emotion. It is just erotic excitement. And the human orgasm is just that.
All that said, what could lead to this is life experience. I have had great one night stands with women and my girl is plenty horny she just skips foreplay. I have to be honest. Sometimes I just need to be served. I also like to serve but once wet she wants me inside her or nothing. then earlier life experience hearing about girls on their sleep overs or how they always go to the bathroom as a group or meet up at someones house to get dressed. I can only imagine they get to see each other naked. They have to touch. I never married and had a lot of girlfriends. All of the ones that knew what they were doing in bed masturbated. So in the back of my mind I have always thought of women as sexual creatures keeping the same sex secret, secret. Why do they like jerking me off or blowing me so much? I think it is all the same. I just know it. Like in summer with the bikini's. I see them looking at the gap or staring into boobs, making sure theirs are on display just so.... And they have one I know they know how to lick it and what will happen if they do.

 

[Winchester3030]

If only more women shared that outlook, the world would be a happier place

I agree it would make the world a happier place for sure

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I am in the same situation you describe. I am mid 60's, married, sex once a week with my wife. Same routine every time, she will suck me until I become erect, I will mount her and finish, no fire works, no excitement, just a climax. I have had thoughts of finding another married man, no experience but curious and eager to explore. I remember the days of feeling desired and having a woman that's horny. My wife's age and health issues have destroyed her desire for sex, so in my mind, I think it would be nice to have an understanding buddy with the same issues. It would be nice to feel desired once again !

You may need to protect yourself from other men on this board.
Getting sex once week is like finding a unicorn.

 

[OldFred65]

You may need to protect yourself from other men on this board.
Getting sex once week is like finding a unicorn.

You're kidding right. Even in my current health condition I get off a couple times a day and I'll be age 69 in a few days.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

You're kidding right. Even in my current health condition I get off a couple times a day and I'll be age 69 in a few days.

He said he was having sex with his wife once a week.
I chat with guys in their 50's who haven't had sex with their wives once year or even a decade.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

You're kidding right. Even in my current health condition I get off a couple times a day and I'll be age 69 in a few days.

Keep doing what you are doing Fred. I support multiple orgasms in everyone.

 

[comegently]

There is a genuine difference between love and sex, though the two are related.
These guys still love their wives and if they explore their bi side it's usually for sex.
Why?
Probably all sorts of reasons, but it was known in ancient Greece and Sparta.

 

[crazy4myhusband]

Only problem is that once in a while the man runs off with his new found friend. Seen it happen.

And THAT is a great reason to do it with your man. Always with! I mean how difficult is it to at least sit in the same room as he has at it? Even sorry lazy wives can so that.

Happens with swingers and others with open relationships too....or those who are in traditional marriage's too. Seen them all.

Yes it happens to many couples. It's sad. All couples have to do is give.

I agree it would make the world a happier place for sure

Yes Yes YES

He said he was having sex with his wife once a week.
I chat with guys in their 50's who haven't had sex with their wives once year or even a decade.

Pretty good. This guy has it way better than most. I understand the desire for more but when is more enough? It never really is. That imbalance will forever be an issue. So what to do what to do? We went the RP and toy route for years. Then came to where we are and love it. I hope you will find that place as well.

There is a genuine difference between love and sex, though the two are related.
These guys still love their wives and if they explore their bi side it's usually for sex.
Why?
Probably all sorts of reasons, but it was known in ancient Greece and Sparta.

I agree. My husband and I love each other, we make love but we also have sex. With others we have sex. We have great friendships and have great sex with them.

 

[Ignatiousfuckingfluke]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

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[510mike]

Maybe because we were curious younger men

 

[shrek100]

I think as I age I get less concerned with what people think and live more for the moment.
I do not call myself bi but have had MMF and FFM experiences. I enjoyed them all. The first MMF did raise mixed emotion the day or so after. I settled in deciding it was great fun. Everyone was up for it and no harm was done.
I haven’t played/been with a male on my own. I am not saying I would or I wouldn’t.
Mrs has played/been with a female alone

 

[writerzblok92]

I had some experiences sucking cock in my college days but sadly never worked up the nerve to let my roommate fuck me.

Fast forward 20+ years, I'm in a sexless marriage (10+ years without any intimacy) and the urges to suck cock and more are growing to much to ignore forever.

I miss feeling sexy for a guy, pleasing him, tasting him, swallowing his cum...

 

[CuriousMind68]

I've always been curious but now at 54 (wife is 59) she's menopausal and lost her sex drive completely. So now when I need to satisfy myself I find myself constantly thinking of being with a man, not another woman. Maybe that has something to do with it.

 

[romer12]

In a short term I would say "if you can't fuck, then suck".............

 

[Bathtubbill]

In a short term I would say "if you can't fuck, then suck".............

Well that's a good way to start

 

[Beandip478]

In recent days I have learned a lot about the male and female sex hormones and how the level of them changes in your body over time. For men, peak testosterone occurs at age nineteen, and diminishes for the rest of your life. Simultaneously, the level of the female sex hormone estrogen rises. It's no wonder so many older men become bi-curious or bi. Our very bodies have reprogrammed our sexual inclinations.

 

[PG564E]

In recent days I have learned a lot about the male and female sex hormones and how the level of them changes in your body over time. For men, peak testosterone occurs at age nineteen, and diminishes for the rest of your life. Simultaneously, the level of the female sex hormone estrogen rises. It's no wonder so many older men become bi-curious or bi. Our very bodies have reprogrammed our sexual inclinations.

That is very interesting. Being male if peak testosterone kicks in at 19, personally mine remained very high until reaching my late 40's in age. I became tremendously bi-curious at the age of 55. My attraction to bi-sexual, then strictly gay porn only increased as I aged. I am one of the men whose body, or hidden sexual desires, gave my oral and anal virginity away on the same day. The fantasy's had overpowered me for 8 years. I knew they were real, I did sexual things I'd never dreamed of before in my entire life.

I gave a man my first blow job when I was 63. I was thrilled to do this, and felt delirious with sexual freedom as I swallowed his cum. Your post makes perfect sense in my personal experience. And I believe many men have homosexual thoughts as they age for the same reasons you have stated, and other's like a marriage desolving because of sexual loss of interest. I've no idea how many men have done what I have, but the temptation I believe is undeniable if your 50 or older.

I never even considered the hormones in my body could have possibly aided my sexual transformation to become a cock sucker. Now, I hope it just fueled the tremendous appeal that homosexuality gave to me later in life.

Much appreciate your post!

 

[none2_none2]

In recent days I have learned a lot about the male and female sex hormones and how the level of them changes in your body over time. For men, peak testosterone occurs at age nineteen, and diminishes for the rest of your life. Simultaneously, the level of the female sex hormone estrogen rises. It's no wonder so many older men become bi-curious or bi. Our very bodies have reprogrammed our sexual inclinations.

Sorry, but I don't agree. I have always craved mostly being inside a hot, hairy, handsome, masculine, muscular man. It was true when I jacked off 17 times in 24 hours when I was 17, and it is still true now as a senior with ED. Hormone levels simply changed the frequency by which I was able to act on my cravings.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

Sorry, but I don't agree. I have always craved mostly being inside a hot, hairy, handsome, masculine, muscular man. It was true when I jacked off 17 times in 24 hours when I was 17, and it is still true now as a senior with ED. Hormone levels simply changed the frequency by which I was able to act on my cravings.

You broke the damn thing!

 

[peter49parker]

In a short term I would say "if you can't fuck, then suck".............

Yup .. curiosity had already been there for a while, but this is a pretty good way to say it.

 

[widereceiver]

In recent days I have learned a lot about the male and female sex hormones and how the level of them changes in your body over time. For men, peak testosterone occurs at age nineteen, and diminishes for the rest of your life. Simultaneously, the level of the female sex hormone estrogen rises. It's no wonder so many older men become bi-curious or bi. Our very bodies have reprogrammed our sexual inclinations.

That’s interesting speculation and I wonder if that’s what happened with me. I was predominantly heterosexual when younger but the last few years, my gay side just got stronger and stronger. I’m to the point now where my sexual thoughts and urges are exclusively homosexual. Also, I don’t feel so manly anymore but more feminine and submissive. A lot of my fantasies involve surrendering to an alpha male and being used for his pleasure. Is it the hormones? I wonder.