Kinks We Don't Understand: DD/lg (First in a series)

[Moochienanu]

This!!!

Can we have a thread on identifying wannabe Doms???

There is kinda THIS one on the BDSM board, but I don’t know if it delves into identifying...

*edit* Thanks, Fara

 

[lurkingguy1978]

There is kinda THIS one on the BDSM board, but I don’t know if it delves into identifying...

*edit* Thanks, Fara

Was gonna say...I thought that already existed somewhere...

Glad I'm not as crazy as I thought.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

We have a ton of them over on BDSM Talk.

Ahh, I don't go in Talk enough. Too many um.... I'll think of a word and get back to ya!

 

[AlwaysFara]

There is kinda THIS one on the BDSM board, but I don’t know if it delves into identifying...

*edit* Thanks, Fara

Was gonna say...I thought that already existed somewhere...

Glad I'm not as crazy as I thought.

Ahh, I don't go in Talk enough. Too many um.... I'll think of a word and get back to ya!

Talk is rough for me. I can’t get that detailed. I think my attention span is shot. As well as my eyesight.

 

[Moochienanu]

Ahh, I don't go in Talk enough. Too many um.... I'll think of a word and get back to ya!

I know what you mean... and I usually only glance at titles on my way to the cafe...

(TITLES, Pmann, not titties... although... )

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ahh, I don't go in Talk enough. Too many um.... I'll think of a word and get back to ya!

Careful with what word you choose... you could be branded a kink shamer!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I know what you mean... and I usually only glance at titles on my way to the cafe...

(TITLES, Pmann, not titties... although... )

Fair play to you, Moochie. Well played.

Thanks for saving me a trip.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Careful with what word you choose... you could be branded a kink shamer!

Never a kink shamer. More of a jerk/moron/illiterate/douchecanoe shamer?? I'm trying to come up with a more elegant term.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Never a kink shamer. More of a jerk/moron/illiterate/douchecanoe shamer?? I'm trying to come up with a more elegant term.

I’m hardly illiterate.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I’m hardly illiterate.

Well, if I was talking about you I'd already have my name picked out. Also, I'd be doing a slack job of shaming you.

I like harder targets.

 

[Suz_anne]

I'm pretty sure PLP just publicly outted Pmann's soft, squishy dick.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm pretty sure PLP just publicly outted Pmann's soft, squishy dick.

Oops! Not public knowledge? Sowwy!

 

[Moochienanu]

Oops! Not public knowledge? Sowwy!

Although very amusing, this conversation isn’t really on topic and I don’t have a lot more time to spend on this today... so... can we get back to it?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Although very amusing, this conversation isn’t really on topic and I don’t have a lot more time to spend on this today... so... can we get back to it?

Carry on ma'am. I'll take my silly ass elsewhere.

I didn't see any pending queries.

 

[Suz_anne]

Although very amusing, this conversation isn’t really on topic and I don’t have a lot more time to spend on this today... so... can we get back to it?

Carry on ma'am. I'll take my silly ass elsewhere.

I didn't see any pending queries.

My apologies, as well. I'm 100% the person who cracks jokes at inappropriate moments. And I couldn't resist a Pmann limp dick shot.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Thank you for moving the topic away from my marvelous dick (something I’ve never said before). I’m sorry that these feral ladies can’t be classy.

Here is a question that’s Moochie specific. I realize it would vary from person to person

Let’s say your daddy moved on. Like, he had to go away where you couldn’t talk with him anymore. Would you seek this interaction with another daddy? Or is this a specific thing to you two?

 

[AlwaysFara]

Thank you for moving the topic away from my marvelous dick (something I’ve never said before). I’m sorry that these feral ladies can’t be classy.

Here is a question that’s Moochie specific. I realize it would vary from person to person

Let’s say your daddy moved on. Like, he had to go away where you couldn’t talk with him anymore. Would you seek this interaction with another daddy? Or is this a specific thing to you two?

I’m not a little, bit I always thought it was a specific type.
I’m not interested in submissive men. Or non kinky men.

 

[Moochienanu]

Thank you for moving the topic away from my marvelous dick (something I’ve never said before). I’m sorry that these feral ladies can’t be classy.

Here is a question that’s Moochie specific. I realize it would vary from person to person

Let’s say your daddy moved on. Like, he had to go away where you couldn’t talk with him anymore. Would you seek this interaction with another daddy? Or is this a specific thing to you two?

Good question and one I think I can answer in two ways.

First, is a temporary absence. I have been without Him having the ability to message or even tell me that He’s doing alright for an entire month before (He does a lot of travel and was in another country). He is even currently on a trip and I’ve heard very little from Him since He left. In these cases, I can tell you that it is a bit more difficult for me to find a safe place to really share feelings, but I manage by chatting more with close friends and writing more. I don’t feel the need to seek the kind of interactions that I have with my Daddy with another person during this time. I do sometimes leave myself reminders that it is only a temporary feeling of loss and I am going to have His hand holding mine soon enough.

Secondly, if I am going to create an imaginary land where we (Daddy and I) reach a decision together that we should no longer continue our relationship, that would be another thing. I think that I will always be little, but I don’t necessarily need a Daddy again. I would let any relationship that might occur in this future to organically find its own feet. Forcing someone into a position they don’t want in a relationship never works (the reason why my husband is not my Daddy and why I would never ask him to be).

 

[Lord Pmann]

Good question and one I think I can answer in two ways.

First, is a temporary absence. I have been without Him having the ability to message or even tell me that He’s doing alright for an entire month before (He does a lot of travel and was in another country). He is even currently on a trip and I’ve heard very little from Him since He left. In these cases, I can tell you that it is a bit more difficult for me to find a safe place to really share feelings, but I manage by chatting more with close friends and writing more. I don’t feel the need to seek the kind of interactions that I have with my Daddy with another person during this time. I do sometimes leave myself reminders that it is only a temporary feeling of loss and I am going to have His hand holding mine soon enough.

Secondly, if I am going to create an imaginary land where we (Daddy and I) reach a decision together that we should no longer continue our relationship, that would be another thing. I think that I will always be little, but I don’t necessarily need a Daddy again. I would let any relationship that might occur in this future to organically find its own feet. Forcing someone into a position they don’t want in a relationship never works (the reason why my husband is not my Daddy and why I would never ask him to be).

The second half was the one I was after. Like, does your little nature always need a daddy? It sounds like it does not. And it can do little all by its self.

I was curious if the currently daddy left, if you’d be out seeking stepdaddy.

 

[Moochienanu]

I have a question! With D/S, there are some who are only subby in the bedroom, and others who are subby all the time. From your posts, it seems like you are little all the time, correct? I know we all have to play different roles throughout our day, but do you consider this a part of your personality, or does it turn on and off as the mood strikes? If age play doesn't enter the bedroom, what parts of being a little do? That might be too personal to ask, but if so, ignore me. I imagine that maybe it's the equivalent of a regular, loving D/S relationship at that point, but I don't know? As I said before, I have a submissive personality, and I can't imagine turning that off in the bedroom. It's still a part of me, and that would be the especially fun part

oh my! So many more than just one question here, Indie! Let me see if I can hit them all.

I am always little in the fact that, yes it is a part of my personality and what makes me “me.” I have my moments where I have to compress all personality in my workplace for the better of the job (where I am a “boss-type” for reference). I am also a mom and that means I have to be a mom when it comes to things (although my child has allowed me the excuse to do things like have ice cream for breakfast or play on a jungle gym without getting weird looks - so double-sided coin there).

In the bedroom I do like when He calls me His Good Girl. Early on in this thread, Tan was referring to THIS piece of writing I posted a few days ago about how much power those words have for us, but I don’t think that is exclusive to being little at all. Other than that, and me calling Him “Daddy,” I can’t think of anything we do that would be looked at by a stranger who would say “holy fuck! That’s a DD/lg couple!”

 

[AveryElle]

I read through almost the whole thread and now am less understanding of everything. I don't believe in labels (for myself), nor do I do well having to compromise my own code in order to be with someone. So if this isn't your thing, don't do it. Even if you have to end a relationship over it. I've done that precisely once. So while I don't have to "get" it, I think a few people here have thoughtfully explained their chosen label(s).

I very much appreciate the time everyone has taken to explain their dynamic. Kink education for everyone!

 

[Moochienanu]

The second half was the one I was after. Like, does your little nature always need a daddy? It sounds like it does not. And it can do little all by its self.

I was curious if the currently daddy left, if you’d be out seeking stepdaddy.

Oh, well then, nope. I can be little without a Daddy (and was for all that time before He found me).

 

[AveryElle]

I am always little in the fact that, yes it is a part of my personality and what makes me “me.” I have my moments where I have to compress all personality in my workplace for the better of the job (where I am a “boss-type” for reference). I am also a mom and that means I have to be a mom when it comes to things (although my child has allowed me the excuse to do things like have ice cream for breakfast or play on a jungle gym without getting weird looks - so double-sided coin there).

....I'm wondering if - and I've discussed offline with someone else because of this thread - if being an actual parent is what makes this more difficult for some people to understand? If people who aren't a parent have an easier time being called that in a more sexualized way than those who aren't?

This is a genuine question, not a judgment so I apologize if it reads that way.

 

[Moochienanu]

....I'm wondering if - and I've discussed offline with someone else because of this thread - if being an actual parent is what makes this more difficult for some people to understand? If people who aren't a parent have an easier time being called that in a more sexualized way than those who aren't?

This is a genuine question, not a judgment so I apologize if it reads that way.

Again, I cannot speak to anyone’s experience but my own and mine is that the DD/lg dynamic in my life has NOTHING to do with actually children or roleplaying a child in a sexual manner.

Having a child/ being a parent makes me more sensitive to this fact/subject, for sure.

 

[AveryElle]

Again, I cannot speak to anyone’s experience but my own and mine is that the DD/lg dynamic in my life has NOTHING to do with actually children or roleplaying a child in a sexual manner.

Having a child/ being a parent makes me more sensitive to this fact/subject, for sure.

Do you think if you had a child with your "daddy", you'd want to call that person "daddy" in that way all the time? I'm not asking about any real or perceived difference between Dd/lg or age play. I'm simply talking real life roles. This could go for someone that has a "Mommy" as well. If any are on here!