Why do older men become bi-curious?

[CthuluLives]

I'm 49, have cheated with men and women, not proud of it all but most was very early in our relationship. I dont know the older approach, I think I've been curious my whole life. She's in her 40's, we have a good sex life, still do it a couple of times a week but there's things so won't go to and me asking her to peg me was shot down and after asking a few times I stopped asking.

My wife's a sub and has no interest in a dom role and isn't into anal play on her and short of rimming me a few times over the years she's no interest in my asshole.

I told her I'd sucked a guys cock before, before we got together, and she's no issues with that but also won't allow another in our relationship. And that's fine, shes open minded, def not a prude but does have her boundaries and she doesn't cross them.

I do think about my bi feelings a lot more these days, maybe it's an age thing, personally I don't want to.have a life of regrets so do allowyself to indulge in things and the curiosity is a lot down to only mutual oral with a guy when im curious about trying more..

 

[canogagrizz]

Lack of sex is why

100% correct.

 

[writerzblok92]

Maybe a drop in sex as our women become less interested. My wife and I haven't had sex in over 10 years but if she caught me stepping out it would be my fault.

I am in the exact same position.

It's completely wrong and selfish of them to treat us this way. Zero compromise just all their way or nothing.

 

[canogagrizz]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

I believe it is probably true with many older men in sexless marriages mostly.
I'm 58yrs old in a sexless marriage because wife is not physically well & has lost all her sex drive. With her health condition I understand & I have never blamed her at all. Went on 15yrs with no sex. Porn & masturbation was my only release. I never ever thought I would have considered M/M sex in the past. And friend of around the same age (a long time friend) also in a sexless marriage in the same situation mentioned having the same issues. We both never would have thought of doing anything together had it not been for the lack of sex. Fast forward to a few drinks & watching some porn one thing lead to another. Yes it started very awkward but also exciting for us both. Fist jacking off in front of each other the first few times, then on the second time we hung out we took to jacking each other off. As our hang outs & watching porn together continued, eventually one day we decided on trying oral sex on each other which lead to a lot of great sessions of 69 in the future. We both enjoyed it very much & continued our fun hang outs about once a week.
We discussed that we both had no desires to "kiss" or be intimate beyond the sex acts. We were both still attracted to women only. Which was true. We both came to the realization that searching out & looking for sex with other female partners was not what we wanted to do or bother with. Too much time & emotions involved with finding women to bother with that anymore at our age. Especially being married for over 30+yrs. Plus, we both felt that would be more cheating (with another woman) than we already were with having sex between us both. But we kept it 100% private & where we would never get caught. Never in a million years would I have thought I would even get an erection having sex with another man. Neither did he when we began experime. But we did get hard & it was more like a high "drug" effect' A "sexual rush" every time we would get together & bring each other to orgasms. We both discussed it WAS a turn on more so because we both felt the sex acts were not natural & were considered forbidden which made it all that more thrilling.
I don't find men attractive at all. It's always been women. The only thing I could say I find attractive about men I guess would be the penis. But I don't look at men whatsoever thinking what their penises look like or look at any man with any wonder, desire or being attracted to them at all. Never had & I still don't.
Had my friend & I both been having regular sex in our marriages, we both would have never done this or even considered it. When we were young, sex was great with our wives and we both just missed that. All said & done it was fine because we still love our our wives very much, and we both just excepted that we were glad to both have sexual release & an outlet back again in our lives. The intimacy with our wives we both missed deeply and we didn't desire to have any intimacy between ourselves beyond the sex acts. It's just only about the sexual release & orgasms.

 

[PG564E]

I believe it is probably true with many older men in sexless marriages mostly.
I'm 58yrs old in a sexless marriage because wife is not physically well & has lost all her sex drive. With her health condition I understand & I have never blamed her at all. Went on 15yrs with no sex. Porn & masturbation was my only release. I never ever thought I would have considered M/M sex in the past. And friend of around the same age (a long time friend) also in a sexless marriage in the same situation mentioned having the same issues. We both never would have thought of doing anything together had it not been for the lack of sex. Fast forward to a few drinks & watching some porn one thing lead to another. Yes it started very awkward but also exciting for us both. Fist jacking off in front of each other the first few times, then on the second time we hung out we took to jacking each other off. As our hang outs & watching porn together continued, eventually one day we decided on trying oral sex on each other which lead to a lot of great sessions of 69 in the future. We both enjoyed it very much & continued our fun hang outs about once a week.
We discussed that we both had no desires to "kiss" or be intimate beyond the sex acts. We were both still attracted to women only. Which was true. We both came to the realization that searching out & looking for sex with other female partners was not what we wanted to do or bother with. Too much time & emotions involved with finding women to bother with that anymore at our age. Especially being married for over 30+yrs. Plus, we both felt that would be more cheating (with another woman) than we already were with having sex between us both. But we kept it 100% private & where we would never get caught. Never in a million years would I have thought I would even get an erection having sex with another man. Neither did he when we began experime. But we did get hard & it was more like a high "drug" effect' A "sexual rush" every time we would get together & bring each other to orgasms. We both discussed it WAS a turn on more so because we both felt the sex acts were not natural & were considered forbidden which made it all that more thrilling.
I don't find men attractive at all. It's always been women. The only thing I could say I find attractive about men I guess would be the penis. But I don't look at men whatsoever thinking what their penises look like or look at any man with any wonder, desire or being attracted to them at all. Never had & I still don't.
Had my friend & I both been having regular sex in our marriages, we both would have never done this or even considered it. When we were young, sex was great with our wives and we both just missed that. All said & done it was fine because we still love our our wives very much, and we both just excepted that we were glad to both have sexual release & an outlet back again in our lives. The intimacy with our wives we both missed deeply and we didn't desire to have any intimacy between ourselves beyond the sex acts. It's just only about the sexual release & orgasms.

Very well written and understood. Glad that both of you let these circumstances lead you to male on male sex. It is fantastic, intimate, and like you 2 guys, I became a cock sucker when I was past the age of 60. Really glad I did.

 

[muycurioso]

I prob replied to this already. Always had the thoughts but kept them pretty much under wraps. Did tell (ex) wife at one point. She seemed to get off on the idea but later used it against me. Anyway like I said ex-wife. Can't meet a woman (access to pussy) to save my life. I have given my number to women that said they would call me and some I just gave it to. No luck. So, at this point, prob 45% curiousity 55% abject lonliness. I was hanging out with a guy that gave me a bi vibe and was thinking about throwing it out there and phone got broke so I can't open it to get numbers off of it. Smart move not to link numbers to google mail or write them down.

 

[muycurioso]

That's essentially the thread of my story as well. I did not find a longtime friend and discover our shared situation, I discovered a stranger. Sexless marriage, medical issue, longing for release: check, check and check. My story is slightly different in that it's not just about the sexual release & orgasms, I also needed the warmth and participation of another person without the sense of betraying my wife with another woman.

is it that it about sex and there isn't the chance of falling in love like you or I would with a woman. The kids got terms for all tis stuff. I look at the chance for gay sex as physical connection not love. I can and have fallen in love with women.

 

[muycurioso]

That also raises the question - what is cheating? Some people consider watching porn cheating. Others would consider sex chat in the old AOL rooms back in the day as cheating. And of course there is the obvious physical sexual encounter with a person considered cheating. But if we don't want our partner to "catch" us looking at porn, chatting online, or in bed with another person, do we know deep down that we are cheating?

to me cheating is what would piss me off I she did it (whe I was married) If she looked at porn I would not care. I looked at porn. We are divorced now (many reasons), She demanded it, not me. She did talk with another man about all our husband and wife issues and secrets. I get along with her due to the kids (live with her OF COURSE). But, I am hurt and fuming she did this plus is the guy she told a big mouth??? I live in a small town. I figure I am an open book in my tiny town.

 

[muycurioso]

Maybe we mature men have had same sex attraction for decades. either they/ we / I am / are in a sexless marriage or late divorce, widower, struggling to meet someone. The biggest reason mature men start with the Bi thoughts; is porn, add in those other factors. perfect storm. Remember Men are testosterone driven. we need to nut, and with all the new supplements to revitalize our testosterone.... well, nuff said
you learn pretty quickly that finding another guy to suck you off is easier than dating or cheating with a woman, especially another married woman. Men you have to admit we are pretty stupid when we let our dicks think for us. Seriously, we'll reason, that letting a guy suck us off or fucking a guy isn't the same as the sexual emotion or attraction to a woman.
that brings me to these points and most importantly. M/M sex is just sex. That's another justification. there is no emotion invested for a guy. After pumping his ass and Cumming on his face. I leave. Not there to watch a romance movie, measure for carpet or try a new cookie recipe...its cum and go. finally, it's about kinks too. maybe you're into rimming or piss play. Most wives are NOT into those kinks. Factor in No sex at home, clicks of the mouse in a private search for your kink. Porn just boils it over the top.
In the end, 99.125% of the time it will remain a curiosity / fantasy. Cheating is cheating, it's not only if you get caught...that the words of a sociopath...
I guess you can be thankful for the internet, or you have an addiction like me

easier? I don't want the anonymous stuff. It is hard to meet anyone. I am starting to think I am invisible to everyone.

 

[Series 6]

After pumping his ass and Cumming on his face. I leave. Not there to watch a romance movie, measure for carpet or try a new cookie recipe...its cum and go.

You have to admit, having some fresh baked cookies after a blow job would be pretty awesome.

 

[richgo50]

You have to admit, having some fresh baked cookies after a blow job would be pretty awesome.

I like to bake.

 

[anarchoMando]

I believe it is probably true with many older men in sexless marriages mostly.
I'm 58yrs old in a sexless marriage because wife is not physically well & has lost all her sex drive. With her health condition I understand & I have never blamed her at all. Went on 15yrs with no sex. Porn & masturbation was my only release. I never ever thought I would have considered M/M sex in the past. And friend of around the same age (a long time friend) also in a sexless marriage in the same situation mentioned having the same issues. We both never would have thought of doing anything together had it not been for the lack of sex. Fast forward to a few drinks & watching some porn one thing lead to another. Yes it started very awkward but also exciting for us both. Fist jacking off in front of each other the first few times, then on the second time we hung out we took to jacking each other off. As our hang outs & watching porn together continued, eventually one day we decided on trying oral sex on each other which lead to a lot of great sessions of 69 in the future. We both enjoyed it very much & continued our fun hang outs about once a week.
We discussed that we both had no desires to "kiss" or be intimate beyond the sex acts. We were both still attracted to women only. Which was true. We both came to the realization that searching out & looking for sex with other female partners was not what we wanted to do or bother with. Too much time & emotions involved with finding women to bother with that anymore at our age. Especially being married for over 30+yrs. Plus, we both felt that would be more cheating (with another woman) than we already were with having sex between us both. But we kept it 100% private & where we would never get caught. Never in a million years would I have thought I would even get an erection having sex with another man. Neither did he when we began experime. But we did get hard & it was more like a high "drug" effect' A "sexual rush" every time we would get together & bring each other to orgasms. We both discussed it WAS a turn on more so because we both felt the sex acts were not natural & were considered forbidden which made it all that more thrilling.
I don't find men attractive at all. It's always been women. The only thing I could say I find attractive about men I guess would be the penis. But I don't look at men whatsoever thinking what their penises look like or look at any man with any wonder, desire or being attracted to them at all. Never had & I still don't.
Had my friend & I both been having regular sex in our marriages, we both would have never done this or even considered it. When we were young, sex was great with our wives and we both just missed that. All said & done it was fine because we still love our our wives very much, and we both just excepted that we were glad to both have sexual release & an outlet back again in our lives. The intimacy with our wives we both missed deeply and we didn't desire to have any intimacy between ourselves beyond the sex acts. It's just only about the sexual release & orgasms.

Also I think Society overall has progressed on the issues of sexuality enough for repressed bi men to come out

 

[Series 6]

I believe it is probably true with many older men in sexless marriages mostly.
I'm 58yrs old in a sexless marriage because wife is not physically well & has lost all her sex drive. With her health condition I understand & I have never blamed her at all. Went on 15yrs with no sex. Porn & masturbation was my only release. I never ever thought I would have considered M/M sex in the past. And friend of around the same age (a long time friend) also in a sexless marriage in the same situation mentioned having the same issues. We both never would have thought of doing anything together had it not been for the lack of sex. Fast forward to a few drinks & watching some porn one thing lead to another. Yes it started very awkward but also exciting for us both. Fist jacking off in front of each other the first few times, then on the second time we hung out we took to jacking each other off. As our hang outs & watching porn together continued, eventually one day we decided on trying oral sex on each other which lead to a lot of great sessions of 69 in the future. We both enjoyed it very much & continued our fun hang outs about once a week.
We discussed that we both had no desires to "kiss" or be intimate beyond the sex acts. We were both still attracted to women only. Which was true. We both came to the realization that searching out & looking for sex with other female partners was not what we wanted to do or bother with. Too much time & emotions involved with finding women to bother with that anymore at our age. Especially being married for over 30+yrs. Plus, we both felt that would be more cheating (with another woman) than we already were with having sex between us both. But we kept it 100% private & where we would never get caught. Never in a million years would I have thought I would even get an erection having sex with another man. Neither did he when we began experime. But we did get hard & it was more like a high "drug" effect' A "sexual rush" every time we would get together & bring each other to orgasms. We both discussed it WAS a turn on more so because we both felt the sex acts were not natural & were considered forbidden which made it all that more thrilling.
I don't find men attractive at all. It's always been women. The only thing I could say I find attractive about men I guess would be the penis. But I don't look at men whatsoever thinking what their penises look like or look at any man with any wonder, desire or being attracted to them at all. Never had & I still don't.
Had my friend & I both been having regular sex in our marriages, we both would have never done this or even considered it. When we were young, sex was great with our wives and we both just missed that. All said & done it was fine because we still love our our wives very much, and we both just excepted that we were glad to both have sexual release & an outlet back again in our lives. The intimacy with our wives we both missed deeply and we didn't desire to have any intimacy between ourselves beyond the sex acts. It's just only about the sexual release & orgasms.

I've seen similar feelings from a lot of men online, that they don't look at a man and find him sexually attractive or turned on by him. That they still find themselves turned on/attracted to a woman's face and body. But they find themselves turned on jerking off or sucking on another man's penis.

 

[MarriedButCuriousSGA]

I am in the exact same position.
It's completely wrong and selfish of them to treat us this way. Zero compromise just all their way or nothing.

 

[MarriedButCuriousSGA]

What EVERYONE here has said is true. We are in sexless marriages and just sort of grasping for some understanding. I mean, I am sitting here reading this and thinking not of my wife but my dildo from the local Spencer's Gifts store in the mall. It is a weird time in all of our lives.

 

[Crios]

What EVERYONE here has said is true. We are in sexless marriages and just sort of grasping for some understanding. I mean, I am sitting here reading this and thinking not of my wife but my dildo from the local Spencer's Gifts store in the mall. It is a weird time in all of our lives.

Interestingly enough, I'm not exactly in the same situation. Wife and I still get it on once a week, sometime a couple of times if it's a long weekend. Her desire to get things started dropped significantly after menopause (plus she's still working and is often very tired at the end of each weekday), however, once we do get started, she's all-in.

This doesn't stop me from wanting to explore my bi side though. She'd never be into bringing another man into our bed, unfortunately, so it's all fantasy for me right now. She actually finds man on man sex to be a turn off. Don't know why - she's not homophobic and we have many gay and lesbians friends. She just doesn't like seeing it on-screen or in real-life.

 

[saintcero]

Interestingly enough, I'm not exactly in the same situation. Wife and I still get it on once a week, sometime a couple of times if it's a long weekend. Her desire to get things started dropped significantly after menopause (plus she's still working and is often very tired at the end of each weekday), however, once we do get started, she's all-in.

This doesn't stop me from wanting to explore my bi side though. She'd never be into bringing another man into our bed, unfortunately, so it's all fantasy for me right now. She actually finds man on man sex to be a turn off. Don't know why - she's not homophobic and we have many gay and lesbians friends. She just doesn't like seeing it on-screen or in real-life.

Similar for me. She had her hysterectomy but still gets wet and wants to get fucked twice a week. That much pussy gets in the way of my SilverDaddies and Literotica Jack off time

 

[MarriedButCuriousSGA]

Interestingly enough, I'm not exactly in the same situation. Wife and I still get it on once a week, sometime a couple of times if it's a long weekend. Her desire to get things started dropped significantly after menopause (plus she's still working and is often very tired at the end of each weekday), however, once we do get started, she's all-in.
This doesn't stop me from wanting to explore my bi side though. She'd never be into bringing another man into our bed, unfortunately, so it's all fantasy for me right now. She actually finds man on man sex to be a turn off. Don't know why - she's not homophobic and we have many gay and lesbians friends. She just doesn't like seeing it on-screen or in real-life.

 

[saintcero]

I turned 50 in 2015 and for the first time in my life I'm interested in sucking a cock. I haven't posted anything until this. For the past three weeks I'd come on here trying to think what to ask and never made a post about it or any post on any subject. I believe I know what helped trigger this but I'm still confused.

You will find many like you and me on SilverDaddies and Literotica I am SD # 2114809

 

[55ChevyBelAir]

Ok, here’s my story, sorry about the length of the story!
1st I am a 69yro MWM, when I was a teen I had a 26 yro give me a blow job. (a story in itself) It was neither consensual or non consensual. He started and I really didn’t know what was going on, quickly, I started enjoying it! Later I wondered what was so bad about this, I really enjoyed it! Alas, I led a straight life with the curiosity in the back of my mind. I love women, and having sex with them, like many, I can look at women, wonder what sex with would be like but I have never felt this with males. I do however love the site of cocks, all kinds!
I have been married for over 30 years, I have enjoyed our sex, but it’s never been wild, or exploratory but good. About 7 years ago, I was diagnosed with what the doctors call Parkinson-ism. I have 4 of the 7 symptoms, one of which is ED. When my wife and I are kissing and all, I can still get hard, but it won’t stay long enough for intercourse. I started looking at Lit to see if maybe something would help me stay hard enough for intercourse. It wasn’t long until I found the Boards and would get hard, I would start masturbating, but by the time I had an orgasm I would only be about 50-70% hard. Looking at all of the dick pics brought back the curiosity, So now I want to try sucking a cock, feel the head expanding in my lips and feel the pumping as it fills my mouth and throat with that wonder juice!

Thank you for sharing your personal experience. You deserve to have pleasure and orgasms. You should fulfill your curiosity. I'm sure that many would want you to suck their cocks. I am imagining that and the thought is making me very hard.

 

[birdman54]

Thank you for sharing your personal experience. You deserve to have pleasure and orgasms. You should fulfill your curiosity. I'm sure that many would want you to suck their cocks. I am imagining that and the thought is making me very hard.

Not to mention like minded men who love to suck would his cock.

 

[Oldsucker]

Not to mention like minded men who love to suck would his cock.

Yes that’s exactly right. I think about sucking cock all the time,it torments me with need and longing.

 

[Oldsucker]

Yes that’s exactly right. I think about sucking cock all the time,it torments me with need and longing.

My spare waking moments are devoted to cock. Thinking about it, longing for it. Sadly doing it is a relative rarity, but all the more valuable and precious.

 

[paulman999]

My spare waking moments are devoted to cock. Thinking about it, longing for it. Sadly doing it is a relative rarity, but all the more valuable and precious.

I’m in same boat, 100% agreement in all ways….

 

[drobert44]

i'm glad older guys get bi-curious!

Not curious for your cute sissycock..........



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