❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Wild_Honey_66]

I kinda wanna kiss your neck...

And no... that's not a lie.

That's me playing htg.

I'm a good liar. I rarely do it, being more of a believer in honesty. But, when it is called for, I am a good liar, good enough to once have made a living off it.

Part of being a good liar is lying about your tells. This is a useful thing in poker too - deliberately bluff a few times and give a tell with each bluff. Then, when you have a winning hand, give the tell that says you're bluffing. Poker is full of idiots who think they can read tells (they watched Rounders one too many times). So you let them read your "lying" tell and they'll think "I've got him/her!". But, they don't....

This also works if you ever need to beat a lie detector. Lie detectors work on respiration, heart rate and galvanic skin response (sweat). When the interrogation starts, they'll ask a series of baseline questions (truthful and untruthful).

When you answer each question have your body react as if you're lying - catch your breath for just a spilt second and tense your muscles, then release and answer. Do this consistently with every truthful answer. Then, when you lie, it will appear identical to your truthful statements. It's surprisingly easy with a little practice on a polygraph.

But, I could be lying....

I really enjoyed 'Lie To Me' starting Tim Roth a few years ago. I know it wasn't super accurate, but I found the science behind it fascinating.

 

[Karabare]

11.14.20

Are you a good liar?
Not saying you lie often but when you do, are you good at it?
If you're bad at it, what are your tells?

I am. Nuff said

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.19.20

Today PLP Inquires on behalf of an advice seeker...

We are all (hopefully) trying our best to be safe and keep other safe in the time of pandemic. But some parts of life still go on.

If you were meeting someone for a first date this week what would make you feel most comfortable and what would you do to try and make your date most comfortable?

Outdoor venue? Masks? Goodnight kiss if it went well? How much communication would you want before hand?

Filter all answers through respect please.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

A negative result on a recent STD test.

 

[AlpineFresco]

11.19.20

Today PLP Inquires on behalf of an advice seeker...

We are all (hopefully) trying our best to be safe and keep other safe in the time of pandemic. But some parts of life still go on.

If you were meeting someone for a first date this week what would make you feel most comfortable and what would you do to try and make your date most comfortable?

Outdoor venue? Masks? Goodnight kiss if it went well? How much communication would you want before hand?

Filter all answers through respect please.

Okay so I'm not convinced I'd be doing this at all. But, let's run the hypothetical - it's unlikely we've both been isolating for 2 weeks (I know this is actually impossible for many people), so physical contact is highly unwise. Outdoor venue, yes absolutely. Masks? If we have to be indoors, absolutely. I'd want communication beforehand, to get a sense of what their risk assessments are like vs mine.

I have friends who have met people and got together with them during the pandemic, and they did this through online dating first, followed by meeting with precautions, and then isolating before any physical contact. Maybe you feel, after discussing the bubbles you're both in, you want to be part of the same bubble - that has implications for other people in your bubble too, who need to be made aware of your intentions, and/or moved outside your bubble.

 

[AveryElle]

11.19.20

Today PLP Inquires on behalf of an advice seeker...

We are all (hopefully) trying our best to be safe and keep other safe in the time of pandemic. But some parts of life still go on.

If you were meeting someone for a first date this week what would make you feel most comfortable and what would you do to try and make your date most comfortable?

Outdoor venue? Masks? Goodnight kiss if it went well? How much communication would you want before hand?

Filter all answers through respect please.

I wouldn't meet someone this week. There are record breaking surges basically everywhere. There is absolutely no way to be safe in the company of someone you don't already live with, and I say this as someone who has a child in school and a spouse going to work. I also still do my own shopping (because fuck the gig economy). The pandemic had already likely destroyed the chance for me to have another child, it's destroyed a relationship for me, and I prefer it not to destroy my lungs or god forbid someone else's life.

And I have no patience for people who think a party right now is OK, travel for thanksgiving is OK, etc. It's revealing a lot about people I know and their ability to conceptualize the greater good.

ETA the question asks about this week. If you’d asked about, say, august or early September, my answer would have been different.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I've seen quite a few first date ideas that can make for a memorable and safe first meeting. Things I'd be comfortable with while working in Healthcare.

The main and most accessible one is a picnic. Where you each bring your own blanket. It enforces the 6ft rule and still allows a cozy romantic environment.

I would forgo the first kiss. Which sucks...but also adds anticipation which is lacking majorly nowadays.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

11.19.20

Today PLP Inquires on behalf of an advice seeker...

We are all (hopefully) trying our best to be safe and keep other safe in the time of pandemic. But some parts of life still go on.

If you were meeting someone for a first date this week what would make you feel most comfortable and what would you do to try and make your date most comfortable?

Outdoor venue? Masks? Goodnight kiss if it went well? How much communication would you want before hand?

Filter all answers through respect please.

Not a first date, but the one time I had a sexual experience during this mess was with a friend who came to visit. We slept in separate rooms, and I only served well-cooked food after thoroughly washing my face and hands. But we wanted to be together, so we mutually masturbated from across my living room. Then, when she left, we said goodby from a distance. It was a nice visit, but also weird and sad.

 

[QuietCanadian]

A negative result on a recent STD test.

*schedules appointment*

 

[Orchidea73]

11.19.20

Today PLP Inquires on behalf of an advice seeker...

We are all (hopefully) trying our best to be safe and keep other safe in the time of pandemic. But some parts of life still go on.

If you were meeting someone for a first date this week what would make you feel most comfortable and what would you do to try and make your date most comfortable?

Outdoor venue? Masks? Goodnight kiss if it went well? How much communication would you want before hand?

Filter all answers through respect please.

Last time I went on a date it was in September. But I have cut off social events completely since October, and that includes dating. It's not a guarantee by any means but it's a safety measure that I am not willing to risk.

Fortunately, I am lucky enough that I can work from home, while many other people don't. I guess, I should consider myself lucky to still have a job. So I can live without dating, for now.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

What Alpine and Avery said.

Not right now.

However, if you had to? Because... like and lust and love? Which should be embraced at this time.

Both get Covid tests, first. STD later, sluts.
Outdoors.
Don’t see anyone fragile for 2 weeks after.
If you make out, or more, get tested again sometime the following week.
I know a lot of people dating new person after new person, as if there’s no pandemic. They have been careful and lucky.

I’m also not in a first date situation, so, I don’t have to deal with this.
For me? I would pass.

This may seem like overkill, but I am a nurse. I can’t advise anything BUT this.

LOL!

I honestly don't think I would want to start dating someone new under the current conditions, because if I met someone with whom I really clicked and we wanted to take things up a few notches, it'd be putting a lot of people at risk on my end. Taking my own health into my own hands is one thing, but I work with a bunch of little kids, and some older gals, and a soon-to-be mom. And I have kids. And they go to school with other kids... I don't want to have to carry that potential burden.

And because of my own personal baggage, I don't know how I would feel about being in a romantic relationship with someone I couldn't touch intimately. Like, this is Lit, I've been there already and I'm over it.

So unless I randomly meet someone practically perfect in every way, and we agree that he should come isolate with my fam, I don't see it happening in the near future.

Which is probably a good thing for my slutty ass.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Last time I went on a date it was in September. But I have cut off social events completely since October, and that includes dating. It's not a guarantee by any means but it's a safety measure that I am not willing to risk.

Fortunately, I am lucky enough that I can work from home, while many other people don't. I guess, I should consider myself lucky to still have a job. So I can live without dating, for now.

I walk to a store daily. Now I always wash my face and hands before I go, and I make a point of not handling cash money. But I am sad for the people behind the counters I visit working probably for minimum wage who have to interact with so many people each day with this increased risk and so little reward. Yet they are always so kind. They haven't yet lost their spirit.

 

[Orchidea73]

I walk to a store daily. Now I always wash my face and hands before I go, and I make a point of not handling cash money. But I am sad for the people behind the counters I visit working probably for minimum wage who have to interact with so many people each day with this increased risk and so little reward. Yet they are always so kind. They haven't yet lost their spirit.

So true. I started to order online, again. I have to say that if there is anything that has worked perfectly, even during the heavy lockdown we had back in March and April, supermarkets was one of them. Their service has been top notch. They even send us various things as gifts, like prosciutto, cheese, juice etc., with our order. They are working hard. I cannot thank them enough.

 

[AveryElle]

And aside per the comments above, applauding healthcare workers but not others has always felt weird to me. Maybe it’s my history as a military spouse and ‘thank you for your service’ comments always freak us out because it’s an action less term...but grocery workers, postal workers, low wage essential workers have gotten sick and died in droves and I feel like no one speaks for them. Yet YAY DOCTORS that make 6 figures and have insurance. It’s lopsided to me, because so many people are risking their lives now - and some have absolutely no choice because they’ll lose all income if they don’t. Not to belittle doc or nurse work, but let’s also applaud the hospital janitors and cooks, for example.

ETA one thing I won’t do is go back to grocery delivery. My family simply cannot afford it - I’m still paying off the extra costs from the spring. So I’ll shop myself, just off peak.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

And aside per the comments above, applauding healthcare workers but not others has always felt weird to me. Maybe it’s my history as a military spouse and ‘thank you for your service’ comments always freak us out because it’s an action less term...but grocery workers, postal workers, low wage essential workers have gotten sick and died in droves and I feel like no one speaks for them. Yet YAY DOCTORS that make 6 figures and have insurance. It’s lopsided to me, because so many people are risking their lives now - and some have absolutely no choice because they’ll lose all income if they don’t. Not to belittle doc or nurse work, but let’s also applaud the hospital janitors and cooks, for example.

ETA one thing I won’t do is go back to grocery delivery. My family simply cannot afford it - I’m still paying off the extra costs from the spring. So I’ll shop myself, just off peak.

We're all in this together.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

And aside per the comments above, applauding healthcare workers but not others has always felt weird to me. Maybe it’s my history as a military spouse and ‘thank you for your service’ comments always freak us out because it’s an action less term...but grocery workers, postal workers, low wage essential workers have gotten sick and died in droves and I feel like no one speaks for them. Yet YAY DOCTORS that make 6 figures and have insurance. It’s lopsided to me, because so many people are risking their lives now - and some have absolutely no choice because they’ll lose all income if they don’t. Not to belittle doc or nurse work, but let’s also applaud the hospital janitors and cooks, for example.

ETA one thing I won’t do is go back to grocery delivery. My family simply cannot afford it - I’m still paying off the extra costs from the spring. So I’ll shop myself, just off peak.

I agree there are a lot of essential workers that deserve appreciation and better pay. But... the people holding hands of patients as they die, cleaning their trachs and their bodies maybe do deserve every dime they make. Which isn't nearly as much as people think. And Im speaking from the perspective of a wife of someone who is doing both hospital work and grocery work during all this.

I think we are finding out how very unnecessary a lot of jobs are.

Teachers are also the ones not getting enough credit.

Anyway, back to dating. Glory holes anyone??

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Anyway, back to dating. Glory holes anyone??

I'd watch and cheer!

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

I agree there are a lot of essential workers that deserve appreciation and better pay. But... the people holding hands of patients as they die, cleaning their trachs and their bodies maybe do deserve every dime they make. Which isn't nearly as much as people think. And Im speaking from the perspective of a wife of someone who is doing both hospital work and grocery work during all this.

I think we are finding out how very unnecessary a lot of jobs are.

Teachers are also the ones not getting enough credit.

Anyway, back to dating. Glory holes anyone??

Har! That's a refreshing change of subject! But what do glory holes have to do with dating? Getting out a drill and putting a hole in a girlfriend's bathroom wall would be a stretch for me.

I can only remember one place that I saw a glory hole, and the idea didn't appeal to me. I like to see the face and body of the person who is blowing me.

 

[AveryElle]

We're all in this together.

I think that’s a concept of privilege. If we were, people wouldn’t have to chose between losing their homes and risking the lives of loved ones. So while we are all in this, the current situation proves we aren’t all in this together.

Also, glory holes...sounds like the name of a kinky donut shop.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

I think that’s a concept of privilege. If we were, people wouldn’t have to chose between losing their homes and risking the lives of loved ones. So while we are all in this, the current situation proves we aren’t all in this together.

Also, glory holes...sounds like the name of a kinky donut shop.

I take your point; my comment was likely fatuous and simplistic. But I agree about donut shops. I've heard funny rumors about what frat boys do with those products.

 

[HotBrand]

I agree there are a lot of essential workers that deserve appreciation and better pay. But... the people holding hands of patients as they die, cleaning their trachs and their bodies maybe do deserve every dime they make. Which isn't nearly as much as people think. And Im speaking from the perspective of a wife of someone who is doing both hospital work and grocery work during all this.

I think we are finding out how very unnecessary a lot of jobs are.

Teachers are also the ones not getting enough credit.

Anyway, back to dating. Glory holes anyone??

I was gently nudged to check in with the mention of glory holes.

Aren't they a fun concept in theory? I'm all over the idea!

I can't imagine many people would ACTUALLY use them with a randomer though. The risks, man ... the risks!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Glory holes!

https://youtu.be/nmmHohgpVtA

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Glory holes!

https://youtu.be/nmmHohgpVtA

"That's when your nose is poking their happy trail, and your chin keeps bouncing off their balls, and the head of their dick is hitting your uvula like a linebacker attacking a quarterback." Har! Makes me worry how many times I've made women feel that way.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

"That's when your nose is poking their happy trail, and your chin keeps bouncing off their balls, and the head of their dick is hitting your uvula like a linebacker attacking a quarterback." Har! Makes me worry how many times I've made women feel that way.

Oh, come on. You know some of us like it.

HAM

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Oh, come on. You know some of us like it.

HAM

Women who haven't liked the things I've done or not done have usually tended to tell me about it in no uncertain terms. If they don't say anything, I continue with my bad behavior.