Let's Talk About... Kink Shaming

[Wild_Honey_66]

Surprise! I figured, why the hell not? Let's talk about this shit.

*When and where is it okay to kink shame?
*When and where is it just bad form?
*Does it matter what the kink is? Or who you're shaming?
*How does it affect you personally? Your friend group? Your kink community (whether that is Lit, Fet, or wherever you're involved)
*Why not kink shame? Seriously, what's the problem with it? Man, y'all are a bunch of thin-skinned pussies ( )

Add your own questions. Go wild and let's discuss.








**Inspired by Pmann, with thanks for sparking the discussion, even if unintentionally.

 

[kurrginatorX]

There are some kinks I just don't understand. How can one person allow another to expel his or her bodily waste onto his or her body? Even worse is drinking urine or eating feces. This isn't a kink, it's just nasty-ass behavior.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Our first shamer has checked in! Welcome!

 

[kurrginatorX]

Our first shamer has checked in! Welcome!

Oh, you'll be seeing a lot more of me, but I'll be a gentleman and allow a few others to post first.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Oh, you'll be seeing a lot more of me, but I'll be a gentleman and allow a few others to post first.

You do get that this isn't meant to be a shaming free-for-all, right?

 

[DrkSthrnGnt]

Honestly I think this boils down to some people thinking that dickish behavior and belittling others is considered "manly" and acceptable by anyone "with a thick skin," rather than trying to respect and accept everyone.

 

[ShaeLeeTanner]

It's funny, they're three simple words to know, yet people have a hard tine with them.

Respect, Trust, Love

It starts with ourselves and is given to everyone. I'm not seeing much of any of them being shown here.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Well, I like anal sex. Love it. Love the way it hurts, love the spots it hits, etc and so forth.

However, if someone wanted to say "fuck no. That's gross. My dick would get dirty. That's not where God intended it to go , blah, blah, blah.."

Yanno? I wouldn't be able to argue with them. Cause it's the truth.. if you stick your dick in my ass...it's going to get dirty.


If my desire to have a loving partner, one who loves me enough to set boundaries, (not unlike a father figure), seems weird, again, I'm not going to argue with them. It's not their thing. I totally get it. Hell, I think it's weird when guys want a "mother " figure, but that's probably because society has steered us to be more accepting of women who want/need guidance, and we've been taught that for men, that same want/need is somehow "unmanly" or a sign of weakness..

There are, however, extreme kinks which straddle the line between "okay for you but not for me" and "wtf is wrong with you and have you sought therapy?"

Eating shit is one.
Even so, if you really like the idea of eating something I suspect is textured like chunky peanut butter and tastes a bit like pig farm run off...not to mention the REAL (<== NOT IMAGINARY) health risks..
Well, who am I to tell you not to?

There are worse ways cull society than by natural selection.

Truth be told? There's so much "accepted " nowadays. We live in a world where children are not allowed to hug each other at school for fear of sexual harassment, but it's fine and dandy for them to question what sex they identify as...

(Newsflash: if you've got a penis, imma go out on a limb and say you have a Y chromosome and are....*stay with me here*

Male..
)

It's ok if you feel like maybe you shouldn't be a male..but all the surgery in the world is not going to change your genetic makeup. You might get boobs, a vajajay, and look FINE as HELL...but you aren't a female. You will not spontaneously develop a uterus and carry a child in your womb, anymore than the F2M will be able to genetically father a child. You can, however, become loving parents.

I'm not saying that wanting these things is bad, I'm simply stating that there are limitations that must be recognized, and recognizing those limitations is not shaming the desire to have more.

Kinda got off track....

TL,DR
Shaming is never ok. But neither is taking offense when pointing out that certain proclivities might justifiably warrant some scrutiny.

I'm not positive what PMann thought would be accomplished by poking fun at the littles, but, I can also see how he could have found some of the suggestions given as comically basic to anyone not familiar with the dynamic.

 

[Karabare]

RA, you're amazing!

 

[jaF0]

*When and where is it okay to kink shame?
*When and where is it just bad form?

This site is about opinions and members should always be free to post theirs.

Tats and piercings are purely disgusting. All of them, on any one, anywhere (with the exception of one or two in each lower ear lobe). As sure a sign of mental illness as most anything else.

Bodily fluids are always disgusting. All of them.


Fat slobs are always gross.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

This site is about opinions and members should always be free to post theirs.

Tats and piercings are purely disgusting. All of them, on any one, anywhere (with the exception of one or two in each lower ear lobe). As sure a sign of mental illness as most anything else.

Bodily fluids are always disgusting. All of them.


Fat slobs are always gross.

I'm tatted, pierced,AND fat as fuck...
Whoa....I'm also mentally ill.


You might be on to something!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Wait... so this thread is context?! Now I need to go look for what pmann did... Should have known it would be about him.

yeah, that pencil-dicked fucker started a shit storm in the "What are you thinking?" thread...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

RA, you're amazing!

I know, right? It's totes amazing I'm still single..lol

 

[kurrginatorX]

You do get that this isn't meant to be a shaming free-for-all, right?

Yes, of course.

Honestly I think this boils down to some people thinking that dickish behavior and belittling others is considered "manly" and acceptable by anyone "with a thick skin," rather than trying to respect and accept everyone.

Okay, your socialist liberal agenda has been noted. Let that not beleaguer the fact that shitting and pissing on someone, and said person gleefully consuming said, is not just mentally sick, but a risk to one's physical health as well.

I'm not seeing much of any of them being shown here.

Et tu, ShaeLee? Forget about "To each his or her own," you seriously buy into drinking piss and eating shit?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

On the other hand kink shaming might come from a place of curiosity. Thou doth protest too much. I’m not sure, but sometimes I see it happen and think to myself ‘Yep, you’re one step away from putting on a diaper, you fucker.’

Truth!

 

[ShaeLeeTanner]

People tend to equate some acts as sexual and they're not. They just try to neatly fit it into sexual behavior but it's not. Scat and golden showers, or the consumption thereof is not sexual but something behavioral and to me degrading to the max.

Sexual kinks, whatever they may be, are things that end up with some form of sexual gratification. IMO With that said, kids and pets are not sexual beings, so leave them alone.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Yes, of course.



Okay, your socialist liberal agenda has been noted. Let that not beleaguer the fact that shitting and pissing on someone, and said person gleefully consuming said, is not just mentally sick, but a risk to one's physical health as well.



Et tu, ShaeLee? Forget about "To each his or her own," you seriously buy into drinking piss and eating shit?

Dude, you need to chill a little bit.

And find out more about pee play before making sweeping statements that might apply to a small percentage of participants, but certainly doesn't apply to all.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

People tend to equate some acts as sexual and they're not. They just try to neatly fit it into sexual behavior but it's not. Scat and golden showers, or the consumption thereof is not sexual but something behavioral and to me degrading to the max.

Sexual kinks, whatever they may be, are things that end up with some form of sexual gratification. IMO With that said, kids and pets are not sexual beings, so leave them alone.

Hi Shae

I'm not going to address scat here (or anywhere), but i hope you'll be receptive to hearing why some people get a sense of intimacy from sharing pee play.

 

[ShaeLeeTanner]

Hi Shae

I'm not going to address scat here (or anywhere), but i hope you'll be receptive to hearing why some people get a sense of intimacy from sharing pee play.

Oh, I enjoy pee play in the shower. Won't drink it, but I love playing with my GFs cock and spray her pee on me. I got my kinks, trust me.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Hi all you Perverts.

Yes, you too!

I know if most of friends knew about my kinks they'd label me a pervert. A lot of people away from here see anything other than straight two- person intercourse between a man and a woman as twisted. Even in the 21st Century.

I see four categories in the kink universe. If you think I'm wrong, we should discuss it here. This thread has the potential to bring understanding.

The Ones I've Got: I have more kinks than a five dollar garden hose. Modesty prevents me from listing everything, but i think I'm pretty well rounded. So there are lots of fetishes and practices that i accept because I'm into them. Not everyone accepts the things that get me hard, but that's okay.

The Ones I Don't Get: Some kinks I don't understand. I have tried with some success (humiliation) and some failures (I am still trying to understand littles, but it's getting clearer. I don't get pain, yet. Cross dressing is still weird to me, but id look awful as a woman). Live and let live I say. If flogging, figging, CBT, orgasm denial, peeing on each other or wearing rubber gets you off, that's cool. Enjoy your orgasm. If a friend is into it, I will try to understand, even if it doesn't excite me.

The Ones That Turn Me Off: Some things just make me ill, even though people are into them. I just ignore those things. Scat for example. Blood. Weird shit like watermelon fucking, very extreme bondage, gagging blowjobs, and needle play make my dick wilt. I just avoid / ignore that stuff.

The Unacceptable stuff: The usual. Actual abuse (physical and / or mental), scarring, abuse of power, underage stuff. Rape, as opposes to consensual non-consensual sex. That stuff gets reported to someone. Its not kink shaming to report a person abusing their spouse. It's being a human being.

Let's hear more.

 

[PlNKbits]

I lived with a kink shamer. I opened up to the man I married about my inability to orgasm with him. A right every woman or man should have. I'm not the kinkiest person I know.
Just the basics of spank me,pull my hair, hold me down and even let's try something else than missionary.

Shaming shouldn't be going on.
If both parties are legal,willing and nothing will lead to the law. What's the harm?

Something I've learnt from recently joining literotica is you don't have to look at everything. If you don't think you will like it just look for something else.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Wait... so this thread has context?! Now I need to go look for what pmann did... Should have known it would be about him.

Of course it was me. You’re welcome.

yeah, that pencil-dicked fucker started a shit storm in the "What are you thinking?" thread...

You’re also welcome.

To be fair, I simply stated an opinion, laughing at something that I was told is not funny- despite the fact it seemed like the funniest fucking thing ever. It was described as the equivalent of a mental illness (not by me) and I should not make fun of such. I promised to be on my best behaviour for this thread. So far, I’m doing well. I feel like people are gonna lob me softballs though, just to tempt me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

This site is about opinions and members should always be free to post theirs.

Tats and piercings are purely disgusting. All of them, on any one, anywhere (with the exception of one or two in each lower ear lobe). As sure a sign of mental illness as most anything else.

Bodily fluids are always disgusting. All of them.


Fat slobs are always gross.

This guy makes me look like Dark Simian!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I wouldn’t go that far.

Gentold? SoulAssassin? Eyer?

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Gentold? SoulAssassin? Eyer?

Heyyyy
I'm 1 of a kind