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How does aftercare work in that scenario?

I do not trust men who like soft mattresses.
Depending on who it was and what kind of session we had would be how we would work out the after care. I spent a lot of time with sadists after care for them is different from a subs perspective it took as long for them to come down as it did me. Usually after care for me was going over what I found pleasing, what I needed more of the same for them, care for any open wounds some cuddling and general chit chat, often a meal or fruit and they would see me safely home.
I go into it expressing my boundaries on my sleeping over so there was never any hurt feelings.
 
Depending on who it was and what kind of session we had would be how we would work out the after care. I spent a lot of time with sadists after care for them is different from a subs perspective it took as long for them to come down as it did me. Usually after care for me was going over what I found pleasing, what I needed more of the same for them, care for any open wounds some cuddling and general chit chat, often a meal or fruit and they would see me safely home.
I go into it expressing my boundaries on my sleeping over so there was never any hurt feelings.
Personally, I think I'd want a little peek into a partner's head first, just to be sure it's safe to play in there.
I don't think they lurk in here lol
I have some sympathy for them, actually. Put down that shotgun... I think there is often confusion between the group and the individual. If you're male, I guess you have to be part of the patriarchy by definition, and it's necessary for men to understand that and to listen. But there are also lots of men who, as individuals, are already doing their best with that, and my personal view is that this deserves support and encouragement. However, as Sherlock Holmes observed, these are deep waters and it's probably best for me to go back to kittens and degrees of mattress hardness...
 
Personally, I think I'd want a little peek into a partner's head first, just to be sure it's safe to play in there.

I have some sympathy for them, actually. Put down that shotgun... I think there is often confusion between the group and the individual. If you're male, I guess you have to be part of the patriarchy by definition, and it's necessary for men to understand that and to listen. But there are also lots of men who, as individuals, are already doing their best with that, and my personal view is that this deserves support and encouragement. However, as Sherlock Holmes observed, these are deep waters and it's probably best for me to go back to kittens and degrees of mattress hardness...
I just want to clarify, you were not quoting me. I have nothing against nice guys until they hurt me, I'm just wary of them. No shotguns pointed yet sir 😁
 
Personally, I think I'd want a little peek into a partner's head first, just to be sure it's safe to play in there.
I had know most of them for a very long time, we had often talked about my past and my issues extensively.
I only once went into a session unprepared and it was at the hands of a very well recommend rigger and I almost died.
I don't take myself or my partner's mental health lightly.
 
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