Self Care

[Riles]

What is it to you?

Nobody owns a corner on hardship, we each just rent a space for a while. So what do you do to get yourself through tough/dark times? Do you consider the basic necessities of eating a decent meal, getting enough sleep, etc your self care? Or maybe the Sunday morning run/bike ride? Time at the gym? New/young moms often consider it just getting to eat and shower without kids making demands. Seeing a therapist to help sort shit out in your brain? Something spiritual? Yoga? A holiday?

What do you do to keep on an even keel?

 

[butters]

What is it to you?

Nobody owns a corner on hardship, we each just rent a space for a while. So what do you do to get yourself through tough/dark times? Do you consider the basic necessities of eating a decent meal, getting enough sleep, etc your self care? Or maybe the Sunday morning run/bike ride? Time at the gym? New/young moms often consider it just getting to eat and shower without kids making demands. Seeing a therapist to help sort shit out in your brain? Something spiritual? Yoga? A holiday?

What do you do to keep on an even keel?

write poetry/read/draw/make stuff; get my hands in the soil; avoid people when i'm peopled out; see people when i need conversation. if any of that involves helping others as well as myself, that's even better.

long and the short of it, though, writing. when i'm not, my dreams get crazier and even busier, so i'm waking up tired from doing stuff what feels like all night long

 

[mayfly13]

Our society (be it India, Azerbaiijan or England)
is atomized and money-driven.

This lead to a proliferation of "well-being/health" gurus.
Do this that, eat greenies, self-monitor, take a yoga retreat...

I would say instead: join a religious or spiritual or some other community..
Start reading about, and understanding about how fucked-up & contrary to nature, our modern society really is. It's not you, it's them.

 

[Riles]

write poetry/read/draw/make stuff; get my hands in the soil; avoid people when i'm peopled out; see people when i need conversation. if any of that involves helping others as well as myself, that's even better.

long and the short of it, though, writing. when i'm not, my dreams get crazier and even busier, so i'm waking up tired from doing stuff what feels like all night long

That’s a pretty decent list.

Do you have to get up during the night to write?

 

[Riles]

Our society (be it India, Azerbaiijan or England)
is atomized and money-driven.

This lead to a proliferation of "well-being/health" gurus.
Do this that, eat greenies, self-monitor, take a yoga retreat...

I would say instead: join a religious or spiritual or some other community..
Start reading about, and understanding about how fucked-up & contrary to nature, our modern society really is. It's not you, it's them.

I’m in partial agreement with you. I’m not certain about joining a spiritual group, but community activity is always a good idea. Also, it’s amusing to watch people spend a small fortune on gear to be prepared to ‘get back to nature’ and let go of the stresses of city life, etc and then pull out a slew of tech to entertain themselves. We really are back asswards.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

Read books, listen to music, long bubble baths, light murder….probably the same as everyone else.

 

[rae121452]

shower occasionally. trim hair, beard, nails occasionally. drink alcohol. avoid other humans. that's about it.

 

[PMarky]

I usually find that church on Sunday, lunch with a good friend on Wednesdays, indulging my fondness for both music and art, and an adherence to routine keep me functional. When that doesn't work there is always gin! Summers are always the most difficult for me as I am not teaching, so that is my routine shot, and I can get really stressed. When I get really stressed things can spin out of control quite quickly.

 

[Riles]

I ride. Either I do some ring work or trails depending on the how disconnected I want to get. Fires back at the bunkie. Cooking when I am on my own. I like to hit the market and wander, letting my tastebuds rule over the menu.

I don’t consider the bath part of my self care because then it seems like an indulgence and screw that. But I still have youngish kids that need something immediately after the bedroom/bathroom door closes.

 

[Riles]

When that doesn't work there is always gin!

I’m thinking this was only half in jest.

 

[PMarky]

I’m thinking this was only half in jest.

Somewhere between a half and a third in jest, Riles. Certain aspects of my life can be grindingly difficult to deal with, and sometimes it takes one heck of a toll. The past year has been particularly hard. Covid-19 means I have not been in the classroom much, and teaching over the internet is like making love with two condoms on!

 

[Riles]

Somewhere between a half and a third in jest, Riles. Certain aspects of my life are grindingly difficult to deal with, and sometimes it takes one heck of a toll.

My sympathies that things are difficult for you. I hope you have a good support network in your life.




Ohhhh you edited after I quoted! Okay so now I can relate somewhat, seeing as my kids have done the DL for a year. The teachers have been awesome and have gotten really creative st trying to keep the kids engaged. If you are teaching this way, you are to be commended. Soon. Chin up. You’re necessary.

Sorry, I lol’d at the two condoms bit. Though I cannot imagine.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I will let you know when I find it. I'm not sure I have ever been on an even keel. Or relaxed. Or had fun. Or been happy.

 

[PMarky]

Support network is pretty good, but there are certain topics which have to be off limits on the basis everyone knows everyone else. For example, the topic of 'My Muse' is one that cannot be discussed with my usual support network as they would work out (a) who she is, and (b) that might cause a lot of heartache and anger to folks I care about because they would not understand what is going on emotionally at my end. It is what it is, and most of the time muddling through is successfully accomplished.

Don't worry about laughing at the two condoms remark. It was meant to be funny - almost as funny as a 50-something lecturer trying to get to grips with technology when the Covid-19 show kicked off!

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

What is it to you?

Nobody owns a corner on hardship, we each just rent a space for a while. So what do you do to get yourself through tough/dark times? Do you consider the basic necessities of eating a decent meal, getting enough sleep, etc your self care? Or maybe the Sunday morning run/bike ride? Time at the gym? New/young moms often consider it just getting to eat and shower without kids making demands. Seeing a therapist to help sort shit out in your brain? Something spiritual? Yoga? A holiday?

What do you do to keep on an even keel?

I write poems, songs, meditate and smoke ALOT of weed.

 

[Dribble]

As the Darkness advanced...masking the sun forever...fear was inevitable. "Daddy...will we still sing once the Darkness comes?" asked the wee one. "Yes, child...we will still sing. We will sing of the Darkness."

We do whatever it takes. It is different each time. But we know it. The mask it wears. Whispering quietly in our ear, "Hello...it isn't me again."

One should always respect it. But it is not stronger than me. It is not more than i can handle. I created it. It is me. But it does not define me. I am more than just the Darkness.

 

[toeskr]

What is it to you?

Nobody owns a corner on hardship, we each just rent a space for a while. So what do you do to get yourself through tough/dark times? Do you consider the basic necessities of eating a decent meal, getting enough sleep, etc your self care? Or maybe the Sunday morning run/bike ride? Time at the gym? New/young moms often consider it just getting to eat and shower without kids making demands. Seeing a therapist to help sort shit out in your brain? Something spiritual? Yoga? A holiday?

What do you do to keep on an even keel?

Fatalistic.

There is no dark times.

Life is good. Why do you people always have to have drama?

 

[Chernosoth]

One type of self care is healthcare, with the patient being the physician. That may be as simple as healthy diet, exercise, and avoiding addictions.

 

[Wat_Tyler]

Humility.


Not much of it here, sad to say.


Not taking one's self too damned seriously goes a long way as a stress/bullshit reliever.

 

[Riles]

Fatalistic.

There is no dark times.

Life is good. Why do you people always have to have drama?

No dark times? That’s very small minded. I’m not talking about crying over crab grass in the walkway, but if you choose to see that as the extent to which people would suffer, we’ll that’s more telling about you and your life experience, isn’t it?

Life is good, on that we agree.

 

[Riles]

I will let you know when I find it. I'm not sure I have ever been on an even keel. Or relaxed. Or had fun. Or been happy.

This sounds dreadful. Sorry, that’s unhelpful isn’t it.

No diversions to break it up in your mind? I’m not going to make a list as though you haven’t thought of any of them yourself.

 

[FGB]

I have been under more stress and pressure in the last three years ...I can't even make a list.

I read, when I am not stressed out to much I do a little writing ( Three chapters in the last year).

When we can I get together with a FWB, work over a bottle of WT-101 and have wild monkey sex in her Playroom we decked out.

I am going over there in about five hours and if nothing goes amiss, I expect both of us to be sore tomorrow!

I know I need some of THAT stress relief!

 

[Riles]

Not taking one's self too damned seriously goes a long way as a stress/bullshit reliever.

True. Or maybe just the recognition that everyone has their own shit and not to think your own situation is unique.

 

[Riles]

I write poems, songs, meditate and smoke ALOT of weed.

Do you play these songs also?

 

[ryan8558]

Read books, listen to music, long bubble baths, light murder….probably the same as everyone else.

say what????