Chaos... to be continued

[LikeableMe]

Right, I’m off to work! Have good days everyone, and I’ll see you tonight! I’m hoping to be home before 9pm, so I should see quite a few of you then!

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

It was garbage writing. But it was BDSM fanfiction of Twilight and that made it relatable to mainstream women and planted a seed which did normalize things for "vanilla" folks as much as kinksters hate it.

It's the gateway drug for kink.

I guess... as horrible as it was, it did make me look for better representation

 

[Strixaluco]

Went to Facebook for a while. Less than 5min and I wanted back here.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I guess... as horrible as it was, it did make me look for better representation

As the immortal Drake lyrics say-

Started from the bottom, now we're here
Started from the bottom, now my whole team fuckin' here

 

[SinfuIDreams]

It was garbage writing. But it was BDSM fanfiction of Twilight and that made it relatable to mainstream women and planted a seed which did normalize things for "vanilla" folks as much as kinksters hate it.

It's the gateway drug for kink.

I 100% agree. I just wish people would invest a little more time before trying it out, when we had the club it wasn't so bad because we could offer entrance level help for those brave enough to venture in, but since I hate hearing from friends still in the lifestyle how "such and such trusted the wrong Dom and wound up hurt." I've been there myself.
I know I can't save everyone but I still crave for not only for more people to be brave in their desires but to be safe with it too.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I 100% agree. I just wish people would invest a little more time before trying it out, when we had the club it wasn't so bad because we could offer entrance level help for those brave enough to venture in, but since I hate hearing from friends still in the lifestyle how "such and such trusted the wrong Dom and wound up hurt." I've been there myself.
I know I can't save everyone but I still crave for not only for more people to be brave in their desires but to be safe with it too.

Sure bravery is one thing. Access is another. It sounds like you ran a solid group. My local group is a total joke. So people manage the best they can in their circumstances.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Sure bravery is one thing. Access is another. It sounds like you ran a solid group. My local group is a total joke. So people manage the best they can in their circumstances.

It is another thing alright, I went to one of the local meets where I live now and I must have facepalmed myself at least 10 times. I had a minor freak out and stomped out when they started talking suspension.
It pains me that a lot of experienced people won't attend meets and clubs because they now think it's a lost cause.

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

He was the Master of my body, my heart and my world.

This is why I thought it may be a different M-word. I see nothing wrong with it as a term of endearment, it is apt in my opinion. If you found someone you can trust with this, I don't see why you can't tell the world.

I mean, some people use Honey but it doesn't always mean their SO is a clingy possessive mf o.o

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It is another thing alright, I went to one of the local meets where I live now and I must have facepalmed myself at least 10 times. I had a minor freak out and stomped out when they started talking suspension.
It pains me that a lot of experienced people won't attend meets and clubs because they now think it's a lost cause.

True.
Which is why starting online helps people explore and create boundaries safely. Especially newbies.

The scene folks can be great but also pretentious and gate-keepy as hell. We all start somewhere.

Anyhow, sorry for derailing. Back to owls and buttholes!

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

True.
Which is why starting online helps people explore and create boundaries safely. Especially newbies.

The scene folks can be great but also pretentious and gate-keepy as hell. We all start somewhere.

Anyhow, sorry for derailing. Back to owls and buttholes!

Also, hello! I'm new! ...Or you're new!
I love your av, is the kitty yours?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Also, hello! I'm new! ...Or you're new!
I love your av, is the kitty yours?

Hello and welcome!! I'm far too old. Lol

Not my kitty but a startlingly accurate representation except my cat wouldn't dain to be still for a photo like this.

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

Hello and welcome!! I'm far too old. Lol

Not my kitty but a startlingly accurate representation except my cat wouldn't dain to be still for a photo like this.

I was going to say, that is one docile kitty, how did you train her to sit still

 

[SinfuIDreams]

This is why I thought it may be a different M-word. I see nothing wrong with it as a term of endearment, it is apt in my opinion. If you found someone you can trust with this, I don't see why you can't tell the world.

I mean, some people use Honey but it doesn't always mean their SO is a clingy possessive mf o.o

It has a lot of shame in its past and rightfully so.
But in my personal experience even people in the lifestyle would still look at me a little strange when they first heard me call M my Master with a smile on my face. It's a heavy title that doesn't fit a lot of Dominants and a lot of submissive would never think of using it.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

True.
Which is why starting online helps people explore and create boundaries safely. Especially newbies.

The scene folks can be great but also pretentious and gate-keepy as hell. We all start somewhere.

Anyhow, sorry for derailing. Back to owls and buttholes!

True and a lot will find helpful knowledge here just not by spam mailing every submissive they see and hoping for a taker.

Never a problem derailing I do it all the time myself

 

[OxfordJack]

Owls and Buttholes...I think that's the name of my solicitors...?

 

[fletchx]

Morning all. I woke up to the communication that I was hoping to get. Today will be a better day! Phew!

I hope everyone is doing well so far on hump day!

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

It has a lot of shame in its past and rightfully so.
But in my personal experience even people in the lifestyle would still look at me a little strange when they first heard me call M my Master with a smile on my face. It's a heavy title that doesn't fit a lot of Dominants and a lot of submissive would never think of using it.

You're very lucky, and you're right. It is a heavy title, with the weight of meaning I give to it, it's not something I would say lightly myself.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

True and a lot will find helpful knowledge here just not by spam mailing every submissive they see and hoping for a taker.

Never a problem derailing I do it all the time myself

I tend to think of that as a creep problem rather than a bdsm problem.

I believe in positive reinforcement. They should get zero interaction until they act like respectable human beings.

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

Morning all. I woke up to the communication that I was hoping to get. Today will be a better day! Phew!

I hope everyone is doing well so far on hump day!

Yay! hello cookie *glomps*

 

[cheekygirl75]

I'm not in the lifestyle, and I thought it was absolute piss. I can't believe anyone ever raved about it, but I was not surprised when it turned into a movie. I figure, someone will have read it and trigger their OCD bad enough, they'll want to re-write it themselves. It was astoundingly so poorly written, I'm surprised it was even published as a physical book.


P.S. What M-word o.o

I'm wondering this too. I thought it was because English is just my 3rd language that I don't get it, but apparently not...

It was largely unreadable, I have read better takes on the expression of BDSM by lesser known writers that I will recommend in a heartbeat to people with a interest in the scene. It was very helpful in letting the average everyday housewife and Joe blow know that those sort of kinks go on, but I have also seen the negative side of it people with no knowledge hurting partners because they seen it in a movie or read the book and think it is as simple as that.

This M word thought that has me puzzled if it's the use of the word Master I fear I use it frequently when referring to my late husband so anyone who takes offense to that should really take that in context. He was the Master of my body, my heart and my world.
Every word can have both a positive and a negative feel to it.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I was going to say, that is one docile kitty, how did you train her to sit still

Yeah that ass whole have scratch marks all over it if it was cat.

Don't get my wrong, I might be into scratch marks on my ass but not kitty claws.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

You're very lucky, and you're right. It is a heavy title, with the weight of meaning I give to it, it's not something I would say lightly myself.

I was extremely lucky to have had him in my life, every day with him was a blessing.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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Damnit. Now I gotta block Cheeks.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

I tend to think of that as a creep problem rather than a bdsm problem.

I believe in positive reinforcement. They should get zero interaction until they act like respectable human beings.

Agreed now if only the would come up with a multi creep blocker lol

 

[cheekygirl75]

Damnit. Noe I gotta block Cheeks.

Noooo! I’ll be good, I promise