❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Coranhorn]

02.10.20 (submitted)

Do you like to send a new Lit friend a pic of your fine visage within minutes of meeting them, after getting to know them a while, or never ever? How does showing your face square with the anonymity of a site like Lit?

I usually share after a while, but after having been ghosted plenty of times. So I am definitely more reserved. In my younger days, I hadn't a care in the world about that. Now though... I am more hesitant

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I wonder whether kink is a factor here? Is it harder to play casually with someone if you've admitted you want to be dressed as a schoolgirl and be caned while being forced to repeat the mantra "I was wrong!" with a plug stuffed in your butt? Is a good blowjob just a good blowjob in comparison - something which costs nothing emotionally to enjoy giving or receiving?

I do think you are likely making a very valid point here. In the real world, obviously, a bdsm friend would require a deeper level of trust that a friend with benefits. I am not sure if that really transfers over to a non physical relationship. I find it easier to have a decent level of trust here as the risks are less substantial if violated. I would think that would also transfer over to a bdsm style as well, but that is only theoretical to me since I don't really play seriously that way.

 

[Dribble]

02.10.20 (submitted)

Do you like to send a new Lit friend a pic of your fine visage within minutes of meeting them, after getting to know them a while, or never ever? How does showing your face square with the anonymity of a site like Lit?

There are maybe 5, or 6 people on all of Lit right now that have seen my face...unless they share my pics...who knows? Some in the past...in hindsight...I probably shouldn't have been so free.

It isnt hard to get a pic. I just need to feel you are worth my time. Anonymity has little to do with anything.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

02.10.20 (submitted)

Do you like to send a new Lit friend a pic of your fine visage within minutes of meeting them, after getting to know them a while, or never ever? How does showing your face square with the anonymity of a site like Lit?

I can count on two hands the number of Litsters who have seen face over the years. (Well, maybe three...maybe. I'm too wrung out to count right freaking now).

My face doesn't make me who I am. And frankly, it ain't much to look at so I don't go flashing it around 'cause I ain't proud of it, and won't ever be.

If you've seen my face, I like you. I trust you. I've let you in. Only then have I horrified you with my image, when I don't think you'll give a fuck what I look like.

But in general, this place is anonymous for a reason.

I don't give a fuck who 99.9% of the Lit population is.

I would hope that an even higher percentage of the Lit population doesn't give a fuck who I am or what I look like, because what I have to stare at in the mirror is the barest fraction of my existence.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You said bare.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

But I would be very surprised indeed if anyone came to Lit to replicate directly a relationship they were already having in person with someone else. What would be the point? So I don't accept that having emotions for more than one person necessarily involves an overlap - at least, not to the degree you imply. My friendships have different dynamics, so I guess relationships can too?

I have really enjoyed the conversation that folks have been having around this issue of multiple partners and the idea of "overlap", emotional and otherwise. I have to agree with Justa in that a certain degree of repetition will be present in relationships, whether happening concurrently or serially. I don't think it's limited to sexual/romantic relationships. I know that there is overlap in my platonic relationships, both in my feelings for my friends and in the types of things we do together. I am sure that parents of multiple children have overlap in their relationships with their children. Despite the overlaps, each one on one relationship is uniquely defined by the interaction of the two individuals involved. Basically, while I may feel similar emotions for my partners and friends, our individual relationships are wonderfully different in a myriad of ways specific to us.

I think most people are very comfortable with the idea of overlap in terms of one's friends and children. As far as sexual and/or romantic relationships are concerned, it's not everyone's cup of tea...which, of course, is perfectly fine. For me, if a partner of mine has another partner, I hope they tell that person the specific ways in which they find them beautiful. That is a lovely thing to do. I just don't want or need to hear about it.

 

[Mei5ter]

02.10.20 (submitted)

Do you like to send a new Lit friend a pic of your fine visage within minutes of meeting them, after getting to know them a while, or never ever? How does showing your face square with the anonymity of a site like Lit?

My face is off limits, basically. With precisely two exceptions here.

It surprised me that folk here seem fairly blasé about sharing face pics. I understand it's much less common on ampics sites, where there might be 859,000 dingy images of granulated breasts and 1.74million grainy pics of disembodied penises, but relatively few faces. And most of those aren't actually the faces of the people posting them.

What would seeing my face actually add to a friendship, if we're not playing sexually and just chatting?

 

[BadAmy]

02.10.20 (submitted)

Do you like to send a new Lit friend a pic of your fine visage within minutes of meeting them, after getting to know them a while, or never ever? How does showing your face square with the anonymity of a site like Lit?

I used to...if we went to Skype. And I used to post it on the. 'Show us your Face' thread...

Not anymore.
3 reasons.
1...what happened to Fara.
2.METADATA. Which leads to....
3. Someone msgd to me once...'i know where you live'

And that was someone i thought was ok.

Seeing someone's face has no bearing on my interaction with them.
If they are an asshole, no amount of good looks will circumvent that fact.

 

[Mei5ter]

A level of trust and closeness. A level of becoming not merely an online friend, but a friend.
If you don’t trust someone enough to show your face, you shouldn’t be talking to them.
(Rhetorical you.)

I will politely disagree. My two worst experiences on Lit came with people who sent me face pics within 48 hours of meeting, while I've never seen that of one of my best and oldest friends here. I trust her to be who she claims, and I don't need a pic to do that

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

People suck in general, and putting your face out here on Lit is just a risk I'm unwilling to take, over and above the whole "who fucking cares what I look like" thing which predominates my opinion on the matter.

If I've shared on Skype or kik back when I used that...that's different, because I was able to choose who to share with, and was extremely selective even then...my friends, those I care about? Okay...

But random Litsters? NFW.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Piggyback question!

For those people who are uncomfortable with sharing their faces, do you judge people who do? Do you look on the face thread or prefer to avoid faces altogether?

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Piggyback question!

For those people who are uncomfortable with sharing their faces, do you judge people who do? Do you look on the face thread or prefer to avoid faces altogether?

I don't judge. Everyone here has their own free will.

If you choose to show your face, more power to you. I'll look if the mood strikes me, but it doesn't change my opinion of you whether you do or not.

It's a personal choice. I've made mine and I'm fine looking
(or trying not to look) in the mirror...

y'all make your choices, and we'll all just go on with our day as before.

 

[AlpineFresco]

Piggyback question!

For those people who are uncomfortable with sharing their faces, do you judge people who do? Do you look on the face thread or prefer to avoid faces altogether?

I'm curious to see what people look like, if I've seen them post a fair bit and I've some sense of who they are, but at the same time I question the wisdom of it if your discovered presence here could negatively impact your life.

But then, I also trust that people know what's best for themselves. So if they're choosing to share, they've thought it through.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I post very occasionally and in my mind, I'm doing it for my friends. "Hey, pretty day, look at me!" "Hey got a hair cut!" Snd I mean for my friends and people I talk to but don't skype with to see it. BUT I often forget how many people lurk here.

I.e. how do episodes of the AudioPhiles have 300+ listens? I know there aren't 300 regular Playgrounders.

 

[AlpineFresco]

I post very occasionally and in my mind, I'm doing it for my friends. "Hey, pretty day, look at me!" "Hey got a hair cut!" Snd I mean for my friends and people I talk to but don't skype with to see it. BUT I often forget how many people lurk here.

I.e. how do episodes of the AudioPhiles have 300+ listens? I know there aren't 300 regular Playgrounders.

That's the thing. A few might re-listen but who are the lurkers?

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Not always. I was a naive dingbat.

While there may have been some naivety, the actions of that malicious, syphillis-riddled malcontented motherfucker had nothing to do with your relative innocence.

/endrant

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

My face is off limits, basically. With precisely two exceptions here.

Then everyone would know you're a reality tv star.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

He’s the doctor from My 600 pound life, isn’t he?

Cough*GordonRamsey*Cough

 

[AlpineFresco]

Cough*GordonRamsey*Cough

With a forehead you could grow potatoes in!

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Then everyone would know you're a reality tv star.

Pauly D or The Situation?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Pauly D or The Situation?

Nope one of the MTV VJs

 

[Dribble]

Piggyback question!

For those people who are uncomfortable with sharing their faces, do you judge people who do? Do you look on the face thread or prefer to avoid faces altogether?

Why would I judge?

Sure I look...but I miss 99% of them. It is like a game...I will get you one day my pretty....

Then there are my friends...they see my kids more than they see me, cause they are my priority. I dont look at myself as being important that way. I should share more...but i am fucking boring

 

[Dribble]

That's the thing. A few might re-listen but who are the lurkers?

I am one.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I am one.

You see the irony of this right??

 

[Mei5ter]

He’s the doctor from My 600 pound life, isn’t he?

No. I am in fact Sandra Lee, which is why I don't show my face.