Approaching straight friend

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Do you think when guys have taken a shot, is it more of a chance a friendship is lost or a fantasy granted?

I have a friend that initiated jacking off together, stayed naked around the house, talks dirty about me gagging on his cock, but when I call him on it - he gets pissed-tough read
 
Do you think when guys have taken a shot, is it more of a chance a friendship is lost or a fantasy granted?

I have a friend that initiated jacking off together, stayed naked around the house, talks dirty about me gagging on his cock, but when I call him on it - he gets pissed-tough read

Tough call... Been in your scenario with a few buddies. One led to a long-term relationship. He started by initiating a jerk session and in the middle of it he asked if I wanted to do more.

The other constantly joked about us doing things but always backed down when I'd offer up. Most importantly, don't jeopardize your friendship, but next time he jokes about you gagging on his cock say, "pull it out and see what happens..."
 
hey...

his anger is his fear of you NOT being honest in your 'calling him' on the intent of his words and his fear of not being able to follow through with the action he keeps "TALKING" about.
 
Do you think when guys have taken a shot, is it more of a chance a friendship is lost or a fantasy granted?

I have a friend that initiated jacking off together, stayed naked around the house, talks dirty about me gagging on his cock, but when I call him on it - he gets pissed-tough read

It sounds to me like your friend is a bit torn possibly, since he initiated the jacking off he must in the back of his mind had some thoughts of gay/bi tendencies he wanted to explore. The fact that he puts you off may mean the jerk off session put those ideas to rest or he still is not ready to give into them if they are still bouncing around in his head. Give him time he is a friend, just be a friend to him don't push the issue and if those thoughts are still in his mind you may get the chance you want and if he doesn't want that type of relationship with you you still have your friend. The last thing is he may be so embarrassed about that time with you his brain can't allow him to accept it.

I had that happen to me, we went on spring break to Fla and we gave into our desires, I let him fuck me many times that week as well as me sucking his cock more times than I can count. We spent way more time in the room with me servicing him than we spent out. When we got back home he wouldn't take my calls and broke off our friendship. So while a tryst with a friend can be extremely hot it can also change/end it also.

Good luck I hope you don't lose a friend over this.
 
I have never had a guy, straight, bi, or gay, refuse to let me suck him or jerk him off. If he reciprocates and does me that's great, but if not I still had fun.
 
I had that happen to me, we went on spring break to Fla and we gave into our desires, I let him fuck me many times that week as well as me sucking his cock more times than I can count. We spent way more time in the room with me servicing him than we spent out. When we got back home he wouldn't take my calls and broke off our friendship. So while a tryst with a friend can be extremely hot it can also change/end it also.

Good luck I hope you don't lose a friend over this.

That's terrible! You got fucked in more ways than one :(
 
It sounds to me like your friend is a bit torn possibly, since he initiated the jacking off he must in the back of his mind had some thoughts of gay/bi tendencies he wanted to explore. The fact that he puts you off may mean the jerk off session put those ideas to rest or he still is not ready to give into them if they are still bouncing around in his head. Give him time he is a friend, just be a friend to him don't push the issue and if those thoughts are still in his mind you may get the chance you want and if he doesn't want that type of relationship with you you still have your friend. The last thing is he may be so embarrassed about that time with you his brain can't allow him to accept it.

I had that happen to me, we went on spring break to Fla and we gave into our desires, I let him fuck me many times that week as well as me sucking his cock more times than I can count. We spent way more time in the room with me servicing him than we spent out. When we got back home he wouldn't take my calls and broke off our friendship. So while a tryst with a friend can be extremely hot it can also change/end it also.

Good luck I hope you don't lose a friend over this.

Seems like Sound Advice to me!
 
I think, play along with his teasing / joking and gently push it forward. It sounds like he wants your mouth on him but is just not accepting his own feelings, yet
 
I appreciate all the replies; from your feedback, I feel like I have been somewhat in the ballpark but patience is wearing thin. Lol
 
I tried it with three of my friends at different times. The first two turned me down and were kind of upset about it. But the third one, when I asked him if he would let me suck his cock, he said, Ill try anything once. So I sucked his cock. I was still friends with all of them.
 
I had that happen to me, we went on spring break to Fla and we gave into our desires, I let him fuck me many times that week as well as me sucking his cock more times than I can count. We spent way more time in the room with me servicing him than we spent out. When we got back home he wouldn't take my calls and broke off our friendship. So while a tryst with a friend can be extremely hot it can also change/end it also.

Good luck I hope you don't lose a friend over this.

Wow, that's harsh. I could understand that he might have his reasons for not wanting to continue the physical relationship, but he could have at least talked to you about it. Was he married or with a serious girlfriend? Because I imagine if she found out, she might have demanded that he end it the way he did.
 
Do you think when guys have taken a shot, is it more of a chance a friendship is lost or a fantasy granted?

I have a friend that initiated jacking off together, stayed naked around the house, talks dirty about me gagging on his cock, but when I call him on it - he gets pissed-tough read
I wonder if he has a performance anxiety and worried he may cum too quickly and embarrass himself to a friend.
 
Wow, that's harsh. I could understand that he might have his reasons for not wanting to continue the physical relationship, but he could have at least talked to you about it. Was he married or with a serious girlfriend? Because I imagine if she found out, she might have demanded that he end it the way he did.

Astroman, he was dating a few girls back then although he didn't have anyone serious just casual. He was a few months later dating no one and still didn't want to speak to me so I gave up. I did see him many years later after he married, he wouldn't look up at me, but I did catch him looking as I walked away. I always wondered if he maybe had some regrets but I haven't seen him since.
 
I discussed this very subject in a PM earlier this morning:

Yeah, the risk of losing a friend... I went to high school with a guy whom I've remained friends with. We live near each other and have lunch once a month or so. I saw him naked once - in high school. We were changing into our bathing suits and I noticed he was hung like a horse. I didn't really have the urge at that moment to suck his cock, but the image of his large flaccid penis and big balls hanging between his legs is seared into my memory, and I revisit it frequently in my fantasies.

He's married, has kids, and is not exactly attractive to the opposite sex. He's tall and skinny, and looks a lot like the singer Randy Travis if that helps you form a mental image of him. He frequently brings up that he's in a sexless marriage in a humorous manner, and says he is jealous of me because my wife and I still have a pretty good sex life.

I am so close - SO very close - to confiding in him. "I would never tell anyone else this, but I trust you. We've been friends a long time and I don't want to jeopardize that, but there's something I very much want to experience and, given your comments, you might find the experience fulfilling as well given your sexless marriage." I just can't pull the trigger to do it. I'm 90% sure he would agree to it, but that's a BIG step over the precipice.

I would lick and suck his cock and balls like his wife never has. I bet his cum would be delicious...
 
I discussed this very subject in a PM earlier this morning:

Yeah, the risk of losing a friend... I went to high school with a guy whom I've remained friends with. We live near each other and have lunch once a month or so. I saw him naked once - in high school. We were changing into our bathing suits and I noticed he was hung like a horse. I didn't really have the urge at that moment to suck his cock, but the image of his large flaccid penis and big balls hanging between his legs is seared into my memory, and I revisit it frequently in my fantasies.

He's married, has kids, and is not exactly attractive to the opposite sex. He's tall and skinny, and looks a lot like the singer Randy Travis if that helps you form a mental image of him. He frequently brings up that he's in a sexless marriage in a humorous manner, and says he is jealous of me because my wife and I still have a pretty good sex life.

I am so close - SO very close - to confiding in him. "I would never tell anyone else this, but I trust you. We've been friends a long time and I don't want to jeopardize that, but there's something I very much want to experience and, given your comments, you might find the experience fulfilling as well given your sexless marriage." I just can't pull the trigger to do it. I'm 90% sure he would agree to it, but that's a BIG step over the precipice.

I would lick and suck his cock and balls like his wife never has. I bet his cum would be delicious...
I'm no expert - I have no experience with this - but I think you almost gotta start small. If a buddy came right out and asked to suck my cock, I'd be taken aback. But if we started off viewing porn together, progressed slowly, I'm sure one day we'd get there
 
i've told this story on here before, but it is on this topic.

When I was about 23 or 24, I was single and had a coworker, Jim, who was about the same age and who I became good friends with. He had a pretty serious girlfriend, but he had a really high sex drive, as did I. We'd occasionally get together after work for a drink, and we'd sometimes talk about sex and porn, and as this was in the days before the internet, a couple times we went to a sex shop together to pick up some porn mags and videos (just straight and lesbian stuff.)

Looking back on it now, I see that Jim gave me a few signs. He was always joking around that he had a big dick, but I could tell he wasn't really joking. Once I got together with Jim and another friend of his, and his friend talked about watching porn with Jim. He mentioned that once they had watched an all-male video, and how he thought it was kind of gross, and Jim smiled and nodded in agreement. But that got me thinking--ONE of them must have suggested that they watch the gay video, and if it wasn't Jim's friend, then it was probably Jim. Jim also mentioned to me at a different time that his younger brother was gay, and Jim was okay with that, so I knew he wasn't some raging homophobe.

So a couple times Jim jokingly suggested that we should get together and watch some porn and jack off, but again, I could tell that he wasn't really joking. He also said that he had a video of his girfriend giving him a blowjob, and that he'd like to show it to me. I joked back and said that I'd love to, but I think neither of us was sure how serious the other one was. So we didn't pursue it, and then a while later he left the job and we fell out of touch.

Looking back on it, I'm about 90% sure that he was trying to get me to suck his cock--or at least he would have been open to the idea if I had suggested it. I would have LOVED to give him a blowjob, but I remember especially at that age, I was very guarded in my sexuality and did not want anyone to know that I was bisexual. So I wasn't going to come out and ask him, and I think he was kind of the same.

On the other hand, from reading some of the posts of you guys, I could have been reading it wrong and maybe he would have been pissed off I had been more forward. Who knows?

But I've jacked off countless times to the fantasy of what could have happened, as it could have been an ideal situation. Jim was a cool, trustworthy, funny guy, highly sexed, discreet and not looking for a romance--and (I'm pretty sure) he had a nice big cock and loved having it sucked!
 
Looking back on it, I'm about 90% sure that he was trying to get me to suck his cock--or at least he would have been open to the idea if I had suggested it. I would have LOVED to give him a blowjob, but I remember especially at that age, I was very guarded in my sexuality and did not want anyone to know that I was bisexual. So I wasn't going to come out and ask him, and I think he was kind of the same.

I cannot even begin to adequately express how hot your experience is to me! The big "what if" would fuel my fantasies as well.

Is there any chance you can friend him on social media and ask him what his intentions were, and/or confide in him that you would have gladly sucked his cock given the chance?
 
I cannot even begin to adequately express how hot your experience is to me! The big "what if" would fuel my fantasies as well.

Is there any chance you can friend him on social media and ask him what his intentions were, and/or confide in him that you would have gladly sucked his cock given the chance?

Oh, it's been so many years and those times are long gone--probably just best left as a nice fantasy.
 
I discussed this very subject in a PM earlier this morning:

Yeah, the risk of losing a friend... I went to high school with a guy whom I've remained friends with. We live near each other and have lunch once a month or so. I saw him naked once - in high school. We were changing into our bathing suits and I noticed he was hung like a horse. I didn't really have the urge at that moment to suck his cock, but the image of his large flaccid penis and big balls hanging between his legs is seared into my memory, and I revisit it frequently in my fantasies.

He's married, has kids, and is not exactly attractive to the opposite sex. He's tall and skinny, and looks a lot like the singer Randy Travis if that helps you form a mental image of him. He frequently brings up that he's in a sexless marriage in a humorous manner, and says he is jealous of me because my wife and I still have a pretty good sex life.

I am so close - SO very close - to confiding in him. "I would never tell anyone else this, but I trust you. We've been friends a long time and I don't want to jeopardize that, but there's something I very much want to experience and, given your comments, you might find the experience fulfilling as well given your sexless marriage." I just can't pull the trigger to do it. I'm 90% sure he would agree to it, but that's a BIG step over the precipice.

I would lick and suck his cock and balls like his wife never has. I bet his cum would be delicious...
Its terrible to have such a dilemma. A memory of a specific cock in my mind from long ago, drove me to become intensely bi-curious. This cock was white, ramrod straight, veiny, thick, with a beautiful cut head. His balls were round and large, and I put his dick in my mouth, but was too afraid to blow him for fear he would tell other people.

Many years later my mind "saw" me sucking this massive dick, and I was not afraid at all. You might try simple honesty with your friend. Tell him you have wanted to please him sexually, without any pressure on him to suck you off in return. Hope this desire you have becomes a reality!
 
Its terrible to have such a dilemma. A memory of a specific cock in my mind from long ago, drove me to become intensely bi-curious. This cock was white, ramrod straight, veiny, thick, with a beautiful cut head. His balls were round and large, and I put his dick in my mouth, but was too afraid to blow him for fear he would tell other people.

Many years later my mind "saw" me sucking this massive dick, and I was not afraid at all. You might try simple honesty with your friend. Tell him you have wanted to please him sexually, without any pressure on him to suck you off in return. Hope this desire you have becomes a reality!
WOW! If his cock was already in your mouth, how could you not suck it? I understand the fear of him telling other people, it's kept me from sucking cock my whole life. But if his cock was already in my mouth, I don't think I could stop myself.
 
WOW! If his cock was already in your mouth, how could you not suck it? I understand the fear of him telling other people, it's kept me from sucking cock my whole life. But if his cock was already in my mouth, I don't think I could stop myself.
He had taken my cock in his mouth first. He only put it in, did not lick or bob up and down. I only imitated what he did. I had not even fucked a girl yet either, so I missed a lifetime memory - sort of. My lust for his cock hit me full blast in my mid-fifties, and since then, I have given 33 memorable blow jobs to total strangers. I truly love sucking cock and making men cum with my mouth.
 
He had taken my cock in his mouth first. He only put it in, did not lick or bob up and down. I only imitated what he did. I had not even fucked a girl yet either, so I missed a lifetime memory - sort of. My lust for his cock hit me full blast in my mid-fifties, and since then, I have given 33 memorable blow jobs to total strangers. I truly love sucking cock and making men cum with my mouth.
I envy you.
 
Do you think when guys have taken a shot, is it more of a chance a friendship is lost or a fantasy granted?

I have a friend that initiated jacking off together, stayed naked around the house, talks dirty about me gagging on his cock, but when I call him on it - he gets pissed-tough read
 
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